Tell us about what you have managed to change your parents perspectives.

They have always thought that playing with their mobile phones is unenterprising. Until one day I installed wifi in my home. Now they play with their phones at home every day.

In the fourth- and fifth-tier small cities in my hometown, my mother never looks at traffic lights when crossing the street! It's useless to explain, until one day in a fit of anger you said that you were hit and killed by crossing a red light, and no one had to lose money! Since then, it's all the green light!

Success made them agree that "Dink is very good, and he is very free not to marry". I first told my parents that I didn't want to find a boyfriend and that I didn't want to get married, and I said that for a long time. When my parents really started to worry about my celibacy, I told them I wanted to dink.

At this time, my parents were already relieved. Dink accepts the first stage of success. Then, take advantage of the opportunity to have a deep chat with your parents.

At this time, you can tell them about your understanding of life, life, and Dink. In fact, most parents just want their children to live happily and comfortably. So tell them that I'm happy if Dink, and release that impression to them from time to time.

There are also things that parents regret to take advantage of. Being a parent will definitely give up some freedoms and dreams, and it is easy to shake their hearts when talking about them.

My brother's children have been brought up by their parents since they were young, and they are taught in the same way as when we were children. My brother and I gave advice, but my parents didn't listen. So the smart and lovely nephew was just like our brothers, silent, did not like to express himself, did not dare to talk to strangers, and did not dare to put forward his own opinions.

When I had a child, my husband and I tried our best to take care of the child as much as possible. He loves to talk and laugh, the sun is shining, and every time he goes home, he shushes his grandmother and asks for warmth, which makes his grandmother happy every time. She often looks at her two grandsons who look almost identical.

So, my mother would inadvertently tell us that it seemed that there was something wrong with their education methods. I'm not saying that we educate our children perfectly, we just want them to enjoy their childhood to the fullest.

I wanted to hit me at night, but it was changed to the afternoon.

My parents used to think that mobile phones could be used to send ** text messages, until I bought my mom a 5s in the first month of payroll, and then my mom began to struggle with 6s or 6s plus when she changed her mobile phone.

No money? Come to Dad, there are still 60,000 you can take to flowers... This last sentence deeply stung my self-esteem When I found out that my salary was 2000 lower than my grandfather's pension, I looked at my newborn Xiaobao's face and submitted my resignation, came out to mix it up, and got home with real gold ** It was much better.

Instead of being fooled by some machines to hate this and despise that, it's more important to live your life in peace - it's especially good to send them to a country they don't like to have a good time......

My dad often compares me with other people's children, often saying that I can't do this or that, and at the same time saying how good other people's families are. Once I said to my dad seriously: Dad, you often compare me with other people's children, but I never compare you with other people's fathers.

Since then, my dad has never compared me to other children.

My mother's original words were "It's better to see the scenery than to listen to the scenery, and it's better to listen to the scenery than to live in peace", after planning the route, reporting to the travel agency and taking them to travel a few times, she already wants to go out to play at the first opportunity and the level of photography completely surpasses me.

Ever since I was a child, I've been told, "Don't play games all day, can't you read more books when you have time?" "It wasn't until I won the championship in the go-kart area that my dad took his son to dinner just so that I could teach his son to play Dota, until I was admitted to Shanghai University and could make money from games to support myself...

Everyone has a day to become a parent, and I am also one of them at the age of 37, and I have summarized the changes after becoming a parent, and there are three points, which are that I work harder, I am more filial to my parents, and I have less socializing in the drinking field.

With a child, the expenses in all aspects of life have at least doubled, or even more, starting with the child's milk powder money, diaper costs, various examination expenses to the hospital (the cost of examination of children and wives), and the wife's soup (at least two dishes and one soup every day). At the age when the child reaches school, the cost of kindergarten is also a large sum, although primary school to junior high school can be free of tuition, but there are still a lot of miscellaneous expenses, and the child grows up, the quality of the clothes is high, and the clothing will also spend a lot.

