Why are there still so many people who don t want to have a second child?

Consider costs and economic pressures.

My cousin doesn't really want to have a second child, the intellectuals' sanity.

Either it was an accident or an impulsive follow-up, and the vast majority of them were like that.

The most important thing is the issue of economic strength.

It's very simple, I just don't want to have a hard time in the second half of my life.

People who have a second child are either patriarchal, or they have not taken care of the children since they were young, and the elders in the family help take care of the children, or they are housewives at home and do not have to worry about earning money to support the family.

Giving birth to a second child is not like buying and selling goods, and when you are not satisfied, you can also have the saying of returning.

When it comes to giving birth, it's simpler. It's just that the process of raising a baby is not simple.

First of all, in terms of money, if it is not financially rich enough, then after Erbao is born, it will inevitably reduce the current living standard of the family. Because with the arrival of this new member of the family, expenses such as education fees are multiplied.

The second is energy.

When you take a baby, it's not just about feeding him and dressing him warmly every day. Every day, you have to pick him up and drop him off at school; Go to all kinds of peiyou; In the evening, I also tell a variety of bedtime stories; During the holidays, I will take him on a trip to broaden his horizons ......All of this can take a lot of effort from parents.

Finally, fear will be unfair.

Some mothers are worried that after the birth of the second baby, they will inevitably put too much energy on the baby, thus ignoring the feelings of the big baby. Moreover, after the two children grow up, if the family property is unfairly distributed at that time, it will inevitably affect the relationship between the two children, as well as the relationship between the children and their parents.

Many people are reluctant to have a second child, mainly because of the following concerns.

First, physical reasons. For those who consider having a second child, the first to bear the brunt are the post-70s parents who originally only had an only child. In this group of people, both husband and wife are around 40 years old.

Since they already have a child and they are young and older, they will choose not to have children due to physical reasons.

Second, the child reason. Many Dabao were originally only children, and they may be a little arrogant, and if they have another brother or sister, Dabao may worry about having one more person to share the love of their elders. Therefore, some parents will choose not to give birth because of Dabao's thoughts.

Thirdly, economic reasons. It's easy to have a baby, but it's hard to raise a baby. First of all, you need to consider the cost of milk powder and diapers when you were a child; Secondly, the cost of nannies, many families need to hire another nanny because the elderly are old; Also, it is necessary to reserve the child's future education fund, and the child cannot lose at the starting line.

None of the above costs are a small amount.

Fourth, energy reasons. Having already had a child, some parents do not have or are not willing to spare the time and energy to accompany their second child to grow up, they will choose to work hard in their career or enjoy life, and they will choose not to have children.

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Yes, a lot of people are under a lot of pressure right now. Especially after giving birth to a child, the cost of having a child is too great, and it costs thousands of dollars a month to buy milk powder. After that, it is not a small cost to send the child to school, and it is not a small cost to provide for the child to go to school.

1.Economic issues: The economic conditions are very good, and there is no need to consider economic problems, but we ordinary people still have to decide according to their actual economic situation.

As the saying goes: poor and lowly couples mourn everything, this is an ancient saying, and it is also a truth that has been verified by the times. If the economic conditions are not very good, raising a child, adding a husband and wife, and supporting the elderly are very poor, then another one, is there a throne to inherit?

2.Living situation: I won't talk about the good economic conditions here, just talk about the situation I often see:

It is a question of full-time or mother-in-law with a baby. If you give birth to a second child, your mother-in-law is still in good health, and she is willing to help bring it, then it is understandable to have a second child. But if the mother-in-law and her parents can't help or are unwilling to help, but want to take care of the baby full-time, then having a second child, as a mother, you have to sacrifice a lot, sacrifice your work, sacrifice your youth at the most ** age, have no circle of friends, and don't have the courage to go......If the husband is distressed, very understanding, and loves his family, and his income is enough to cover the expenses, and he has a little savings, it is worth having a second child.

But if there is no one to help bring it, and there is no understanding from the husband, then you have to be cautious about having a second child.

From the perspective of the elders:

1.Living habits: If an elder suggests that you have a second child and says that she will help you bring it, will she be able to overcome the major change in living habits?

And the handling of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is also a key issue, if you are willing at the beginning, until you live together, the contradictions in living habits and personalities are getting bigger and bigger, maybe the mother-in-law will not be willing to help take care of the child anymore, the mother-in-law can leave with her hands, but as the mother of the child, she can only endure everything silently, the child is born by herself, anyone can not take it, but she can't, so in the end the responsibility falls on the mother. What is called motherhood, this is motherhood.

2.Economic problems: Now many elders in the family have a certain amount of economic income before their children get married, if they help with the children, it means that their economic income is gone, and they have to reach out to their sons and daughters-in-law to ask for money if they want to buy something, which is also the reason why many mothers-in-law are unwilling to help with cheating, and I also understand.

So if the mother-in-law wants to make more money and doesn't want to retire early without income, she may not be willing to help take care of the children.

1. It's too hard to take care of children.

Even if a monthly subsidy of 1,000 yuan is given to the model model, most young people are still reluctant to have a second or third child.

This situation is entirely due to the fact that the process of raising children is very hard.

Especially as a full-time mother, she not only lost her personal ideals and values, but also did not even have a day and night, and took care of her children 24 hours a day.

As long as the neurological person is slightly fragile, it is likely that the child will be driven crazy and crazy, which is the main reason why so many mothers suffer from depression and cannot be relieved.

2. The economic pressure is too great.

Raising a child, the cost and financial pressure on the family will also skyrocket.

