Excluded by the dormitory !! What to do

This kind of thing often happens in college, you have to adjust your mentality, otherwise it will drive you crazy, it really happens. Learn to do things alone, after a long time, you will like to live like this, wearing earplugs in the dormitory to surf the Internet, going to self-study during the day, and getting used to it after a long time. But there must be a good relationship, even if it's not your own class, it's not bad to often complain together and say bad things about others, but if you can't change the dormitory.

If you don't pay attention to your words and deeds, you will definitely be ostracized! You can't blame anyone else, let's change dorms.

No matter what kind of person others are, you have to integrate into other people's lives, it is you who adapt to it, not others who adapt to you, and there is no fish when the water is clear.

First of all, I think you should think about whether there is something wrong with you.

Or maybe you did something to annoy them.

If not, then it depends on what kind of people the three of them are usually, if they are the kind of people who are very annoying and not very good at being people, then it doesn't matter.

You can also find your own friends in other dorms.

If you really can't do it, just move out, I think it's normal to go out and live in college, like my classmates at school, a lot of dormitories don't fit, or don't like the dormitory conditions are not good, you can go out to live.

You don't have to look at the face of the dormitory, so let's open it.

Don't think about it so much, put your heart and soul into your studies, and one day they will naturally come to you for help. Also, you should have a normal heart towards people, and accept that it takes time for a person to accept. They don't get along with you, and there are other classmates.

It's not like other classmates won't get along with you. Besides, review whether you are doing something wrong?

Is this very simple, you take out a few hundred people to eat, just two people, worship the handle, to be sincere, speculative, so that the brothers still isolate you? If you don't have any social skills, you won't die after graduation? Be a grandson first, wait for the opportunity to get ahead, be a master, and do something bad together in the most practical way, understand?

Bang on a rope, closer than brothers, first use money to shop it, of course, I'm not saying that money is omnipotent, or you make them, they are afraid of you, naturally please you, I don't know if you are satisfied, I have also experienced, I have graduated for several years, and now I often greet it.

Add a sentence to the second floor: If you are cheap, you are invincible.

It's funny. My suggestion is.

Let's change the dormitory. Don't blame people for their low quality.

Their parents left early.

No jiaoyang

Can't blame them.

In a word.

Let's change the dormitory.

One of our dormitories was ostracized and changed bedrooms.

Just wait until the water in your head is gone.

Maybe you're thinking too much, isn't there a saying, suspicious neighbors stealing axes.

It may be that you think too much, but depending on your situation, the probability is relatively small, it is estimated that they are not used to some of the things you have done before, such as being cautious or something, or gossiping, lying (they only need a pair to know that you are lying to them or exaggerating that is, bragging) and your personality is also possible, such as the eldest lady's temper, self-centeredness, speaking without brains, etc. It is easy to have this situation in the dormitory, our dormitory is the most united and happiest dormitory, seven people in class, get up one by one, everyone helps each other, and a biscuit is also shared ......But we have also had signs of exclusion before, but we choose to forgive, because we know that the taste of a person is really uncomfortable, so at that time, as soon as there are bad signs, we will hold a dormitory rectification meeting to spread things out, so that everyone is good sisters. Maybe it's really bad, but people have the means to pull people out of you before you exclude her, not to mention the special situation in your bedroom.

Sit down and talk about it, after all, you still have more than a year to spend in **, I believe they are still very kind and rational girls, as long as you open the knot in your heart, I believe you will still go back to the past, but at that time you must also let go of the past, cherish the present, I wish you to return to them as soon as possible, show some courage.

Sometimes there is no need to do something against your conscience for the sake of the appearance of gregariousness, you must have your own principles, you can't lose yourself as a person, you can't follow the trend to do some bad things, you have to be clear about your position, what to do and what not to doIn fact, from the first day of birth to the day of death, people come and go alone, don't feel that a person is very lonely, not just your feelings alone, learn to enjoy loneliness, learn to grow.

People are different, don't force the circle that you can't get into, just do what you should do. It is not unreasonable for things to gather like beasts and divide them into groups, and they exclude you, perhaps because of jealousy. If it's because of jealousy, then don't worry about it, the Tao is different, don't conspire with each other!

If you are excluded because they don't like you, I think you need to think about what you are doing wrong, of course, it doesn't mean that you have to please them, just to see if you have any shortcomings, such as hygiene habits. There is always a reason why others don't like you, change what you can, and change what you can't change. To be alive, happiness is the most important thing.

Is it convenient to say what is the reason for being excluded?

Question: Yes.

There is no reason. A person is inexplicably ignoring me.

I asked her questions, and even deleted my friends directly.

After I asked her, I deleted my friend directly.

The other two just ignored me.

I also encountered it when I was a freshman, but then it was solved by me.

How can you say no.

And their personalities.

If one person doesn't take care of you, it may be that person's problem, if all three of them don't pay attention to you, think about you *** violating their interests.

Then your personality should not be too weak or too strong, find a time to communicate with those two, the one alone will not be able to communicate.

You can't be single, and you can't do everything to cater to it.

First consider your own reasons, do a good job of yourself first, and then if it's your roommate's fault, then don't worry about them, just be yourself, people are independent, not necessarily this dormitory is all yours, just live yourself.

It's good to be yourself, be kind and have a clear conscience, put your mind on things worthwhile, get better and better, get better and better, don't pay attention to some unnecessary people, let them go, and the most important thing is to be happy.

