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How to fall in love --- talk about psychological experience.

Among many single friends, except for some of them who have delayed lifelong events because of work and career, there are also many people who don't know what kind of relationship and what kind of person is suitable for them. Many people have never seen what a very harmonious marriage is like, nor have they experienced what a truly close relationship is like. Whenever I think about "what a truly intimate relationship looks like" or "what kind of relationship do I want most", I feel a little overwhelmed.

Due to the lack of a blueprint and a role model, I was confused in my relationship, made a lot of wrong choices, and experienced a lot of setbacks because of this.

When it comes to the daily relationship between lovers, many people's subconscious reaction is how warm and romantic the two parties are, accompanied by all kinds of sweet and small details. But this is only on the surface, and the relatively simple show of affection does not intuitively reflect the state that lovers should have. Here, Mr. Yu Fan of Anhui Love Bridge Marriage and Love Center has summarized the following 13 tips for your useful reference:

1. Your partner is your best friend;

2. You can talk, not because you want to be in love, but because you want to be together, you want to be together;

3. Being with each other can effectively reduce anxiety;

4.Staying in the same room and doing things separately will not feel disturbed or cold;

5. Both parties can be honest about their various habits;

6. The three views are compatible, and when encountering different opinions, they can seek common ground while reserving differences;

7. Mutual appreciation, common learning and progress, mutual respect;

8. There is space, there is secret, but there is no deception, honesty at this moment;

9. There is no violence;

10. Important matters must be decided after discussion between the two parties;

11. Will not bring any "shackles" to the other party, and will not carry out "emotional kidnapping";

12. Respect each other's parents and friends;

13. Have your own independent circle.

Summary: Equality with each other, mutual admiration, mutual respect, mutual gratitude. This is the state that lovers should have; Both parties appreciate each other, love each other, respect each other, and are grateful to be able to have each other and work together to overcome difficulties, which is what a beautiful and healthy love should look like.

There are four stages that a mature relationship that can be called true love must go through, and that is:

Codependent

Counterdependent, independent

Interdependent

Answer between stages.

The time required for the transition is not necessarily and varies from person to person.

Phase 1: Coexistence.

This is a time of passionate love, and lovers always want to be tired of being together whenever and wherever they are.

Phase 2: Anti-dependency.

When the relationship is stable, at least one partner will want to have a little more time for themselves to do what they want, and then the other party will feel left out.

The third stage: independence.

The fourth stage: symbiosis.

At this time, a new way of getting along with each other has taken shape, and your other person (her) has become your closest person.

Together, you support each other and create your own life together.

Together, you will not be tied to each other, but you will grow with each other.

In the process of falling in love, the two will find their own shortcomings after getting along for a long time, are you like this?

Sweet and sour, bitter and salty, there is every feeling.

How many people see the sadness and helplessness that we once had.