What to do when there is a conflict between children

Method 1: Teach your child to analyze the root cause of the problem.

Case: Xiao Zhe didn't bring a pencil, and took his pen without the consent of his tablemate, and the tablemate angrily grabbed the pen and muttered a few words, Xiao Zhe was unhappy and muttered a few words. The two quarreled ......

Tip: It is not difficult to simply ask the child to stop arguing, but the child will still have conflicts when he encounters such a problem in the future. Therefore, the key is to let the child realize where the problem is and then find a way to solve it himself.

Suggestion: Consider having your children sit together and let them talk about why they are arguing, as this has the advantage of allowing them to listen to each other. Father.

Method 2: Inspire your child to find a solution.

Example: On Sunday, Tian Tian and his friends were playing football together on the grass, and my mother was chatting with the neighbors. Suddenly, Tian Tian ran to his mother screaming: "Qingqing just kicked me!" At this time, Qingqing also ran forward: "He scolded me first!" ”

If you do this, you will never achieve the effect of helping your child's growth, and even give your child the illusion that even if he does not perform well, he can still get benefits.

Suggestion: If there is a dispute between children, parents should first ask the child to explain the reason for the dispute. Once the truth of the matter is understood, mothers can help their children understand the reasons for their conflicts, especially their respective problems.

You can tell your child that scolding and kicking are unfriendly signs, and you can't do something bad because someone else did something wrong first. Then, after the children recognize their problems, let them learn to admit their mistakes and apologize to each other.

Method 3: Let the child face the conflict on his own Hint: If the mother fights for her child's reasons, it is easy to cause jealousy and imbalance between the children. It is also easy to indulge the habit of children to instinctively seek out parents or teachers to solve problems or troubles whenever they encounter them.

Parents need to help adjust their children's mentality, conflicts with others are common, sometimes relatives with blood and rough relationships will quarrel, what children need to do is not to let the contradictions affect their mentality, and do not affect their lives.

When there is a conflict between children, parents can take the following ways to deal with it:

1.Stay calm: As a parent, the first thing is to stay calm and objective. Don't get emotional, deal with conflicts with a peaceful mind.

2.Fairness and neutrality: Ensure fairness and neutrality when resolving conflicts. Do not take sides and give every child equal opportunities.

3.Listen to both sides: Listen to each child's point of view and feelings and give them space to express themselves. We respect their positions and understand their experiences and ideas.

4.Teach problem-solving skills: Teach children how to solve problems in a positive and effective way. Guide them to find suitable solutions and encourage them to cooperate and seek win-win results.

5.Role-play and demonstration: When necessary, role-play can be used to demonstrate how to deal with conflicts. Be a role model for them, showing calmness, rationality, and cooperation.

6.Develop empathy: Teach children to develop empathy and understand each other's feelings and positions. Encourage them to put themselves in the other person's shoes.

7.Encourage positive co-solutions: Encourage children to look for positive co-solutions rather than resorting to violence or aggression. Emphasize the importance of communication, compromise, and the search for common interests.

8.Supervision and guidance: Provide timely supervision and guidance in the process of resolving conflicts. Make sure they use appropriate language and behavior to avoid further conflict.

The most important thing as a parent is to play the role of a mediator and facilitator, not a party to the fight. Teach children conflict-solving skills and values to help them develop positive interpersonal skills.

If there is a conflict between children, parents should first understand the reasons for the specific situation, and then give the child better advice so that the child can better deal with what happened.

1.Take on the role of saving the child.

When there is unhappiness between children, parents should not put themselves in the shoes of saving their children. If you want to get your child out of the conflict through your own intervention, although the effect is effective, it is not the most suitable method for the child, and the child is more dependent on his parents, and lacks the ability to deal with the problem by himself.

2.Don't ask why, let the child apologize first.

Many parents are accustomed to letting their children apologize first when dealing with crises between their children, but do not ask what happened. Although it is said that the person who apologizes first when there is a conflict is more personable, if the parents do not ask the reason and reluctantly apologize to the child, it will make the child feel that the parents do not understand him and will feel more aggrieved.

3.Whatever the reason, help your child gain the upper hand.

This is the exact opposite of the parent practice above, which is obviously not true. This will make the child have no correct view of right and wrong, thinking that as long as there are parents in him, he does not have to be reasonable, and the parents will always help him to settle down. This invisibly fuels the child's arrogance.

Conflicts between children, leading parents to fall into misunderstandings

To a large extent, parents' wrong practices stem from their own subjective consciousness, and use adults' ideas to measure the relationship between children, which will inevitably be somewhat different.

Emotionally overly stressed.

Many parents will be very excited when faced with conflicts between their children. I am afraid that the little baby I hold in the palm of my hand will be bullied by my peers. So in this state of mind, it is natural to hope that the child will not be harmed.

However, the conflict between children is not based on malice, and many times it is an act without a sense of property rights, not the relationship between the victim and the perpetrator.

I feel that parents should not intervene in the conflicts between children first, they should understand the situation first, and it is best to find a teacher to understand clearly before making a decision

1.Take care of your child's mood.

If the child is pushed down and cries, parents should go over to care for the child as soon as possible, calm the child's emotions, let him know that he is not alone, and that there are parents who support him at all times and give him more security.

Secondly, we need to help them understand the scene "He wants Sakura Hu to run over here, not to bully you", so that the child can understand the other person's behavior.

