Psychologically, how to understand those who are entangled

Probably because of the recent sudden rise in temperature, there is a friend who is always on the verge of going berserk.

He said that he was always uncomfortable because of some small things: colleagues turned around to do other things while he was talking, which made him feel disrespected and valued; At twelve o'clock in the morning, I finally ended my overtime, but my girlfriend lost her temper because she didn't accompany her to dinner, and she had a direct emotional breakdown.

He said that he was too sensitive, he liked to care about everything, and he was always entangled in some past things countless times in his heart.

In fact, many people, like him, are always unable to treat their lives indifferently.

Since there is nowhere to run, it is better to rejoice. Since there is no pure land, it is better to meditate. Since it didn't get its wish, it's better to be relieved.

Everyone understands this, but why can't it always be done?

In fact, it is because we have reversed the role of emotion, and emotion has become the dominator of the individual, but the individual has become the object of domination.

It's all too common, and we've probably struggled with it at one time or another. In the final analysis, it's actually because I don't have a bigger picture.

The smaller the pattern, the more calculating.

In the eyes of tens of millions of people, there are thousands of definitions of patterns, and here we simply summarize them as "the scope of cognition of things".

On the premise of protecting yourself, stay away from them.

Ignore them. Your gaze is on them as if through the air.

After a few times like this, they are bored.

In fact, this kind of person is a type of person who is very afraid of loneliness.

Shouldn't be bothered The more you pay attention to him, the more excited you become.

1. Recognize your own position and stick to your own principles. In today's era, men's stalking has entered an advanced form, often bombarded with a threat, or sugar-coated cannonballs, or technological harassment. If a woman is unable to stand up to her principles and does not recognize her position, she will lose herself.

2. Resolute attitude. When you meet this kind of man, don't be polite, and be sure to speak resolutely and fully. Tell him directly and with great certainty that you don't like him, that you absolutely can't, that you can't today, that you can't tomorrow, that you can't have any ifs, and that he doesn't have illusions.

Don't leave any room for him to feel that he still has the slightest chance to hail. But if you have a little ambiguity, he will always feel that it is still possible and will continue to pester you.

3. Don't give any response. If you have clearly expressed your attitude, he is still unwilling to give up, or sends you various messages, or calls you, then don't reply, don't answer, just treat it as if nothing happened. If you refuse, he thinks you're pretending to refuse.

As soon as you give him any response, he will come back and go on and on, then all your efforts will be in vain.

First of all, it is impossible for everyone to be pestered or threatened by others for no reason, and when they are pestered or threatened by others, they must find a specific reason, so as to better find a solution.

Secondly, when you find the reason for being entangled or threatened by others, you must dare to face it, whether it is a favor or a debt owed to others, escaping will not solve the problem, and only by facing it bravely can you put yourself in a more active position.

If you owe someone a favor and are entangled, then you have to find a way to repay the other party in a way that the other party can accept, and to a certain extent, let it get good satisfaction, then you may not be entangled with yourself anymore, of course, it is difficult to repay the favor.

If you owe money to others, and you don't pay it back for a long time or don't keep your integrity, then it's normal to be threatened by others, and in this case, you have to find a way to pay it back to the other party as soon as possible, not only to make yourself more honest but also to maintain a normal life.

If the entanglement or threat of others is only due to the strength of the other party, and they have no ability to resist at all, then they can use legal means to protect themselves, which is also a right that everyone can enjoy. Of course, for everyone, being pestered or threatened by others is different, no matter what, be yourself, and at the same time respect others to get along better with others, which also helps individuals to be a better self.