If you are good to others, others will be good to you?

Seeing this topic, I remembered a hit TV series "Langya Bang", which has such a plot, after Mei Changsu made Xie Yu **, Jing Rui got up and went to Nanchu, Jing Rui has such a passage "Everyone always has a choice, you take what you think is important, and abandon me, this is just your choice, if I am resentful because I was not chosen, then there are too many unforgivable things in this world, after all, no one has the responsibility to put me first and take me first, No matter how much I wish, I can't force it. ”

The reason why I treat you like this is because I am willing, if I can exchange this for the same sincerity, it is gratifying, if not, I have nothing to regret "When I heard this passage, I admired Jing Rui, he was one of the two surnames, and he traveled abroad all year round, and it may also be a chance, he met Mei Changsu, and since then he has regarded him as a good friend for life, a best friend for life, and the person he admires the most, Xie Yu's sin has nothing to do with him, but he is the most injured person when Xie Yu falls.

Zhuo's father Zhuo's mother, Zhuo's brother are all people who are not related to him, but they are really good to themselves, but the good friend they brought back revealed the truth, and since then they have been imprisoned, even their sister has died, I thought I knew who I was, but now I found that I didn't know who I was at all, my father was in Nanchu, not Xie Yu, not Zhuo's father, how could he let go of this matter so quickly. I can only say that I can't do it if I am really broad-minded, even if I don't care if my friend gives it to me, but I still don't consider my feelings than him in this kind of thing.

In our real life, there are many such examples, you pour out your heart and lungs to him, he thinks you should do this, will not understand your hard work at all, for example, at work, there must be work docking between various departments, but when you want to ask clearly to help colleagues reduce the workload, but in the end you will find that others will not accept you at all.

Once the leader asked me to receive the reimbursement form, after receiving it to the finance, I only need to collect the reimbursement form, and other things can be handed over to the finance to do, but when you finish all the other things, paste the checked reimbursement form well, and give it to her beautifully.

Although in real life, it's not that no one knows how good you are, and many people understand, but there are always some people who don't know if you treat him well, maybe they just pretend not to know, anyway, the final result is that if you are good to him, he will pretend not to know, and he will not treat you like you treat him.

I've seen a little story about a company that will send two eggs every day, there is a person who doesn't like to eat eggs, and then every day he gave the egg to A, at the beginning A was very grateful, but over time A got used to it, so there was no gratitude, until one day, this person gave the egg to B, A's heart began to be unbalanced, felt that this egg was his, why is it now in someone else's pocket, and then went to find this person to theorize, and finally a big quarrel ended. In the process, did A forget something?

I think he forgot that this egg was not his in the first place, but someone else was kind enough to give it to him, and it was your luck that people were willing to give it, and if you don't give it to you, you can't force it, what reason do you have to quarrel with others? In fact, to put it bluntly, A takes others for granted his kindness, becomes greedy, and loses gratitude. It is your duty to feel that you should be good to me.

Well, is there such an obligation? Some people are naturally kind-hearted and like to be nice to others, and that's a good thing, but don't let your selfishness ruin our goodness. It is not necessary to ask for something in return from others, but to be kind to this society and the people around us, which is what we are willing to do.

Of course, we also want to be treated with kindness from others. It's just that we don't force it, if you want to be good to me, be good to me, if you don't want to, then don't hurt me.

Some people may think that I am good to you, and you should also be good to me, if not, it will be very unfair, so when you are good to others, you will care a lot about whether others will be good to you, and there will be a scale in your heart, and every little bit will be measured with your heart to see if there is a loss, whether it is time for him to pay. I think this kind of person is very tired, since he is so careful, so why do you still think about being good to the people around you? If you are so afraid of losing money, why not just be a selfish person and live your own life?

What do you care about around you?

In fact, don't think about what you will get when you do some things, don't think about whether this person will be good to you when we are good to others, there are some things that you do just to make yourself happy, don't care too much about what other people's actions are, care too much, your heart may also add blockage, sometimes don't expect a thing to happen, but it just happens, you will have unexpected happiness. Being a human being may be like this, the more things you ask for, the more things you want to get, these things will often be farther and farther away from you, sometimes take it easy, do your own things quietly, do your duty to make yourself feel at ease, you will find that what you want is in front of your eyes, at your fingertips. That's how wonderful things are.

Not necessarily, I think sometimes, if you are kind to him, he doesn't feel it or doesn't want it, maybe he won't appreciate it. When thinking about whether you have received positive feedback for your kindness to others, you must first think about whether the other person needs your own efforts. For example, if you give a snack to a friend who is **, he may not only not accept it happily, but may even blame you for it.

Therefore, before being good to others, it is necessary to understand what the other person really needs, rather than being self-righteous and good to others from your own perspective.

If you feel that you are good to someone and he is not good to you, then you may be in a relationship with an imbalance of power, and you are in a weak position in the relationship. In your relationship, he is mostly in charge, and many times he asks you to sacrifice for the relationship. For example, you may be more considerate of your boss's feelings at work, but your boss may not be able to take care of every employee.

The society is big and there are still a lot of friendly people. So, you shouldn't treat friendship with indifference. That's why I insist on being friendly. Kindness is the only way to be friendly. If you don't, others won't be kind to you. That's where the gains outweigh the losses.

