Is it to dissolve into the collective or into the collective?

Hello, wow, I'm also Yang Bo's, preparing for Class 3 No. 24!

I don't want to divide it, just come and meet me!

There are different definitions of the collective and the individual, and if we assume that the collective is compared to a "large group" and the individual to a "small group", then the two "groups" are viewed separately and if handled properly, the two will blend into each other. Otherwise, we can see a different outcome.

What is "personal", we will think? What does it stand for? Is this general term of "individual" good or bad?

As the name suggests, the individual is part of the group, which means that no matter what you do, it will be a matter of glory or shame to the group. Regardless of your opinion on "something", it only represents your personal thoughts and opinions.

Relatively speaking, "collective" is easier to understand its meaning, it represents not one, but a group. In the words of the book: "It is an organized whole made up of many people".

In this group, it is not only the glory of the individual that is important, because it is also about the collective. The honor of any "individual" belongs to all those in the group. We must also have a sense of teamwork, and only in this way can we win glory for the collective.

Let's take a company, for example! In this big collective, every employee must do their own work well in order to make the collective do better. But some people are not satisfied with the status quo at all.

He will slowly become a "small group". In this case, the company will become torn apart, so what to do? Individual greed and dissatisfaction will directly affect the collective.

If we think more about the honor of the collective, we can integrate the individual into the collective, and we will not regret it in the future.

In the same class, everyone has their own position, whether it is an ordinary member or a class cadre, they all have their own responsibilities to complete. Everyone has to do their part. In this way, the group will become orderly, and everyone will be happy even though they are busy!

If someone takes your place and you really want to do it, then you have to think about why your classmates chose him instead of me. Why did the teacher trust him too, and was there something wrong with it? If you think of it, you have to correct it in time.

If you don't think about it, you can ask your teachers and classmates for advice, so that you can make progress!

The relationship between the individual and the collective is interdependent, and under the collective, the role of the individual is insignificant. How you deal with each other's relationships depends on how you deal with them! 700 hope it helps!

The key is the difference between the word dissolution and melting, dissolution refers to the dissolution of something in another thing, focusing on depth, and generally refers to things, such as chemical: dissolution; And harmony generally refers to people, such as harmonious relationships.

To be part of a group is to join a group.

I don't think I can fit into the collective, and I don't need to change myself to fit in. Many people say that they become "lonely and brave" when they enter university, and this phenomenon is very common, and it is common to see lonely classmates in school, and some students reluctantly integrate into the group in order to fit in. So should we integrate into the collective at the end of the rent?

Stick to yourself and don't try to be someone else

I gave up a lot of principles and did a lot of stupid things in order to fit in, and I ended up making myself unrecognizable. Therefore, people who don't care much about integrating into the group and being able to live well alone don't need to spend their efforts. It took me a long time to realize that I had seen similar quotes at the time, but I didn't believe it.

But all this experience has also changed a lot of my perspective on the world. No experience is a blanket denial. So now I don't regret that I was so stupid at the beginning, the key is that regret is useless, and the detours that can be avoided still have to be avoided.

Now I think the most important thing for a person is to have self-care and talk about their goals, their dreams, a dream that you will enjoy and be willing to suffer as much as you want. Do the rest, if you want. Just like now, I don't know if the person I like will care if I can't fit into the group, and I've thought about it for a long time and want to confess.

I wanted to change for him, so I came here. As a result, there is still no answer. The answer to life is always to be found for yourself.

Learn to be alone with high quality

Here are a few ways to be on a high quality sole:

Learn to cook.

In fact, cooking is really a very good thing, so eating enough is also a very happy thing. You can treat anything badly, but you must not treat your stomach badly. And it's also very rewarding when you make your own meal.

Practice calligraphy. I often buy some brush calligraphy fountain pen notebook back to practice, the first can effectively widen the mess to improve their own words to become good-looking, so that people are beautiful and beautiful. In fact, it is more important to practice the mentality, and when writing, I am really relaxing and focusing on this word.

Beware of arrogance and rashness, and there is no harm in all benefits.

Fitness. Fitness can release unhappy emotions, and when we are sweating like rain, the tiredness of the day will disappear. It can also allow you to gain self-discipline and self-confidence, and when you get in shape, self-confidence will come naturally.

Everyone also knows that fitness people are very self-disciplined in terms of time and diet, and in this social environment where you pay attention to doing things efficiently, it is very good for you to develop the habit of self-discipline.

Study. In this impetuous technological society, reading more books can precipitate ourselves, reading books can broaden our horizons, broaden our pattern, and enhance the capital of talking with people.

Conclusion: If you can't integrate into the collective, you must learn to be alone with high quality, may you find a better self when you are alone, become a better self, embrace a better future, and be your own sun without the help of anyone's light.

According to the different personalities of different people, it can be divided into the following four treatment methods:

1.Think first about why I want to fit into the collective, not why the collective wants to fit into me.

It shows that most people are not like-minded with you, so you can keep the same strong heart and insist on being yourself like my friend. In this case, I think there is no need to change yourself in order to integrate into the collective, and I am not a type of person, so why bother to integrate.

2.Think about the difference between me and the collective.

There is a saying that if someone hates you, it may be that person's problem, and if it is a thousand people who hate you, it may be your problem. If you can't melt in.

One or two collectives, it may be that the circle is not right. On the other hand, if it's a hundred collectives, you can't fit in. At this time, I need to reflect on the difference between me and the collective, whether it is what you do, which every collective hates.

