What it is like to be able to talk to death, and how to talk about death

Here's how to talk to death:1. Face-to-face chat, the attitude can be colder, I don't want to answer what the other party says, with a facial expression or perfunctory um, oh sail pants, yes, yes, this way, that's good to wait for an answer, don't want to smile in return, the other party can't get the emotional response you want from you, and the chat naturally can't continue.

2. In the face of a large number of people, many people are often chatting eagerly, and the content of the conversation is also what everyone is interested in and knows to be curious, and they want to be cold, whether it is to say some irrelevant topics, or if everyone doesn't want to hear it, pick what they don't like to hear, and the scene is cold, and the topic can't go on.

3. It's easier to chat on the mobile phone and want to talk to death, you can selectively not see the other party's messages, or only use emojis.

Symbols, cold modal words.

Wait, if you can't walk in meditation for a long time, the other party won't talk to you.

These are all ways to talk to death, I hope it can help you.

If you are very comfortable and relaxed with this person, it means that she (his) is of a very high rank, or you can both speak well, tolerate each other's shortcomings, and experience similar things, so you can achieve empathy and physical drying. Even if you haven't experienced the same thing, you can be patient and listen to what others have to say, and you can get along very comfortably.

In fact, if two people can talk well and be emotionally stable, no matter who they get along with, they can get along quite comfortably. I never thought it was important to speak well, until after work, I found that some people really can't speak, can't express their demands clearly, there are many ways to communicate, but I have to choose the most hurtful one.

1.For example, he speaks very fiercely, shouting because others can't meet his expectations, his emotions are very uncertain, but he never stops to patiently listen to the deep voice of others, he doesn't know how to respect other people's decisions and inner feelings, he feels that only he is right and everyone else's is wrong, and even feels that others don't understand anything, endless accusations, strong to the extreme, never patiently listened to other people's demands and ideas, and must be obedient to her (him) before he or she is willing to give up. In the end, it is possible that the weaker side will compromise and choose to tolerate on the surface, but it is okay to be quiet, and how many people can do it after many times of obedience and forbearance, and in the end the problem is not solved, but both sides are injured.

The strong side thinks why don't you do what I say, and the weak side thinks why you should suppress and suppress me everywhere, and ask me to bow my head every time, and after a long time, it will definitely break out. It's a really depressing way to get along, and it's painful.

2.Speaking yin and yang, you can say things positively but you have to say them in reverse, all kinds of suppression, denial, touching high and low, which makes people very unhappy, and finally leaves pimples in each other's hearts, and they all feel very tired and painful to get along. (Why can't you understand what I mean if you deny others, and why do you want to deny and suppress me, am I so bad?)

You must know that the relationship between people is actually very fragile, and if you are not careful, you may never intersect again.

3.Don't say it but keep a small book in your heart, refuse to communicate, refuse to solve the stability, don't say it when others ask, just stubbornly think that you don't understand me, you just don't understand me, (mmp, no one is the hungry roundworm in your stomach, you don't say who knows what you think in your heart) The last two people are very hurt, one wants to communicate, the other refuses to communicate, and they both feel that they get along with each other very painfully).

Chatting is a way to relieve boredom, and it is also a way to understand each other and promote mutual relationships, but in real life, there will always be people who talk to death, and in social life, what kind of people are easy to talk to death? I have met three types of people like this.

One type of person is that no matter what the other party says, he loves to lift the bar, which is the legendary bar spirit.

This kind of person is generally quite agile in thinking, and his brain reacts quickly, but at the same time, he doesn't speak very brainily, or when he speaks, he doesn't think about the occasion at all, doesn't consider what the other party means, and directly retracts the words.

Maybe "angry" at others is a habit or a joy for them, but it makes the person they talk to very embarrassed, and they just talk to death.

A common example is that when people talk about someone bad, they unconsciously have a sense of territoriality, and people in such and such places are bad. If you say, you can't generalize, there are good people and bad people everywhere. As a result, he will say, "Have you investigated?" ”

You're bound to retort, "Then you haven't investigated it either?" ”

He'll say, "How do you know I haven't investigated?" ”

How could you possibly have surveyed everyone? ”

You're not my follower, follow me 24 hours a day? ”

Chatting and chatting, the content of the chat has changed, and the most important thing is that chatting with such a person, maybe from the content of the chat alone, it is still logical to make sense, but it is not reasonable and emotional, and I always feel that he is a little confused.

Of course, there are some bartenders, and you really can't find anything wrong with his words, but it makes you feel very uncomfortable, and naturally you can't talk anymore.

One is because of personality, when you are not familiar with the other party, you basically don't speak. For this kind of person, even if you love to talk no matter how much you like to talk, it is unlikely that you will still talk endlessly and talk alone for most of the day when you don't respond, unless you are very familiar with him and know what kind of person he is.

Some people just have something to say with acquaintances, and some strangers have nothing to say, so naturally they only have awkward conversations.

One is that the two people are too familiar with each other, and they have been together for a long time, and they know each other's temperament and what the past was like. This is common in couples, one person keeps talking, and the other person may habitually keep silent, so that the person who keeps talking will feel bored and stop talking.

It has been said that silence is golden, oh, and sometimes it is not.

When encountering such people who don't talk more than half a sentence, if they are in the same dormitory or office, there is really a feeling that people want to escape, and they just want to leave, which is embarrassing, and sometimes they even feel a depressing atmosphere.

Sometimes, when you encounter an unreasonable bar, he lifts the bar, and you are more barthan him, you can go back directly, of course, you have to have the thinking of the bar.

Of course, when you meet someone who doesn't like to talk much, you either choose to shut up, or you see the other party as a listener, and spit out the thoughts in your heart as soon as possible, whether it's embarrassing or not, as long as you're not embarrassed, then the embarrassing thing is to be forgiving, isn't it?

Have you ever met someone who talks to death? What do you do?

How do you get the illusion when chatting? And Kai.

When there is a person who says good and good night to you every day, shares his daily life with you every day, and occasionally confides in each other, maybe you don't feel it at first, but gradually you start to have a little expectation, you habitually start to share everything you have with him, you will toss and turn for his good night not coming truthfully, you start to feel that this feeling seems to be quite good, you start to become dependent on him, when he doesn't reply to messages, you will think about what he is doing at this moment, After frequent contact, it will be a little frustrating to suddenly stop contacting.

First, the relationship between friends has evolved in this way, forming a habit in the process of chatting, habit has become natural, and has become a part of your life, and slowly your feelings are getting deeper and deeper, until the last party says that you are really suitable for being my object, which is the budding of love.

Second, this kind of thing in love, at the beginning is very beautiful, very wonderful, if it is the right object, then enjoy the current stage, if you feel very good at the moment, this warm and stunning atmosphere let the seeds of love grow slowly, when two people are together, there is nothing sweeter than this. That feeling of familiarity and tension, déjà vu.

That is, you can't chat, awkward chatting, chatting requires skill, that is, not to cause the other party to be disgusted, but also to make the other person comfortable.

Generally, if the chat is dead, just send an emoji to liven up the atmosphere, or directly change the topic and talk about a new topic.

If you don't want to chat to death, you have to talk along the topics that the other party is interested in, you can't say their own, so you can talk to death, when there is a cold scene, you have to take the initiative to find a topic, and guide the other party to speak, look at the other party's expression, if you are not interested, hurry up and change the topic.

Find a topic that two people have in common.