Parents overrun education makes children rebel and rebel

Put down the parents' shelves and learn to be friends with your children. In the rebellious period of children's youth, parents do not pay attention to their own attitudes, words and deeds, and it is easy to stand on the opposite side of each other. Therefore, to educate and guide children, we must first cultivate a sense of closeness, first adjust ourselves, change our thinking, try to be friends first with the mentality of friends, and give children a minimum of respect for their personality.

Yes, parents are too strict in educating their children, which will cause them to have a sense of disgust, and children will not like to study and not like everything that parents say.

Due to the good family environment now, parents are easy to overspoil their children and meet their children's requirements without a bottom line.

Parents' over-discipline of their children will make children have a rebellious mentality, since they don't let me do anything, then I will do everything, this kind of thinking is more obvious in the child's adolescent stage.

This kind of education method of parents will indeed make children rebellious and rebellious, because this kind of education method is wrong and will make children's psychology distorted.

One of the situations that many parents will have is that they desperately want their children to improve in their learning, which leads to.

Parents exert all kinds of academic pressure on their children from an early age. Often report to the child something that should not be learned at his age, so that the child will feel disgusted and resistant, and there will be the effect of pulling out the seedlings to help them grow.

Many times children will have some "quirks", but they will be controlled by parents, thinking that these are some bad behaviors, but often some of the children's high IQ realization is hidden in these "quirks", but many times they will be subconsciously stifled by parents.

Like some great scientists, they also have many quirks.

Many times children also have some "quirks", which are signs of high intelligence.

Often in a daze. Attracted to other things.

In many cases, parents can often find that their children are particularly attracted to new things, and can always stand there to see this thing, as long as they are not disturbed by others, they will enter a state of self-forgetfulness. At this time, the child is exercising his observation ability, looking at the things in front of him, the brain will run rapidly, and the brain will play to the extreme. At this time, as long as the parents do not disturb the child, all kinds of wonderful ideas will arise in his brain.

This can develop children's concentration and observation skills.

What do parents need to do to be clear and motivate their children's high IQ?

Give your child plenty of encouragement.

When a child is particularly interested in something, parents should give their children some encouragement and support to stimulate their curiosity. With the encouragement of parents, children will have a strong motivation and self-confidence in their hearts, and they will have the courage to try some things, think about how to do it better, and improve their thinking ability. Even if you fail, you will not be discouraged, but will have the courage to try again.

Blindly let the child learn something that he is not suitable for, but will destroy some of his talents, parents want to cultivate a high IQ child, must give him encouragement and support, some of his behaviors to understand, so that the child can continue to improve.

If you find that your child has inappropriate words and deeds, you should first not blindly prohibit them, but first understand the reasons behind the behavior, understand and accept the child's behavior, and then help and guide the child to change the inappropriate words and deeds.

Smart parents are good at listening to their children's ideas, and will not blindly deny, but guide and suggest, which is to guide rather than restrict.

Smart parents will let their children say whatever they want. Think about what you shouldn't say or not. Let your child learn to measure for himself.

The rebellious psychology of rebellious children is very serious, soDon't work against anyone, but don't be too obedient to your children, onlyTeach slowly and communicate patientlyAt the same time, do not make the child feel uncomfortable in terms of language, such as:

1. Condescending

Parents always think that they have crossed more bridges than their children have walked, despise their children, always think that they are right, and dominate their children. This kind of "high-minded" discipline is difficult for children to be convinced. Especially when criticizing children's mistakes, this condescending rebuke from parents makes children feel unequal and difficult to balance.

The result of "oral dissatisfaction" can only be half the effort.

For example, children are often told, "If you do this, you will be beaten", "If you don't listen, you will listen", etc. ”

2. Sneering

Child psychologists have found that parents' "cynicism" is very harmful to children, especially young children. At the age of the child, it is difficult to understand the hidden meaning in the parent's words, which creates confusion. Therefore, whether it is praise or criticism, parents should not be "cynical" or "pun", but try to communicate with their children so that they can clearly know what their problems are.

For example: "Do you think you're capable?" ”

3. Absolute negation

Everything must be done in moderation, and the same is true for criticism and education. It is true that children should be criticized when they make mistakes, but if parents say "never", it is easy to arouse children's rebellious psychology and make children lose confidence. A child's self-confidence is important, and if it is lost, it can affect him or her for the rest of his life.

For example, parents should avoid saying things like: "You've never had a good meal", "You've always lied", etc.

4. Exaggeration

As children get older, their understanding will also improve, and they will know the truth and falsehood of their parents' words, and they will have the ability to judge what is right and wrong. At this time, as parents, we should pay more attention to the truth in our words. Words that are "exaggerated" and "inconsistent from what is on the outside" can easily be transmitted to children and affect their future development.

Words of praise for children should be based on the actual situation. Excessive exaggeration can make children more likely to suffer setbacks later in social life and not get used to listening to criticism.

For example: taboo language, "You are the most handsome boy in the world", etc.

5. Personal attacks

No matter how simple and stupid a child is, he can distinguish between good words and bad words. "Bad words" with personal attacks can hurt a lot once the child listens to them. Children with poor psychological quality are likely to give up on themselves as a result.

For example, parents should avoid saying anything that contains personal attacks, such as "You're stupid as a donkey".

6. Threats and intimidation

This is the same as "exaggeration". Threats and intimidation only keep children away from their parents and alienate them from their children's otherwise intimate relationships.

For example: "If you don't behave, you will be fed to the wolves" and so on.

7. Cold as ice

Children are eager for warmth and afraid of loneliness. Cold language makes children unable to feel love, and children do not feel the care and love from their parents, which can easily cause autism and loneliness.

For example, don't say things like "Don't you see I'm busy" or "I'm busy, don't bother me."

Rebellion is also divided into different cases of pure grinding.

1. Showing serious rebellion against specific content requested by parents.

This situation is often caused by the lack of good communication between parents and children within a certain period of time, and they do not know enough about their children. Often because of preconceived thoughts, not listening carefully habits, etc., resulting in too high requirements for children or deviate from children's interests and hobbies, so as to cause children's emotional disgust and resistance, this can often achieve better results by learning good communication skills, asking parents to stand and sincere communication.

2. Disapproval and denial of parents.

This situation is more troublesome, if the child has been psychologically very disapproving of the parent, often the parent's request or help is often denied by the child even if it is valuable or correct, this situation often needs to be approved by the other party through efforts (if necessary, with the help and advice of a psychologist), and then further communication.