Why is a father afraid that his son will surpass him?

Because this father is more selfish, he will be afraid of his son, if this father is selfless, he will feel that he has surpassed himself, and he will be more comforted.

I don't think any father will judge his son to be better than his own blue, and every father wants his son to be better than himself.

Maybe the father has low self-esteem in his heart, so he is afraid that his son will surpass him.

If the father is more positive and likes to compete for high and low, he may be afraid that his son will surpass him, and the comparability is not very strong, so the impact will not be great.

I don't think there is such a father in the world. Every father wants his son to surpass him. Maybe your father has a mental illness!

Fathers want their sons to be better than themselves, and there must be some problems with fathers who are afraid that their sons will surpass them.

I think it's possible that after his son overtakes him, he will have a sense of loss.

This won't be like this, right, the average father still likes his son, more than his own, and this should be a rare case when you said.

Why are fathers afraid of their sons surpassing themselves, I think every father shouldn't be afraid of his sons surpassing him, it's just that you think about it more, it's better to be better than blue?

All fathers want their children to be better than the blue.

Why is a father afraid that his son will surpass him? I don't think I agree with that, his father likes his son

Why is the father afraid that his son will steal it, is there such a father in the world? The son is better than the father, and that's a good one.

As the saying goes, thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi. Historically, the Yellow River has been diverted many times, and the villages that were originally on the east bank of the Yellow River were changed to the west bank of the Yellow River many years after the Yellow River was diverted. People use this to describe the rise and fall of the world, and lament the impermanence of the world.

A similar situation exists in family life. With the passage of time, the parents who were once "omnipotent" slowly grew old, and the children who were "earnestly taught" became the head of the family. But the seemingly simple normal alternation has a great subtle impact.

The concrete manifestation is that the children are getting stronger and stronger; Parents are becoming more and more "honest", and sometimes they are even "afraid" of their children. Why is that? A 70-year-old Aunt Tian in the hospital reluctantly expressed her personal feelings.

Let's listen to the old man's story. 01. Affected by the psychology of "escape", children have antipathy towards their parents. In life, due to the poor family environment or the depressed family atmosphere, many children subconsciously have the idea of escaping early on, and at the same time have some dissatisfaction with their parents.

And after they become independent, this emotion is often amplified, leading to disrespect in words or attitudes towards the elderly. My husband and I both have fiery tempers, coupled with the fact that we were young and vigorous at the beginning, Jian Liangna often quarreled with each other over trivial matters, and even occasionally used our son as a punching bag. Over time, as soon as our faces changed, my son was so scared that he stayed away.

One can imagine how nervous he was inside. Gradually, he spoke less and less, and studied harder and harder. When he graduated from high school, no matter how much I tried to persuade him, he insisted on applying to a university far away from home.

Now that my son has stayed there and become a family, he rarely comes back, and even if he hits a **, he is always extremely impatient and hangs up without saying a few words. I felt both depressed and helpless, so I couldn't help but be cautious when I spoke again, for fear that if I said something wrong, I would make him unhappy. Think about it from another perspective, in fact, everyone will "hold grudges" to some extent, even to their own parents.

It's just that some people cover it up, and some people show it directly. If there are such children, can the elderly not be "afraid"? 02. Affected by social status, economic conditions, etc., children are superior.

Some children, when they have a certain status or economic foundation, feel that they are great, speak rudely, and even accuse the old man of being wrong and bad. This will naturally make the elderly feel uncomfortable or produce some stress. My daughter is a Ph.D. and works as an executive in a large company, not only with a high annual salary, but also managing hundreds of people.

Every time I came home, she kept complaining, buying clothes, saying that my vision was too bad; When chatting, I said that my concept was backward; Even cooking, I hate my craft for being too old-fashioned. Objectively speaking, she has indeed made a lot of contributions to the family and earned a lot of face. But her self-righteous strength made me love and fear.

No matter what you do, if you don't obey her, you will be reprimanded or ridiculed. For the elderly, social activity decreases as they age.

Deeply influenced by ancient Chinese traditional thought, the father is the head of the family, has absolute authority in the family, and is high above, and there is an unequal relationship with his son;

Many fathers behave in majesty and believe in stick education, and their children feel afraid and automatically alienated;

The father is the son's first idol, and the son's growth almost must go through the painful process of the collapse of the idol;

The father is easily tormented by an ambivalence, on the one hand, he hopes that his son will become a dragon, hoping that his son will be better than himself, and on the other hand, he has a secret vigilance and panic, afraid that his son will despise him because of this. He became more and more rigid because of his inferiority, defending himself with offense, and the common ** is to repeatedly state the grace of parenting, forcing his son to be grateful to him for everything he has today and in the future;

There is little communication between father and son, the father is not good at expressing his love for the child, and the son is afraid of the father's majesty, which leads to the lack of emotional communication between father and son;

In modern society, most mothers take care of their children at home, and fathers go out to work to support the family.

