Why do we crave intimacy with others?

We are free to decide what we eat and what to use, but we are not free to use our intimate abilities, which depends on intimacy.

Speaking of. Intimacy is not an object that exists alone, it must be "parasitic" in the relationship, that is, it is only through the relationship that we can obtain intimacy.

How are relationships built? It is the process of friction, collision and blending between people.

In our world, there are only three relationships to deal with:

my relationship with myself;

my relationships with others;

My relationship with the world.

In addition to the first, the other two require a relationship with others to complete.

So, craving intimacy is as instinctive as our craving for air, food, and water.

Maybe it's because we're still very afraid of being alone. So I want to find someone to accompany me and appear that I am not alone.

Probably because everyone has a very strong loneliness in their hearts. So I want to feel more secure by building intimacy with others.

Because I want to know that I am not alone in this world. There was always someone who was always with us on our balcony.

Maybe it's because we're all lonely. So I always want to find someone in this world who can give me warmth and hug him.

It seems that he is not alone, and it seems that he has a dependence, a belonging, and a direction. We always have to find someone to walk the darkest road together.

Human beings are actually a particularly dependent creature, so they are always unwilling and afraid to walk alone in this world.

In this way, let's improve and relieve the deep loneliness in our hearts. Tell yourself that there are people in this world who are with you.

Because man is a social animal, why are people social animals? Because the ancestors survived in order to resist the big animals and survive.

This kind of desire for the other party to regard themselves as special and unique, but the other party treats everyone equally must have brought you a psychological impact, hug you, I don't know what your relationship is now, if you like it, you need to express it.

If you don't say it, she may not know, and will still do what she thinks, and may not consider your thoughts, and you want her to be able to express more about you, which is the deeper relationship you crave.

I can't stand her treating everyone equally, and I want to be with her.

Make deep connections, but you can't convert when you can't bend your feet.

Cheng is jealous, disappointed and angry, and he is a boy.

Maybe your relationship isn't that deep yet, so she may not understand your mind right now, your heart is a desire for a deeper level than a superficial treat, and your relationship determines what the content is.

Be clear about your relationship and set expectations.

Seeing that she treats other people as if she were herself, then you are not special, you are not special, you are not possessed, she is not possessed by you, this impatience seems to be contagious, as if negative emotions and happiness are also contagious, it does not seem to be your responsibility alone, but it can often be solved by you personally. What is Patience? Patience:

The ability to accept or tolerate delays, difficulties, or annoyances without getting angry or upset, our lives are full of delays and annoyances, and this uneasy reaction will only make an already tense and unpleasant situation worse.

So we can begin to consciously respond to "delays, difficulties, or annoyances" in different ways. Sometimes the best thing we can do is to "tolerate" their presence. Keep sticking to them, and with practice, you'll be better able to "accept" them as an inevitable part of life.

Take your time and be patient to see what the future holds.

You can be jealous, you can be disappointed, you can be angry, this sign is your true emotion, our anger and dissatisfaction are not used to being a kind of grievance when we want to ask for it, if there are some things that we can't get benefits at the moment, then we should think about how to get what we want.

If you still don't change this way of thinking, where will you be in a few years? Stop being angry and be more tolerant and flexible about everyday life and intimate relationships, for the sake of others, not just yourself. Doing this will benefit you in the long run.

According to Albert's view, people's emotions are caused by people's thinking and people's beliefs, and irrational beliefs often cause people to fall into emotional disorders.

Maybe it's not that bad now.

Maintain dialogue and compromise.

See a better version of yourself. Best wishes! zq