Remarried parents get along with their stepchildren, not just blindly paying, what skills do they ne

Nowadays, social statistics show that people's divorce rate is particularly high, so naturally there will be a lot of restructured families, and in these reorganized families, there will be many problems between parents and stepchildren. And when these parents get along with the stepchildren in the family, it does not mean that as long as they blindly pay, they can maintain a good relationship state, which involves a lot of skills that need to be learned and mastered by these stepparents.

If stepparents want to get along with these stepchildren, they must first pay their own support obligations, which is certain, but your blind dedication does not mean that you will be able to reap the friendly relationship with your childrenIt is necessary to pay attention to maintaining a balance with the child, and must not interfere too much in some private affairs of the stepchild, and leave their own space for the stepchild。If it is at the beginning of the family, it is very likely that the parents' kindness to the stepchild will be exchanged for a kind of annoying antipathy, at this time the parents should not blame too much, but should give the stepchild some time to accept.

And then in addition to the dedication of one's own child support obligations,Attention needs to be paid to the correct guidance of some of their educational perspectives。Sometimes parents need to restrain some of their excitement and look for their mistakes, and when it comes to education, they should also teach some positive ideas to their stepchildren. At the same time, lead by exampleYou should also try to do things that can bring the right concept to guide you, so as to increase the trust of your stepchildren in you.

When it comes to getting along with your stepchildren, don't put too much emphasis on your effortsBecause raising children as a parent is an obligation, you can't put too much emphasis on your dedication to your stepchildren, which will show that you are reluctant to raise them, which will bring them resentful emotions. RatherTreat children equallyLet them feel that you care for your stepchildren and your biological children equally, so that your stepchildren can feel close to you.

In fact, if you are good to him, he will feel it, and if you can't feel it, everyone will have less contact.

You still have to pay attention to the size, and when you lose your temper, don't blindly pay.

In fact, as long as you treat it sincerely, you can get along well even if you are not related by blood.

The skill that needs to be mastered should be to communicate reasonably.

How do remarried parents relate to their stepchildren? Do you know what you need to know?

1. Create a good family atmosphere: A good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family, and is conducive to the harmonious relationship between the husband and wife. Take a little more time to communicate with your children every day, take them for walks, parties, travel, visit relatives, etc.

From time to time, there is a small family evening party on the weekend, and the husband and wife perform some programs that are beneficial to the children, and also let the children tell jokes, tell stories, read poems, sing and dance, and so on. A good family atmosphere for remarried families is beneficial but harmless.

2. Treat children equally: Children from remarried families are generally sensitive and suspicious when they come to a new family and new environment. Husband and wife should treat each other's children equally, don't only care about their own children, favor their own children, and ignore each other's children, don't care less about them, and even often beat and scold, which will not only affect the children's perception of you, but will also seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife in the long run, and the consequences are unimaginable.

3. Let the children become good friends: let the children learn, play, and tease the ants together, and share with each other what they have to eat and play, so that the children can become good friends who talk about everything. Even if the children don't live together, let them see each other often, get together and become friends.

Don't let them develop a withdrawn, selfish personality.

4. Take care of your own children: Maybe you will care more for your children from the bottom of your heart, but for the sake of family peace and harmony, please take care of your children first and cultivate their caring, generous, optimistic and tolerant character. When necessary, you should give more love to each other's children, smile more, care more, and the feelings will be deeper.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and no matter how harmonious the family is, there will be times of conflict. Recently, the panicked wife murder incident has attracted a lot of attention, and at the same time, it has also made us think about marriage again and pay attention to reorganizing the family.

First of all, let's analyze the restructured family without stepchildren, such a marriage should be relatively easy, and when there is a conflict, at most occasionally compare the ex-husband and ex-wife, and it will not extend too many severing bonds.

A restructured family with stepchildren is more complicated, and if both parties have children, the conflicts that arise around the children of both parties in daily life will be endless.

