The so called sleekness of life, how to do it

I don't know if you like to watch the Hundred Pulpits?

In an episode of Lao Tzu's Tao Te Ching, such a point of view is mentioned for reference:

Great wisdom and foolishness: That is to say, you don't have to show your talent all the time, so it is difficult for you to get along with your peers or classmates.

Argument: That is, even if you are very eloquent, don't talk endlessly, which will be annoying.

I think the most important thing is to do more things and complain less, which is very important.

I recommend you an idol, you can take a look at Zeng Guofan's birth principle.

The first condition is that the skin is thick enough. No matter how tactful you are, after getting along for a long time, the good and bad things are naturally clear. Let's be sincere! Don't be too hypocritical.

Be generous! At least on the surface! It is recommended to take a look at Dell. Dale Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature"!

It's about learning to improvise.

What's so bad about suffering! From a lifetime perspective, maybe cheaper than sleek! Someone slickly gets a high position, and as a result, offspring, write a book that is copied from someone else.

There is also a sleek, offspring to do drama (in the eyes of his predecessors, this profession is a drama).This is right now.

can see their descendants.

Here are a few tips for being generous and tactful:

1. It is okay to be kind and honest, but you must not be unprepared and unguarded on any key issue.

2. When we talk and do things, we must see clearly who the other party is and what to whom.

3. Those who are moody and angry, the city government is often very deep, and there are more scheming, so you must be wary of interacting with them.

4. When you meet people and say three points, you can't throw all your hearts, this is not a slippery head, but cautious.

5. Honest people grasp a principle of interpersonal communication: honest but not foolish, honest but not naïve. What I say must be truthful, and I can have some reservations when I say it.

There is only a thin line between honesty and foolishness, so in the process of dealing with others, we can be loyal, but we must not be fools, we must grasp the scale ourselves.

Interpersonal skills: (1) Remember other people's first or last names, take the initiative to greet people, and address them appropriately, so that others feel polite and valued, and give people the impression of being approachable. (2) Be generous and calm, make others feel relaxed and comfortable, and stimulate the motivation of communication.

3) Develop a cheerful, lively personality that makes the other person feel that it is pleasant to be with you. (4) Cultivate humorous words and deeds, humorous without losing proportion, humorous without being frivolous, and giving people the enjoyment of beauty. Be humble in your dealings with others, be kind and respectful, otherwise things will backfire.

5) Be calm and don't complain, so that not only will you be happy and self-contained, but others will also be happy. (6) Pay attention to the charm of language: comfort the traumatized and encourage the failed.

Compliment those who have truly achieved something, and help those who are in need. (7) People who are decisive, assertive, energetic and confident are easy to stimulate the motivation of others, win the trust of others, and produce the charm that makes people willing to communicate. (8) Learn to listen.

This shows that you care about people and that they can trust you. Trust starts with respect. You have to listen not only with your ears, but also with your eyes.

9) Don't interrupt people's conversations. Interrupting someone is not only rude, but also a sign of disrespect. And the person you interrupt can't hear what you're saying.

Practice listening intently. (10) Speak clearly and amicably. When talking to people, the tone of your voice is usually more important than what you say, so don't be too stiff or too formal.

When you talk to people, smile at them.

Do not be a bird, do not do the work of sinners.

We often say that a gun shoots the first bird, and the same is true in the workplace, don't be the one who comes first.

Many people like to fight in the workplace.

When you see unfairness and other things that you are not used to, you will come out first, and some of them are not your business at all.

You have to understand that in the workplace, offending people is a harmful thing that does not do any good.

What you need to do is to be less nosy, do a good job of the things arranged for you by your superiors, and if this matter has to offend people, you must also leave a way out for yourself.