Have you ever noticed that your former friends are no longer in touch with each other?

Yes, I suddenly felt it when I was blowing the air conditioner at home today when I was salted fish. Although I had my girlfriends to play with me a few days ago, there were only two or three people who could be by my side at any time. I haven't had much contact with the people in my high school class, and it's only been a year since I graduated, and the previous class group has been very cold.

Even a few people in the dormitory didn't talk much, maybe I was the only one who thought so. It's also possible that they played these games before, and I didn't participate in them, so I felt so unfamiliar. And before the summer vacation, everyone said that they would go together to get together, but after the holiday, everyone played their own and didn't play together, and the group was very deserted, even if it was to play, it seemed to be one or two in the dormitory to play, just like it was divided into small groups in small groups.

I feel very irritable, I feel a little depressed, I don't know if it's just that I'm estranged from them, or if it's like this now.

Although some people are friends, but they are not friends who can make friends, after graduation, these people I will probably rarely contact, unless we are in a group, heart-to-heart, understanding of themselves is nothing more than those few, then I will cherish them, I can't force everyone to stay in my life, anyway, friends are not won by quantity, everyone has their own life, in different environments have their own social circle is very common, then the natural feelings are not as good as before.

Don't contact because everyone's lives have no intersection, I quit the class group on the night I graduated from high school, only high school classmates have no contact at all, maybe others are like this, but you don't know, recently chatted with a very good junior high school classmate, only to know that she also had no contact with the classmates in the class, but at that time her popularity was much better than mine, and I only had contact with a few friends with similar nicknames, everyone is the same, tell a cold joke: a girl's dormitory 6 people, there are five WeChat QQ groups.

When I was a child, I often moved a lot of good friends who had been playing for a year or two, and after moving, I would say that it would be broken in two or three months at most, I think it was because the topic was different, and I was also busy making new friends and adapting to the environment. It's the same after graduation, except for some friends who really make friends, everyone else doesn't talk much. Maybe it's useless to say that it's ugly, you can often help each other if you make friends who aren't close, and then the circle is different and there is less communication.

From elementary school to university, only two people have been in constant communication. One is the kind that we have a good relationship with and we still hang out. One is that I live in a neighborhood, but I haven't had any contact lately.

Now that I think about it, the person who always thought of him as a good friend was actually like that. Everyone accepts different environments and has their own different lifestyles, and it is normal not to interact with each other. I don't bother with these things anymore.

Everything is fateful, but there will be some emotion when I think about it.

Life is a one-way car, people constantly get on and off the bus, and feel that common topics are very important, and some people with different personalities can become friends because they have common topics under certain arrangements, and their views do not conflict [so they get along], such as dormitories, classes, homework, exams, teachers, but once they leave these, there are not many people who intersect, of course, they will be farther and farther away.

I can say that I never even attended a class reunion, let alone elementary or middle school, or even college. I never spoke in the class. Even when I meet former classmates on the road, as long as the other party doesn't see me, I will pretend not to know and walk quickly, but I am not an introvert, friends who play well, I will always keep in touch, and I don't need a party to maintain a relationship at all, and people who can't talk to me are not interesting to meet at a party.

How to say it.,Actually, as I get older,,Friends around me still have changes.,I used to feel like my roommates weren't in touch when I graduated from college.,It's still a little uncomfortable.,But now it seems that it's just that the feelings aren't so deep.,My friend is actually a high school classmate but now there's still a connection.。

I have limited energy, and I have a habit of choosing friends, and I am not so idle to please people who are not important to me at all. And for this kind of passer-by in life, there is no pity that they don't get along with each other in old age, but it is better for each other.

Originally, I didn't have any friends myself, and the students in school were also very busy, and they didn't have much contact with junior high school before, let alone elementary school, but I almost didn't have friends in elementary school, not to mention before, even now, everyone has their own waves during a summer vacation, **Who will contact whom.

With the entry into society, those youthful days are gone. There should be many people who will have this kind of resonance, there are many friends who used to have a good relationship with the file, but as they enter different life journeys: they enter different schools, go to different positions, and form their own families, they gradually lose contact, and some friends don't even have the opportunity to meet again in their lives.

