How parents educate their rebellious children

Clause. 1. Communicate more with children, understand their problems, and solve them in a timely manner;

Second, we should give children the opportunity to show themselves and satisfy their vanity.

Third, we should look at children with an appreciative eye, praise and encourage them more, so that they have a certain sense of achievement, do not scold, scold and complain, but praise and encourage them more.

Fourth, it is necessary to avoid hurting their self-esteem, and not to criticize and blame them with serious language, and to carry out verbal attacks.

Fifth, take care of your children and spend more time with them.

It is important for parents to communicate with their children during this period, and to do so:

1. The "rebellious period" is the performance of the child's growth and learning, and parents must not use the mentality of "boiling", so they should actively participate in helping and guiding the child, so that the child can learn more and grow faster at this stage.

2. Children don't know whether those things are right or wrong, they will try, parents should help children establish a correct understanding of the concept of "me", "my" things "I" have the right to decide, "my" things "I" do by themselves; "I" have the right to make a request, but it may not be possible. Clarify the code of conduct in life, and the norms must be followed, regardless of conditions.

3. Understand the reasons and motivations of children's rebellious behavior, in order to understand the needs of children, parents can not fake others, only pay attention to observation, learn more about children's education, and communicate more with children. Parents should fully understand the child's requirements for trying on their own and performing independently, and try to create as many conditions as possible so that the child's requirements can be appropriately or fully met.

4. The problem of principle does not give way, and the children in the rebellious period constantly challenge the rules on the one hand, and constantly pursue the rules on the other hand. Parents should be cautious and scientific when formulating rules, and once the rules are formulated, they must abide by them.

5. The child's negative emotions are treated calmly and patiently, and when the child is emotional, do not reason with the child. Help your child figure out why he is crying, what kind of emotion it is, sadness or anger. Envy or show sympathy and understanding to the child, and when the child is emotionally calm, come up with new ways to divert attention.

6. In any case, parents should not beat and scold their children, and countering violence with violence will only be counterproductive. Don't threaten your child with words, and don't compare your child to other people.

Since I was a child, I was someone else's child: a good student in the eyes of my teachers and a good child in the eyes of my parents. My parents also have complete trust in me, so they are very supportive of any ideas I have when I decide.

So, there is hardly anything rebellious in my life. So, let's talk about one of the most impulsive experiences of my life. One of the most impulsive experiences in my life was when I was filling in the college entrance examination.

Since I was a child, my dream was to become a doctor in Western China. After the college entrance examination is completed and the score is completed, after filling in the volunteers, consult the teacher's advice. The head teacher of Banpifu thought that it was difficult for me to get into my ideal school and major, and I estimated that I would need to repeat my studies, and it was very difficult for girls, especially for me, to study clinical medicine.

After listening to this, I was very apprehensive, but I still reported to volunteer. After volunteering, I consulted with another senior teacher two days later. She also has the same opinion, and mentioned that the food profession will definitely be good in the future.

So, I wavered and went to the Education Bureau to take back the volunteer form that had been submitted and fill it out again. So, I chose a school with a top ranking in food majors to apply for the exam, and randomly filled in a second major. At the time, I didn't even know the city where the school was located.

Later, I was successfully admitted to the school I applied for, which was more than 150 points higher than the admission score of the school, and that year was the highest admission line of the school, and the score of Sichuan University, which I originally wanted to apply, was the lowest in the past. Unfortunately, I was not able to learn the first major I applied for, and I was admitted to the second major. Faced with the result of burning and being prepared, I was a collapsed Ole in my heart at that time, and I was very annoyed and entangled.

I regret my impulsiveness, I regret that I gave up my childhood dream so easily. I wonder if I want to repeat it. But I didn't repeat it, and I chose to make a mistake.

Therefore, I was not happy in the first few years of undergrad, and I wanted to go back to repeat my studies many times in the first semester of my freshman year, but I still tried to persevere in my studies, and my grades were not bad. Later, graduate school was also an undergraduate major, and finding a job was also related to the major. Now it seems that this major is also good, the employment prospects are much better than the food major, and at the same time it is also very interesting.

Now that I've grown up, I look back and think that if I really studied medicine, I might not be able to afford it. Maybe this is the wonderful arrangement of life, not everything will come according to plan, but as long as you always remember to live hard in the moment, there will be beauty and happiness. An impulse that changed the trajectory of life.

The child is rebellious, parents should not rush to teach the child, but try to learn to communicate and understand his inner thoughts.

It is normal for children to be rebellious, and parents do not need to be too anxious and worried, because adolescent children will go through such a process and stage, so what should parents do when their children reach the rebellious period?

1.Communicate with your child. In the face of rebellious children, parents should not lose their temper with their children, that will not solve any problems, but will exacerbate the contradictions, the best way is to communicate reasonably, understand the true thoughts of the child's heart, know the child's emotional condition, can be appropriately accommodated, but the principle of the issue can not be compromised.

2.Consider your child's recommendations. Parents should not make their own decisions about everything, but also ask for their children's opinions when they encounter problems, after all, children are also members of the family, and they also have the right to speak, so they need to let children fully express their views and opinions, and discuss or study what to do together.

