In the face of the child s tantrums, how did Hu Ke calm the child s anger?

I believe everyone who has watched variety shows should know that Hu Ke and Sha Yi have educated two very good and sensible children, but children are children after all, there will always be naughty times, and sometimes they will be very sloppy, that is, if you don't listen to any reason, many parents may be angry directly, because they can't stand it anymore. But Hu Ke still has his own way of educating children.

One: Let the child cry for a while.

Generally, children will be very coquettish and cry when they encounter something without the consent of their parents, and they must achieve their goals. If you try to coax your child to reason with him at this time, it doesn't make sense, because they won't listen at all, and they will cry even louder when they see you coaxing. So at this time, don't rush to coax him, let him cry for a while, knowing that even if he cries, no one will coax him, and he won't cry after a while, and it is best to reason at this time.

Two: Tell your child that he knows.

The children are very naughty, and the same is true for Xiao Yu'er, who wants to play with toys before eating, but her mother disagrees, and then she starts crying. Ordinary parents may scold their children, or simply carry their children to dinner. But Hu Ke told Xiao Yu'er that she knew that he wanted to play with toys, but he needed to finish eating first, so that the child was also affirmed, and he would not make a big fuss anymore, and he would go to play after eating.

Three: Praise your children appropriately.

When the child does something right, as a parent, you should praise the child, let them be affirmed, originally wanted to play with the toy, but when the time comes, you still obediently go to eat, this is the right way, parents should also encourage the child, tell him that it is awesome. When the next time comes, the child will take the initiative to go to eat first, because he already has right and wrong in his heart. <>

Therefore, because the child is young and ignorant, as a parent, you should be patient and guide appropriately, rather than losing your temper because the child is angry.

She will quietly watch the child lose his temper, and wait until the child is calm, and then talk to the child well.

In fact, she is doing this by diverting the attention of the children and giving them what they like, so that they can calm their anger.

When a child has a tantrum, should he stop it?

When the child has a tantrum, we should not discipline the child's right and wrong, we should let the child's emotions stabilize, emotions will make it difficult for people to think rationally, when the child loses his temper, what parents should do is to let the child be alone Liang Liang early in the morning, the emotions in the heart to stabilize.

Children should never resist discipline when they lose their temper, because I think the child's temper and character development is great, to a certain extent, it is influenced by the parents, if the parents use the confrontation housekeeper when the child loses his temper, then it is likely to have a worse impact on the child, and the child's personality may become worse and worse, and many times the results achieved are often counterproductive, so I strongly disapprove of the use of confrontation and discipline when the child loses his temper.

The child will not be grumpy, the irritability behind it, there must be a reason, but due to the laws of physical and psychological development, the language function is relatively low, the expression is not clear, plus the emotional excitement, and the speech will be even worse, so as the first parent, you must instruct your child to say that you lose your temper, and not catch them. Parents are their children's first teachers, and it is very important to teach children. By controlling your emotions and creating a harmonious, comfortable growth environment, this helps you to have a reasonable mood and calm.

Beating and scolding education will only make such children more and more rebellious, and it will also make such children feel distant from themselves. It is common for babies to change their mood frequently. Because babies are so young, their emotional prefrontal cortex has not yet developed well.

So maybe the baby is happy at the moment, and after a while, he may cry and fuss about something. Mothers don't have to worry too much, this is a normal phenomenon in the growth of these children. But when we see that the baby always has a tantrum, it is really annoying.

Babies are very eager to explore, so they always like to run around and don't like to be restricted. There will be some conflicts when playing with other babies, and the problem will be solved by biting and hitting others. Because they don't know what the solution is.

Tantrums themselves are normal, when the child has a tantrum, parents should not stop the uproar, this is a kind of emotional catharsis, most of the time the child just wants to let the parents know his idea of pretending to be blind, after the child has lost his temper, parents should know how to guide and help the child to channel.

I think it should be stopped, but it should be done in a reasonable way, not to criticize the child harshly, and not to use the method of rushing to achieve results, which may bring a shadow to the child's limbs.

I don't think it should be stopped, tantrums are a way for children to express their emotions.

Yes, this can make the child very patient, so that the child is very calm, and the child is not particularly impulsive.

Lacking: Cognitively: Let the child question the reality of the world.

Babies eat, drink, and play every day. It seems to be relaxed and enviable, but in fact, their lives are not as easy as we think. Every child learns everything that happens around them every second of their growth.

For them: the movement of an object, the landing of a spoon, and the transmission of a sound are all lessons for them to learn the laws of the world. Parents are important teachers for children, and many of their children's cognition of society, social feelings and values of the world come from their parents.

Newborn babies are like a blank sheet of paper, and how parents sketch them is very important. One day we go out and see lush trees, if we say to the child:"This is a tree, green, and is a plant.

The child will remember it in his mind as it is. But if we talk to our children, we can do that"This is the tree, red, and is an animal. "The child will remember it without question.

Psychologists have studied 3-year-olds and found that children at this age believe in what adults say, even if what adults say is not true. Therefore, the child's perception of the reality of the world is initially the first of the parents. When we make promises to our children and fail to make appointments, they will feel confused and do not know how to face the world.

Emotionally: Let the child down.

Preschool children, especially between the ages of one and a half and four years, are emotionally sensitive, which is what we usually refer to"Rebellious 2 years old"。At this age, children begin to experience emotions, but they are not yet able to control and manage the emotions that they have. As a result, emotional out-of-control situations often occur.

