240 points about encouraging others to understand the psychology of coming

It is useless to comfort in this situation, how many times has he said the words of comfort to himself? You'd better analyze his condition, whether it's a lack of friends or something else. He is negative about learning because he is used to his state, and you can take him out and about more, not to mention that he studies too much.

Talk to him more, talk about the topics he likes, his relationship with you will be fine, and then assimilate him, who doesn't want to compete for the top? You just have to give him motivation and he will work hard, help him review what he has learned before, so that he should be able to understand the problem, if he has a good understanding, he can do the intermediate problem, and he will gradually become interested in doing the problem, the premise is that the science and language are memorized, and it is useless to have understanding, who called the current education system like this. Familiarize him with the intermediate questions, so that he doesn't have to transfer to another school.

The hard ones are up to him to create.

You say he has a mind? But his mind is in **?

A person's enlightenment can often wake up in an instant!

If he is really a thinking man as you say, a few simple words are enough!

1: The young man does not work hard, and the boss is sad.

2: One more effort, one less regret.

3: Your parents gave you the opportunity to be born, how do you choose the continuation of your life.

4: As long as you work hard, no matter how slim the chance, there is still a chance after all, if you give up ......5: A low starting point is not a bad thing because you have a lot of room to move forward.

6: A small step up, a new height in life.

Follow the temptation, drink the first stick, move it with affection, know with reason!

Hello: In fact, as long as you have a correct understanding of yourself and can look at others and yourself comprehensively, you will feel that you are not so bad, give yourself more encouragement, and believe that you are capable. People can't retreat when they encounter difficulties, although they have worked hard, but they will encounter many difficulties in their lives, and they must try their best to overcome them in order to achieve victory.

We should learn more from their work experience, learn from their strengths, observe their shortcomings, and work hard in this area to overcome them. Therefore, it is necessary to work hard again. I believe that my ability will be able to overcome difficulties, because man will conquer the sky!

Give yourself more encouragement, so that everyone can cheer you up, cheer up, and work hard. A person should have a correct understanding of himself, because people's personalities are very different, and they should understand their own strengths and weaknesses. Learning to build on your strengths and avoid your weaknesses will help you develop your own unique self-confidence.

People are constantly changing and developing, and we need to constantly update and constantly improve our understanding of ourselves in order to make ourselves better and more perfect. To understand ourselves correctly, we must look at ourselves from a comprehensive and developmental perspective. Therefore, people especially need to be confident to complete their goals and their studies.

Let's play cards.

A good hand makes it a good one.

A bad and not bad hand, want to win.

A bad hand, try not to lose too badly.

There is still a big road in life, he may meet the girl he likes in the future, and the possibility of his pursuit of success is very small, so why not pursue it.

In the future, facing the society, when you encounter a good job, there are many people competing, and you feel that you don't have much hope, so why don't you go for it?

If your grades are not good now, you may not be able to change the results even if you work hard.

But people live, the process is the most important, even if you start to pay now, hard work can not change the result, but don't give up easily.

Good luck to him. And he's lucky to have a friend like you who cares about him.

Make an appointment with him.

Let's talk about learning.

Tell us about his hobbies. Interest. Strengths. Pull in the relationship.

In putting his hobbies. Interest. Strengths connect to encourage him.

Say as many good things about him as you can.

Don't listen to what the upstairs is talking about.

No, you and he can't even be friends.

Some people with strong self-esteem can't stand it.

Here's hoping for your friends.

Restore confidence in learning as soon as possible.

It's not that complicated.

I was the same back then, and that's it.

Learning is motivated, and when a person feels that it doesn't matter whether he learns or not, he will not take the initiative to learn. Therefore, the way to cure the root cause is to let him know why he is studying, of course, this reason must be able to make people persist for a long time, or even a lifetime.

But since I'm a junior high school student, my mind is not mature, and not many of them will take the initiative to learn, they only know how to go, but no one understands why. (That's how I was back then).

The main problem now should be the problem of self-confidence, with which everything is easy to do.

Based on experience and learning, it is initially believed that this can be done:

1。Low self-esteem comes from comparison, and when you are in an environment where most people are stronger than you, it is easy to feel inferior. This is inevitable, and it is also a test and baptism of life.

But there will be people who are inferior to you, so you should persuade him not to always compare with those who are too powerful, but to compare with those who are close to him and who he is likely to surpass. When you really get more than that, you can build confidence and try to break through.

2.Tell him more about your classmate's strengths in other aspects to let him know that a person is not as good as others in learning, and there will always be many other aspects of the ability to be better than others. You have to let him know that he is very capable, and that his academic performance is not good for a while, and further build up his confidence.

3.There should be a set of effective learning programs for him (which I can't do for him), confidence in reality, and not groundless.

4.Finally, there is the problem of goals, the goal should not be too high, otherwise it is easy to hit yourself, first set a lower one, compare yourself with yourself, and achieve it, and then it will be higher. Build self-confidence one step at a time. For example, when I first scored 60 points, then I succeeded and went further.

Well, I don't have anything more to say, good luck to you.

Judging from your simple narrative, he should have been under too much pressure and blows.

It is impossible to make a big difference in him by relying on the power of friends alone. It should be a problem for teachers and parents! If you can do the following, you should be able to help him!

1. I hope that the teacher will give him more attention and love than ordinary students, and not use insults. Discrimination. Take pity on his words and behavior, but instead say more words of encouragement and give him more opportunities to show his strengths. Especially in front of others.

2 Parents should do the same as teachers. In particular, you should have confidence in your child, do not doubt your child's ability, and do not interfere too much with your child's learning and hobbies. To know:

The child is also an independent personality, not the private property of the parents, whose role is only limited guidance, not commanding preaching.