The conflicts between children in the original family we see are more common, and the fight is a hail of daily life, and parents sometimes have a headache to deal with, even if they are all biological, they will be considered to be partial to one of them. Then it will be more difficult to deal with the stepchild relationship of the restructured family, and protecting your own children will definitely make the other half feel angry, and this resentment will also find an opportunity to explode back. If you protect the other child, then your own child is not more pitiful, and the only person you can rely on will hurt him with others, which will leave your child with psychological trauma.

Don't say that both children can be treated fairly, this is almost impossible, children's minds are very sensitive and fragile, just a word they will make comparisons in their hearts, thinking about whether they are biased towards the other.

The child's conflict accumulates day by day, and it will definitely develop into a conflict between the husband and wife, when the trust between the two parties is broken, and the family will be in crisis. Couples who choose to start a restructured family must know these things in advance, and they must be strong enough to be completely mentally prepared before starting a new life. Love the children of both parties, and have enough trust and tolerance for the other half, so that the marriage can move forward smoothly.

No matter how harmonious the parents and stepchildren of the remarried family are, there will be a layer of estrangement that cannot be broken, and a crisis of trust will break out at any time, which will make the child lack a sense of security in his heart and affect his happiness.

It is difficult to reorganize a family, the happiness of parents and children is closely related, and if either party is unhappy, the family as a whole will be unhappy. I hope that all parents and children of the restructured family will be tolerant and kind, and create a happy life together.

1. Reorganize the family, because they love each other, they will overcome all difficulties, and they would rather be troubled by their stepchildren than get married. The party with children must play a role as a link and communicate more with both parties. Avoid misunderstandings.

The so-called concern is chaos, you have to tell your children that no matter whether it is love or not, your parents care about you, and you will be anxious and lose your temper.

2. It is inevitable to encounter disputes in the family, and when encountering problems, parents should first ask themselves a question, what we want to do, is it for the sake of children? If you just want to vent your anger, don't take action. Children are innocent, especially children under the age of ten, and we can feel our kindness to children through their eyes and actions.

3. Even biological parents should manage their emotions and try not to beat and scold their children, not to mention that we are stepparents? Stepparents are not good at doing things, they want to be good to their children, and if they say a few more words, they will be mistaken for abusing their children, and beating and scolding will be scolded as vicious. Try to communicate with your child, if you can't communicate, it will be managed by the biological parents to avoid misunderstandings.

4. Before entering the remarried family, the husband and wife have established a strong alliance with their children and have a close relationship. After forming a new family, parents may worry that their children are young, fragile, and excluded from their stepparents and other relationships, and will invisibly protect their children more, and then form a sub-alliance problem.

5. In addition, the traditional concept requires stepparents to treat their stepchildren "as their own", which is also a misunderstanding. A stepparent can never whimsically "become" himself or herself as the biological parent of the child, taking the place or role of the ship's biological parent.

6. There is a great heterogeneity in remarried families, and when we don't understand them, they are hidden dangers of the reef in the future, but as long as we learn and understand, we can effectively deal with these challenges and dangers; At the same time, because of these heterogeneities, we can also make good use of these reefs and transform them, so that we can integrate larger resources to create more wonderful landscapes.

1. Keep a distance from each other, distance produces beauty, and it is also crucial to the harmony of the family.

Stepmothers still need to keep a certain distance from their stepson, not too close, and not too distant. Being too distant is not good for family harmony.

2. Stepmothers should not try to change their status in the hearts of their children, just maintain a peaceful and equal relationship.

Stepmothers and biological mothers are incomparable, even if you treat the child with your heart and lungs, the child will not appreciate it. Everything is as good as a mistake that affects him. Just keep it as it is, and don't try to win your child's heart.

Children will have their own measurements, and whoever is good to her and bad to him has a good idea.

3. Don't scold your child loudly, don't interfere with your child's privacy, and give more support to your child's ideas.

The more an adolescent child scolds him, the stronger the rebellion in his heart becomes. The more you think you're against him. As a stepmother, you should pay more attention to your tone and attitude, and don't touch your child's privacy.