Therefore, if you don't work harder, life will be very difficult, and for me in an ordinary family or people like us, working harder is inevitable. Before having children, you may be able to live a chic life with a job, but after having children, you still need to think of various ways to make money, and sometimes you will go to work as a substitute driver at night.

Before I got married, I basically lived a chic life every day, and every time I saw some parents complaining about the tireness of taking care of their children, there was nothing in my heart, and sometimes I felt that I was not so tired with my children. Now it's my turn, and I found out that it is really not easy to raise a child, and I really understand the meaning of "a handful of and a handful of urine", not to mention that my parents also raised three, so what kind of tiredness it has to become.

Seeing my parents getting old, I always feel bad in my heart, thinking back to the hard days of the past, I need to be filial to them.

Every day when I go home, I see my wife busy at home, a person has to take care of two children, from the time I get home from work, I have to cook, wash clothes, and bathe the children, and I am always unhappy in my heart, so I go home after work every day, do all kinds of housework with my wife, and then accompany my wife and children to eat dinner and watch TV, and be happy every day, it is better than drinking outside and my wife is tired and tired at home.

If a person does not get married and has no children, he will never be able to experience the hard work of being a parent, only after becoming a parent, you will find that your responsibility has become greater, and you need to be responsible for your wife, children and parents.

After becoming a parent, my life has changed dramatically, and my parents, my marriage, and my economy have changed. It's like changing a way of life, re-adapting to a new life, and feeling a different life.

1.Be more understanding and respectful of your parents

Before getting married and having children, I occasionally talked back to my parents, and my parents felt that whatever they did was good for them. However, after having their own children, they can truly understand the difficulties of their parents, and gradually become more and more understanding of them, know how to take care of their parents, and respect the willingness of the elderly.

2.Learned to save money and work harder

When there are two people, there is no extra expense to earn a little and spend a little. Now that children are growing up, they need enough economic foundation for life and study, and the elderly are also slowly getting older, which is the time when they are old and young. If you don't have enough economic foundation, you have to save some unnecessary expenses from your own side, and at the same time work harder to meet the normal life of the family.

3.Manage the marriage of two people well and want children

To have a good growth environment, the most important thing is to manage the relationship between two people first. Mom and dad love each other in order to let the child feel the warmth of home, and the love and attention of dad and mom to the child are different, both of them should accompany the child, so that he can grow up healthy and happy.

After becoming parents, there should be some changes, but more or less, let us accept different selves, live well, and work hard to live.

After becoming a parent, I have changed more about money, more responsible, and more compassionate.

Because after becoming a parent, all kinds of expenses continue, children's milk powder money, children's kindergarten tuition, are a lot of expenses, so that I can't make too much money I feel a lot of pressure, every day is either at work or at home to take care of the child, there is no other thing I want to do, every day I want to make more money to buy better milk powder and nutrition for my child.

After having a child, watching him grow up every day, I feel that the burden on my body is very heavy, at least I think about what other children have, and I also want to give it to my own child, so I have been working hard.

Being a father is not simple :

As the child gets older and older, he feels more and more that it is not easy to be a father, not only to make money to let him go to school, but also to educate him, after all, the child will grow up to be a parent, for fear that he will become an unqualified parent.

After a few years of accompanying the child, I slowly found myself more and more vulnerable, and I wanted to help when I saw the poor person, and my compassion became heavier and heavier.

Probably because I didn't grow up with my parents since I was a child, when I was young, I didn't feel the subtlety of intimacy with my parents, and I didn't like to be coquettish in front of them.

Therefore, from childhood to adulthood, the time spent by my parents' side can be counted on my fingers in months.

My father has always been very strict in my eyes, and when I was a student, he was especially urgent in my studies. Every morning I was forced to get up at 5:30 to read in the morning and to do my homework in my room by 7 p.m.

Morning memorization, he says, helps with memory. When I was a teenager, I was in the rebellious period of adolescence, and my parents wanted me to do it, but I didn't do it!