If the child is pushed down, the parents will "stand out" for the child, and the child can easily understand that "I was bullied and wronged." "There are factors that are not good for the development of children.

2.Try not to interfere in the children's world of conflict.

The world of children is so simple, and children's games have rules that belong to children. Let them find solutions to problems in conflict management, and grow in problem solving.

3.Specific analysis of the specific situation of children's one-day activities.

When children are playing around, you may find that some children are relatively introverted and tend to be more passive; Some children can be reasonable, which can play a role in easing conflicts; And there are also some children who have been doted on by their families since they were young and have a certain degree of aggression.

Sometimes, conflicts between children can also "escalate". That's when the adults have to intervene. The first thing to do is to understand the situation; secondly, specific analysis; Finally, reason with the Tuanji children.

The most undesirable thing is that parents bring in their children or criticize or scold them for the sake of face. This can easily hurt their self-esteem and also ruin everyone's good mood.

4.Teach your child to protect himself in moderation.

1) If the conflict is a small friction in normal life, children can learn to be tolerant and not unforgiving.

2) If the vested rights and interests belonging to the child are violated, the child should be allowed to fight on the basis of reason, not blindly retreat, and learn to defend and resist appropriately in the case of equal strength.

3) If the other party has a large number of people or a disparity in strength with you, don't blindly go head-to-head. You can ask your parents or police uncle for help afterwards.

5.The final solution to the problem: the child.

This is a crucial point that is often overlooked. When children have conflicts, adults often come forward to solve them, and even small things are turned into big things! What we do most often is go straight to the answer:

It's not right for you to do that, you should ......So, when will children learn to think for themselves and really learn the skills to interact and get along with others?

The correct way is to guide the child to express his own views through communication with the child: what causes the conflict, how he and the other party feel, what the consequences will be, and what solutions are available. The aim is to enable children to solve problems independently through practice.

You can first soothe your child's emotions, listen patiently to the reasons for your child's conflicts, and actively guide you to find your own problems and understand each other. And it can teach children that problems can be solved in a positive way. Remember, parents are also involved in the conflict between their children's limbs, so that the contradictions between the children's rotten molds will rise to become the contradictions of the parents, which is not conducive to solving the problem, and is not conducive to getting along with the world in harmony.

Now that the quality of life has improved, many families are willing to have a second child, the first change is to focus on filial piety first because life is good, and secondly, because they want to give their children a companion, so as to avoid their children being lonely and lonely when they are old.

For families with two children, they will face the same problem, that is, it is difficult for two children to review the draft to avoid quarrels, and at this time, parents need to make the right choice to solve the problem.

Sometimes a lot of children's play is an element of the game, usually parents can remind their children not to overdo it when playing, so as to prevent some conflicts in advance.

When there is a conflict between children, as a parent, do not mix at will, and when there is a problem between children, they can deal with the problem by themselves is also a kind of exercise for children.

The second is that parents may only hear one side of the story, as parents should maintain a neutral attitude, do not need to take sides, and do not let the other party be wronged.

When children have conflicts, as parents, they should let the two children talk to solve the problem, and the head of the family can play a role in mediating and giving the child enough space, which will help improve the child's ability to deal with the problem.

In fact, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts between children in a family, and only by finding the right way can children be exercised and improved. As a parent, you should believe in your child's ability to deal with problems, and give your child more care and encouragement, which will help your child's growth.

Parents said "You are big, let the small" is the most speechless sentence in the world, and it is also the last sentence that suffers endlessly.

There is no reason.,In order to quickly settle the disputes between the children, the adults take the solution that other people's families use.,By the way, cover up your own eccentricity.。

As for whether it will bring a shadow to the hearts of the older children, whether it will spoil the younger children, they don't think about it, they don't want to think about it, and they even take it for granted that it won't, it's just a trivial matter, don't care!

Is it really just a trifle? It's a small thing for adults, but not for children.

In many cases, the stubborn older sister or older brother (mostly the elder sister) will be angry because of the unfairness, and will hate the younger brother (or sister), so they can only make enemies with their parents and vested interests to vent their dissatisfaction. The younger brother (or sister) will obediently hide behind his parents at this time, watching his sister being scolded by his parents, every time he scolds, or every time his parents repeat "You are big, let the small one" add another brand to his soul "She is big, let me" In the future, he will be more comfortable to encroach on your rent code source. Just like your little brother ......

In this way, the sister may encounter a scumbag because of the lack of love when she grows up, and she may willingly and unknowingly become a "brother demon" in order to get the approval of her parents, and even fight until the two sisters and brothers are affected by the family when they were children, and when they are parents, they say to their children, "You are the big, let the small" ......

1. Physiologically speaking: parents are older than their children, so they are more mature than their children both physically and psychologically, and their parents' experience and experience are richer than ours, and their doers are more cautious and careful than us, so they have the ability to take appropriate measures to communicate with their children;

2. Ideologically speaking: parents do not understand their children, do not know what their children think and want, parents just use their own unique parental status to force their children to do what they are not willing to do, thus suppressing all kinds of ideas in their children's hearts;

3. From the perspective of family status: parents are the main players of the family, they hold the economic power, as a model for their children to learn, and they have never been able to let go of their own shelves and face, so they can not communicate with their children on an equal footing;

4. From the perspective of modern education: children have to receive a lot of education, and family education is one of the most important educational contents of children's education, and a good family environment will inevitably form a harmonious and warm family.