For some reason, how to break the ice with same sex friends?

I also had a good friend in high school, and we were both quite introverts, and we usually held everything to ourselves. We will also have a cold war often, often if one does not pay attention, or a word, it will be a cold war, I remember one time it was particularly powerful, I forgot what the reason was, both ignored each other, and did not go together after class and meals. Anyway, I secretly cried at night.

On Saturday afternoon, she played badminton with her classmates, and I was very sad to see it upstairs, because we usually go shopping together on Saturday nights, and this weekend we had a cold fight, and I didn't know how to speak. When she came back from playing badminton, she was a little uncomfortable when she saw me, and I took a step back and asked her if I was going to buy anything tonight, and she replied to me immediately. Then we reconciled.

Actually, she cares about you too, and you care about her too, but you can't pull your face and say a word to each other. Sometimes a girl's friendship can end in one sentence, and one sentence can be intact.

If you really care about this friend, no matter who the source of the fault is, you should take the initiative to reconcile with her and talk to her about your thoughts. The Cold War can't solve any problems, on the contrary, the longer it goes, the more uncomfortable it will be, this time you take the initiative to reconcile, maybe if there is a conflict again, she will consider you more. The friendship of three people is inherently more fragile than that of two people, and it is inevitable that two of the three will be better.

I had this experience when I was in junior high school, and I was the one who was left out, but I also tried to maintain our friendship, and we still have a good relationship. So, you have to remember that the more you give, the more you will reap.

In places where friends often go, or on the road, pretend to meet by chance, and then create a topic and vaguely apologize. After a long Cold War, the other side must have also reflected. If she really treats you as a friend, your apology will surely lead to his inner desire for friendship, and then "reunite with the mirror".

I still remember when I was in college, there were four people in the dormitory, and I had a good time with another classmate, going to class, eating, shopping, choosing courses, and taking ...... in the eveningThey all did it together, got about the same grades, and won a scholarship together! It's really the kind that sees one of them, and the other person must be not far away. I didn't know what to quarrel with one day in my sophomore year, it was a really small thing, and I can't even remember what I was arguing about until now.

Then we started a cold war, no one paid attention to anyone, and the discerning person knew it at a glance, usually two people were conjoined like babies. In those days, I really couldn't do anything, in fact, we all know that we are not angry in our hearts, but for the sake of face, no one wants to take the initiative to bow their heads first. In the end, another roommate probably felt that our emotions had affected her, and she took me and her to buy oden at the school gate after self-study one night to satisfy her hunger.

Standing in front of the oden stall that night, I chose her favorite food, she chose my favorite food, and then we looked at each other and let out the happiest smile in the past few days.

The university is half a society, not only knowledge, but also learning to deal with things, the basic rule is "narrow road encounter, benevolent wins"! The last kings are often those who know how to be tolerant: you know how to be tolerant and make ten good friends in ten years; Others don't know how to be tolerant, and they have lost five good friends in ten years; When you reach middle age, your connections have taken advantage of everything, and you have someone to help you do anything, and it is difficult to succeed!

The better the relationship, the more it should be cherished, and if there is a conflict, someone has to say sorry first. If it drags on, everyone is not happy, so it is better to stand up bravely and break the ice.

It's not a big deal for good friends to quarrel. The best way to get along with each other is to do business together, properly.

Look at things, his fault is naturally that he admits his mistake, sometimes I am a little unhappy, of course, he coaxes me, and I accept it when I see it.

1. Take the initiative to give her a hug. In fact, you are willing to fight coldly because you still care about the other party, but you can't let go of it or the knot in your heart has not been untied, thinking that the other party doesn't care about you so much. At this time, no words can compare to a warm hug, and I believe that the other party will not refuse such an intimate interaction.

2. Communication. If there is a conflict between two people, no matter who is right or wrong, you can't blame at will, that will add fuel to the fire, you should do more self-criticism, think more about whether the problem is on your own, communicate in time when there is a problem, say your thoughts, calm down and listen to each other's words, which will help ease the tense relationship.

Reasonable communication is the best way to solve things, after the incident, it is best that the two sides do not keep deadlocked, which will be more difficult to solve, because each other does not know each other's thoughts, it is best to find a suitable time to communicate.

3. Call her **. During the Cold War, both sides will become very sensitive, whether it is between friends or lovers, they will become suspicious and cautious, and even inexplicably look at each other unpleasantly.

4. Write a letter of apology. How to put it, sometimes words are definitely more convincing than many other languages, and they can make the other person understand your mind better, if you happen to be able to draw, you might as well draw some pictures to express your apologies, and I believe that she will not be angry after reading it.

6. Let's have a big fight. This method is suitable for situations that you are very familiar with and know that this does not make the problem worse. If the cold war develops into a hot war, on the one hand, it can have the effect of a quick victory; On the other hand, it can make the problem even worse.

Then you have to consider whether this friend is worthy of your deep friendship, a lot of cold war means a lot of conflict, and the personality may just not get along.

Take the initiative to apologize to her, give the other party a step down, and then ask her to hang out together, usually communicate more, restrain your temper, and don't always quarrel because of a trivial matter and fall into a cold war.

Then think about it, is such a friend really worth being friends with? Cold war all day won't do either of you any good, it's not the solution to the problem.

It may not be suitable to be friends, friends generally do not quarrel often, often cold wars, if you feel that it is not appropriate to be friends, you should cut off contact.

Then after leaving each other for a period of time and slowly returning, it may not be so uncomfortable to get along, and there will be no cold war.

