People are too good, what should I do if I don t have a partner? Why do excellent people have no obj

I saw this topic and it was very interesting to me.

If you're so good, why don't you have an object? Are you being too demanding? Or do people like you and treat you well, and you don't like others, so you just say something nasty or gossip about that person everywhere.

In fact, do you need to examine yourself? If everything is really good, why is there no object?

Outstanding? Which one is excellent? Is it really so good that it is ten beautiful?

Tell you, no one is perfect, and if you don't even know what your own shortcomings are, don't even tell others.

Outstanding? Joke! If it's really good, how can there be no object.

If it's really good. Then observe the happy life of other people's couples, since they are as good as you say. There are many who should be courteous. The right one is good.

1. If you don't have an object, you can live by yourself.

2. It's not enough to make yourself not good.

3. Find an excellent woman.

Find someone better than you, and that's it.

I guess you don't have any friends! It's all a bunch of sycophants! You're a little dizzy and let them please. I didn't see how good you are, I can see that you have a little inferiority!

Then make yourself ordinary and make yourself bad!

No one deserves you, or you look down on everyone.

Are you excellent? How good can he be when he talks about his excellence all day long???

Maybe women have low self-esteem.

Your bad is that you don't know what's bad about yourself.

Good people don't ask this kind of question. You're not good.

Someone like me?

I don't know about that, huh?

Others say, this. Maybe it's too thick-skinned

This is mainly not that the other party is not excellent, because this child has a rebellious heart, and always feels that it is appropriate to find a partner by himself, and he doesn't want to be arranged by his father and mother, so it is difficult to have a staring result.

Because they don't think they're worthy.

It's not that excellent people don't have objects, but that excellent people may have a higher standard for finding objects.

Therefore, the probability that he can find a person who can talk to Qi Qi will have a higher probability of being higher, resulting in most of the excellent people you meet may still have no object.

There are many reasons why good people don't fall in love, and here are a few possible reasons:

1.Work Stress and Regret: In modern society, work is stressful, and many people need to spend a lot of time and energy on work. This can lead to them not having enough time and energy to find a romantic partner.

2.Narrow social circles: Many people have narrow social circles and are unlikely to meet the right person for them.

3.High standards: Some people have high standards for themselves and their partners, which can make it difficult for them to find a relationship that meets the requirements.

4.Fear of being hurt: Some people have been hurt in previous relationships, so they have a certain fear of falling in love and are unwilling to fall into love easily.

5.Choosing to be single: There are also some people who choose to be single, thinking that they can live well if they are single, and they don't want to give up their personal life and development in order to fall in love.

Of course, the above are just some of the possible reasons, everyone's situation is different, and there may be other personal factors that lead to not falling in love.

As the saying goes, men should get married, and women should get married, and for the vast majority of people, when they reach a certain age, they will find a partner, fall in love, and get married. ......But there will also be some people who have very good conditions of their own, but they don't fall in love. The practices of these people are puzzling to many.

The reason why this situation occurs is that some people can't find a partner because they are very demanding because of their own good conditions, some people like to be single and don't want to fall in love at all, and good or bad personal conditions are not the decisive factors in falling in love.

1. Some people have very good conditions, so they have very high requirements for finding a partner, and as a result, they can't find a partner.

According to most people's understanding, good personal conditions should be conducive to falling in love. But for some people, it affects their ability to find a partner. ......The reason why this situation occurs is because these people have high requirements for their love partners because their conditions are very good, and the result is that there are too few qualified people, and they can't find a suitable partner, so they have been unable to fall in love.

2. Some people like the state of single life and don't want to fall in love at all.

For others, although their own conditions are ideal, they very much like to live in a single state. ......As a result, these people don't want to fall in love at all, they just want to live a single life that they like. ......Although these people have good personal conditions, they still won't fall in love.

