How to test your boyfriend s family?

If you want to test your boyfriend's background, you can ask tactfully, or observe the other party's consumption philosophy yourself.

If the other party's parents are rich and your boyfriend's earning ability is average, then so be it. Don't get married because you think the other person has "good family conditions". Because his parents belong to his parents, and they don't have much to do with you.

When you get married and live in the future, you can't expect his parents to subsidize you all day long. And if you are short-staffed, your parents will give you financial support, and they may intervene in your life.

If the other party's family conditions are average, but your boyfriend is very good at making money, then it is recommended that you investigate the relationship and personality of the other party's parents. In some families where the family conditions are not good, but the boy is very motivated, the parents, especially the mother, will worship the son very much, and feel that which girl marries her son is simply a blessing from the previous life.

If the relationship between his parents is not good, then the mother will most likely pin her emotions on her son, subconsciously feeling that her daughter-in-law is here to rob her son. So, if your boyfriend is very good at earning money, but his family conditions are average, you have to go to check on the other party's parents.

After experiencing some ups and downs in life, I feel that people are the most important. For example, a person has money in his family and is a demolition household. If someone or family members have bad habits, make friends carelessly, wash up gambling and so on.

It could all be lost in a few years. There are many idle people in society, just staring at these "unworthy" nouveau riche to do the game.

A person's moral character is not based on words, but on how he does it. You can go through some specific small things, "a leaf knows the autumn, and the small sees the big". From the way he dresses, you can see his taste; Go to the mall to spend a few times to understand his living environment; From the details of life, you can see whether he is atmospheric; From daily social interactions, you can see his communication skills; From the depth of the chat, you can understand the breadth of his thinking.

In fact, the troubles caused by family factors are all in detail, such as consumption concepts, such as the status of men and women, such as hygiene habits, if you are more consistent with these aspects, the difference in family conditions should not be particularly large. The premise is that your boyfriend doesn't disguise himself.

How to test your boyfriend's family, this question actually doesn't need to be tempted, it will be seen, if you show it to others, you will be considered a person who loves vanity or is very snobbish.

In fact, scheming people can judge each other's family background through daily contact and observation, including food, clothing, use, housing, etc.

In fact, when looking for a boyfriend, don't always think about climbing high branches, you should consider the right person, if you really marry into a wealthy family and are constrained everywhere, I may not live a happy, happy, and free life. No matter how noble the queen is, can she compare? How many queens in the past dynasties were happy?

1. Talk about his social occupation, work background, and professional quality from the side.

By understanding his work, we can roughly judge his current salary level, professional status, and future development direction and prospects. You can also talk about some social occupations that have more practical functions in life, and you can know whether he has these aspects of social relations.

These social relationships are all potential family backgrounds that will come in handy later in married life. In addition, professional quality is also very important, which plays a decisive role in whether he can cultivate core business capabilities in the future and whether he can sit in the position of management leader.

2. Ask your boyfriend to plan a trip. Tourism is the best way to see a person. Because of tourism, you can see the consumption concept and the ability of the other party to plan the problem as a whole.

People who grew up in poor families or who mistakenly thought they were poor will have a sense of crisis about consumption when they grow up. I don't dare to overdraft consumption, and I will be more cautious in my pursuit of material things. If you grew up in a strong environment with your parents, or if your parents doted on you.

There is a high probability that this child's ability to plan problems will be poor.

3. Observe your boyfriend's circle of friends.

As the saying goes, everyone's eyes are bright. A person's circle is the biggest yardstick to see a person's quality. If you want to test his family, you must decisively get into his circle!

Look at what most of his friends are doing. Watching him get together with friends every day, he usually goes to **. Chat with his friends and see what they think of him.

A person's worth is the average of 5 good friends around him.

If his friends have good living habits, good abilities, and good personalities, then congratulations! You got a good husband!

4. Talk to him about his hobbies and hobbies to see if he has the habit and perseverance to read and learn. In the age of information technology, the first factor that determines a person's future potential is innovation and learning.

