How to make children in single parent families mentally healthy?

<> marriage breakdown may be most affected by children, single-parent families, if you deal with it, you can make your children lively, cute and healthy, and if you don't handle it well, it will have a lifelong impact on your children. In fact, I would like to say that single-parent families are not terrible, but what is terrible is to instill wrong views on marriage and values in their children.

Because the marriage relationship has not been handled well, there are not a few parents who have a strong sense of indebtedness to their children after divorce. So in the subsequent single-parent life, the idea tries to give him the best, in order to make up for the incomplete shortcomings of the family, always put Mom and Dad sorry for you on the lips, so that the child feels that the world owes him, in this "you owe me, do everything for me is a matter of course" atmosphere, it is easy to cultivate the child into ungrateful and put the responsibility on the single-parent family when he does something wrong on the road of growth, self-centered, and will only ask for the machine. So parents should take care of the marital relationship and don't always say to their children:

It's us who is wrong, Mom and Dad are sorry for you".

Parents are their children's first teachers, and families are their children's first schools. So what kind of environment to live in, what kind of personality and temper of parents often have a great impact on children. When a single-parent family is divorced, it either lacks father's love or mother's love, and even when the father or mother raises the child alone, he consciously instills the mistakes and shortcomings of the other party to make the child hate the other party.

Therefore, do not intentionally or unintentionally magnify the shortcomings of the other party in front of the child, or even present the resentment towards the other party in front of the child. There may be irreconcilable contradictions between husband and wife, but it is not necessary to be completely present in front of the children. Temporarily seal away all kinds of dissatisfaction and resentment with their spouse, and try their best to play a harmonious father and mother in front of their children, even if they can't create a happy family atmosphere for their children, but at least they can feel that their parents' love for him is not "missing".

Therefore, even if parents are divorced, they must jointly bear the responsibility for the child's upbringing and education, participate in the child's parent-child activities at school, and pick up and drop off the child together, so that the child can feel the love of his parents for him, rather than letting the child grow up in hatred.

The quality of the marriage is a matter of two adults, and the above words should be said to the children even if the marriage is irretrievably broken, "Although Mom and Dad are no longer together, we will not love you any less, you are no different from other children, we will still live well", this is what single parents should say to their children.

Children from single-parent families come across as problematic and psychologically unhealthy. Nowadays, many young people get married on impulse, and after getting married, they have children, and they are forced to divorce because of the pressure of life and conflicts in trivial life matters. After the divorce, the children are hurt and do not receive the complete love of their parents.

For children who have lost their father's or mother's love, we should give them the right guidance. First of all, pay attention to children's emotions, most of the children in single-parent families will be very disappointed, and some will form autism and are not good at communicating with others.

When I first graduated and went to work in kindergarten, there was a child in my class whose parents divorced, and he lived with his father, who was often busy with work and left him in the care of his grandmother. Whenever there is a parent-child activity or parent-teacher meeting in the kindergarten, other children's parents will come to participate, but he only has grandma. Whenever other children asked him why his parents didn't come, he was disappointed, and he didn't know.

Such a child is lonely in his heart, because of the lack of love, he has no self-confidence and bravery.

In order to make children's mental health, we will pay attention to this part of the children, often give encouragement, and stimulate the child's awareness of participating in group activities, so that he can boldly express himself in group activities, cultivate children's abilities, and let children face life independently.

Secondly, for children of single parents, one parent should spend more time with the child, observe the child, and actively detect the child. If the child is more interested in something, you should seize the opportunity to cultivate the child's interest, so that the child will not feel lonely, and let the child find himself and improve himself in the things he is interested in.

Also, accompany the child to participate in more parent-child activities, such as: summer camp activities, in the activities to enhance the parent-child relationship, but also to provide an opportunity for parents to communicate with the child, have a better understanding of the child, in the process of accompanying the child to complete the task, guide the child, educate the child. Let children feel their own father's or mother's love.

A friend of mine, she took care of the children by herself after the divorce, because she was busy working to earn money for the children, so she left the children with her grandparents. However, she takes her children to participate in various parent-child activities every weekend, such as: taking her children on a field trip with some friends, and letting them understand the beauty of nature during the outing.

Sometimes I take my child to an open field with my friends to fly a kite, and by making a kite with my child to letting my child fly a kite, the child will not only have a lot of fun, but also have a more intimate relationship with his mother.

Finally, love your child in the right way. Children in single-parent families are very fragile in their hearts, and some parents give their children more love because of the lack of love for their children. In this way, it is easy to cause spoiling psychology to children.

For example, if one of the parents lets the child be taken by the elderly, the old man will give the child no restraint in his love, and the child will satisfy the child what he wants, and over time, the child will form bad behavior habits. It will have a certain impact on the child's development.

In order to improve the mental health of a single parent, one parent must make the child feel safe, and not let the child lack the love of the only parent.

<> society labels single-parent families as "unhealthy" but this is not absolute, a good friend of mine is a single-parent family, but there is absolutely no mental illness, the three views are also very positive, and even the personality of children with a complete family is likable, today I give some suggestions with some of the phenomena I have observed:

The first point, if the parents are divorced, the party with the child must do his best to give her complete love, my good friend is with her father, her father is very good to her, life is also very good, the relationship between the two of them is also very good, almost every day**, I feel that my mother can't give her love to her father, I am really happy for him!

