Why do some children not know how to be grateful now?

Parents' excessive doting makes children take this for granted, so parents need to be appropriately strict with their children, and at the same time, parents' actions are also affecting children, if parents have this attitude towards their elderly, children will gradually become ungrateful.

Because his parents didn't teach him how to be grateful, he didn't know how to be grateful.

For example, the family spoils him, eating, drinking, playing, and wearing, all of which are dominated by him, and only his parents who don't eat eat eat, and his parents who don't drink only drink.

And at this time, the child feels that he is the most important, no matter what time it is, how can he understand gratitude, he does not feel that his parents need to be grateful to him like this.

Because today's children are too spoiled as parents, many times children feel that everything their parents give them is a matter of course, so it is easy for children not to know how to be grateful.

Because today's children are too spoiled, they are in such an environment, they take all love for granted, and naturally they will not be grateful. I have seen many children who have been spoiled and brought up by their grandparents, and even beat their grandparents when they are met by their requirements, I am really distressed and angry, and many times some of the children's behaviors are indeed caused by their parents.

If the Son does not teach, the Father is guilty. Some children are the only treasure in the family, and the parents and grandparents regard the children as the little emperor of the family, and they are afraid of being turned into others in their mouths. Without gratitude teaching, how can children understand gratitude?

It is true that today's children lack hardship education, and many children have received the attention of too many people in the family, so they are very dependent and extremely selfish, and when they find that their requirements are not met, they will speak ill of the people close to them, and even punch and kick, which are the educational dereliction of the original family.

Some children do not know how to be grateful, which has something to do with family upbringing, the so-called failure to raise a father, can not unilaterally think that the reason for the child, should be more research do not understand the factors behind gratitude, according to local conditions.

People are accustomed to the number of people around him, so after a long time, he takes it for granted.

Children are very malleable. Or if there is a problem with education, whether it is family education or school education, it is equally important.

Now the living conditions of the family are getting better and better, the children are carefree and life is very comfortable. Parents will do their best to satisfy their children what they want. Especially in single-child families, parents will have such an attitude, "I only have one child, mine is his, as long as I can give, try to be satisfied."

It seems to be the love of parents for their children, but they don't know the hidden dangers buried under this love, and the children become lawless, take all this for granted, and don't know how to be grateful.

Nowadays, the material life of families has been improved, but there are also some families with poor economic conditions. When the child grows up, there will be a kind of comparison psychology, and Hail Fangji begins to pursue high consumption, but for such a family, it is really unaffordable. But children at that time did not understand how difficult it was for their parents.

Some parents believe that as long as they are good to their children, their children will understand their parents' good intentions when they grow up, and their children will understand their parents' difficulties when they are old. In fact, there is nothing wrong with being good to children, but spoiling excessively and not guiding children correctly will only cause children to not know how to be grateful.

1.Form a habit and take it for granted.

Habits are a very scary thing, and once formed, they are very difficult to change. When parents give endlessly to their children, and children become a habit, they will think that this is a very normal thing and should be taken for granted. How can a child be grateful to his parents?

2.Overindulge your children and don't set rules for them.

There is nothing wrong with parents loving their children, and children need to grow up in a loving environment. But in the process of love, parents indulge their children, do not establish rules in all aspects of life, lack some common sense of life and the correct way to deal with people, so that there will be a very big obstacle to the future growth of children, children will not only not be grateful to their parents, but also will complain about their parents when their own development is not good in the future.

3.Look down on your parents.

Some parents' careers are not so glamorous, after the children grow up, after understanding the parents' occupations and salaries, they look down on the parents' occupations from the heart, and even look down on the parents, so no matter how good the parents are to their children, the parents are the ones they don't want to be in the eyes of the children, and they will not be grateful for their parents' love for themselves.

When the child is young, parents work hard to nurture and educate the child. When the child grows up, repay the parents with a grateful heart to repay the parenting grace of the parents. ......But in real life, there are many parents who think that they have paid too much for their children, but their children do not know how to be grateful when they grow up, and these parents will feel chilled because of this.

The reason why this is the case is that the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment, the unrealistic hope will definitely not achieve the desired effect, and the correct education method is the key to raising a grateful child.

1. The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment. This is the primary reason why parents feel that they have given a lot but cannot raise grateful children.

The primary reason why some parents feel that they have given too much but their children do not know how to be grateful is that the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment......These parents overestimate their own efforts and at the same time expect too much from their children's returns, so they are very disappointed when the reality does not match their expectations. ......In fact, the child may be doing well, but the parents' expectations are too high.

2. Unrealistic hopes will definitely not get a satisfactory result.

When we encounter an event, we always predict the final result and hope to achieve our ideal result. But the reality is often not what you want it to be, and you will be disappointed. ......Those parents who think they have given a lot are so disappointed because of this ......Their gratitude to the child produces unrealistic hopes, so when the child's actual actions do not meet their hopes, they will feel lost, and even feel cold, in fact, the child is not wrong, it is the unrealistic hope of the parents that leads to such a result.

3. The correct educational method is the key factor in cultivating children who know how to be grateful.

In order for a child to grow up healthily and eventually become a talent, he must receive a good education. Children who know how to be grateful for their friends have this quality because they have received the right education. ......But in real life, some parents do not do a good job in educating their children, although they pay a lot, but because of improper practices, the educational effect is not ideal.

Children who grow up in this state may not know how to be grateful, which will disappoint their parents. ......But fundamentally, the problem is not the child's problem, the parents are the key to this outcome. If this is the case, parents must change their own education methods in order to raise children who truly know how to be grateful.

Children think that their parents Wang Paidou deserve their contributions, so they will not become grateful children. For children, their parents' love for them is instinctive, and many troubled parents in China are child-centered, so they forget that this kind of education can turn children into white-eyed wolves. For a family, parents are like roots, and children are fruits.

If there is a problem with this fruit, then there will also be a big problem with this root.

Parents should understand that if their children do not know how to be grateful, then there will be a big problem in family education. Therefore, parents must give their children more opportunities to let their children understand the outside world. Don't always try to take care of the big and small things in your child's life, otherwise it will make your child look indifferent.

Some parents have too much love for them, so they ignore the opportunity for their children to be grateful for themselves.

If the parents have been giving but not reaping, it means that the child has actually gone to the first step of the white-eyed wolf. Parental educationMany parents feel that they can't bitter their children, and it is because of this kind of thinking that their children are as sweet as honey, but parents are bitter. When children are old, they are reluctant to support their parents, and they feel that their parents have only brought them burdens.

Their cognition is the same as that of many children nowadays, so parents can also see that what we should do is to improve their children's minds.

Children's gratitudeGive children more opportunities to improve, and let children understand that gratitude is a virtue. At the appropriate time, you can let your child experience the suffering of the world, let your child do housework, and do some public welfare activities. When children have a grateful mind, they will be able to communicate well with their parents, and they will not do some hurtful behavior to their parents.

Gratitude itself is a gradual process, and if there is a deviation in the education of the child, then the child will also be deviated.