How to properly handle the relationship between two people?

The interaction between classmates of the opposite sex is a concern for college students. We know that opposites attract each other as a phenomenon in nature. For college students, the unique physical and psychological characteristics of adolescence make it easier for students of the opposite sex to communicate with each other in thoughts and feelings.

Girls like male open-mindedness, assertiveness, and strength; Boys like the negotiation, gentleness and delicacy of girls. Proper intercourse between men and women should not only be permissible, but also beneficial, and true friendship between people of the opposite sex is impossible, and there have been many touching examples throughout the ages. You know, Jenny and Heine, Roman.

Both Roland and Sophie have a long-lasting and touching friendship. As for ordinary people, the stories of ordinary and touching friendships that occur between you, me, and him are too numerous to mention.

Of course, we must also admit that in the process of contact and interaction between college students of the opposite sex, although both parties have received sincere friendship and lessons, they may also be easily misunderstood, so that sometimes they are not very happy.

So, how can we avoid unnecessary troubles when socializing with classmates of the opposite sex?

First, the two sides must trust and respect each other. Because there are great differences between men and women in terms of temperament, personality, body, hobbies, etc., the interaction between the opposite sex is very sensitive, which requires the opposite sex students to understand each other, trust each other, respect each other, and do "not lose their footing in others, do not lose their color in others, and do not lose their hearts in others", so that the sincere friendship between male and female students can be guaranteed.

Second, we should not only oppose the traditional concept of "giving and receiving but not kissing" between men and women, but also pay attention to the objective fact that "men and women are different." Between male and female students, as long as it is a legitimate and pure friendship, it is completely possible to have honest contact. But it cannot be said that there is no "little sex" among friends of the opposite sex, so wise people must learn to obey conscience and social taboos, and every move must be generous and decent, not too casual.

Third, it is necessary to distinguish the boundaries between friendship and love in thought and behavior. Because people always have feelings. There is no such thing as an insurmountable gulf between friendship and love. Beyond a certain limit, you may not be able to tell which is friendship and which is love.

Fourth, we should socialize more in group activities, and if we are alone, we must pay attention to choosing a good environment and place, and try not to talk for a long time in a remote and dim place. If alone in the room, do not plug or lock the door to avoid speculation or misunderstanding by others.

Fifth, female students should have self-esteem and self-respect, and male students should have self-control. The principles of gender morality in interpersonal communication are still necessary. When girls get along with the opposite sex, they must maintain the virtues of self-esteem and self-love, and they must not only have a sense of honor as a woman, but also be good at self-protection.

As a man, you should be more cautious and restrained, so that nothing unexpected happens.

In short, in the interaction of classmates of the opposite sex, pay attention to words and deeds carefully, pay attention to grasp the proportion, there can be sincere friendship, sincere friends are regardless of gender.

Spicy boy. You tell Dot. What's wrong with you tonight?

used to be best friends, but now they are relatively silent and no longer meet; Once the closest couple, now they quarrel day and night, and finally cold war until they separate.

At what moment did the rift begin to arise in the relationship between the two?

Did one of them start first, or did both at the same time?

What are the triggers?

Why are some relationships always hard to maintain, but others that last a lifetime?

I'm sure there is no single answer to these questions, but if you were to rank them all, the one I'm going to talk about below should make it into the top three.

Everyone has their own rhythm and way of thinking, which will be influenced by their parents' generation, childhood life, and life experience.

That's why, the older generation always says that they want to find someone who is "the right person", because there is a high probability that they can meet the other half who has similar living habits and three views.

When two strangers start to come into contact, if they are lucky enough to be close to each other or just complement each other, there will be a so-called "good conversation" situation, and a new relationship will begin to slowly build between the two people.

But that's just the beginning. Whether the relationship can be maintained well does not depend on the time, but on the factor of whether the two people grow at a similar rate after separation (except in the case where two people stick together 24 hours a day).

When we return to our jobs and use our leisure time to live our lives, we are actually growing at a pace of our own. This can be fast or slow, depending on the individual.

If two people maintain a similar rate of growth, then their relationship will be easy and long-lasting.

However, if the growth rate of the two parties is quite different, it will be easy for one party to make compromises; Or directly identify the status quo and the situation of broken relationships.