I want them to know that I am a person with ideas and souls, and not a puppet who does whatever they tell them to do.

Every time I came home, my father asked me to read early, and I slept until dawn. After I resisted like this again and again, not only did my father not give in, but my grandson intensified. I set the alarm clock at half past five and got up to the door of my room, knocked on my door so hard that I couldn't sleep, I had no choice but to get up early.

took a chair with a backrest, picked up a history book that can hypnotize people at a glance and went to the top of the third floor, Ge You lay on the chair, opened the first lesson of the history book, closed his eyes and recuperated!

Therefore, when I was young and frivolous and went against my parents, I finally delayed my studies and my grades plummeted. I thought that this would teach my family a lesson, and they would not target me everywhere and control me.

Later, I graduated and worked. Mom and Dad suddenly stopped caring about me, and Dad said, "You're growing up, we're getting old, and a lot of times you have to rely on yourself to weigh the pros and cons of things."

I felt like I was lost, as if I had been removed from something indispensable from my life, uncomfortable, unable to speak.

I always thought that my father and mother were still young and still had the energy to play the game of "fighting wits" with me, and I firmly believed that if I continued to play, I would be the winner.

Who would have thought that they would suddenly stop playing with me and quit the game I had worked so hard to plan.

Before I could get complacent, they quit the game, leaving me unprepared, and time was forcing me to accept that they weren't as energetic as they used to be.

Your parents don't change their minds, it may be that they can't accept the reality. They don't dare, and they can't believe that you are being bullied, no matter why they do it, and this attitude is very hurtful.

Now that you are independent and assertive, you learn to protect yourself and not depend on anyone. In addition, the difference in type defeat is similar in school and society, and the strength of people is the last word. You're an adult, you're in college, and you're learning to understand yourself and protect yourself.

Your parents may be cowardly, but you can rise above them and learn to fight for your rights.

There is no reason why your parents are not as powerful, dignified and able to protect you as you hope, and this is your situation and your life. You can accept the reality of Qingyou and then do what you can, or you can be indignant and entangled and never let go.

Choose for yourself, the past is not something you can control, you can choose for yourself in the future. After all, you are an adult, and you are going to live your own life in the future.

As for your brother, you can't control it, but the good thing is that you can talk to your parents and try to protect your brother. Even if you don't have a strong protector, your brother has an older brother.

When a child enters puberty, if he rebels, parents must make 5 major changes in time, and the last one is very important

1.Change your attitude towards your children, tell your children less about the big truths, before the children were small, what you say is what you say, now that you have grown up, you say a word, he will say two words, and the oil and salt will not enter. Bu Konghong: So parents, to make changes from the depths of their hearts, really treat their children as friends, mutual trust is the most important foundation.

2.We need to accept a contradictory child because he has two contradictory psychological demands, he wants to enjoy the care of his parents as a child, and he wants to enjoy the respect of others as an adult. We should respect Him in thought, nurture Him emotionally, and guide Him in behavior.

3.Change the criteria for evaluating your child.

Adolescent children like celebrities, **, hairstyles, shoes, who hasn't had their youth? More understanding and tolerance is more beneficial to children's physical and mental health.

4.Change the content of what we talk to our children, as parents nine out of ten sentences are learning, everywhere is dissatisfied, and it is normal for children to be unwilling to listen to our nagging. Find some topics that your child is interested in, and with a common topic, you can have a better relationship.

5.Adjust our own mental state.

Children are full of vitality, and parents are in mid-life crisis. It's not that your child doesn't understand you, but you may not be able to keep up with the pace of your child's growth, so actively adjust your schedule and sleep type, and increase exercise. With light in your eyes, you will be a good role model for your children to grow up with %.

6. Put on two wings: ideals, perseverance.

7. Build two pillars: science and humanities.

8. Equipped with two doctors: Athletic, Optimistic.

9 Remember two secrets: health in the morning and success in the evening.

10. Pursue two extremes: the ultimate potential and the ultimate life extension.