3. Good or bad personal conditions are not the decisive factor in falling in love.

Fundamentally, whether or not a person falls in love is related to personal conditions, but this is not the decisive factor. It's not that people with good personal conditions will definitely fall in love, and it's not that people with poor personal conditions can't fall in love. ......In fact, there are many people who have good personal conditions but do not fall in love, and there are many cases where people with poor personal conditions successfully fall in love.

The fundamental reason for this is not how the individual is digging, but whether he is willing to fall in love, and whether he can fall in love in the right way. This is the key to whether a person falls in love or not, and whether he can successfully fall in love.

On the social phenomenon of "leftover men and women". The mainstream thinking of the Chinese traditional "men are responsible for making money to support their families, and women are responsible for being beautiful like flowers" has led to the pressure of buying a house falling on men, and in the face of high housing prices and living costs in big cities, men from other places leave in despair, and excellent women from other places have robbed a large number of local men, resulting in a phenomenon of more boys and girls. Local women are reluctant to find a house or cultural conflicts and dislike non-local men.

In the end, the people who were left behind were: foreign men, foreign women and urban women (urban women are generally said to be too good), and the post of "Du Niang" also tells us overwhelmingly: The rest are because they are too good!

It's better to say that you're choosing a partner, but it's better to be choosing a house. Some people say that if I hadn't seen that his family had land and a house, how would I have married him. This is a real problem, in fact, it is understandable that housing prices and the cost of living in big cities are too high, and when survival is a problem, bread must be greater than love.

Even if bread loses to love at the beginning, it will gradually accumulate and explode in the future days of Chadan. However, the house should not be the only criterion for choosing a mate.

If you are really as good as you think, then you already have what you want, why worry about the other person lacking this thing for the time being. It is the insecurities of the heart that compels us to constantly grab them from the outside world to make up for the lack of heart.

The conditions used to measure "excellent" – i.e., real estate, money – are already solidified in our minds. We can't tell if we're really good in other ways. Excellence has become only a narrow standard, and our hearts are panicked, we feel insecure, and we want to grasp more things that the world thinks are excellent and fill the insecurity in our hearts.

There are two core points of a mature mental model: introspection and a developmental perspective.

Introspection is about taking 100% responsibility for the problems you encounter. And the pattern we are usually used to is to push the responsibility first when we encounter a problem. When we ask others, they will not change, and we will not be able to see our own problems. And when we discover our problems through introspection, acknowledge them, and constantly find ways to adjust them, we will find that the other person is also changing because of our changes.

Break through the fixed thinking of "excellent", excellence, in my opinion, is more of an internal quality, such as a good personality, a positive attitude, a person's charm and so on. It should not be limited to too many external substances. And when we can measure the other person with a developmental perspective and redefine "excellent", we will be closer to a mature mental model.

This article is a reading note for "Intimacy, Finding Yourself in Love".

There are many reasons why a person may not be in a relationship despite being good in every way. Here are some possible reasons:

1.Anxiety and fear: Some people may be reluctant to start a relationship because of anxiety and fear. They may be afraid of rejection, hurt, or disappointment.

2.No chances: Some people may not have the opportunity to meet new people or enter into romantic relationships. They may have difficulty meeting new potential partners because of the small number of jobs or social circles.

3.High standards: Some people may have high standards for themselves or their potential partners. They may refuse to develop relationships with people who can't meet their demands.

4.Understanding of romantic relationships: Some people may have different views or expectations about romantic relationships. They may think that romantic relationships require more time or more freedom, which makes it difficult for them to find the right partner.

5.Personal life: Some people may prefer to live single or focus more on their personal career or development than to invest too much time and energy in a relationship.

6.Interaction problems: Some people may have some communication problems, such as being too autistic or reticent, not good at socializing with people, or lacking self-confidence and social skills.

In conclusion, everyone's different experiences and lifestyles can lead to different causes and results, but as long as you can understand yourself and others correctly, and work hard to overcome your own difficulties and obstacles, you can find a relationship that suits you.