This is what people often say, "the Tao is different and does not conspire with each other".

In marriage, we often hear the idea that we should not treat our other half as our own. This view was put forward in order to emphasize the independence and autonomy of the parties in the marriage relationship. So, how should we understand this view?

In a marriage relationship, how should the relationship between the two parties be handled?

First of all, not treating your partner as your own does not mean that you should remain detached and indifferent in your marriage. On the contrary, a marital relationship is an intimate relationship that requires mutual support and care from both parties. However, both parties should maintain a certain degree of independence and autonomy in handling the relationship.

This kind of independence and autonomy does not mean treating the other half as a stranger, but respecting the individuality and needs of the other person and maintaining the freedom and independence of the other person. In this way, both parties can maintain equality and respect in the marital relationship and avoid situations where one party is overly dependent on the other.

Secondly, don't treat your partner as your own, and it doesn't mean that you should keep your distance and indifference in the marriage relationship. In a marital relationship, both parties should maintain appropriate intimacy and care, and establish good communication and trust. This process requires both parties to work together to run and maintain the marital relationship.

Only in this way can both parties gain mutual understanding and support in the marriage relationship, and spend the joys and sorrows of life together.

Finally, how to deal with the relationship between the two parties needs to be done on a case-by-case basis. In a marriage relationship, the situation of each couple is different and needs to be dealt with on a case-by-case basis. Both parties should communicate and understand each other, respect each other's needs and wishes, and jointly negotiate and decide on various issues in the marital relationship.

In short, in a marital relationship, do not treat the other half as your own person, you need to maintain a certain degree of independence and autonomy. However, when dealing with the Guansanhuai system, both parties also need to maintain intimacy and care, and establish good communication and trust. Only in this way can both parties grow and progress together in the marital relationship.

In the vast sea of people, there must be a process for two people from acquaintance to confirmation of relationship.

According to the maturity of the definite relationship, it can be divided into three periods:

Initial, run-in and consolidation.

Each period has the characteristics of each period, and each period has the time of each period.

Less or more time than each period is not conducive to determining the relationship.

How long do two people know each other before they can be sure of a relationship?

Usually, the time from acquaintance to relationship between two people is 3 to 4 months.

1. The duration of the initial period is 1 month.

The initial period mainly refers to the period when two people have just met.

The initial period is mainly to complete tasks from acquaintance to familiarity with each other.

During this period, the main thing is to understand each other's natural situation, life experience, work experience, and family economic situation.

From the point of view of real life, due to the development of science and technology now, people have more and more tools to communicate with each other, and the time of the initial period can be appropriately shortened, but at least not less than 20 days.

2. The run-in period is 1 to 2 months.

The run-in period mainly refers to the period when two people's personalities, tempers and other aspects are running-in.

The run-in period is the most important period when two people can determine the relationship

If the run-in is good, the two people will be able to lay a solid foundation for determining the relationship between numbers and minds;

Otherwise, the relationship between the two people may end there.

The main task of the run-in period is to polish off the temper, personality and other edges and corners of the relationship that are not conducive to the determination of the relationship, and try to achieve harmony and unity in ways and means such as treating people and things.

Typically, this period may be a little longer.

Due to special reasons, the minimum should not be less than one month.

The run-in period of less than one month is a quick period, which is not conducive to the determination of the relationship between the two parties;

Even if you rush to determine the relationship, it will bury hidden dangers in your future life.

3. The duration of the consolidation period is 1 month.

The consolidation period mainly refers to the period when two people continue to consolidate and strengthen their relationship after the run-in period.

The main task of the consolidation period is to consolidate the results of the run-in period and lay a solid foundation for the finalization of the relationship.

After several months of in-depth understanding and run-in with each other, two people have more and more things in common with each other, and the spiritual level of compatibility will become higher and higher, so the relationship between the two people will gradually warm up, and it is logical to determine the relationship.

The length of time for two people to determine the completion of the relationship is determined by the effect and time of the initial period, run-in period, and consolidation period of the two people who destroyed the Biqin people.

Time obeys effect, and time must not be arbitrarily compressed for the needs of a certain aspect or for the sake of unilateral interests.

It is a matter of course, the melon is ripe, and the relationship between two people will naturally be determined when the relationship reaches a certain level.