Midlife crisis at the age of 25? Is 35 really a midlife crisis?

In the past two days, an article in Xinhua Daily Telegraph quoted the United Nations definition that "people born in 1992 have entered middle age", which makes those 25-year-old young people seem to have felt the pressure of a midlife crisis.

From a socio-psychological perspective, it is understandable why modern people have more intense age anxiety than in the past. This is mainly due to two factors, one is that the pace of modern life has accelerated, the cost of interpersonal and social interaction has been reduced unprecedentedly, and the efficiency has been greatly improved compared to the past. Second, the information overload brought by the mobile Internet is completely beyond the scope of modern people's limited brain cognitive resources, which will affect the individual's time perception.

These two factors are intertwined, and it is easy for 25-year-old young people in modern society to feel the haggard and anxiety that only middle-aged people who have passed half their lives in the past era can feel.

However, from the perspective of developmental psychology, "youth" and "middle age" are not rigorous concepts. Developmental psychology summarizes in the lifelong development of individuals that the life course after adolescence is usually divided into early adulthood (20-40 years old), middle adulthood (40-60 years old), and late adulthood (60-death).

This division in developmental psychology has its theoretical and empirical basis. From the end of puberty, the development of the body is basically at its peak, and then it enters the cycle of aging. In early adulthood, the individual is a slow aging process, and the individual gradually becomes an uncle from a young man almost unconsciously; By the middle of adulthood, aging accelerates, and the functions of the whole body begin to show various signs of aging, and the probability of disease and mortality begins to gradually increase with age. In late adulthood, there will be various obvious deterioration of individual body functions, and life will enter the twilight of life.

The age of 20-40 is usually "adolescence", and the body is a slow natural aging process. However, if young people at this age have an unhealthy lifestyle and lack the necessary exercise, secondary aging may occur in the course of natural aging. That's why some young people are now suffering from diseases that used to occur in middle age.

In fact, the "midlife crisis" is only a vague concept. A midlife crisis in women generally refers to menopause, which leads to a series of physical and mental symptoms as the secretion of estrogen decreases. As for men's "midlife crisis" can even be considered a pseudo-concept, psychological research has found and confirmed that men's "midlife crisis" often appears after the wife enters menopause; Middle-aged men who marry young wives are less likely to observe a "midlife crisis".

It's early, 25 years old is still a teenager, a good time.

Personally, I don't think there is any need to be overly anxious, although urban work needs to face more "mid-life crisis", but there are also more opportunities. I have always believed that everyone will always encounter several opportunities in their lives, depending on whether they can grasp and successfully transform, and usher in the second spring of their careers. Therefore, I think the "midlife crisis" at the age of 35 is just a very confusing false proposition.

Let's take a step back, even if we are unemployed at the age of 35, we are still young. At this stage, our parents are only of retirement age and are likely to be able to help with their children. Many of my friends around me are like this, and some parents even subsidize their children.

Of course, this is also a very small number of people who have this condition.

In fact, the most terrifying should be the stage over 40 years old. In my opinion, there are basically no parents at this stage of trial and error, they can only be their own bottom, or even the bottom of others' training, at this time the parents are old, often two only children have to raise four old people, the pressure is huge.

In addition, there is an even more terrible thing, which many people, including myself, are currently suffering in silence. That's the loan and leverage, and the mortgage makes me dare not stop, I dare not try and make mistakes. Perhaps, the top priority for middle-aged people should be to "reduce leverage and repay loans".

In short, the age of 35 should not be the dividing line of social elimination mechanisms. In view of the various problems of middle-aged people, there should also be real policy support. For example, preferential interest rate reductions on loans; Escort and housekeeping services for social welfare help alleviate the problem of support.

At the same time, increase the special deduction of individual income tax related to maintenance, etc.

Finally, I would like to appeal to the "Chinese-style middle-aged" middle-limb tolerant group.