In your opinion, what are the important qualities that you can t learn from reading?

It is the ability to absolutely "love", and the "love" here does not refer to the love between men and women, but to emotions. The range of emotions is too wide, anger, fear, attention, existence, and response, these are common to most people, but sometimes, you should learn to ignore these feelings appropriately. It's just that many people read a lot of books, become more and more sentimental, and their ability to control their emotions is getting worse and worse.

I am also a person who likes to read, and after stumbling in society for a few years, I gradually found this skill that is difficult to learn only by reading. Cultivating this ability, reading books can never replace real experience. In Vancouver for a few years, I was fortunate to meet elite bigwigs in many fields, some of whom were powerful in the past, black and white.

Talking to them, I found that these people have one thing in common - they are very little aware of the emotional changes. Even if he occasionally talks about the past and talks about thrilling plots, he just smiles faintly. They've already achieved it, they've had enough experience, they're risk-tolerant enough, and they're going to have it.

What are some important qualities that you can't learn from reading? There are two sentences in "Persuasion Poems": "There is a ** house in the book, and the book is free and beautiful."

It means that as long as you study hard, you will get prosperity and wealth. Of course, for most people, reading books does give you more knowledge, but a lot of things are not just limited to books, not just books, and many good qualities and upbringing also come from other places. I think there are the following aspects, first of all, I think the most important one is:

Excellent interpersonal relationships, which cannot be taught in a book. We need to have the ability to take the initiative to meet new friends, and this ability needs to be discovered by ourselves, only by taking the initiative, we will enrich our interpersonal relationships, expand our circle of friends, which is also very beneficial to us in the society later, and will not be shy and timid in the face of strangers. And you can boldly and actively communicate with people, which is not a quality that everyone can get from the book, can handle interpersonal relationships well, and can also reflect personal qualities well.

There is another quality that I think is very important.

It's just your own ability to act. Not everyone can do what they say, it's a hard thing to do, it sounds simple, but it's not so easy to do. Even if it is only through a small thing, we say from our own mouths that some people can act and do it well, but on the contrary, some people are weak in their ability to execute.

They have strong hands-on ability, and they can solve all kinds of things calmly, and they will not feel that they have no way to start, and they will not know how to deal with them. We start from small things to big things, and we can all be able to take charge of each other. Another thing is also very valuable, according to the research, now there are many people suffering from depression probability is getting higher and higher, let yourself every day in a state of happiness, not only their own happy, but also to others to bring strength, influence others, in the eyes of others, they are also a positive attitude towards life optimistic, but also a and excellent quality.

In fact, as long as you are still a student, what you must do is to listen carefully in class and review carefully after class. Respect for teachers and teachers, unity and fraternity. It's all written in these student handbooks, and we're not going to talk about that today.

The first thing you need to understand is that college is your first and last step before you step into society. Personally, I think what you should have more is the quality of how to survive in society.

What I'm going to talk about: interpersonal communication.

The villain is the same but not harmonious, the gentleman is beautiful and beautiful, harmonious but different. Society is a big dye vat, how to live in this complex place without forgetting the original intention is the most important quality you should have. When we were children, we always felt injustice about everything we didn't like.

In fact, when we grow up, we realize that we can't change the world at all, all we can do is how not to be changed by this world. Therefore, it is important to manage the interpersonal relationships around us.

You have to know that an honest opponent is more beneficial to you than a hypocritical friend. It is recommended to read more books that are helpful for interpersonal communication, and to observe those around you who are socially good in your spare time, observing how they chat and how they interact with others.

In order for communication to have a good result, it is necessary to have three principles of communication. 1.Talking about behavior without talking about personality, that is, the principle of not doing things and not people2To communicate clearly3Active listening.

3 principles for timing communication.

Koya Kuwabara, a well-known workplace consultant in Japan and chairman of the Institute for Manpower Adoption Strategy, believes that there are many ways to communicate, such as praise, reprimand, and apology. But Kuwabara stresses that communication is meaningless and sometimes counterproductive if it misses the moment. Therefore, it is important not to get the timing wrong to convey the heart, and he put forward the following three key principles:

1.Blessings are to be conveyed on the spot

When someone achieves something, it's best to be candid and praise it on the spot. If you want to be busy right now, talk about it later. The next time you see him, tell him again!

If you put the praise off, you will be seen as a person who is jealous of the success of others and has no self-confidence. Missed congratulations will not only fail to convey your heart, but may even be used as sarcasm or social rhetoric.

2.The apology should be made on the day of the incident

For example, if you have a problem with your boss, even if you think "I'm not wrong", when you come home from work, you just need to apologize and say: "I caused you trouble today, and your relationship will be very different the next day." If you get angry and leave it alone, you'll miss the best time to reconcile.

3.Note that it is earlier than the deadline

For example, when a guest asks for something, even if the guest doesn't say "please hurry", it is a basic principle to respond quickly. Some things do take time to do, but a quick response will increase your guests' trust in you. Even if you hear a message from the answering machine or receive a fax, you just need to say, "I know, and we'll talk about the details tomorrow."

I think there are 4 most important qualities that you can't learn from reading

1.Action, do one thing yourself.

2.Dreams and imagination.

3.The ability to desensitize to "comparisons".

4.The ability to be happy.

