How to resolve the contradictions and conflicts between home and school, and analyze the causes of c

The reason for the conflict between home and school is simply that the parents' expectations are not obtained from the school. This is also what I have personally learned from the observation and personal experience of other people's events.

Recently, I met a colleague dealing with a student incident. The student hit other students many times, and the previous mediation has been resolved, but this time he committed it again, when the head teacher asked for punishment, the parents were anxious, and yelled at the head teacher in the office. The view of the world core is to be tolerant of children, to be tolerant, to be tolerant, that he is still a child, which one will not make mistakes, etc., roughly this meaning.

It sounds very reasonable, but a person is a child, you can't always make mistakes, when you are in school, you expect teachers and classmates to tolerate, but who will always tolerate you when you go out into society. As a parent, you don't always expect someone to tolerate you when you make a mistake, you should try to make it happen again. Of course, you may have the will to make mistakes happen again, but if you can't control the children who are self-defeating, you have to pay attention to ways and methods, and you have to trace the source, because educating children is also a science, so I won't go into detail here.

The parent also spread remarks, meaning that the teacher was irresponsible, etc., which happened to be heard by the parent next to him, and the parent seemed to resonate. After communicating with him, the reason was that because her child could not understand the math class, she asked for the math to make up the class for her, because her teacher understood the child and did not want to find an outside teacher to make up the class, and the math teacher refused because she was busy and had no time, so she thought that the teacher was not responsible. As everyone knows, the teacher is really too busy, and now he is grasping paid tutors, who only care about their own needs and ignore the teacher's situation, and slowly from misunderstanding to misunderstanding, contradictions arise.

It is better to think about what the two sides have done and what they can do to resolve the conflict.

The problem is the gap. What gap? The distance between the expected results and the actual situation.

The smaller the distance, the smaller the problem and the easier it is to solve; On the contrary, the bigger the gap, the bigger the problem, and the more acute the contradictions and conflicts reflected.

Now the contradiction between school and family is more acute, and personally, the problem is the "parent group". The presence of the parents became the place where some of the teachers gave orders, and the family members in the county became the objects of his management. In many cases, teachers can assign tasks to parents of students as long as they go through the parent group.

In addition to the tasks of education and teaching, parents also have to take turns to clean the classrooms in departmental schools. It's all the same work. Why, in addition to the work of a teacher, there are so many "subordinates" who can command.

Parents of students have to juggle a variety of careers? It is in this context that the contradictions between school and family slowly sharpen.

Parents are the places where teachers and parents communicate, which is the original intention of its establishment. However, with the beginning of burden-reducing education, this pressure seems to be gradually shifting to parents. A colleague complained about his child's homework, and the homework assigned by a kindergarten student could not be completed at all.

These colleagues all smiled wryly and wanted to go back to the night shift to do their homework. Because such homework can only be completed by parents. Parents are now the place where teachers assign homework.

In many cases, teachers still criticize parents in groups.

Just like the parents complained about on the Internet, some teachers don't teach seriously in class, and they have to send their children to cram school after class, and they have to do homework modifications, and parents complete them themselves. Parents and teachers are the same, as long as they educate their children, a family can maintain normal operations, so I think most parents are willing to do such things. But the reality is that parents also have work to do, and no matter how late they come home from work, they have to check their children's homework.

It was in this situation that the complaints of parents were aroused, and eventually the conflict between home and school began to slowly sharpen.

There is no timely communication, the educational philosophy is inconsistent, the communication method is problematic, the parents do not pay attention to education, and the teachers are not very responsible.

The problem lies in the fact that parents do not pay attention to their children's education at all, and parents spoil their children, and parents do not have good education methods for their children at all.

The information that appears at home and school is not smooth enough, and there is no starting point, and the problem arises here, which leads to contradictions.