Teaching a son in front of the hall and training a wife by the pillow, can it work now?

A good marriage will become more happy and happy, and many people will not be able to truly see the truth in the midst of suffering, but can share happiness, but can not share joys and sorrows. In married life, if two people encounter practical problems, they will be forced to choose to separate to a large extent, and there is no way to get along well in married life. A happy and happy marriage is because both people can know how to manage their marriage well.

There are three main reasons why teaching children in front of the hall and training wives by the pillow can work now.

First, it embodies respect. Managing married life is a very advanced knowledge, to really be able to have enough trust in the married life, no matter what kind of behavior the other party has, as long as it does not break the moral bottom line, we must give the least respect and trust. And many times it is a great self-confidence in treating oneself and a great sense of trust in the other party to be happier.

Even when you are very angry, you must respect the other person, do not insult the other person's personality, and make people feel warm. <>

Second, it embodies communication. If you have a good communication, then your married life will be more happy and satisfying. If two people are unable to effectively resolve conflicts and contradictions after a conflict, married life is not harmonious, and sometimes just because of trivial quarrels, they eventually turn into strong hostility, or a long-term cold war.

3. Embodied tolerance. There will always be some conflicts in married life, the views and ideas between two people are different, be able to understand through communication, don't graft your own ideas to the minds of others, and don't always want to change each other, so that the relationship between each other becomes more harmonious, in modern society, everyone will have a variety of entertainment activities, once the distance between the hearts of two people becomes farther away, then mutual understanding, it becomes more difficult for each other to truly be tolerant. <>

It also works now, it can make the child more sensible, and the wife can understand herself better, which will definitely make the family more happy and harmonious.

Of course it doesn't work, now that women have a very high status, it is impossible to reprimand their wives at home, nor can they reprimand their children in front of others, and the children's self-esteem is unbearable.

I don't think this method will work now, we must learn to respect and understand our wife, tolerate him, treat our children not only to educate him, but also to respect him and be good to her.

In fact, it doesn't work now, because the way people get along with each other in this society has completely changed, so it's completely different from the previous kind of thinking.

To a certain extent, it also works, because the three people in the family do not simply live together, but also teach each other in life and work.

——— don't criticize her husband in front of outsiders.

Godson in front of the hall, train wife on the pillow" This sentence comes from "Zhuzi's Family Motto".

The general meaning is that the child should be taught to be in front of others, so that the child knows that if he is ashamed, Fu Meng will correct it and will not do it again in the future. As for the wife, she should be concerned about her face, and she should not discipline her in front of others, but should admonish her by the pillow, so that the wife will correct her mistakes and the husband and wife will be more harmonious.

What I want to say here is to change the training of the wife to the training of the husband in this sentence, the husband and wife are the same, both parties have self-esteem, and they want others to give enough face, don't criticize each other casually in front of outsiders, my husband and I still knew this truth a long time ago, we all belong to people who love face, what do we like to lock up in the house, to make it clear, there is no gap between us, and the husband and wife are more affectionate.

Many aphorisms, when I was young, I can not really understand, grow up and have experience before gradually comprehending the true meaning of this aphorism, more and more feel the compassion and care of the ancients for future generations, from the "Zhuzi Family Motto", only more than 500 words of gold and jade good words, the meaning is broad and profound, representing the excellent virtues of the Chinese sedan chair auspicious system, it is worth us to learn to read the sail book and inheritance.

Godson in front of the hall, godwife by the pillow. The front of the hall refers to the front of the main room or the hall. It represents an open and serious pillow, indicating that behind it represents privacy and respect.

Teach children to be fair and open, here "in front of the hall" contains two meanings, one is to educate children in person, and the other is to educate children in front of everyone. When a child makes a mistake, a more formal and serious admonition also includes apologizing to others on behalf of the child.

If there is anything wrong with the wife, don't say it in front of the children or in front of others, but quietly testify in a place where there is no one behind her back, which is a sign of respect for the wife. It not only saves face for his wife, but also allows his wife not to be disgusted, and achieves a harmonious process of dealing with problems.

"In front of the hall" is the front or hall of the main house, which refers to the front of the person, representing openness and seriousness; "Pillow" refers to "back", which represents privacy and respect.

The whole sentence means to say:

Teach your children to be open and fair. "In front of the hall" here contains two meanings: one is the face-to-face education of children; One is to educate children in front of everyone.

In ancient times, there were often many people in a family. "In front of the hall" is a public place, and "teaching children in front of the hall" is generally a more formal and serious discipline when a child makes a mistake, and it also contains the meaning of apologizing to others for the child.

If there is anything wrong with the wife, don't say it to her in front of your children or others, but quietly correct it in a place where there is no one behind you, which is a sign of respect for your wife.

This is an ancient precept, from "Zhuzi's Family Motto".

Zhu Zi's Family Motto" is also known as "Zhu Bailu's Maxims for Governing the Family", referred to as "Maxims for Governing the Family".

The full sentence is: "Godson in front of the hall, godwife by the pillow, prescribe the right medicine, tailor-made".

Simple, teaching children in front of the hall can make outsiders think that you have a tutor, and teaching your wife by the pillow can not only save some face for your wife, but also make your wife feel disgusted.

From the revised version of Xunmeng. As the saying goes, it is to educate children in public and teach wives secretly. "It's my father's fault if I don't teach it.

The father-son relationship is the core relationship in the family. To resolve the contradictions between father and son, we must dare to be open and open to the public. The father-son relationship, whose blood is thicker than water, must withstand the test of all aspects.

The wife is the finished product cultivated by the father-in-law's family. The relationship between husband and wife is relatively fragile from a starting point. It needs to be slowly run-in, and finally slowly transformed into a family ......In the process of resolving conflicts between husband and wife, it is best not to let a third party see or hear it, and it is easier for the other party to accept it by teaching the wife by the pillow, and there is no estrangement.

This is a question of high quality cultivation, which is not something that every man can have.