How to educate the child in the rebellious period

Adolescent rebellious children need to be systematically analyzed, and if parents find that their children have a rebellious mentality, the following methods can be used to resolve them:

1. Open yourself. When parents find that their children's interests are affecting their homework, do not ban them immediately, and it is better to know more about the situation. For example, accompany your child to a video game center and discuss their idols with your child to remind them what they should and should not learn.

Only by entering the inner world of children can they get along more harmoniously. When parents get along well with their children, children will not rebel.

2. Compare hearts to hearts. Parents should compare their hearts with their children, and the relationship between them will be harmonious, and the children will not have a rebellious mentality.

3. Seek advice. When disciplining children, sometimes it is necessary to seek the opinions of others to broaden one's mind. It is best to communicate with your child's teacher to understand how your child is doing in school.

4. Observe and communicate. It's about observing how your child communicates with himself. In many cases, parents have to go beyond their own role and look at the problem of their child's rebellion from the perspective of a third party. And treat children from different angles, and make limited accommodations.

5. Analysis and description. Parents should carefully analyze the specific reasons for the formation of their children's rebellious psychology and give full explanations, so that the child's rebellious psychology will gradually disappear.

6. Keep experimenting. When parents discipline their children, they should change their ways from time to time, and when their children are young, they are generally just parents who talk and children who listen. Once you're in middle school, try to communicate both ways and listen to your child's advice.

Once you find that a certain method does not work, you should change the method at any time and keep experimenting until you find an effective method.

7. Practical experience. It is through practice and experience to resolve children's rebellious psychology. If a father and son take a walk, the son must buy the watermelon when he sees it, and the father says that it is too far away from home and he is too tired to carry it back, so he will not buy it.

The son was unhappy: "You don't buy the watermelon I like to eat, you like me to study well, and I don't study well." The father thought about it and said to his only son

You can buy melons, you are responsible for bringing them home. The only son agreed, and he was so tired and sweaty that he took the watermelon home, which made the son feel deeply: "It's not easy to eat a watermelon."

8. Stay calm. Impatient parents should remind themselves to stay calm and wait for their children to calm down before communicating.

In short, in order to fundamentally resolve the child's rebellious psychology, parents must do a good job of communicating with their children. Of course, if the child's condition is more serious, the parents' patient education and guidance will no longer work.

Put down the parents' shelves and learn to be friends with your children. In the rebellious period of children's youth, parents do not pay attention to their own attitudes, words and deeds, and it is easy to stand on the opposite side of each other. Therefore, to educate and guide children, we must first cultivate a sense of closeness, first adjust ourselves, change our thinking, try to be friends first with the mentality of friends, and give children a minimum of respect for their personality.

1. Character guidance is very important. This period is the period of formation of the baby's "self-awareness", and if it is suppressed or misguided by adults, it will affect the child's physical and mental development. Parents can replace "no" by giving their children a choice.

This method is convenient for parents to provide benign guidance and does not give children a sense of control.

2. Encourage skillful transfer. Children at this age tend to imitate adults, but babies have limited abilities and cannot accomplish adult things. At this time, parents can arrange some things for their children to do within their ability, and give them an encouragement when the baby is finished.

This will develop your child's self-confidence and hands-on skills.

3. Set rules. When the baby pesters the parents to make trouble, parents should learn to make rules, learn to say "no", and develop good habits for the baby.

4. Good communication and emotional guidance. Babies in the rebellious period always have a lot of emotions to express, but the child is too young to fully express his emotions. At this time, parents should actively help their children organize their language and help them express their emotions.

Personally, what I think is appropriate should be able to give the opportunity for trial and error, after all, it is a human being, not a machine. At the same time, it is also necessary to consider that adolescent children are impulsive, rebellious is a normal phenomenon, and parents and teachers pay attention to guidance.

There is no fundamental reason for learning, children have no direction for learning, and parents can only be anxious.

In the pattern of learning, Yu said that Professor Kapoor's research has achieved ineffective success, effective failure, and effective failure is that parents can tolerate their children's mistakes so that their children can benefit from mistakes and failures.

