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How did you have such an idea?

Long-distance relationships, like ordinary relationships, will inevitably lead to conflicts.

The key is that if two people are together, the girl is a little coquettish, and the boy puts down his face and kneels and licks, it can basically solve the problem.

But geographical, and even time zone divisions, are likely to amplify conflicts that are not intense.

The solution is probably the following:

1.Be considerate of the other person's feelings. This is very important, especially for boys, to take care of the emotions of female tickets.

Because no matter how independent a girl is, once she falls in love, she will be clingy, if she is not clingy, then she should not like you very much. It's not necessary to contact you all the time, but you have to squeak too! If you are very busy as a boy (playing games, clubs, studying), then you should contact her regularly, even if it is a simple sentence that you don't eat, it is much better than ignoring it for a day.

And since you have chosen to be in love, should you take care of each other, right? And before you want to be busy with your business, report it first, so that the other party knows so that you can avoid a lot of conflicts. The same goes for girls.

2.Full trust. A couple of people upstairs have talked about it, and I think that's important.

Of course, there will always be some doubts.,The reason why I'm very relieved about my male ticket is because his life is only a game.,And I don't pay attention to personal image.,For example, don't take a shower for a week.、Wear slippers to class, etc.,This is so embarrassing = = This is not an example that can be emulated.,But this really doesn't worry me too much In general, each other has to do something to reassure each other.,Such as itinerary reporting、Mobile phone transparency and the like。

3.Come in for a little surprise. This is like running to his city and giving a small gift or something. I do it sometimes, and it works well, but also be prepared to be frightened.

Author ID: Zhang Minxi. Link.

As the saying goes".Surviving a long-distance relationship is a lifetimeIt is normal for long-distance couples to have some problems, and solving them can promote the warming of the relationship. However, if the problem is not solved properly, it can also lead to a relationship breakdown. I have some thoughts on overcoming the problems that come with long-distance relationships.

In order to overcome the problem, we must first know what the problem is, and I have summarized this as follows.

Crisis of confidence

The most taboo thing between couples is mutual suspicionIt is difficult to avoid couples who have been together all year round, let alone couples who have lived in a different place for a long time. When my other half is not around, many people will wonder: "What if a girl (boy) who is better than me pursues him (her), what if he (she) likes someone else".

Most of the lack of trust stems from not knowing each other enough, therefore, before the crisis of trust, long-distance relationships must be often ****, more communication and more exchanges can promote understanding between the two, and there will be a lot less suspicion after understanding each other. If the two of them have already had a crisis of trust, then they must have an open and honest conversation, be honest with each other, find out what is wrong with each other, and resolve the crisis of trust together. I believe that the relationship between the two will definitely be stronger after this time.

Lack of companionship, no common topic

It is difficult for long-distance couples to go shopping, watch movies, eat, and watch movies together like ordinary couples. The two are unable to appear in each other's lives and rarely share common topics. For this point, couples should share their own lives more, and share some trivial and interesting things in life with each other, so that the other party seems to be involved in your life.

You can also send some small gifts to each other from time to time to create some small surprises, so that the other party can feel your heart. Although the body cannot be by his or her side anytime and anywhere, the heart must always be there.

Confused about the future

The long distance is only temporary, and if you want to go further in the future and enter the palace of marriage, you must have a plan for the future. For example, the short-term plan is when to meet once, the long-term plan is to find a job in the same city in the future, and the plan is when to get married and have children. If you don't plan for it, you don't feel safe with the other person.

Of course, the planning should also be reasonable and realistic, and "empty promises" should not be issued. Having a reasonable plan for the future is a good way to solve the confusion of the two people about the future.

Summary

It is not easy to find a person who is compatible with you in the vast sea of people, you must know how to cherish the person in front of you, and it takes two people to work together from love to entering the palace of marriage. Finally, I wish that there are lovers in the world who will eventually become married.

Long-distance relationships will certainly have many problems and will be difficult, but love can always be together!

I think the following methods can solve some of the problems of long-distance relationships in long-distance relationships, and I have personally tested them to be effective:

1.Don't talk about breakups at will, every breakup is consuming each other's feelings, and every time you mention it, each other's hearts hurt.

Every time, if you talk too much, you will become numb.

2.Keep enough desire to share, greet each other every day, say something to each other, this will not delay you too much time, if you can send a voice, try to send a voice, you must play if you can play**can play**, even if you say that you have to do your own thing, it is also very comfortable (sometimes you have to see if the other party likes it, like the one in my family doesn't like it, she likes to do things seriously, and we will play again when we are busy), sometimes I fall asleep while playing. It makes us feel like we're not far from each other's lives.

3.When you see a message and reply in time, what a long-distance relationship can't give is companionship, but in the era of mobile phones, I think you should at least reply to the message in time to give the other party a sense of security that you are always there; If you are really busy, you must explain the reason afterwards, after all, couples in different places can only rely on messages, **, ** to maintain a relationship.

4.If you have a problem, try to be as straightforward as possible, you can't accurately perceive each other's emotions in different places, and if you find a problem, you have to solve it in time instead of putting it in your heart, so that after a long time, you will feel very tired, and after a long time, you will explode, and you will choose to break up.

5.Have at least one common topic and hobby. In this way, you will have topics and things to say with her every day, so that the topics you talk to each other are not clear, and after a long time, you will feel that you have nothing to say.

6.Trust each other. You can't always be suspicious of the other party, you must give corresponding trust, and if you are not at ease, you can check the post.