This is the time to look up to the collective and change yourself. Don't be someone everyone likes, but don't be someone everyone hates.

3.He has a strong heart and never cares what others think of him.

Of course, I think there are very few such people in today's society (many people guess that even if Liang says that he wants to be a person who is not afraid of the eyes of others, his heart is not so high, but there are still such people) They only have themselves in their eyes, so even if they exist, they will not ask the question of whether they should integrate into the collective and change themselves.

4.If the group is really not suitable, then change it, there is no need to change yourself by catering to the circle you don't like.

If you don't fit in and can't fit in with each group, you have to find the reason from yourself.

I know there must be people who are going to say why it is important to be part of the collective. I guess it's because you don't have a strong psyche, so if you have it, you don't have to fit in. However, people in today's society are still inseparable from collective existence.

In this regard, I have the following suggestions:

Don't deliberately change what you don't want to be in order to fit into the group. Make yourself who you should be or want to be. People are divided into groups, and there will always be a circle of friends that belongs to you and is suitable for you.

Don't be afraid of failure and embarrassment, be generous.

Make yourself interesting, find common topics, and it will be easier to integrate into the group.

Hide your loss, even when you are alone, you have to be confident, after all, students don't want to get along with people who twist and turn, don't care too much, as long as you really change, there will be something you should have.

Regain your confidence, don't put too much pressure on yourself, do what you need to do well, study hard, be optimistic, and you will always meet a group of like-minded friends.

Lonely, isolated, no topic to ......Is it really because of our own? Do we want to change ourselves in order to fit into a circle that doesn't belong to us?

A fair answer:People should choose the collective that suits them, and when facing the collective that they can't choose and don't like, they should stick to what is right, change what is wrong, and disguise themselves appropriately, but don't try to fit into it!

I've had that experience,I've changed, and I've not changed.

Seeing people going to eat, go to class, play in groups, and you can only be alone; I saw them intimately calling each other's nicknames, and just calling you by name; I saw them eating a celebrity's melon together in the dormitory, and you couldn't interject; I saw myself asking a question in the dormitory, but it was quiet, and no one ......

Sometimes I wonder myself more than once, am I really wrong? Do I really have to change myself to fit into their collective?

Later, I confided in my friends and found the reason why I couldn't get in: I don't pay much attention to Douyin and Weibo hotspots. My friend told me that whether you want to join the group or not, hot news is something you must pay attention to!

I followed. It was the first time I had a common topic with them in the dormitory, and it was an amazing feeling.

I was wrong, I will correct it, and I will be rewarded. But there is no need to change what you are right!

Like the one mentioned earlier, they are the kind of people who do everything together, and I am used to going alone, although sometimes I will be envious, but that is only envy.

Actually, I also tried to blend in with them and do everything together. Later,What was supposed to be a 20-minute lunch became 1 hour, the time spent studying became entertainment, and the time spent going to the library became wandering around campus……I regretted it, I regretted that I had to fit into their circle, I felt that I couldn't go on like this, I wanted to go back to my old life, so I decisively rejected them.

But then I learned that loneliness is a compulsory subject in college, a compulsory course in life. The road to success is to be walked out by yourself, walk alone, go faster, a group of people, go longer. Your current collective is not your creative team, there is no need to go to a group of people, the current learning is about efficiency!

If the future is really your creative team, you don't need to change yourself, the team wants innovation, ideas, and seeking common ground while reserving differences, if everyone caters to one person, then the team will not go too far.

Everyone is lonely before success, you can't always rely on others, no one will accompany you for a lifetime, you have to choose yourself sooner or later.

The world should be like this, I am a firework and I don't know it, I'm just me, different fireworks, and I haven't done anything wrong, so why force myself?

The right ones are insisted on, the wrong ones are changed, and the rest, we don't have to force it。Whoever leaves the earth will turn, and no one can live without it!

In this chaotic world, the original intention remains the same, it is the most rare to maintain personality, people live for a lifetime, live for themselves, don't accept the life they are not good at for the sake of irrelevant people!

1. Because of rapid integration into the collective and good cooperation, it often contributes to the success of the cause. Through cooperative learning, it helps us to obtain more information, make up for the lack of personal knowledge, improve problem-solving ability, help us integrate into the collective, form a positive personality and psychological quality, and is conducive to our healthy growth.

2. A person who lacks a sense of integration, no matter at work, will have a huge sense of loss, and it is easy to lose himself and be outside the team. Soon, you no longer care about the interests of the team, you have no interest in your colleagues, and in turn you will be "treated" accordingly. It won't be long before you're squeezed out of the inner circle of your team.

3. Rapid integration into the collective is a problem that many newcomers will ignore, in fact, this is a very important ability, which examines a person's adaptability.

A collective is a union formed by people in order to achieve a certain goal that is approved by society; The voluntary nature of such associations must not be understood as the spontaneity of collective formation, since groups are not determined solely by external circumstances;

For the individuals participating in the group, the group has become a relationship system that is actively established on the basis of common activities; The most important characteristic of the collective is its integrity, which is manifested in the fact that it is always a certain system of activity, with its own organization, division of functions, and a certain leadership and management structure;

Collective is a special form of mutual relations between members, which ensures the development of members' individuality, and the development of members' personality and the development of the collective are coordinated and do not contradict each other, that is, the development of personality develops with the development of the collective.