How to get along with a wife who remarries with children?

First and foremost, be good to her children.

You should raise your child as if it were your own, and when you get along with your child, don't put on the score of your elders, but get along with you as a friend, so that your child is more acceptable.

When getting along with your child, you can first get along with your child in a friend's way, there is no need to change your words, and wait until your child is willing to accept it, and then let your child change his name.

When getting along with your child, you must be in a very good mood and not hurt your child, so as not to cause psychological shadow to your child.

Subtly establish a new relationship, establish a new balance point, and do something acceptable to the other party to shorten the distance between each other.

Once the marriage fails, if you plan to remarry and meet the person, the other party also has children, since you want to choose such a person to marry, you must accept the other party's children, love each other's children, treat the other party's children as your own children, his children are his own children, if you choose to remarry after the divorce, the remarried and reorganized family is still more sensitive, and you still have to pay more attention when dealing with problems.

How to manage each other's children when remarrying.

1. Create a good family atmosphere: A good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family, and is conducive to the harmonious relationship between the husband and wife. Take a little more time to communicate with your children every day, take them for walks, parties, travel, visit relatives, etc.

From time to time, there is a small family evening party on the weekend, and the husband and wife perform some programs that are beneficial to the children, and also let the children tell jokes, tell stories, read poems, sing and dance, and so on. A good family atmosphere for remarried families is beneficial but harmless.

2. Treat children equally: Children from remarried families are generally sensitive and suspicious when they come to a new family and new environment. Husband and wife should treat each other's children equally, don't only care about their own children, prefer their own children, and ignore each other's children, don't care about them, and even often beat and scold, which will not only affect the children's perception of you, but will also seriously affect the relationship between husband and wife in the long run, and the consequences will be unimaginable.

3. Let the children become good friends: Let the children study, play, and walk together, and share delicious and fun with each other, so that the children can become good friends who talk about everything. Even if the children don't live together, let them see each other often, get together and become friends.

Don't let them develop a withdrawn, selfish personality.

4. Take care of your own children: Maybe you will care more for your children from the bottom of your heart, but for the sake of family peace and harmony, please take care of your children first and cultivate their caring, generous, optimistic and tolerant character. If necessary, you should give more love to each other's children, smile more, care more, and the feelings will be deeper.

To better accept each other's children, care more about and love children, and grow up to be the same filial piety.

In a restructured family, most of the time, at least one parent has children. There is a lot of pressure in society nowadays, it is easy to have children, it is even more difficult to raise children, and raising children is more of a responsibility, rather than for your feelings, to become the so-called bond of your feelings. has experienced some emotional ups and downs, and should know how to cherish it.

If the remarried family has its own ghost and has to rely on the children to maintain it, such a relationship is estimated to not last long. Having another child is actually a manifestation of extreme irresponsibility. Manage your marriage well.

Maintain the relationship between the members of the restructured family. And if you have the financial means, the energy and the time, you can consider having another child.

If you don't have these conditions, it's better to give up. Lead code is particularly good if the relationship of the reorganized family is particularly good. The so-called love house and Wu will inevitably treat each other's children as their own, and use limited resources to cultivate them into useful talents. There is no necessary connection with whether you want children or not.

With the increase in the number of remarried families, people may consider having another child in common with each other in order to strengthen the relationship between the husband and wife, which can also make the relationship of the family more intimate, and in order to prevent the hearts of the children born before the reunited family from being harmed, it is also necessary to take each other's previous children seriously.

1.After remarriage, do not "overstep" the discipline of the child, but treat the child of the other party as a friend, appreciate the other party's child, rather than focusing on the shortcomings of the other party's child.

2.Parents should guide their children to accept new family members as soon as possible. Only by accepting a new father or mother as soon as possible can the child face growth better.

3.Treat each other's children like their own children.

4.Pay attention to psychological communication, and go deep into all the details of the child's life to understand and tolerate him, but you can't indulge him.

5.Create a good family atmosphere. Take time to accompany the children every day and communicate with the children, a good family atmosphere is conducive to the physical and mental health of the children of the remarried family; A good family atmosphere is conducive to the harmony of husband and wife.

Treat each other's children as if they were your own.

If it is a remarriage, I believe that many people will accept the love of each other's children, and the other party's children love everything about this person because we love this person and marry him, including children.