Only by maintaining the habit and perseverance of lifelong learning can we be invincible and invincible in the workplace society. Therefore, when chatting normally, you can put forward some more professional topics and analyze with him**, to see whether his analysis of a problem is logical, professional, and rigorous, and to see if he will check the data by himself to think, analyze, summarize, and summarize, and this independent learning and thinking ability is the most important core competency in the future workplace.

5. Talk about his daily consumption, listen to his consumption concept, and see whether he uses money to strengthen and enhance his tools for grabbing resources, or uses money to satisfy temporary desires and die as soon as he is happy, you can estimate whether you have a chance to live a financial freedom.

addiction. The concept of consumption depends on whether the other party has taste, whether it knows how to shop around, and whether it knows moderate consumption. If you have a good plan for consumption, then at least family education.

Not bad. Look at the limit of his credit card, look at how often he uses his credit card, see if his credit card is overdue, and then see what kind of things he usually buys with his credit card.

Get to know each other at the beginning of the relationship. The family atmosphere, social relations, and economic level should all be within the scope of mutual understanding. In depth there is a relationship if you are sure to become boyfriend and girlfriend.

You continue to promote the interaction between the two people and the two families. This boyfriend's home was supposed to be a matter of course. There is no need to be tentative to hide it.

Ask your boyfriend first, be open and honest, and be honest with each other. The social relationship of the boyfriend, understand the boyfriend's family from the side. We can get more objective information from our boyfriend's family, friends, relatives. You can also get to know your boyfriend's family in three dimensions in contrast.

Under normal circumstances, it is generally decided that the other party's family background is determined first, and then whether to become boyfriend and girlfriend.

How to test the other party's family background is generally more practical in the blind date stage, or in the stage when there are many suitors.

The best way to increase emotional intimacy in chat is to ask the other person something to be proud of, and then praise the other person and be an excellent compliment.

Let's talk about each other's hobbies in their spare time? What do you like to play since you were a child?

Children with particularly poor family conditions generally have no time to cultivate hobbies, and the family is either forced to be a school bully, or they take care of their younger siblings at home every day. Otherwise, I would have been let out to help my parents watch the stall to make money, or I would have worked to make money by myself, and all you heard was a history of blood and tears.

Children from middle-class families will have some hobbies that are generally very popular, like to read, and do not seek to understand. I like movies, most of them are cinemas. Occasional literature and art, **** is basically enough. Loves sports, has one or two teams and players that I have heard of.

Only children from wealthy families in Kochi and those who have no worries will talk to you about whether they have some special niche, or even some unique hobbies, or they like to collect hundreds of strange things, such as those who like to collect thousands of pencil sharpeners, thousands of genuine original CDs, thousands of vinyl records, play ice hockey when they play sports, stay up late to listen to the Berlin Philharmonic Forest **, and go to Taipei or Tokyo in high school to listen to an idol's concert. It's unheard of to have been to Glastonbury or Coachella to pogo and so on.

But any family that can stuff thousands of collectibles that seem to have little economic value is generally not small, and parents can support some families with strange hobbies that have nothing to do with academic performance, which shows that the family is very rich.

Some people will argue that I don't have no money, I'm just too lazy to cultivate these hobbies, but in the eyes of those families, these behaviors are called "leisure and leisure", and it is precisely because I am usually lazy that there are so many niche and unknown hobbies. Most families with deep family backgrounds are like this, and they don't need their children to work hard to do anything "useful", as long as they are happy.

Simple nouveau riche families, because they attach too much importance to making money, and feel that it is not easy to make money, they must keep it, so they will also ask their children to work hard and how to inherit their father's business.

High-quality families, generally respect personal choice, will not have too many parents to impose the will on the child, such a family out of children, most of them are interesting people, with interesting people, you will be very happy in the second half of your life.

How to test your boyfriend's family? If you want to test a man's background, whether he is your boyfriend, your suitor, or an ordinary male friend, there is a set of plans that can be implemented completely.

1. Academic qualifications. If he is a turtle who has returned from studying abroad, you only need to know the country and school where he studied, some countries have very low study costs, some countries have high study abroad costs scary, and some countries can even go to the local pheasant university as long as they pay money. Also, you also need to understand what his major is, if he is studying an art major, such as fine arts, **, then his family conditions will definitely not be bad.