3.Be more understanding of your child. Although the rebellious period of children is a bit extreme, but it is also understandable, everyone has experienced the rebellious period, children in the rebellious period need parents to guide, know how to get along with each other, in order to be able to get along with each other more harmoniously, harmonious.

4.Examples speak louder than words. Some rebellious children are useless to just preach, they understand the truth, but they just like to work against others, and there is a rebellious mentality, so at this time, parents should teach their children how to do it, so that children can put themselves in the shoes of what they have done wrong and need to be corrected.

5.Teach children to be calm. Parents are also emotional, sometimes easy to be rebellious childish anger, this time is not suitable to educate children, to wait until they calm down before managing the children, and then find children to talk to their hearts, with reason to persuade their children, let them realize their mistakes.

6.Give your child some freedom. Parents should not arrange everything for their children, so that children will lose their ability to take care of themselves, will not be independent too early, and even make children feel dependent.

If you let your child feel constrained, they will be more rebellious.

7.Parents should be tolerant. In the face of children making mistakes in the rebellious period, although parents should also educate, but in a proper way, they should not hit their children every time, they should be guided correctly, and children will correct when they realize that they are wrong.

8.Be kind to your children. Children in the rebellious period will also need care, even if the child does not say it, but the heart also needs warmth, if the child can feel the love of his parents, the family relationship will become better.

In the face of their children's rebellion, parents should use the educational methods

First of all, we should respect the personality of children, treat them as individuals, and ask for their opinions in a timely manner. Children who are in adolescence, their self-awareness is constantly developing, they have their own ideas about many things, and they also hope that their ideas will be recognized and approved by their parents, so when the child is in adolescence, parents must not ignore their children's ideas, and seek their opinions in a timely manner, which will not only not exacerbate family conflicts, but will also make family relations more harmonious, so that children are willing to disclose their hearts to parents.

When children are in the critical stage of rebellion and like to work against their parents, parents need to maintain a calm attitude, communicate with their children in a calm tone, follow the children's train of thought to understand why they are doing this, and do not stop the child's wrong behavior as soon as they see it. In fact, when parents are close enough to their children, and then point out their children's incorrect behavior as friends, it is more useful than reasoning.

Parents should be patient

At this time, parents need to have enough patience to educate their children, because the children's sense of independence is increasing, they like to do things in their own way, and they also like to express their thoughts in their own way, so parents should try to understand some incomprehensible behaviors that their children do. Of course, this does not mean that children should be indulged and allowed to develop freely, but that the right guidance should be given at the right time to avoid more detours.

The author concludes:

Every child goes through adolescence, which is also one of the most troublesome times for parents, if parents use the right way to educate their children at this time, it will make the children thrive under their own protection, and it will also prevent them from going astray, and parents must use the right education methods to do this.

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Parents should listen to their children's ideas more, communicate more with their children, don't beat and scold their children, and children also have self-esteem.

Children should be taught to listen to their parents, and children should also be taught to learn to respect, and children should also be taught to be considerate of their parents in order to be able to deal with their children's rebellion.

I think parents should first face up to it, and then analyze the reasons for their children's rebellion, and at the same time be able to adopt effective strategies.

Introduction: Some parents will feel that their children are still difficult to educate, especially in special periods, they will be particularly rebellious and will not listen to anything. So how should parents deal with their children's rebellion? What are some good ways to do this?

First of all, every child does not always listen to their parents, and there are always some children who will talk back to their parents. Therefore, parents should get used to not feeling that their authority has been lost as soon as their children talk back, and they feel very angry. Moreover, if the child is rebellious and unwilling to obey, the parents should not ignore it.

If left unchecked, the child will get worse and worse in the process. Therefore, when parents educate rebellious children, they must first adjust their mentality, be calm, and there is no need to get angry at any time. The second is to establish a communication channel and talk to the child, for example, when you want to give orders to the child or want to guide the child.

First use communication to talk to your child about your thoughts, so that your child can express your thoughts. In this way, the child will not have time to rebel, but will be willing to communicate with his parents, and in the end he can reach a plan that is satisfactory to both parties. In this process, the child will slowly learn to use the way of communication, rather than the way of rebellion, because rebellion is the most ineffective way of communication, which is not a beneficial method for the parent-child relationship and the achievement of events.

In fact, sometimes children rebel because they feel that their ideas or breakups are not respected. Children want to develop in a broader space, but find that their parents are always hindering themselves, so parents should properly respect their children's growth needs. In such a situation, the child will be able to improve more and more, and it will also reduce the child's rebellious situation.

The real growth needs are to give the child appropriate space to support some of the child's ideas, so that the child can let go of it, and give the child appropriate advice in the process, so that the child can bravely face the wind and waves in later life.

Parents should be receptive. No matter how rebellious the child is, this is a growth stage that he must go through, and parents should be psychologically prepared, accept this matter in their hearts, and regard it as a process of the child's gradual maturity. In the process of educating children, when we think that children are in such a sensitive and special rebellious period.

When educating a rebellious child, you need to be empathetic, and you should educate through oral education, the way is to tell the child a story, and then let the child make changes, telling him that he should listen to his parents at this time.

Parents must learn to encourage their children, they must let their children recognize, parents must learn to empathize, they must listen more, and they must express their opinions after hearing their children's expressions.