7.If you can meet, you can meet, and you have to be separated from other places, since you don't want to be separated, you have to grasp everything you can see.

There are opportunities to maintain relationships, and some problems can be solved with just a hug.

In fact, the great thing about long-distance relationships is that every time we meet, there is a new feeling, the freshness is amazing, and parting is a wonderful thing.

1. The connection cannot be broken.

It is very important to keep in touch, even if it is just a text message every day, or make a **, but also let the other party know that he or she has him in his heart, and that the person he cares about and loves is him or her. Of course, the time and frequency of contact are different for each person, and it varies from person to person, but you can't break the contact.

2. Be common.

If possible, aim to meet at least once a month. Although it is said that distance produces beauty, for long-distance relationships, if you want to have a stable relationship, distance alone is not enough, you need face-to-face communication and communication, and you need to talk about love words and little secrets face-to-face, which is an important method and way to promote the feelings of both parties, and it is also essential.

3. Learn to create surprises.

Give the other person a different surprise, such as a love letter every week. Although there are a lot of communication tools that are fast and convenient now, they are not worth a love letter, and when you see each other's words and words, your heart will be warm, suitable for introverts to express their emotions, and it will also make each other's hard work and persistence in a long-distance relationship feel worthwhile.

4. Tolerance and understanding.

Good at taking advantage of the differences in thinking between men and women, tolerating and understanding each other. In fact, whether it is a boy or a girl, there will always be a lot of misunderstandings and incomprehensions in a long-distance relationship, and in order to better promote each other's feelings, you need to think from each other's point of view, know the difference in thinking between boys and girls, and you can tolerate and understand each other, which can reduce a lot of nonsense, and can also ensure the stability and sweetness of the relationship.

5. The correct way of communication.

Looking for the best way to communicate, in fact, even if the couple is in a city and meets every day, there will be times when they quarrel, not to mention that two people are not in the same place, it is inevitable that there will be a lot of quarrels, and they feel that the other party does not love themselves, or they feel that the other party has a new love and other ideas will make them tangled and uncomfortable, and a reasonable way of communication can effectively avoid this.

Find common topics, for example, if you both like to watch movies, make an appointment to go to the movies together, you watch it in your city, he and she watch it in his city, exchange experiences after watching it, and of course, you can also talk about what happened in the process of watching the movie, and so on, so that the long-distance relationship will also have endless topics.

7. Strive to be together.

Strive to live and work in a city as soon as possible, even if the best relationship can't withstand a long time of separation, even if the other party's love for you is firm, you need to live together, and experience the ups and downs together to be practical. In order to better promote the relationship between the two sides, it is necessary to strive for living and working in the same city as soon as possible.

The time on the university campus is an unforgettable memory in the hearts of most people, and many years later, it will be sweet in the aftertaste.

Campus life, there is no social deceit, no firewood, rice, oil and salt in life, no boredom and troubles of work, and no family troubles.

The couples are so sweet, the smiles are so pure, the words are so simple, and the future is full of beautiful vision.

When they graduate and enter the society, due to different family backgrounds, they naturally face different lives, good family conditions, and after graduation, they can be arranged by their families with very promising jobs, they can have no worries about food and clothing, and have no scruples about life. The other party needs to go into the job search stage, get acquainted with the society for the first time, and need to bear all kinds of difficulties by themselves, due to the two different living environments, which eventually leads to two people having different views on life, and naturally becoming strangers.

Many couples out of the campus, choose different cities, because they have just stepped into the society, defenseless of the complexity of society, in the face of reality will inevitably suffer all kinds of blows, is the most need for each other's comfort and care, because of the reasons of different places, can not be by the side, due to the daily busyness, there is no time to maintain the relationship between two people, and so on life and work is not formal, the only remaining dependence no longer exists, without dependence, the relationship between two people will slowly fade.

I guess I don't trust enough.

01. Keep in close contact.

Although it is a couple, but separated from the two places, the individual will feel empty and lonely, without a long-term connection, the relationship between the two people will only get weaker and weaker, and there should be more communication between the husband and the withered wife. Don't connect with anything, you can also talk about your daily life. The scariest thing about a long-distance relationship is that after the relationship cools down, they only connect with each other when something happens.

Therefore, it is essential to maintain a close connection between different couples.

02. Each other must have the desire to share.

Maybe you think good morning, good afternoon, good night, what are you doing, have you eaten? The words are perfunctory, but not perfunctory, not a task, but a continuation the next day. The phone has no feelings, the text is cold, but the positive reactions to each other give the phone temperature.

Don't skimp on what you want to share and let the other person know what you're doing in another place. In different places, two people are insecure, and if they can't get to know each other, they can only increase each other's worries and suspicions. Don't be shy, don't talk to each other.

03. Create opportunities to meet.

Although the transportation is convenient, it is unrealistic for most ordinary couples to meet frequently, in addition to financial reasons, there are also reasons for work, study, vacation arrangements, etc. So in the days when you can meet and rise and fall, and in the days when you can stay together, express the love you want to express! Do what you want to do again on the days when you don't see each other!

Play games with your boyfriend, go shopping with your girlfriend, and express what you want to say! If possible, take a long vacation or meet to release long-accumulated thoughts.

04. Be sure to trust each other.

The separation of the two places is a test of trust between the two sides. Both boys and girls need trust, girls are delicate in their minds and more sensitive, a little wrong tone will be suspicious, at this time the boy cannot be impatient and should be well explained. Boys are actually also very insecure, so girls should sometimes know him better.