The second point is that you must spend more energy on the child, which all families should pay attention to, if the parents are divorced, the child's inner world will slowly change, you must be very sensitive to the changes in her heart, and actively guide her to the right path, don't feel that you are divorced, you have to stand in the child's position, he is so young, he doesn't understand anything, but she will still know that there is a person who loves her left, and see that other friends have two people to love, and she has only one relative, it is easy to form a withdrawn character if you can't turn around in your heart.

The third point is to actively guide her to establish her own interests and hobbies, when she has a thing to insist on, her heart is not so hesitant, and it is no longer so lonely and thin, my good friend said that her parents taught her to be Tang poetry and Song Ci since she was a child, and she read various famous books in primary school exams, so that she is now also very literate, and she can also write ** to make money, in fact, the text is a very high thing, whether your words are written for yourself or for others to see, as long as you write it, That is, when you sort out a certain part of your life path, you will naturally figure it out when you encounter things!

Children from <> single-parent families are more likely to have psychological problems than children with both healthy parents, which are mainly reflected in the following aspects.

First, the heart is relatively indifferent or easy to rebel. Some children from single-parent families will have a sense of distrust in marriage or relationship because they have lost one of their parents, and they do not like to contact people very much, their personalities are too introverted, and sometimes their emotions are easily out of control. Second, the inferiority complex is very sensitive.

They are very sensitive to the topic of divorce, and because they lack a parent, they have low self-esteem in their hearts, and they are silent and do not like to talk to people. Third, it is easy to be irritable and angry, and is emotionally unstable. Especially when the child is young, this can happen if the parents are divorced, lack of love, or the parent raising the child is too doting.

In order to let the children of single-parent families avoid this situation as much as possible, it is necessary for the party raising the child to pay special attention to the child's heart and their own efforts, I have a few classmates who are also single-parent families, but they basically have good academic performance and good personality, I think it is inseparable from the education at home.

First of all, parents should never say to their children after the divorce, "Your parents don't want us anymore, leave us behind." Such words will make children hate their parents, have a sense of distrust in marriage, and may have great flaws in their hearts in dealing with feelings, which will lead to their later life being affected by their parents' divorce. There was a distant relative in the family before, which was the mother who took her daughter, and the sister had been in love since she was in college and then broke up, and now she is in her thirties and divorced twice, and her own attitude is that she will divorce and find it again if she can't get by, and she doesn't have a responsible attitude towards the family.

Don't tell your child how bad your partner is, or that men are not good things. A classmate is a psychological counselor, he told a case that the mother always told her daughter that men are not good, women should not please men, etc., and the daughter's sexual orientation has changed when she grows up, and her life is very painful, because the social acceptance of homosexuality is not high now, although I think homosexuality is not a psychological problem, if it is innate, it is understandable, if it is formed by the words of parents, it is really irresponsible behavior for children.

Guardians must pay attention to educating their children in an appropriate way. Don't be too strict or too spoiled, for example, the mother has been too strict since she was a child to educate her children and say that I have worked hard to raise you, you must be angry, and I am strict with you now for your own good. This will put too much pressure on the child and lead to psychological deformities.

Don't spoil your child too much, as the child will become too dependent on his parents and become very independent. Now there are still opinions on divorced people in society, so the guardian should first adjust his mentality, and if the other party comes to visit the child, try to get along as a friend, and build confidence for himself, improve his quality of life, and give the child enough self-confidence, in addition, I think it is also a good way to have a pet with the child.

Single-parent families are very unfair to a child, and the mistakes of adults make children responsible, but single-parent families are indeed very common, so how can single-parent families promote children's mental health? This is also a problem that many people attach great importance to, so let's take a look at it in detail.

Many of our friends do not know very much about the methods of raising children, especially parents in single-parent families, and they need to pay more attention to their own education methods. If Tan Sen keeps an eye on the child all day because he can't take care of the child alone, such a parent will bring great psychological pressure to the child, and the child will either continue to be silent in silence, or it will completely explode when the trail of puberty arrives. I often see a type of young people with delayed puberty, who use various methods to go against the will of their parents, and if you look into the growth experience of this type of person, you will find that they have grown up with the attention and constraints of their parents in their childhood.

So finally joined the work, finally got married and had children, at this time, often the children did not make the choices they wanted to make, but made the choices that their parents did not want, in order to break free from the shackles of their parents and strive for independence.

In addition, if the child lives in a single-parent family, it is very important for the child to participate in some activities regularly in daily life, so that the child can drink more and socialize with peers. A single-parent family is indeed missing one of the parents, and the child can buffer the majesty of the mother through the father in the family relationship, but the father is not around, making the child isolated and helpless, which can easily lead to a deep feeling of insecurity. Often, let children feel the group in the state environment of relatives and friends, and make up for this deficiency.

We can know that there are many ways to promote children's mental health in single-parent families, so parents and friends in single-parent families need to pay more attention to children's psychological education.