Is it normal to have a fear of someone you like?

What is love? The meaning of love is very broad and can be friendship, family affection, love, ......Perhaps the most interesting thing for people is love, right? Then I might as well talk about love.

Love is the most beautiful word, how many people are struggling to pursue it, sometimes people regard love as more important than life. But what is love? How many people truly have eternal love?

How many people have been searching for it all their lives? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling when you make a promise, and love may be the ......feeling of life and deathLove is a topic that can't be talked about endlessly. When you fall in love with someone, your heart is panicked and uneasy, you don't know how the other person feels, and you have to hide your feelings because you are a reserved person.

Maybe the root of your love is a shadow in your heart, you put on a dream clothes for him, you are intoxicated in the illusion of the dream and do not want to wake up, wandering and tossing for a long time, when you know the other party's feelings, everything has been light, because you have stepped out of his shadow, his coat is no longer gorgeous, the love you hold has lost its luster, and your life has been injected with gray since then. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "It's a pleasure to love others."

When I was loved, I thought, "What a blessing to be loved!" But whether it is to love or be loved, it is so sad, because people's hearts are always so unpredictable, and desires are always so things, for her, they can only pass by.

Nothing can penetrate deep into her heart. Like a decadent and gloomy flower, with a gesture of despair but looking up at an innocent face, smiling at all cruelty and humiliation. The deep dark green color is without tears.

Such a flower that blooms forever in the dark does not believe in tears, and is destined to be lonely for a lifetime. Often, in a crowded crowd, I feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaotic and noisy. And when you are quiet and then look and listen, you can feel incombinable, with love and being loved, there will be a struggle in the whirlpool of feelings, and with love and being loved, there will be more entanglements in the emotional world.

The wrong car of loving and being loved, the incomprehension of loving and being loved, the restriction of loving and being loved, the helpless ...... of loving and being lovedIn the vast land, for a person who is disappointed in the world and has no love in his heart, isn't it the same to **? Forever walking on the road, all love, all of a sudden, you will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent.

There are many people who have no soul. Mediocre life,

Dear landlord, I'm glad for your question True love is not necessarily a perfect match in the eyes of others But the mutual fit of the hearts of people who love each other is to make each other's lives better and silently dedicate This love not only warms themselves, but also warms those worldly hearts True love is when you can love, know how to cherish True love is when you can't love, know how to let go Because, letting go is the ...... you have everythingPlease cherish the time, love well True love is a kind of care and care from the heart, there are no flowery words, no grandiose actions, only in every word and deed you can feel it. So plain and so firm. On the contrary, swearing, promising shows its uncertainty, never believe sweet words.

Feel it with your heart If my own inaccuracies please forgive me!

I believe that many people have had similar experiences, obviously they like a person but dare not approach, why do they have such a state of mind?

After many years, the biggest reason for recalling that state of mind is my own lack of self-confidence. In my eyes, the other party is very good, and I am very ordinary, this contrast will lead to the widening of the psychological distance, so that the weaker party does not dare to take the first step, for fear of being despised or ridiculed, so choose an obscure and distant state, and hide their true thoughts.

Sometimes we are afraid that even if we bravely take the first step, the relationship we usher in will be more awkward, the opposite of the further relationship that our heart wants, and the response we get is indifference or even resistance. We often make each other perfect and excellent in our own psychology, but we constantly make ourselves incompetent and weak, and the relationship between the two parties becomes dull.

Obviously like each other but show indifference:

There is also a relationship state, when I obviously like that person, but when the other party takes the initiative to attack, I am unable to give back, but instead shows an indifferent attitude and rejects others. This type of person can talk and laugh with other people, but cannot communicate normally with the person he likes in his heart. Even if you are smiling and whispering to others, when you see the person you like on one side, the smile will disappear instantly.

This type of person doesn't know how to communicate with the admirer in their hearts, and then regrets their indifference. Or maybe it's also the maintenance of strong self-esteem in emotion, and I don't know how to express myself reasonably. I'm afraid that I will express too much disgust from the other party, and I will be too active to appear cheap, and I expect that I can show my advantages, but because of too many thoughts in my heart, a vicious circle is finally formed.

Actually, this is not the reason for the "person you like", the key is still up to you. Often, you are nervous because you are unsure of your direction and think you are not worth enough in front of the other person.

Maybe you are a little nervous, because your heart is eager for him to take the initiative to get close to you, but when he is really close to you, you will be a little instinctively nervous. Open your heart and be brave enough to love again.

There is a strong fear of the person you like because you want to get his like, but you are afraid of losing it.

It may be because of some reason of your own that you feel that you are not worthy of him, and it may make you have to be as good as him to be worthy of him.

Look at his ** more, let yourself form a habit, chat with each other more often, you can slowly get close to each other, but also do a good job of psychological hints, and think more about the advantages and benefits of the other party when you are afraid.