Nowadays, raising a child is not as simple as feeding your child's belly.

From the beginning of education to the graduation of university, the financial cost of investment is often beyond your imagination.

3. Mental pressure is relatively high.

Most parents are responsible, have a child, and think about their future, however, all these plans and intentions need to be supported by a certain economic foundation.

When faced with children's unsatisfactory results, most parents' inner emotions and spirits are very anxious and nervous.

This state of affairs does not benefit the family as a whole and the education of the next generation.

To sum up, this is also the fundamental reason why most young people are still reluctant to have children even if they have a monthly subsidy of 500 yuan.

As a young person, you must be able to resonate strongly. On the issue of the second and third children, as a young father, Qingying and mother, the following problems and points are also resolutely unavoidable, and only by making adequate preparations can we avoid regrets.

Combined with their own conditions, from a practical point of view.

For every parent who wants to have a second or third child, it is necessary to combine their own conditions as much as possible and analyze from an objective point of view: whether there are conditions for having multiple children.

This should not only be measured from an economic point of view, but also from a comprehensive consideration of experience, age, career development and other aspects.

It is precisely because of this characteristic that young people are extremely cautious about having a second child and a third child.

In a survey report on the fertility willingness of Shanghai citizens, nearly half of Shanghai citizens are reluctant to have a second child, and there are three main reasons for this, namely high economic pressure, limited energy, and the pursuit of a free life.

The reason for not wanting to have a second child.

According to the survey report on the fertility willingness of Shanghai citizens, some respondents hope to have only one child, some want to have two children, some want to have three children, and some of them do not want children.

Many people are curious, Shanghai's economy is so developed, why is people's willingness to have a second child not high? In fact, there are three main reasons for this.

First, economic pressures. It has been learned that the cost of education to raise a child accounts for almost half of the family's expenses. Although Shanghai is a big city with a bustling economy, consumption is also very high.

In particular, housing prices are even more expensive, and the husband and wife have removed the cost of housing and car loans, and the rest is the cost of children's education. There may be families with a small burden, and there is still a surplus in addition to the cost of children's education.

But if you have another child, you need to work harder, and life will become tight, so for long-term planning, one child is enough.

Then, there is limited energy. Some working women have to balance family and work, and it may be easier if there are elderly people at home to help watch them. But if there is no one at home to help with the child, the mother may choose to give up the career.

Waiting until the second child can go to kindergarten and then go out to work is too tiring for women. If women do not go to work, the family will lose a financial **, and the husband and wife may have conflicts due to economic problems, which may eventually affect the relationship between the husband and wife.

Finally, pursue a life of freedom. Among the respondents, many people feel that one child is enough, and they can enjoy life for the rest of their lives, and they don't want to revolve around their children for the rest of their lives.

The pace of society is accelerating, people's pressure is increasing, and the pursuit of free life has become a life that many people yearn for. For example, when you are old, you can buy a cottage in the countryside and enjoy a leisurely life.

The low marriage rate also reflects people's low desire to have children.

China's marriage rate has been declining for seven consecutive years, and in 2020, there were only 8.13 million couples registered in the country. More and more young people are reluctant to get married, and the fertility rate of not marrying is bound to not increase.

The post-90s population is entering middle age, and there are about more than 100 million post-90s people in the country, but less than 10% are married. Among the post-90s who are already married, the divorce rate is as high as 35%.

And from the data, it is known that the age of marriage for men and women is four years later than in the past. There are three main reasons why men and women marry late, namely, limited economic ability, long education time, and common cohabitation.

Many older leftover men complain that the bride price is too high, so the state advocates that marriage should not be bride price. But from the woman's point of view, if a man doesn't even give a bride price when he gets married, can his daughter be happy in the past, so there is a certain amount of financial support to ensure that there is no worry after marriage.

There is also a long period of education, and a person can take decades from kindergarten to doctoral graduation.

It's really unaffordable, it's simply unaffordable.

First of all, the first reason is that the cost of education is too high. If you still think so, you are called born without raising, irresponsible, now, are emphasizing eugenics, giving birth to one, just do your best, give the child the best conditions within the scope of ability, and train the child to the best extent possible, then the cost of this education is really very high. If you have two children, what about educational resources, you can only evenly distribute to two children, give birth to three, may be more, in this era of three-year-old children are "rolling", many young people do not want to have more children resulting in the dispersion of educational resources resulting in the mediocrity of children's lives.

The second reason is that the cost of time is too high, and the cost of education is similar, you raise a child, you can devote yourself to a child, the time and energy required, relatively less and simpler, but if there are many children, you have to distract your energy, take the child to be exhausted, not to mention, the most afraid is because of limited energy, can not take care of the needs of all children. The third reason is that the cost of marriage is too high. Everyone knows that getting married for a child now is not a matter of touching the skin of the mouth, which means that it is not good, it is a matter of piling up real gold, the house and the car, the girl wants a dowry, the boy wants a bride price, which one does not want a ticket?

One child can barely come, and then two children and three children? Then parents can't be tired of this for the rest of their lives? The young man pointed out sharply, if you want to have more babies, these three problems must be properly solved, otherwise, you still think about it, do you dare to say it?

Personally, I think that if you want young people to have babies, you have to solve the concerns of young people first, whether you can give more substantial benefits and benefits to families with two or three children, don't always make up some empty heads, give subsidies to subsidies, free of charge, and implement policies into life. Let the young parents of the second and third children really reduce the pressure of life and give birth willingly, I think, this is the next focus that all walks of life need to think about.