3 For a child in the second year of junior high school, there is no point in transferring schools, maybe in an unfamiliar environment, it is easier to cause too much stress to the child, after all, the unfamiliar environment takes time to adapt.

The above points are difficult to do as a friend, and they require the cooperation of teachers and parents. To be honest, I feel like he should think about his future, and you shouldn't force it too much. Sometimes good intentions don't always lead to good results.

I'm so glad he has a friend like you, you're a good guy! Please pay attention to one thing that you and your classmates must pay attention to: let your nervous mood relax, don't put too much pressure on yourself, and learn to release it!

For example, find a place where no one is yelling, such as watching a comedy movie ("Crazy Stone" is good) to make yourself laugh, etc., in short, don't hold yourself back!

There is still a long time to be done, so persevere!

The boy you're talking about is in the second year of junior high school this year and is in adolescence. Adolescent adolescents are basically psychologically characterized by "self-centeredness", which is what you call face-loving, which is normal.

When people encounter setbacks, they will automatically produce a self-defense mechanism, which is equivalent to a kind of self-protection, depending on the situation of your classmates, it should produce a certain degree of avoidance + stubbornness, which is also normal, if you want to eliminate this situation, the most fundamental way is to eliminate the frustration situation, and his frustration situation should be a problem with academic performance, but, with his current situation, it is unlikely that he will quickly improve his grades in a short period of time, therefore, I think, a change of environment may be a good choice. The knowledge of junior high school is relatively simple, as long as you use some effort, you should be able to master it quickly, and if you change to a new school, your classmates don't know about his previous situation, you should be able to get rid of this frustration situation very quickly.

As for the friendship you are worried about, I think that true friendship will not deteriorate because of spatial distance, which is the essence of true mature friendship.

Freezing three feet is not a day's cold. If you want him to stay: you are a woman, tell him that you like him, and let him stay for you. \

It's buddies who tell him they want to play together.

In fact, it has come to this point, unless it is enlightened, no one can recover it Just let him spend this time happily! ～

Make a good memory! ～

Don't force it too hard! ～

What if you don't love to learn, what if you love to learn, China's education is to limit children to only reading to have a way out of this path, everyone has their own ideas and lifestyle, we have no right to interfere, maybe some people are born to be a piece of learning material, maybe not, we can't force those who are not born to study to study, and let them get good grades is to let them suffer, the best way is to wait and see what happens, after all, no one wants to make themselves waste, let others look down on them. Hope is hope or be objective.,Other people's paths are only for him to choose.。。

As a good friend, you should know him well. Well, you should tutor him at ordinary times, of course, don't be too old-fashioned learning methods, let him feel the fun of learning, so that he can concentrate in class, fun, is to make learning and games combined. In this way, maybe his grades will go up. Hehe.

If he doesn't have a strong idea of transferring schools, you can try to make him discover his strengths in the class, build up his confidence, and learn to catch up easily. (I have experienced it firsthand).

But if he has to change schools, it is better to come to something hard and tell him: if you are not good, you will not be able to go anywhere. If you're gold, you'll shine everywhere.

Use this trick with caution. Because this may hit his self-esteem more seriously) Or you tell him that you can transfer schools, but you don't want to think that your classmates are "forced to change schools because of bad grades" after you leave, right?

People with strong self-esteem and love face are afraid of this sentence). Before you transfer, do a good job of studying before leaving, and no one will stop you.

After he finished studying, he naturally didn't want to leave.

You tell him, "Uh, you can try it upside down!" Turn the countdown into a positive number!

You care too much about what others think of you, you may be because you are not confident, so you always send some self-psychological encouragement in the space, you have to live for yourself, live your own personality and wonderful, don't care too much about other people's opinions, or you will become more and more timid, those positive inspirational words, should be sent, don't care about what others do, go your own way, follow what others say! Be confident! Come on!

You'll think you're a hard-working person

Fan Xiaoduo, are you tired?

If you manage your boyfriend so tightly, will the relationship be good?

Feelings can't stand up to suspicion the most, if you want to keep him, you should use your heart, a tolerant and caring heart, not aggressive.

If you treat him well and give him space, he will naturally know gratitude in his heart and will be good to you. If he's still like that, then it's not worth dating.

I think you have time to do more and do other things, a delicious meal, this is more than "coercion and temptation" to conquer a man's heart, right? You're just wasting your energy by doing this now, and even if you find out that your boyfriend is distracted, what's in it for you? Let yourself go and give yourself peace of mind.

Good luck!

Everyone needs to have their own space, and you are the same, sister, you can't think about it too much, if he loves you, he won't do things that you are unhappy about, you just can't think about it now, do you love him??

If you want this man, if you don't want it, you have to let go of the subsection, and my sister tells you that there is a need for space between lovers.

Don't be suspicious, you have to give him full trust, otherwise he will become a burden, it will weigh him down, he will not breathe, he will run, and remember, stupid women don't believe in men, smart women pretend to believe, what kind of self-choice do you have to choose, if you don't understand, come to my sister.

Change to another city and live in a few days that are diametrically opposed to what you are now Then you will have unexpected gains Happiness I wish you happiness Relief as soon as possible It has been a long time and has a lot of damage to the body and mind Sometimes people will suddenly open up At that time, you will find that you are really naïve now It seems that you are many years older all of a sudden. Go crazy Go Do what you have always wanted to do but don't have the opportunity or dare not be embarrassed to do Come on friend, do you feel that you have something unsatisfactory Why do you care so much Inferiority complex is not cute Get to know you for a while, you're so stingy.