You should try to tell yourself that the person you like on the other side will not hurt you, and if you blindly fear him, you will miss a beautiful love, and it will also create an image of you as timid and introverted to the other party.

Ordinary people will have a sense of fear when they see the person they like, and they will be very afraid of each other, so they must overcome this psychology and speak out boldly.

Hello subject!

You can feel that in both an intimate relationship and a work relationship, you want the other person to recognize your abilities, and at the same time, you are afraid that the other person expects something from you, especially in an intimate relationship, and this expectation makes you feel pressured and want to escape.

You said that your family environment since you grew up was that your mother was a severe anxious type, and you and your father were avoidant types. From this family relationship, it can be seen that mom should have seriously invaded some areas between you and dad, but you and dad have chosen to endure and compromise in order to avoid conflict, or avoided mom's attack.

This can lead to a particular fear of conflict when it comes to intimate relationships as an adult. You will be afraid that after entering an intimate relationship, you will be constantly asked by the other party, and you are unable to deal with such a situation, afraid that like your father, you can only wronged and suppress yourself, if you want to show your true self, you are afraid of destroying the intimacy between your grandchildren, so you can only flee.

I think what you're really afraid of may not be that the other person expects anything from you, but that you're afraid of having the same marriage as your parents. You are afraid that the other person is an anxious and strong mother, and you yourself are a compromised and depressed father.

Here's my advice to you:

1. Show your true self in an intimate relationship.

First of all, you have to understand that the formation of an intimate relationship between two independent people must be inseparable from collision and conflict. Identifying oneself in a collision, asserting oneself, and seeing each other is an indispensable process.

When two people slowly approach, it is normal for one party to have expectations for the other, and the key is that you deal with it.

Be brave enough to show your true self in the relationship, let the other person know what you really think, and not hide yourself for fear of conflict, so that the other person will not have the opportunity to enter your heart, have no chance to understand the real you, and your relationship will not be able to go deeper.

2. Don't label yourself and the other party.

Each of us is multifaceted, and we don't need to label ourselves and others as having only one side.

Whether in an intimate relationship or in a work relationship, if you want the other person to see your abilities, first of all, you must accept yourself, see yourself, express yourself clearly without evasion, do not over-interpret the behavior of others, and do not use the affirmation of others to achieve self-satisfaction.

When you are in intimacy, go through this extremely important road of self-affirmation, so that you can not despair, not retreat, and not stay away in the collision of intimacy.

1.Give yourself a little more confidence.

Most of the time, being too nervous in front of someone you like is also a reflection of your lack of self-confidence. Of course, everyone has a variety of shortcomings, and that's normal, but you can't belittle yourself because of this small one. You have to face up to these shortcomings, learn to accept and like yourself, and have a little more self-confidence.

After all, most people like to spend time with confident and positive people.

2.Prepare in advance what you want to talk about.

Feeling nervous in front of someone you like is also related to not being able to find a topic to talk about at the time, because all you want to do at that time is to see the other person and make a good impression on the other person, but when you really face it, you suddenly don't know what to say. At this point, nervousness and blushing will replace the awkwardness of a no-topic chat. The more embarrassed you are, the more moved and nervous you will be, so be prepared to communicate on multiple topics, such as some ordinary greetings or some gossip chat events.

Never mind. Importantly, it can be used at critical moments, which can also ease most of the tension.

3.Eliminate each other's perfect imaginations.

The more you care, the more important, the more you desire, the more you are hungry, the more you are afraid of failure, the more you dare not lose your true self, the more you need your ideal self to take on this responsibility, if you can't shape each other perfectly, you can reduce this feeling, you can't lose, you can interact with each other more calmly.

4.Proactively end preset results to reduce stress.

This is just the beginning and doesn't mean you'll actually be together. First, become friends. After getting to know each other, you will find that both parties have the desire to fall in love, and communication will be natural In the process of pursuing a person, what we need to do is not to make the other person like ourselves, but to actively create contact space, increase the contact area, and actively promote the production of this result.

As for the outcome, now none of us knows. There is no need to insist on this result. You have no obligation to him, and you need time to understand him.

5.Love only yourself.

If being close to someone you like makes you nervous, scared, short of breath and doesn't know what to do, then it's better to accept it, because at the moment, you are in this state, it's the real you and you don't have to hide it because the person who is really interested in you shouldn't hate you because of it. If he doesn't like you and stays away from you because of it, it could be a sign that, in fact, he may not really understand you and fall in love with you for who you really are.

In fact, most people don't hate the way their favorite person looks nervous and scared in front of them. On the contrary, such people will make us feel precious and lovely. Because in the understanding of many people:

Being nervous and scared in front of someone you like is exactly how he feels about me. They will explain that you like him very much and that he will only be happy before it is too late.