How to keep an open mind?

How to keep your mind extremely open?

1. Distinguish between closed-minded and open-minded behaviors.

1.Closed-minded people don't like to see their opinions challenged.

2.Closed-minded people prefer to state facts rather than ask questions.

Open-minded people genuinely believe that they can be wrong and ask honest questions.

3.Closed-minded people are more concerned with being understood than with others.

Open-minded people often feel the need to see things from the other person's point of view.

4.Closed-minded people often say things like, "I may be wrong, but that's my opinion."

Open-minded people know when to state and when to ask questions.

5.Closed-minded people obstruct others from speaking.

People with open minds always prefer to listen rather than speak.

6.Closed-minded people have a hard time holding two thoughts at the same time.

Open-minded people retain their ability to think deeply while considering other people's perspectives.

7.Closed-minded people lack a deep sense of humility.

When an open-minded person looks at things, he always worries in his heart that he may be wrong.

2. How to be open-minded.

1.Often use pain to guide yourself to high-quality thinking.

2.Make it a habit to be open-minded.

3.Recognize your own blind spots.

4.If a lot of credible people say that you are doing something wrong, and you are the only one who doesn't think so, you have to wonder if you are wrong.

5.Meditation. 6.Emphasis on evidence.

7.Do your best to help others and keep their minds open.

8.Evidence-based decision-making tools.

9.Know when to stop defending your views and trust your decision-making process.

First, a closed mind, subconsciously always thinks that you are inviolable, your own ideas are correct, when others are different from your own ideas, it is difficult to accept! An open mind should take the initiative to accept opinions that are contrary to oneself, and think about what the reasons are for the differences, and then constantly summarize the correct principles!

Second, closed minds, believing that things are set in stone, it is difficult to accept change, especially the exact opposite! An open mind is more concerned with the logic behind it, and whether it changes or not depends not on oneself but on logic!

Third, closed minds want others to understand themselves, open minds want to understand others, shouting silver Zen, especially people who think differently from themselves, can only know the reason after understanding!

4. A closed mind always wants to speak, and an open mind always wants to hear!

When you have bad emotions in your heart and become angry, want to vent, and complain, you should pay attention to these are all signs of closed-mindedness! When you are aware of this sign, control your behavior and guide yourself to see the cause of your bad emotions!

Now it seems that my anger towards my children comes completely from my own isolation, I don't open my mind to my children and others, so I always feel that I am lonely, no one understands me, in fact, I close myself off without knowing it, I don't understand others! That's why I'm not happy and people think I'm boring!

There is also the choice of facing difficulties, which is the root cause of the different results! Don't let difficulties be an excuse to run away from yourself!

Learn to draw conclusions based on objective evidence, not hidden subconscious struggles! Ask me what clear facts have you drawn to your conclusions? If there is no objective basis, it is to follow the feelings! It's not a rational Zheng Chen's choice!

This is the 51st sharing of Deyi.

Author丨Deone.

**丨Deyiersheng (ID: deyiersheng).

Some time ago, I encountered a small incident and felt very deeply.

She is Yaoguang" This friend expressed her own opinion, which may be biased and debatable.

If we can judge and analyze with critical thinking, such information or opinions are often exercises to exercise our thinking.

As long as we don't tear up or raise the bar, we can disassemble her views, arguments, reasons, etc., find what is wrong with her, and improve each other.

But "tmjane" dropped off the group after dropping off a sentence.

Of course, I'm not denying that he did this, but I just think it's a bit of a pity.

Because a person can effectively explore a variety of different perspectives and different possibilities, he can supplement his blind spots in thinking, clear his own obstacles, and achieve rapid evolution.

This is called extreme open-mindedness.

The first time I saw this concept was in the book "Principles", in which the author Leo made it a principle of his life to pursue extreme open-mindedness.

We also often call it humility, goodness, learning from others, and so on.

What's the flip side of this? Closed-mindedness.

This kind of person is completely unable to listen to different opinions and opinions, and is very stubborn, and we also call this method self-righteous and stubborn.

People with a closed mind are destined to suffer a lot:

You turn a blind eye when others show you all sorts of wonderful possibilities and terrible threats; You also don't grasp when others make criticisms that could be constructive or even life-saving.

So, what's the difference between a closed-minded person and an open-minded person? In other words, how to distinguish in ordinary times?

There is a saying, I agree:

Although I disagree with you, I defend to the death your right to speak, and the value of your views.

Therefore, regardless of whether the other party's point of view is right or wrong, praise or disagree, don't rush to make a conclusion and deny others.

Try to think analytically: if it is the correct view or method that conforms to the facts, we have added the blind spots of thinking; If it's a fallacy or false information, wouldn't it be nice for us to use it as a mind-training exercise?

Okay friends, that's all for today, I hope it can help you!

I'm one to know, we'll see you in the next book!