How to treat both parties in a remarried family with children.

Treat each other's children fairly, and be slightly biased towards each other's children! Remarriage is a rebuilding of the capacity to love. If a remarried person wants to have a harmonious family, he or she must strive to change himself, adapt to his new role, and abandon the following 4 pathological psychology:

"Comparative psychology", that is, in the couple's interaction in a restructured family, comparing the current spouse with the previous spouse is often the fuse of many family conflicts.

defensive psychology", not being honest enough in dealings, "keeping a hand" in terms of economy and property, or wanting to control both parties, being too sensitive in terms of feelings, unable to get out of the shadow of the first failure, and suspicious of everything.

favoritism", such as counting each other's children and favoring one's own children; "Inferiority complex", some people (especially women) think that divorce is a dishonorable thing because of the failure of their first marriage, feel inferior, blindly give to the current one, and lose themselves.

Do you have to have another child if both parties to the remarried family have children?

In a restructured family, most of the time, at least one parent has children. Nowadays, there is a lot of pressure in society, it is easy to have a child, it is even more difficult to raise a child, and raising a child is more of a responsibility, rather than for your feelings, to become the so-called bond of your feelings. has experienced some emotional ups and downs, and should know how to cherish it.

If the remarried families all have their own ghosts, and they have to rely on the overall situation to maintain their children, such a relationship is estimated to not last long. Having another child is actually extremely irresponsible. Manage your marriage well. Maintain the relationship between the members of the restructured family.

How to get along with children after remarriage, the following are some suggestions before a fortune:

Respect your child's feelings: Parents should respect their children's feelings and opinions, listen to their ideas and needs, and make them feel their presence and importance.

Establish good communication: Parents should establish a good communication channel with their children, so that they can confide in them at any time and solve the problem of repentance.

Establish common interests: Parents can participate in some activities with their children to enhance mutual understanding and affection.

Respect your child's hobbies: Parents should respect their children's hobbies and interests, give them enough support and encouragement, and make them feel valued and important.

Establish family rules: Parents should work with their children to establish family rules so that children know their status and responsibilities in the family, and at the same time, they can develop a sense of responsibility and self-management skills.

Parents should respect their children's feelings and opinions, establish good communication channels, and give their children enough time and space to gradually adapt to the new family environment.

Treat it as your own, and when you should manage it, you must manage it; When it is time to love, He holds the spine and loves the leather chain; When it's time to spoil, doting Zen seeps ......

Don't worry about embarrassing your remarriage partner, regardless of it or accommodating it from time to time.

Remember, treat it as your own!

Before entering the remarried family, the husband and wife have established a strong alliance with their children, and the relationship is close. After forming a new family, parents may worry that their children are young and fragile, and will be excluded and suffer losses in the relationship with their stepparents and other relationships, which will invisibly protect their children more, and then form a sub-alliance problem.

In addition, the conventional wisdom that requires stepparents to "treat their stepchildren as if they were their own" is also a misconception. Stepparents can never whimsically "become" themselves into their child's biological parents, taking the place of their biological parents or their role.

There is a great deal of heterogeneity in remarried families, and they are hidden dangers when we don't understand them, but as long as we learn and understand, we can effectively deal with these challenges and dangers; At the same time, because of these heterogeneities, we can also make good use of these reefs and transform them, and we can integrate larger resources to create more wonderful landscapes. There needs to be a process for remarried families to get family members to accept each other.

Especially for couples with children from their own families of origin, it is more difficult to get children to have a sense of trust in themselves. To manage your relationship with your child, you can do this: you have to realize that from the point of view of the family sequence, your stepson or stepdaughter will definitely put his biological parents ahead of you.

In his heart, no matter what his biological parents do to him, he will probably put his biological parents first.

If you want to integrate into the family quickly and want your child to accept you quickly, you need to avoid deliberately showing how good you are to him in front of him, or stopping him when he wants to get together with his biological parents, which can easily make your child feel disgusted with you and even make him think that you have ruined his otherwise happy family. As the saying goes, "Sincerity for sincerity."

What you need to grasp is that in the process of getting along with your child, treat him with a sincere and friendly attitude, and believe that over time, the child will build trust in you.