In the dark and lonely night, in the midst of the staggering, a memory in the brain will be ignited, illuminating the once beautiful but gradually blurred figure. When I think of my friends who are no longer in touch, I can't help but feel a lot of pity. Maybe because of embarrassment and unfamiliarity, I don't dare to say a greeting on WeChat:

How are you doing? When are we going to get together? Because everything is too compact in this era, two people have to live each other's busy lives, and even meeting each other has become a luxury, and the maintenance of feelings has become difficult.

Last month, I met Xiao Li, a junior high school classmate with whom I had a good relationship, at the mall. After so many years, everyone's appearance is no longer as youthful as it was at the beginning, but she still recognized me at a glance in the crowd.

I haven't seen you in years! Xiao Li patted me on the shoulder excitedly. All of a sudden, memories rose like Kong Ming lanterns.

We had a brief chat about her current life, she has a happy family of her own, and I am still working hard. Because she and her husband were going somewhere else, we didn't have a long conversation, and before leaving, Xiao Li told me, "I'll go first, and I'll definitely invite you to dinner this week."

This sentence made me excited for a week, and I look forward to meeting Xiao Li again every day, so that we can sit down and have a good chat. I waited and waited, and nothing happened.

Looking at her circle of friends, I realized that her husband had changed positions and she had also gone to other places.

I am reminded of the famous absurdist play "Waiting for Godot", where two homeless men spend a long time waiting for Godot, a man who never appeared. In the process of waiting, there is anxiety and anticipation. There is despair, and there is joy.

It's like I was waiting for Xiao Li's ** that week.

Perhaps the waiting itself is meaningless, but the sensual human being has to give a deep meaning to the waiting.

We've had a good past, and this stupid bush is enough. It's something that belongs only to the two of us.

And she should also go to a better place and have a better life.

Only then did I realize that we were not separated, but just went to a better place together.

In general, the change in the number of friends after marriage depends on a lot of factors, and not the same happens to everyone.

For some, getting married may increase the number of friends because your spouse may expand your social circle.

I found that the common denominator of married friends is that when chatting, they only focus on their own topics, and they don't talk to each other, no matter how much we talked before we got married, so I slowly stopped talking.

Before and after marriage are the two stages of life. If you are single before marriage, I am in charge of my territory, and I have the final say. No worries, soak in the circle of friends all day long, and play to your heart's content.

No one talks about you, and no one cares about you. After marriage, you can no longer be as chic as when you were single. You have to spend a certain amount of time with your wife, and you have to say hello to your wife no matter what you do, wherever you go.

This is the minimum respect for the wife. In addition to accompanying his wife, he also has to do some housework, which is the minimum responsibility for the family. As time goes by, there will be children, the responsibility of the family will be greater, the burden on the shoulders will be heavier, and more time will be spent on the family.

Spend less time socializing with friends. It feels like friends are getting "fewer.""Finish.

For these, anyone who is married will feel deeply, and friends will understand. Friends are still those friends, there are many of them, and the less is that there is no time to play with them. If you don't associate with friends for a long time, you may lose some friends, but a true Qingbo friend will always accompany you to the end.

We should cherish such friends. Family and friends have to do both. While taking care of the family, you should also keep in touch with your friends appropriately, you can send a text message and care about it.

After getting married, there are many things, the expenses are large, the life pressure is great, and the time with a partner cannot be completely controlled by yourself. When I had a child, my life changed completely, and as time went on, I had fewer and fewer friends, but the rest were true friends1The circle of life has changed, and the focus of each has shifted to the family.

When I was not married, my friends would make an appointment, complain about work, go shopping, chat, and even go on a small trip. But after getting married, everyone's focus shifts to the family, you have time, she doesn't. She has time, and you don't have time.

So I always made an appointment a few times, and found that everyone's pace was no longer the same, and the desire to contact was getting lower and lower.

2.The happiness of each person's married life is different, and the desire to communicate is also very small.

Xiao He and Xiao Ya are college best friends, but after they get married, their happiness levels vary greatly. Xiao He married a rich husband, and she is a good petty bourgeoisie every day in the circle of friends. But Xiaoya's husband's family background is not very good, and she and her husband go to work non-stop to save money and save money.

In Xiao He's eyes, Xiao Ya had a poor life. Xiao He always intentionally or unintentionally reveals how well she is doing, what she eats, what she uses, and she will also give Xiaoya some things that she has eliminated. Later, Xiaoya slowly stopped contacting Xiao He, and there was no common topic between them, and there was no desire to communicate.