In the face of the above examples, how do parents feel and how should they educate their children?

Upstairs is already very complete.

Here's a classic example of a parent's education failure:

According to reports, a pair of 15-year-old twin sisters poisoned their parents to death in their home because they suspected their parents of being too strict with their parents. The disobedient sisters were captured by ** after 7 days on the run. After being captured, the second daughter confessed the whole process of poisoning her parents.

It turned out that the couple usually disciplined their daughter very strictly, which caused a strong rebellious psychology of their daughter, and the two sisters were not admitted to key high schools after the high school entrance examination, and were severely scolded by their parents. So, the two daughters planned and successively used gas, rat poison twice to kill their parents, for some reason did not achieve the goal, finally, the second daughter put 6 bottles of "poisonous rat strong" into the porridge, and finally poisoned the parents to death, after committing the crime, they took away the family savings and more than 2,000 yuan in cash, two mobile phones, and fled to a netizen house to hide.

What is the reason for a child to poison his parents with his own hands? This must have something to do with the family environment in which they grew up: let's see what the twin sisters grew up in.

1. I was fostered since I was a child and missed the most important companionship period for my children. The two twin children were fostered at their aunt's home and did not live with their parents until the third grade of primary school. Missed the key years of the child's growth, and the child's feelings for their parents are impossible.

2. Dad has always been on top and always treats them with the majesty of parents, Mom is a housewife, often plays mahjong, and usually does not communicate with children.

3. Harsh management, no play time, in order to let their children do well in the exams, the parents do not let their children watch TV, do not let their children go out on the street, and do not let their children take their classmates home. On weekends, the parents also hired a tutor to tutor them, which made the child feel very depressed, but the parents did not understand. Parents regard beautiful clothes and pocket money as their best love.

Because of the unsatisfactory test results, the mother said that "the child has disgraced her face", and the father also punished them for kneeling for more than 20 minutes. When the child's mind is not mature, the sisters first germinate the idea of killing their parents to find freedom.

One night, the lost sisters suddenly have the idea of killing their parents in search of freedom. The indifference of parents raises indifferent children, which has to sound the alarm for the families of those wolf fathers and tiger mothers.

It has to be said that this is a failure of family education. I thought I loved children, but I didn't expect to dig a grave for myself. However, it is sad that many families still educate their children in this way.

Education is very important, and the most significant failure to want education is strong. Shouting out that my dad is Li Gang's two children, and. And like this day one, these are their parents. Too much to spoil the child. Resulting in a child's lawlessness is a classic example of homeschooling failure.

Choose an education method according to your child's situation, you can't generalize, you just need to tell the sensible child the correct three views.

This has been a problem since ancient times, and there are three ways to choose a good neighbor.

Now the same, learn from the good children and stay away from the bad ones.

Children are the most important thing in the family, parents should pay attention to their children, go home and ask their children what they have been doing in the day. We need to pay attention to children, care for children, and care for children.

As far as your question is concerned, there are a few points, if you want to participate in the growth and maturity of your child, you must first have an equal relationship with your child, be a friend, and participation means that you have the same rights, not a kind of condescending, as the so-called you have to squat down to communicate with your child, this is one of them; Then it is to listen, don't make assumptions, children are often confused, but their experience is limited, they don't know how to express, and sometimes even express the opposite meaning, giving children time is to give parents their own time, patiently and carefully listen to children's ideas and opinions, only enough patience to hear the child's most real thoughts, this is the second; Family education, the reason why there are two words family, shows that it is a family nature, neither ordinary education nor school education, the family should have the function of the family, to give children safety, to children love, to children understanding and tolerance, do not turn the family into a second school, do not overstep the bounds, relative to school education in learning is a supplement, not a replacement, let alone copying, this is the third; Finally, the growth and maturity of children is called the process of socialization in psychology, and a large part of the process of socialization is the process of imitation, so in family education, setting an example is the most direct and effective way for parents to participate in the growth and maturity of children. Hope it helps! I believe you will be a good parent!