If you have time to find an opportunity to invite your roommates to dinner, it's OK to order a cup of milk tea for everyone, after all, eating people has a short mouth, and there is nothing that can't be solved by a cup of milk tea, if there are two cups.

When I first went to college, my roommates were very enthusiastic at first, but they especially liked to talk about skin care, beauty, and shopping, as a person who had never been in contact with this at all, they chatted, I couldn't interject, slowly, I naturally felt that the relationship was not so familiar, before going to college, I had no contact with skin care, and facial cleanser was not very useful; I don't know how to shop, I don't even have a ** number, and then, in order to increase the topic with my roommates, I started to study skin care and shopping by myself, and the final result is that I became a "little expert" in skin care and shopping in my bedroom. I was able to have a very pleasant chat with them about skincare and shopping, and they were very willing to come and talk to me when they were choosing and shopping. This example tells us that girls just like to buy, buy, buy, don't underestimate the influence of buy, buy and buy in the girl group, of course, you have to be an excellent self in other aspects, because no one wants to make friends with excellent people.

In fact, you should be clear that this is not a positioning, but a problem. What kind of exclusion is it? Did you just not go to class and eat together, or did you get trampled on twice when your clothes fell on the floor?

So if you think you're doing nothing wrong, why do you feel excluded? Is it because they simply want to isolate you or do you want to fit in with them? If it's the former, why bother to be unhappy with your shy face?

If it's the latter, they must be good enough to have a shining point for you to admire, so why not make yourself even better? The dormitory is a place where you are, and you will meet many, many people in this life, and not all of them will become your companions. If there is no tacit understanding, there is no need to force it.

The outside world is big. As long as this "exclusion" does not harm you physiologically and human rights, and as long as this "exclusion" can be viewed in a different state of mind, then you can completely think that you are not outside their circle, but you are in your energy field, but these two spaces unfortunately do not intersect.

If your roommate's behavior is particularly "bizarre", such as deliberately beating around the bush in front of you, deliberately damaging your things...You'd better stay away from them! This may be due to some problems with their character.

If you just don't wait for you to eat and go to class, get together and chat without pulling you, there is no essential problem, and you especially want to improve, you can still change, for example, observe more about what your roommate is usually interested in? They play games, and you can learn to play games.

Just be yourself, and I'm the same, it doesn't matter, it's okay to graduate, no one can't live without anyone.

The dormitory itself is a small group, when you are alone in everything, there must be little communication with your roommates, you don't take the initiative to join them, do you still want others to take the initiative to stick to you? You have to actively participate in the group activities in the dormitory, which is also to learn to behave in the world, you have to learn to conform to the herd, of course, this kind of conformity does not require you to blindly follow, you have to have your own ability to distinguish right from wrong, actively integrate into them, communicate with them, and learn to communicate with roommates when encountering anything, you treat them as friends, and they will naturally treat you as friends.

It's too bad to be isolated, you will feel very lonely in your heart, and if you are in this environment for a long time, your personality will become more and more withdrawn, if you want to break this state and reintegrate into them, you have to rely on your own efforts, first of all, you must figure out what is the reason for black, everything has a reason, it will not be for no reason, and you find out what you are not doing well from yourself, if you are not good enough, then try to change yourself, and communicate with them more with a sincere heart, do more for them, I believe that people's hearts are flesh and blood, and soon your life will be full of sunshine.

I'm afraid they're going to bully me even more.

Answer: You must first be strong yourself, many people in this society are bullying the weak and afraid of the hard. When I was in high school, I was also isolated by my roommates, and I don't think there's anything you don't want to see me, and I don't want to see you? What if one day you still ask me?

Think about which side of the problem is, you, or them. If you conclude that they are wrong, you are selfish. If the conclusion is that it's all your fault, then you have low self-esteem.

The conclusion is that everyone is wrong, but if you are in the driver's seat, you are saved. Find the hidden leader of the dormitory (the boy is talking and counting, what does he do and what others do.) Girls are the ones who are popular, or the most crooked) admit your mistakes and promise to correct them.

Dormitory, if you look up and don't look down, you can't do it.

There is no question of who is right and who is wrong.

Ask yourself, in your daily life, have you ever taken the initiative to care about their affairs, and have you always thought of them when you encounter something?

One or two people don't like you is their problem, and everyone doesn't like you, that is your problem, even if they are not good, then you are not bad with them, otherwise you will never be able to fit into them, and you will always be alone.

Don't say anything else! Invite the dormitory people out for dinner and chat! Drink! Vent your frustration!

After a long time, they become friends! It's really not possible to change dormitories! No, don't admit that some people are born to rush! ·

It is recommended that you go to the library and find some books to get along with!!

Everyone has their own way of life, you should live according to your own way of life, you always care too much about other people's opinions, which is not good for your development.

You can't think like that, put down your arrogant posture, learn to interact with them with sincerity, whether it is love or friendship, there is always a person who must bow his head and admit his mistakes and take the initiative to apologize, I believe that you will gain a pure and valuable friendship, bestwishtoyou!~

Yes, they may feel that you are a little bit of a stammer, and you are not happy, you have to find a way, If you are not that kind of person, prove it to them, or find a good one from it, eat or something, listen to them more, understand the situation, and it may not be the case I said, you can also say directly and honestly, ask them, you only know where the problem is, and you know where to start.

This kind of thing has to be communicated well