We all use the words "good to you," but the definition of these three words can vary greatly from person to person. For example, for a certain girl, "good to you" may mean sending her a WeChat message from time to time throughout the day, shouting and showing her love, and creating some romance and surprises on every day that is or is not an anniversary.

But for a certain boy, maybe he silently saved money to buy an expensive gift, but pretended to pass it to his girlfriend inadvertently, that moment was his greatest tenderness.

There is no equivalent exchange in interpersonal relationships in society, and there is a saying that there is a reward for giving. It depends on the person. Find the right person, you treat him a little better, the grace of people's dripping water, the spring reciprocates, find the wrong person, you dig out your heart and lungs, and people take it for granted.

People's personalities are very different, no matter how good or bad others are to you, just be yourself, if you are good to others, if there is no positive feedback, then leave silently, with a clear conscience.

I don't usually treat people well, but most of them are the first impressions. It is a person who is easy to forgive as long as he doesn't touch the bottom line, but once he touches the bottom line, he will never get back to death. But people who are good to me, I will treat them wholeheartedly and sincerely, there is not much difference.

Parents, in-laws, all relatives and friends. As long as I think it's worth it, right. Anything will be done.

I don't think that's the case, everyone expresses their good in different ways, I want to be good to her is what I want to be good to her, she has what I want to be good to her, whether she is good to me or not is her own business, I can't force it, or maybe I don't realize how good she is to me.

I always firmly believe that if I am good to others, others will be good to me. Even if, I am nice to someone, that person is not friendly. Then I won't be polite to him next time.

Not necessarily! For example, some jealous employees often treat new employees very harshly in order to take away new employees (generally not much apart in age, in the same position, and in the same function) one by one! This is also the reason why a position in the enterprise has not been able to recruit or retain people.

If you treat others well, they will treat you sincerely. If you think like this, you will lose, and only if you learn to be good to yourself, others will be good to you.

Human nature is so complex that you can never guess what other people think. Even if that person is your lover, some secrets can't be told to you. Instead of spending a lot of energy on others, you should spend your energy on yourself.

Do your part and have free time to exercise or replenish your brain. If someone needs your help one day, it doesn't hurt to help him after weighing the pros and cons.

The icing on the cake is not as good as sending charcoal in the snow, the real good is sending charcoal in the snow, and the help at this time can reflect your kindness to him. If he is a grateful person, he will not forget your kindness to him. Don't do anything that is the icing on top, if people are in the rising period of their careers, they won't care about your small favors at all, but they look down on you because of this.

The poor in the downtown no one asks, and the rich have distant relatives in the mountains. Life is so realistic, one day you are in trouble, and few of your relatives and friends who usually drink and talk happily are willing to help you. When you develop one day, you will know relatives and friends you don't know to congratulate you.

The reality is that the more energetic a person is, the more attractive he is. Only when people know how to be good to themselves can they live up to their lives. When you learn to be good to yourself, you are willing to spend time and energy on yourself, and constantly improve your self-worth.

Only if you are valuable to others, others will care about you and be willing to spend their precious time and energy on you.

During World War II, there were wounded on the battlefield every day with varying degrees of severity, and in that environment of shortage of medical drugs, field doctors would use a limited amount of penicillin on those who deserved to be treated. Every soldier's life is equally precious, and it is a difficult decision to decide who deserves it and who does not. It can only be analyzed from the perspective of war, who can continue to fight after the **, who has lost combat effectiveness, and it is obvious that the people who can continue to fight after the ** have rescue value.

In this impetuous society, blindly being good to others will not be good to you. Only when someone feels that you are valuable to him will he be good to you. Liu Bei invited Zhuge Liang out of the mountain to visit the thatched house, if Zhuge Liang didn't have enough talent to learn, he would have such treatment?

Only by constantly improving oneself can people be comfortable in interpersonal communication and stand out in the fierce competition. When you are kind to yourself, you will find that the whole world will be good to you.

In life, you must be good to others, others will be good to you, because everyone is a stranger, no one will be good to you for no reason, unless it is your own parents, your own relatives, and your loved ones.

Yes. Good and bad are mutual, if you are good to others, others are likely to be good to you.

Not necessarily, my ex-girlfriend, I gave her my salary card, picked her up and dropped her off every day, bought her gifts every holiday, and obeyed her, and in the end she dumped me.

If you are good to others, others will definitely be good to you, this sentence is wrong and does not exist in the world, because all the good to others in this world is what you are willing, then you do not ask others to get the same return and there is no absolute equal return, if there is a return, it is a transaction, then there is no absolute equality between this transaction, but in your opinion and hospitality seem to be more or less passable.

So in reality, you can be good to someone, but you don't want to ask him to return to you, of course you can get his return, but not necessarily reciprocal, as long as you don't feel that you owe him something worth paying, if you don't want to pay, you don't have to pay, then he won't treat you well.

So in reality, whether it is for friends, relatives or lovers, it is not necessarily necessary to pay as much as you feel you can give, but it is willing in your heart, or sometimes we are good to others in the workplace, and there may be certain interests involved, but when you can't bear it, you retreat decisively, and life is more than this road to go.