Although it is said that the world of children will not be smooth sailing, and there will always be things that disappoint and make them sad, but this is not an excuse for us to let our children down. As a parent, you should educate and help your child how to manage their emotions, rather than pushing your child to the brink of an emotional breakdown in the first place. Therefore, while criticizing our children for being undisciplined, we should also think about why our children lose their temper.

Parenting: Let children learn unruly behavior.

The structure of the human brain is very complex, but our learning process is sometimes very simple. Parents give their children an agreement, and when it comes to the agreed time, this is the process of children learning what is called an agreement, if parents can keep the agreement every time, then the child learns"Conventions"is defined as an unbreakable and inviolable commitment. Conversely, if parents break the convention from time to time, then the child learns"Conventions"The definition of the mountain god is an act that can be violated, and violating it will not bring bad consequences in the future.

In the long run, the behavior of parents who do not abide by the agreement will not only make the child no longer trust his parents, but also make the child grow up to be a person who does not keep his word.

Pros: [A simple agreement, after mom and dad abide by it.] It will train the child to be a person who is trustworthy and responsible for society and life

If the child is vexatious, he will lose his temper after being reprimanded. Don't indulge your child, you must give your child a certain punishment. For example, punitive measures such as facing the wall and calming.

The purpose of punishment is not to violence children, we all know that domestic violence is illegal. The purpose of punishing a child is to let the child know that it is impossible to cover up the past if he loses his temper when he does something wrong, and he will only be punished. The purpose of punishment is to warn the child that he will be punished for losing his temper in the future.

After your child has calmed down, communicate with your child. Be logical and point out the mistakes your child has made. Also, let the child make a review on his own to ensure that he can't lose his temper casually in the future.

Of course, in the end, you must focus on encouraging your child, and express "Mom and Dad still love you, Mom and Dad hope you can be polite and be a good child", and give the child some comfort. After all, the child has only been punished, and his mood may not be calm. Parents should still calm their children's emotions at the end and play a role in encouragement.

If the reason for the child's tantrum is due to anger from the parent or for other reasons. First of all, I think that the problem of parents, as the "first teacher" of the child, should set an example and take the initiative to admit mistakes to the child. If it is for other reasons, it is necessary to be smooth and clear with the child, and the main thing is to calm the child's emotions and calm the child down.

Second, instill in your child the idea that "the way to solve problems is not to lose your temper". Telling children to throw tantrums casually is not a good practice. Parents of children's affairs should not only be guided by Qi Heqiao, but also play a role in regulating and encouraging children to learn to manage their emotions.

This will also be of great benefit to the child's future behavior.

Generally speaking, what should we do when every child has a tantrum, as parents, we should be cautious and patient, understand the reasons and deal with it carefully.

1.Listen patiently: When the child has a tantrum, parents need to keep their emotions calm, do not forcibly stop, guess and reprimand, blame or persuade as soon as they come, listen patiently, and pay attention to the child's verbal demands and body language expressions.

2.Parents should not suppress their children's emotional expression, understand the reasons for their children's emotions, and correctly guide their appropriate expressions, such as painting, pillows or quilts and other soft items.

3.Find the cause of the tantrum: After the child is emotionally stable, parents should calmly understand the child's true psychology.

4.Symptomatic treatment: After clarifying the cause of the child's tantrums, parents should take the initiative to meet the legitimate and reasonable needs of the child, and recommend that parents guide the child correctly and not blindly meet the unreasonable requirements.

5.Aftermath: When the number of tantrums decreases, parents should pay attention to praise and appropriate rewards to promote emotional management.

For children who still have tantrums, parents should guide them in emotional expression and management. In this way, children can be taught that tantrums are wrong.

Clause. 1. Appropriately meet your child's needs.

Nowadays, the material conditions are getting better and better, and the economic strength of parents is getting better and better, so many parents will unconditionally meet their children's requirements. But this approach is not correct, and some parents may think that since they have this economic condition, it is not difficult to meet their children's requirements, so why can't they make their children happy? But this practice will only make the child more and more interested in material things and ignore the spiritual growth, at this time, the child will become arrogant and willful, and the slightest unsatisfactory leakage will lose his temper, which is one of the reasons for the child's temper.

On the other hand, if the proper satisfaction of the child is neglected, it will lead to the same problem. When a child's normal needs are not met, discomfort develops, which can lead to a temper tantrum that expands. Therefore, it is important to meet your child's needs appropriately.

Clause. 2. Give your child enough space.

In fact, a child's temper is understood in a certain sense as immaturity in dealing with problems, that is, the lack of thinking ability to solve problems, in short, the child's emotional intelligence is too low. If parents want their children to have a gentle temper, they can try to improve their children's emotional intelligence, because children with high emotional intelligence will have sufficient experience in dealing with problems. Giving your child enough space is a great way to exercise your child's emotional intelligence.

Under certain conditions, let the child freely deal with the things around him, think independently about the best way to solve the problem, and when the child encounters a bottleneck, the parents will give certain suggestions. In this way, the child will have unique insights and sufficient experience in dealing with problems, and his temper will be less irritable.

Clause. 3. Distract your child.

Distraction is a great way to calm your mind, not only for adults, but also for children. When your child is having a tantrum, try to distract him with other things, so that his mood will quickly return to calm. When parents divert their children's attention, they actually teach their children a good way to deal with emotions, that is, subtly implant this concept into their children's brains.

For example, when a child is crying and doesn't want to go to the bath, parents can turn their attention to the child's favorite toy and then ask the child if she would like to take her toy with her, so that the child will be happy to go to the bath.