The cost of studying abroad and professional fees in many countries can be found on the Internet, as well as in some education and training institutions and intermediary companies.

Second, work. If he works in a bank, a tobacco company, or an electricity supply bureau, then you need to understand how he got in and what position he was in when he first came in. If it is a bank counter, a tobacco company's distribution and front-line personnel, and an administration of the power supply bureau, then most of his family's resources and connections are very average, which can basically indicate that he worked hard to get in.

If it is the Internet industry or the technology industry, on the premise of referring to the academic qualifications, see whether he enters more by virtue of his academic qualifications or by virtue of the work experience he has gained during school.

3. Entrepreneurship. If he starts his own business, understand the industry he runs and what the field he covers. If he is an Internet company or a technology company, don't think it's lofty, because the vast majority of the company names on the market with the suffix of Internet company and technology company are small start-ups, or even micro-start-ups.

The vast majority of such small and micro Internet and technology start-ups are mainly based on operation and promotion, such as bidding, ranking, circle of friends promotion, ** times payment, precise positioning, software development and other businesses. If he is in the real business, then you also need to understand what his scope of business is. Those who do infrastructure construction have a very thick family foundation and will never be short of money, because most infrastructure projects require advance payment and deposit.

For real estate, you need to know what kind of land his family has taken, and what kind of land was originally acquired, industrial land? Agricultural land? Or some other type.

If he is doing real estate for the first time, the risk is too great, and he should always pay attention to his capital movements.

Fourth, the house. More houses do not necessarily mean that the family is thicker, because you need to know when you bought it, as well as when you bought it, the surrounding buildings, educational institutions, road section planning, etc.

There is also the issue of property rights, is it large property rights? Or is it a small property right? Is it the renovation of the old city? Or a change of house in the village?

5. Cars. Cayenne, Range Rover, Q7, X6, GLE, this kind of model, they are generally not bad for money, mostly in the infrastructure and real estate industries. A4, X3, Q5, Aurora, this kind of model, his family conditions are around the middle class, and he himself is mostly mediocre.

6. Miscellaneous. Dressing style, clothing brand, table, consumption habits, etc., it is difficult to see the true identity of a man, and many rich people are used to dressing at will.

First, the other party's family is very poor and has nothing to show off. At this time, the other party may feel inferior, afraid that you will look down on him, so he does not want you to know his family situation, and usually does not tell you about his parents and family in detail.

Second, the other party's family is very wealthy, but they are worried that someone will covet their family's wealth, so they deliberately appear to be very low-key. At this time, the other party is worried that he will accidentally leak his mouth and expose his family wealth, and he will rarely mention his parents and family.

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Regardless of the above situation, anyone who minds that others know their family background will be very sensitive to some topics and words, and it is not so easy to try to find out. For the ** who takes the initiative to show his wealth, he will pretend to be rich as always; For people who don't take the initiative to show their wealth, if the traces of your temptation are too obvious, even if the temptation comes out, it will be detrimental to the relationship with each other. If you find out that the other person's family is very poor, you don't mind; If he finds out that the other party's family is rich, he will be disgusted in his heart.

Both scenarios can lead to a breakup.

In short, money is the place where humanity can be best reflected. Human nature is so complicated, you want to easily try to find out your boyfriend's family background, how easy is it to say. However, the road knows the horsepower and sees the hearts of the people for a long time.

I think the best way is to go with the flow and learn about it slowly through long-term contact, and you will definitely find clues. Let's say:

If you actively flaunt your wealth, but you limit your contact with his parents and friends, it is very likely that you are afraid that too many people you will contact will reveal their stuff, and his wealth may also be fake.

If he doesn't take the initiative to expose his wealth, you can also see his personal level through the people he usually comes into contact with, the quality of his clothes, the topics he cares about, and his speech and behavior.

At the same time, we can look at it from a different angle. If you know that he is active, motivated, and hardworking, even if his family is very poor, he is also a potential stock, and he will definitely have a good future, so why should he care about his family background.