As the saying goes, take a step back and open the sky , how to achieve a heart like straight water?

It's not that they really don't get angry, some are angry and dare not come out, and some admit that they are wrong!

My dear, this is innate, there is indeed such a type of person, you can't see any emotional changes from their surface at all, he likes, dislikes, hates, doesn't hate, you can't see it at all, they hide very deeply, the surface kung fu is first-class, this is the attribute of people like them, you can't learn it, it's good to be yourself.

First of all, you have to have a good mentality, not to fight back, to scold not to fight back, but to do after the measure, I can have a lot of samples at the beginning, I let you, let the people around me see my strength, so that you have not opened your mouth is already half of the victory. Don't be impulsive when you encounter things, think about it in your heart, wait, wait, give yourself a little time to think, don't regret it after getting angry, just do it.

1。In fact, people's forbearance is limited, but people with large limits, on the surface, it seems that you can't force the ground that makes him impulsive with ordinary people's methods.

2。The state of mind is big and small, and the universe is in the chest, and everything can be seen through.

3。Only the mind is like straight water will see through the essence of all things, not the appearance of the surface.

Everything in this world depends on yourself, your surrounding environment is created by yourself, you must not destroy the environment around you, try to give yourself a comfortable environment, if you encounter trouble, you must not be afraid, bravely face it, it is the best way, difficulties are generally not one, it will be a lot of together, so we can not be afraid, at that time we must be optimistic, look at everything smaller, in a small way, we work hard when we do things, We must learn to push forward first, take retreat as advance, and deal with problems correctly, rather than tolerating everything, we are not comfortable with ourselves, and sometimes others are not comfortable.

Because you have too few setbacks. To achieve such a state, the only way to achieve this is to experience more setbacks!!

Zhuangzi said: The state of mind determines the state and the realm. When your realm is bigger, your natural mind realm will be wider. The heart is wide, and it is natural that you can be pampered and humiliated, not happy with things, not sad with yourself, looking at idle clouds and wild cranes, and clouds rolling up and shu...

I thought that blind forbearance was not called a great realm. Only by allowing things in the world can we become a great realm. And the realm of tolerance is that you need to meditate and practice by yourself...

I am also in the process of practicing, and when I encounter mundane things at present, all I think is: all trivial things will become a thing of the past, and I should not regret it.

I had the opportunity to see Yu Dan's hundred forums and benefited a lot.

Then become a monk - and experience the spirit of the Buddha.

As the saying goes, "taking a step back is the sea and the sky", taking a step back is compromise, humility, tolerance, and winning respect and happiness. Writer Yang Daxia analyzed that regression does not mean backwardness.

When we got into a fight in junior high school, our teachers often said this to us.

Take a step back from the sea and the sky] Take a step back from the sea and the sky

Procrastination in homework, inattentiveness in class, and running. Teacher Zheng can solve these problems, but there is one thing that makes Teacher Zheng very distressed, and he takes a step back to broaden the sky.

It was yesterday when class ended, and Yu Zhe was writing his homework. Suddenly, Zhou Xiao slapped him hard, he ignored Zhou Xiao, and wrote his homework for the bureau's demolition, and after a while, Zhou Xiao knocked him again, but he still ignored Zhou Xiao, and Zhou Xiao continued to beat him. Yu Zhe was angry, threw down the homework in his hand, and chased after Zhou Xiao.

Zhou Xiaoyi rushed to the wheel and ran, looking at Yu Zhe, very weak-hearted. Suddenly, he knocked over the table and broke Li Hanxun's cup full of water.

Li Hanxun was also angry, and insisted that Zhou Xiao compensate him for his "very valuable" cup, and the fifth-grade essay "Take a Step Back and Broaden the Sky". But Zhou Xiao was very barbaric, and he just refused to compensate.

While they were arguing, Mr. Zheng came. Under the patient persuasion of Teacher Zheng, they still did not listen. Teacher Zheng came down to discuss with us in desperation, and everyone started to talk about it.

Hu Xiaoqi said: "If Zhou Xiao didn't knock over Li Hanxun's table, Li Hanxun wouldn't have dealt with Zhou Xiao, and such a big dispute would not have happened." As the saying goes, 'Step back and open the sky!'

After the education of Mr. Zheng and all of us, Li Hanxun took a step back and said that he would not let Zhou Xiao lose the cup of Tong Jujube. But Zhou Xiao had to inch in, and he was still unreasonable, which made Mr. Zheng and all of us very angry.

Take a step back and open the sky! This phrase kept fluttering in my head. There are many things that happen in life at one time or another. If they all take a step back, the matter is settled.

There are many disturbances in the world, and as long as there are people, there will be contradictions. Whether it is between neighbors, siblings, or husband and wife, there will be all kinds of friction.

Faced with the creation of friction, everyone deals with it differently. Someone will tear their faces and fight to the death, and in the end, no one will end well. And some people will choose to take a step back and end up with a good gathering and a good dispersal to reduce unnecessary quarrels.

I have seen a story: During the Kangxi period of the Qing Dynasty, Zhang Ying served as a scholar of Wenhuadian University and a scholar of the Ministry of Rites. The official residence of his hometown of Tongcheng is adjacent to the Wu family, and there is an alley between the two courtyards for both sides to enter and exit.

Later, the Wu family wanted to build a new house and wanted to occupy this road, but the Zhang family did not agree. The two sides disputed and took the lawsuit to the local county office. The county magistrate considered that the two families were famous families, so they did not dare to break it off easily.

At this time, Zhang's family wrote an urgent letter to Zhang Ying in a fit of anger, asking him to come forward to solve it. After reading the letter, Zhang Ying thought that he should be humble to his neighbors, and he wrote four sentences in his reply to his family: Thousands of miles of books are only for the wall, so why not let him be three feet?

The Great Wall is still there, and Qin Shi Huang is not seen. After reading it, the family understood the meaning and took the initiative to give up the empty space. Seeing this, the Wu family was deeply moved, and also took the initiative to give up the three-foot house base, from which the "six-foot lane" got its name.

Taking a step back from each other is conducive to the resolution of contradictions. Some things are not brought in life and are not brought away in death, and the longer the time drags on, blindly entangled, it is not good for both parties, and the loss will only be greater.

Consider the following story: There is a single-plank bridge over a river in the village, which can only accommodate one person to cross.

One day, two people walked on the bridge at the same time, and met in the middle of the bridge, and after they looked at each other, the first person said, "Go back, I'm in a hurry." The other said:

I'm halfway there, and you want me to go back? If you're in a hurry, let me go first, otherwise I won't let you go, and you won't be able to get by! The first refused to back down, so the two got into a fight, and finally fell into the river together.

If someone is willing to take a step back, the end will not be to fall into the water, but to cross the bridge safely and soundly, with less pointless disputes.

There are countless such cases in life, the original harmonious family, once it comes to money issues, the contradiction is immediately revealed, if no one gives in, the contradiction will only intensify, not only hurting each other's feelings, but also hurting physical and mental health. The original good relationship between husband and wife, because of those trivial things in life and really quarrel, in the long run, is not conducive to the harmonious coexistence of the relationship between the two parties, if someone is willing to take the lead in retreating, will not let the situation develop too seriously.

Contradictions are everywhere, and if there is a problem, what we need to do is not to intensify it, but to solve it as soon as possible, which is the key to the problem. When a contradiction arises, it is an option to take a step back appropriately.

When playing chess, we will take the way of retreating to advance, which seems to be a retreat, but in fact, it is to pave the way for the next advance, which will produce unexpected results.

Taking a step back is a virtue and a wisdom. Take a step back and open the sky. Take a step back, and every life rejoices.