When children have their own ideas about something, if they are in the right direction, encourage and support them. If the idea is not right, try to suggest that he change his mind.

4. Communicate more often, understand the true thoughts of children, and ease the relationship between each other.

People need to communicate with others, communicate more with children to know, if the child is not willing to talk to himself, then let his father communicate with her, when communicating, you need to pay attention to your emotions and way of speaking. Adolescent boys need to communicate more with their parents to eliminate conflicts and misunderstandings.

Getting along well is not a simple matter of one person, a family problem involves a lot of aspects, can not be for a simple problem of getting along well and their own unilateral endless pay anything, I personally think that the big aspect is to maintain the atmosphere of the whole family, the establishment of a new good relationship takes time, as long as the big family atmosphere has been in a good environment, the relationship between family members will have a subtle good progress. And then to the small aspect, new living habits, new living environment to pay attention to the details and the previous differences, and strive to change some of the previous details, and at the same time let the other party also get used to some of your past habits, find a new balance, these are the beginning of good changes, come on, I wish you a new life, all the best.

The relationship between children and parents in remarried families is still worth pondering, but as a stepfather, and between stepdaughters, it is divided into two aspects, what the stepfather will think and do, and how the stepdaughter accepts the father, which is related to how to get along between the two individuals after marriage.

In fact, there are big problems in many remarried families, maybe for some reasons, the two live together, and the children are not mine anyway, I don't care, how about love, in fact, it's not that he doesn't care, but he is afraid that you are not happy to be a mother, no matter if you still say that as a stepfather you are not serious, first of all, a very important question is what do you think as a mother, okay, you want me to be a stepfather and take the responsibility of being a father, that's good, You talk about the bottom line first, don't wait for what your daughter does, I take care of you, and I feel that I am too serious.

Then in fact, as a stepfather, you should treat her as your own daughter, the child has a broken family, and now you have played the role of a father, so you have to love this daughter more, to understand some of her situations, and then she lacks the father's love you have to fill in, communicate with her more, don't be too tough, buy her some things that girls like, take her out to play more in her spare time, and increase the relationship between your father and daughter.

Of course, as a daughter, you can't reject your stepfather too much, he must be the man your mother likes, no matter what the reason, your father still doesn't live with you anymore, and now someone is here to take care of you and your mother, isn't it good, so try to accept him first, don't think so much.

When it comes to the way stepfathers and stepdaughters get along, I think of Zhang Lunshuo and Zhong Liti's daughter Koala.

[How do you look at this pair of "father and daughter"!!

Anyone who has seen where Dad is going should have an impression of this "father and daughter". This is the most special combination of these sentences of Where is Dad going: stepfather and daughter.

It is said that Zhang Lunshuo also went to participate in this type of show in order to cultivate a relationship with Zhong Liti's youngest daughter Koala before marriage, and this thought is already very moving.

From the show, we can also see that the two of them get along very well, better than their father and daughter. Koala, six years old this year, is the daughter of Zhong Liti and her ex-husband Yan Zheng. It stands to reason that Zhang Lunshuo, who currently has no children, should not be able to take children, but he didn't expect his performance in the show to be unexpected everywhere.

Carefully packing the koalas from the time of departure, and remembering to bring the koala's favorite bunny doll, because the koala said that if they see it, they will feel like at home. When I go to bed at night, I will tell a bedtime story to the koala, thank you, help her twist the quilt and coax her to sleep. I would even wake up in the middle of the night to see if the koala had kicked the quilt.

How many beds do you take in the morning, you always take a hot towel and put it next to the bed to wipe her face. In comparison, Dong Li, who is also the father of the first time to take care of the child, wears his shoes backwards and does not know how to comb his hair, so you can clearly see how careful Zhang Lunshuo is. Treat stepdaughters with care and pampering.

Of course, there is a certain distance. Not only between stepfathers and daughters, but even between fathers and daughters, you must always pay attention to maintaining a certain distance.