Many parents see the report card, and when they see the results, they don't analyze them, and they just scold their heads and face after scolding, and they will still be like this next time.

It doesn't matter if you don't know how to learn the books you let go of your child, help the child sort out the knowledge points, see which ones are the child's more vague and weak points, and then make a plan, how to make up for it, and then how many days later can it reach what extent, accompany the child to stay up and stay up the most difficult night to sit and sit, the most difficult problem, really into the child's heart, you are, understand, and give support.

As parents, we always feel that our children are still young, always persuade and educate our children from the front, and always hope to give our children more "help". However, it backfires, the more we convince the child to "help" the child, the later the child will learn to walk, as long as the child is given more opportunities to try on his own, let the child explore by himself, to trial and error, in the mistakes will grow better.

During the child's rebellious period, parents can deal with it in several ways: parents should understand and care for their children, communicate more with their children, and ensure that their children are in a good mood.

1.Parents should understand and care for their children: parents should accompany their children more, so that their children can get a sense of security and warmth from the world, avoid letting them go, do not blame their children too much, and should give encouragement and care, which can gradually improve their children's rebellious thoughts.

2.Communicate more with children: Parents should communicate more with their children, keep calm when communicating with their children, avoid being too tough, avoid being tough, and not be able to enforce to solve problems, encourage and reward children, and gradually improve children's rebellious psychology.

3.Ensure that the child is in a good mood: try to consider the problem from the child's standpoint, try to find out the reason for the child's resistance, if it is caused by family factors, you should help the child open up the psychological concerns, so that the child's mentality and mood can be relaxed, so that the child gradually accepts and adapts to the reality, which is conducive to the gradual transformation of the child's rebellion.

During the child's rebellious period, parents should think about the problem from a rational perspective, avoid beating and scolding the child, and help the child go through the rebellious period smoothly.

Children in the rebellious period will show a lot of resentment to their parents' orders. Try to speak in a consultative tone with your child.

On the other hand, you should think about whether the parents' requirements are reasonable, and don't force your children to do what you don't want to do, if others force you to do things you don't want to do, you will also show disobedience.

The handling of disobedience should also be divided into situations:

If there are general problems, it can be done by the child's wishes, otherwise too many restrictions will inhibit the child's natural development.

For safety and conduct issues, we should set rules for him, pay attention to principles, and let him know what not to do and what the consequences are. Disciplining him is not about not making mistakes, but about letting him know that he is responsible for his actions.

Usually pay attention to the words and deeds of parents, set an example, many children's behaviors are a reflection of parents. Parents are well-behaved, and the children who are exposed to them must be upright.

1. Parents should remember not to be too democratic with their children. Many parents seem to be very democratic and discuss everything with their children, shall we go to dinner? Shall we brush our teeth together?

Children in this situation will be "not good!" Then you start to lose your temper or reason again, and your baby will be even more disobedient.

2. Parents should let their children learn to choose for themselves. Before asking your child, give him two choices in a way that is acceptable to you! For example, do you want to eat rice or noodles?

Shall we go out now, or in five minutes? Of course, some children will give additional answers, so you can clearly tell them that this is not within the range of choices, and then repeat your proposition again in a serious way. In fact, many times children don't want to give their parents too much collision, and generally at this time, Brother Tremor will choose according to your range.

3. Parents should not always communicate with their children in a commanding tone. For example: Don't throw toys around!

In fact, you just say, "Baby should put the toys away!" He was more than happy to accept it.

Parents are rough, children will follow to learn your roughness, and then there is an endless circle of "violence against violence", so parents should first change 1%, then the baby will change 99%.

4. Parents should let their children go through hardships and setbacks. If you allow him to do things, you must allow him to fail, which is a very important part of the whole educational process. Thinking back to the first time we did something, we didn't necessarily do it well.

The so-called "eat a trench, grow a wisdom", who has not experienced failure or done something wrong? Perhaps the first thing you do yourself may be even more ridiculous or even stupider than a child.

5. Parents should go into the inner world of their children. Play more with your children, eat, go on outings, travel, and have more parent-child activities with your children, so that you can get to know your children better and become your children's good friends.