1.Action, do one thing yourself.

A small thing is good, and the person stands. You have to do it yourself, you have to do it yourself. In this way, you will encounter all kinds of complicated, trivial and disgusting things in the process of hands-on, so as to constantly discover your strengths and weaknesses. Otherwise, you will never know how small and great you are.

You have to really start a business to know that you are so glassy, and you are not as strong as you imagined; You'll find that you don't need any time management skills to do what you want to do; You find that the techniques and methods that usually make you talk are not used at all; You're also surprised to find that the friends you usually make can't actually help you with anything. You also found that you actually wrote articles so eloquently, and you still have this skill point.

You have to act, you have to do it yourself, you have to know where you are strong and where you are weak. Even if you lose, it's okay, at least I dare to do it, and I can do it again, so that you are not inferior at all, but also cool. You're not the kind of person who eats takeout and points out in front of the screen.

Time doesn't wait for me, you don't need so much inner drama, if you don't do it, you will always stay in the imagination. If you don't do it, tomorrow will be today. What you want is to get things done and feel the heartiness after the action.

If you want to do something, you must act fast, and as long as you run, you will run faster.

2.Dreams and imagination.

There are a lot of good people, these people are smart, talented, positive, but at the same time hesitant and lost, in the bubble of chasing excellence, they have the ability to do things well, but they don't know why they are doing these things. And the best people I've ever met are people with dreams and imaginations.

You have to build a future of your own. What kind of life do you really want to live and what kind of person do you want to be?

Because you want to freely take your wife and children to the Lord of the Rings filming locations in New Zealand, you want to take your parents to Switzerland to see the Northern Lights, and you want to take your family around the world, so today you have to start your own business and make unremitting efforts; Because you want to climb Mount Kilimanjaro, which you mentioned in Hemingway's article as a child, you keep learning and exercising. If you have a dream in your heart, you won't keep brushing **.

The Wright brothers believed that people could fly, so they built airplanes without any resources; Steve Jobs believed that people live to change the world, so he made the iPhone. Those who can see the future will act today. What sustains a person through the darkest moments is dreams and imagination.

In the movie "The Shawshank Redemption", the protagonist Andy is in prison, and it is a dream that 20 years in prison did not ruin this person. Because he believes, "there is a bird that cannot be closed, and every feather on his body shines with the light of freedom".

Dreams are big or small, only you have a head, then go and achieve it.

3.I can desensitize to "comparison".

Ability to manage expectations in interpersonal interactions. Interpersonal skills cannot be learned by reading.

Interpersonal skills are one of the criteria to measure whether a public relations officer can adapt to the needs of modern society, and whether he has the ability to communicate with others. Public relations personnel must understand the etiquette and etiquette of various occasions, be good at dealing with people, and be good at dealing with all kinds of complex interpersonal relationships. Public relations personnel should pay attention to cultivating their good character, elegant demeanor and academic accomplishment, and be enthusiastic and confident in social activities; Pay attention to appearance and demeanor; Handle public relations matters with a smile and a gentle, humorous language.

Show concern and respect for leaders, colleagues, collaborators, and other members of the public at social events. Pay attention to the skills and methods of communication, and try to make a good impression on the other person. Only with the ability to quickly communicate with others and "mingle" can public relations personnel understand the public's psychology in a timely manner, know the defects of the organization's image, and complete the task of two-way communication and the implementation of public relations publicity.

Those things that people think are more conscientious, moral, and moral are not something that can be done in many cases just after learning from books.

I think it's a good way for people to get along with each other. Or the skills of communicating with people, which are not something that can be learned by reading books. For example, some people are born to be able to speak. Some people are introverted and don't like to talk, no matter how highly educated they are, they still have such a temper that they can't change.

I think it's important to be able to adapt to difficult situations, a skill that is very important for a person, and often can only be learned from training, not by reading.

I think quality is not to learn from reading, but it is really important to deal with people in society, if a person has no quality in society, it will make everyone look down on you, so no one is willing to be friends with you, and it is really important to improve a person's quality quality.

Very important qualities, that is, the ability to work under pressure, the mentality when encountering setbacks.

Those who can't learn from reading are very important qualities, I think learning is just learning some knowledge and culture, there are many qualities, all of which are learning to read, and they can't come at the beginning of school, and can only be learned through social practice, or teaching by word and deed, such as socializing with people and getting along with friends, these are all to be experienced slowly.

This is mainly due to national blood, family temperament, regional characteristics, and innate keen intuition for some things, such as the comprehension of drawings and maps, the comprehension of sports skills, and physical fitness, such as innate divine power, endurance and so on.

I think it's respect and integrity, which many people can't learn in real life, even though they are taught in books.

There are many qualities that can't be learned, but they are very important, such as the quality of books for dealing with people. For example, the quality of handling emergencies.

There are many qualities that cannot be learned from books, but they are really important in a person's life, such as hardship and hard work, and some things must be slowly experienced in life.

Reading math is not something about emotional intelligence, and I hope there are books on it, but emotional intelligence mainly requires time to exercise.

There are many such cases, and to give a simple example, the quality of contemporary military personnel cannot be learned no matter how many books they read, and they can only learn it when they enter that academy.

Although it is only a few short years, it may accompany you for a lifetime.