This is what requires you to be very discerning, and immediately borrow the donkey to get off the slope when the other party gives you a step, so that the friendship between you can last for a long time.

Tell your friends that you have spent too much time and energy because of the Cold War, and hope to get along well in the future, so that your friends and you can sit down and think about solutions.

Then think about whether such a friend is worth making friends with, if not, just cut off contact, there is no need to wronged yourself.

I think this is your problem, why don't others make friends like this, is it that you are too harsh on your friends.

Communicate well, but also tolerate each other, and ask each other to go shopping after a quarrel and give each other a step down, so that you can reconcile.

One. Still fighting, pretending to have forgotten about the previous dispute. When you have a cold war with a friend, most of the reasons are because you have a different point of view, or because you have some minor problem that makes him or her disgusted, or because you touch his or her vulnerable point, in this case, as long as you don't say a word about the dispute and continue to fight, the other party will not be able to hold back.

Two. Analyze the problem objectively and let the other party understand your position. Sometimes you need to analyze from the questions raised by the other party, such as whether you have done something wrong, and what considerations will you do it, and then bring up the question of Hu Hui at an inadvertent time, so as to "it turned out to be ......I thought it was ......The sentence structure eases the atmosphere, and the pants friend is hungry to focus on what you thought at the time.

Three. If you feel that you have a point, take the initiative to show favor, but do not admit that you are wrong. Most people will have a subjective will to look at a thing, and it is always after the time to slowly understand the position of others and the objective facts, in this case, if you feel that you are doing the right thing, then there is no need to dodge, take the initiative to buy something and eat together, but don't admit that you are wrong.

Otherwise, the atmosphere will be very awkward, and you will feel against your will, you have to believe that the other party can't hold back, and if you can't solve the problem of eating, then find a thing that you can't do and ask him to help (tried and tested). Although you should agree with the other person's point of view, the tone should not be humble, and you should have the momentum of the usual bickering to liven up the atmosphere.

Now that social communication is so developed, as long as you want to reconcile, there is a way. For example, send a message to say hello, greetings, and make a **, if a friend also wants to reconcile, then, will give you a message back, don't mention the Cold War again, don't have any strange language, say more words that are conducive to unity, tell the erection to learn humor, remember that "more friends are easy to walk", "one more friend and one more road", your friends will also be very grateful to you.

Ask a question, he is always angry because of a little thing.

I made concessions to ask questions, but I didn't get down the stairs

But we were in the same class, and I was still looking for a girl who was too shameless.

Asking questions, my friends have advised me not to play with him, so I'm now waiting for him to come to me.

QuestionThe only thing I am glad about in that class is that he is in the same class as me, and I am also very happy to play with him, I have figured it out, let one step open the sky, and the initiative may be the best way.

Thank you, teacher, for your question.

Sometimes friends of the opposite sex are not as easy to communicate as sexual friends, because after all, there are still some differences between the two of you, if you are both girls, and the bad things are boys, this problem will be solved soon, for example, two girls go out shopping together, come out together, have afternoon tea, and communicate quickly, and it will be simpler for boys, two people come out to play basketball, play a game, and this contradiction will be solved quickly. If it is a friend of the opposite sex, there is still some estrangement between the two people, so the best way for you is to admit your mistakes and bow your head to each other, but not to bow your head unprincipledly, and now reflect on yourself and apologize to others.

The Cold War is the most hurtful way to hurt feelings, sometimes we quarrel loudly, and the two of us are better than our Cold War, because the Cold War is the most consuming of the feelings of two people, if it is a day or two fine, if it is a month or two, then the feelings of the two of you are estimated to be consumed by this Cold War.

To solve the problem of the Cold War, the most important thing is that you are willing to bow your head and admit your mistakes, sometimes you don't want to admit your mistakes, as long as you break this embarrassing situation and chat with him, in fact, this problem will be solved, because no one is willing to have a cold war with their good friends, that feeling will make the other party very uncomfortable, as long as you are willing to take the initiative to talk to him, even if you don't solve this problem, it will be much better to talk to him about your feelings, and you will not become very embarrassed because of this cold war.

2. Adopt an inclusive attitude.

3. Usually care and greet your friends.

At the beginning of the quarrel, whoever is wrong, you should be the first to bow your head in advance, soften it, and take the initiative to show favor to the other party, so that it is easier to mend your current relationship. Generally speaking, no matter how big the anger is, the other party can soften it down well. 2. Secondly, you can directly send a text message or call ** to the other party to recall with them.

Thank you very much for your understanding, I hope my reply can help you ask questions about our side is two girls and a boy cold war, we are best friends, the two of us made a joke with him, he is not angry now, but he has been ignoring us, we also apologized, but he has been talking to others to be angry with us, what else should we do.

Answer: You need to be patient and listen to his thoughts, and if he doesn't want to talk to you in person at the time, then you can send a message afterwards and ask him to explain it to you in the form of a text message. You have to understand how he thinks about it, what he thinks in his heart. You put yourself in his shoes.

When I asked him, he said he didn't know.

Little sister, stay away from girls like this, you're just her ordinary friend. Go find a really good friend.

I don't think she should have any feelings for you, I think you better give up, and if you continue like this, she still won't appreciate it, I think.

I think she should have thought you would never leave her.

First calm down with each other, think about what is wrong with this friendship, if it can be solved, sit down and have a good exchange, if it is because of character or something, forget it.

You should be more tolerant of each other, because everyone has been together for a long time, they all know where each other's points are, and don't always think from your own point of view.