As a post 90s generation, what are your troubles?

When I have nothing to do, I think a lot, such as the problem of future work, whether to challenge myself to go to graduate school or to go to the society to practice and accumulate experience, and then live this life ordinarily; will be anxious about whether this life will end up because of love; will consider whether it is time to go out and walk more when you are young or to live and work in peace; will miss the aging of their parents; When you're busy, you don't have to worry about it, you just want to do one thing well.

Don't get lost in the mistaken many landscapes of life. The past has passed, and the future is useless even if you want to break the sky, because what the future is, none of us can **. So it's in vain to think about it.

Only now, you have to set goals for yourself, such as what I want to win in a year, how much money I want to make, what books I want to read, who I want to know, etc. People have to give themselves goals, otherwise they will be lost, they will miss, and they will regret it. While you are young, plan your future well, not in a fantasy, but in action.

Step by step towards your goal, you will find that life is actually quite good. What I'm saying may be a bit broad, and some things are up to you to experience.

I want more family, love, brotherhood, and everything is complete. It's a pity that I'm not just me, I have parents who are getting old, I have brothers who need to support each other through hard work, and I have a girlfriend who will face tea, rice, oil and salt together. Therefore, what I need is to reduce the burden on my parents, take responsibility for each other with my friends, and let my girlfriend snuggle up with peace of mind, so I began to choose those stable and boring jobs that I looked down on before, and I began to improve myself, maybe I chose not what I loved, but I chose to allow me to survive in peace for now.

I'm just an ordinary little transparent in the crowd, and all my anxieties are just to live and live more calmly in a limited space.

I couldn't recognize what I really needed, what I really wanted. I have been running away from the "imprint" brought to me by my family of origin, I thought it would be useful to escape from all this I didn't like, I tried to eliminate the "so-called moral opposite" things in me, my heart panicked, anxious, but many times I couldn't do anything about myself. Probably in addition to not having enough money, and then I don't know how to comfort and understand my "impatient" restlessness.

I want to live this life, but I worry that I won't have a good life.

Some people say that the children of the post-90s generation have grown up under the care of society and parents since they were young, in fact, everyone has their own troubles, and the post-90s generation is no exception. We have tremendous social pressure, the ardent hope of parents; If you don't work hard, you will fall behind. Some people say that the post-90s generation grew up in a honeypot.

In fact, everyone has their own troubles, in fact, the post-90s generation is no exception, although they have a superior living environment and material enjoyment, but at the same time they are also under the pressure of entering a new era.

As a post-95 generation, I have just worked for a year, doing the work of a graphic designer, and I have the heart of planning. The anxiety of social conditions is: first of all, my age is at a very embarrassing age, I have to grow up quickly in the past few years, and I want to become the "excellent" person in the eyes of others, and secondly, in a few years, I need to talk about marriage in the eyes of the outside world, and finally I need to "save" my original family.

I don't think I can live the life I want. I can't do what I like, and I don't like what I can do. I don't want to compromise with reality, but I don't know how to pursue my dreams. I feel that there is no hope for this kind of life.

Not to mention anxiety, I left school for internship in April, all kinds of bad state, I can't cook and can only eat takeout, after more than two months of internship, I was in a bad state so I resigned, I was officially unemployed, and then I wandered outside to the 27th, and now I stay at home, I don't know what to do in the future, and I don't know what to say in a confused way.

Mindset issues. Not all post-90s are like that.

Persuade parents to know and reason with emotion.

Since your parents want to find someone to take over the business.

You want to find a virtuous and virtuous wife, who is as beautiful as a flower.

In fact, these two points are not contradictory, you make this clear to your parents, first and then tell them what you know and think about that girl, sometimes parents may not see it more thoroughly than you, after all, it is a lifelong event, and your parents will not force you.

Whether your daughter-in-law can control you also depends on yourself If you are stronger than her, she is helpless, you say that you are a post-80s generation But the youngest post-80s generation is also 22 years old If you are in the 80s, you really have to think about lifelong events The reason why we post-80s still get married early in this era In the final analysis, it is to consider parents and family members a little more Think about it for your parents Find a daughter-in-law who is filial to her parents and in-laws is the most important thing The woman's ability to earn money is very secondary.

My personal idea is not to accept similar blind dates, I have also considered this problem, in this society, one thing is very important is to learn to communicate with people. If I am asked to go on a blind date, I will definitely not go, I will feel that a person will be embarrassed to be introduced by someone to even shoot and drag, and I will feel that the other party's communication skills may be problematic. If you know very well what you want, and the conditions are similar to your own conditions, and you have confidence, you can do it.

If you don't feel it at all, you must know what to do, if you don't hate it very much, you can learn more about it under contact to see if it's suitable, but don't do it according to your parents' wishes because your parents like it, after all, the wife you are looking for is to live with you.

Have you ever been confused?

I've had! I'm sure many people have been confused, especially when they are close to graduating from university, and they have no plan for their future and don't know which direction they want to go.

So before I graduated, because I studied Chinese medicine, I grabbed medicine in the pharmacy, sold the medicine in the pharmacy, did QC in the pharmaceutical factory, and also did QA, but these are not what I want.

By chance, I submitted my resume to a medical position, and after learning about the job content, I felt that it was suitable for my development. So he resolutely chose to leave the pharmaceutical company, took an offer from an outsourcing company, and embarked on an unknown road of his own.

I have grown a lot during this time, learned the conventional operation methods of software such as PS, PR, AI, AE, AU, etc., and at the same time have a further understanding of SEO and **. At the earliest, you can save up a high-quality article with an originality of more than 80% in half an hour.

It is also a new field, such as the operation methods of official accounts, headlines, etc., event planning, data analysis, content planning, typesetting, publishing, ......

I'm crazy about learning from various relevant platforms to supplement my skills.

During that time, I was also confused, and I was criticized by the leader every day, thinking that I would never meet the requirements of the leader, and I operated for a long time, but the effect did not improve, and I suspected that I was not suitable for this industry.

But there is a belief in my heart that supports me, that is, I am no worse than others!

This is undoubtedly an encouragement for me! It also determined me to go on in this industry. Today, I am in charge of more than n accounts, with successes and failures, some from scratch and millions of fans, with a total of more than 200 million views of content produced for various companies, and I am the creator ......of many 100w+ reading contents

I have written so much, just to remind everyone to find the industry you want to do in your heart and stick to it! It doesn't matter if you change a few more industries in the early stage!

Only then will you not be blinded by confusion!

I am a little confused, my current work is dull, I don't know when I will succeed, and I still can't get results even though I work hard.

I have to say that as a post-90s generation, I really feel very lost, I don't know where the future will go, and the pressure at the moment is also very great.

Personally, I'm a little confused because I don't know what I'm going to do after graduation or what I'm going to do.