Hello, no, men's expression and acceptance of emotions are always less delicate than women's, so many times there will be a sense of strangeness or even hostility between father and son.

My father basically didn't teach me anything when I was a child, he didn't take me when he went out to play, he scolded me for everything, and his words were full of disgust.

Until I was about to go to college, he took me on the train, bought a lot of things from the supermarket, and kept stuffing it into my bag, and I said, "It's too full, I can't fit it, don't stuff it."

He bent over and raised his head, smiled and said, "What can be loaded, what can be loaded."

Many times, just because we don't receive each other's emotions doesn't mean that the other person doesn't express them.

Born as a human being, why not savor it? Many children don't understand their father, complain about their father, and even resent their father, and their father doesn't bother to explain to his son, thinking that when he grows up, he will naturally understand his good intentions, and over time, a vicious circle, neither of the two men will bow their heads, and the relationship between father and son is getting worse and worse.

The root cause of the poor father-son relationship is that men are more inclined not to express their emotions and feelings directly, regardless of the social period. They are more ego and more reserved.

Whether this kind of reserved and unkind rhetoric is due to cultural shaping, the suppression of social norms, or some kind of internal value judgment, it becomes an obstacle to effective communication between father and son, and deepens the gap between the two.

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Hello. There is no parent in the world who does not love his children, and the parent asks you to do what because he thinks it is the best and most harmless, and you should talk to your father well, provided that both parties should be calm and use calmness and reason to govern their words and deeds. You said that your father had experienced too many failures and setbacks before and had not succeeded, so he probably thought that no matter how hard he tried, it was useless, and he was afraid.

Then how can he be willing to let you struggle hard and find that you are still a failure, how can he be willing to let you go your own old way, but you will have this feeling to prove that you have a fighting spirit and want to struggle, but you find an excuse for not struggling to comfort yourself, if your will is very strong, then how can you feel that your father will affect you? Personally, I think: after the communication is ineffective, directly use actions to prove that when you succeed, your father will not stop you, if you fail, you can continue to use your father as an excuse to comfort yourself that it is excusable, or think that I did what I wanted to do, although I failed, but I am proud, I have worked hard for my ideals, in fact, I am somewhat similar to your situation, every time I tell my ideals to my mother, he will hit me, but I will automatically block her words, because in my heart I have always thought " The thing I regret will never be what I find out I have done wrong, but what I give up doing because of various excuses, which will make me regret it and regret it for life", maybe you think what I said is nonsense, but I still hope to help you, I wish you can get along with your father more harmoniously and harmoniously in the future.

It's useless to send messages.

Talk to your father directly.

Every father cares especially about his children, even if it doesn't matter his wife. So talk to your father and talk about your feelings. Don't be reasonable with him, he knows more about that than you do.

Talk to him directly in the simplest way possible. If necessary, you can talk to the woman and warn her.

After the conversation, ask him to cancel his mobile phone number. Usually you let him go home after work, don't let him leave work late with some excuses for socializing.

If you play every day, you can't let it go, and if you don't play for two or three days, you can naturally put it down.

If it's your father's one-sided problem, he can easily let it go. I'm afraid that the woman won't let go.

There is also the need to solve the problems between your parents in order to solve the problem fundamentally.

As a father, he has gone through a lot of setbacks, which we have not experienced, and we can understand it. But for your son, you can do what you want, provided that you have to communicate with your father, to say and obey him, so that he feels that what you say is reasonable, not 100% to make him feel that what you say is reasonable, so that he will slowly accept what you say or do, don't go against what your father said, you can change the way to talk to him, communicate with him with your heart, so that he will understand you. Who is not a parent in the world, hoping that his son will become a dragon and his daughter will become a phoenix.

Hehe!! That's how I got here.

Think about everything and endure everything.

There are naturally differences between the two generations, in the era of cold feelings, how can you still be picky about the old father who depends on each other, maybe his thinking is also outdated, maybe he will say things that hurt your self-esteem, if you have the ability, go out to create the world, don't find fault with your father at home, ask the world, who can still care about you like this. Cherish it.

You don't have to listen to your parents' words, you don't have to refute them immediately, you have to think differently about nagging as a kind of care and love