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You're thinking too much!! Go with the flow!

Is the fear of meeting people because of a lack of self-confidence? If you lack self-confidence, you need to think on your own, and one of the necessary elements of integration into society is self-confidence. Don't think so much about others when you're dealing with them, as this will make you more flustered.

You think of him as an ordinary friend of your own, and you should usually pay attention to the skills of interacting with others, learn how others do it, think carefully, and constantly reflect on why you are not calm enough, what makes you cowardly in your heart.

We must also pay attention to the cultivation of ability, learning in the big circle of society is always available, we must learn to observe how those who do well do what you think do well, come on, you can too, believe that you can do better in order to do better.

Change yourself, change yourself, change yourself, socialize more, exercise your expression skills, the reason for your introversion is only clear to yourself, so you have to heal yourself and don't come here to ask for comfort.

Ever heard of MLM? There can make an introverted person super thick-skinned, and it sounds like super self-confidence, which I have personally experienced.

Lack of self-confidence and be bold to break through. You can set several tasks. Like going to the street and asking for directions?

Especially beauties, you have to be bold to ask. Slowly find the feeling of success. After a few more times, your courage will gradually grow.

I have self-confidence, too.

"The small is hidden in the mountains, and the big is hidden in the city"。

Friend, your current mentality is to understand a lot of things, but you can only let go of your mind when you are in your own "mountain".

I'm sure you have a deep understanding of setbacks, goals in life, life, etc., and you have a framework in mind that you can "guide" yourself. But your framework is closed, it makes you "afraid" to face other people who don't have this framework, and makes you worry that your framework will "stumble" in society and can't fit into different frameworks, that is, you lack an inclusive mentality, including tolerating yourself and others.

It can be said that your mentality has changed, but you have not re-examined yourself, you have not redefined society, and you still have a sense of failure in your heart, all of this!! It's all because you have changed your mentality, but you have not changed your code of conduct, that is, you used to stand and move forward with your eyes downward, but now you are crawling forward with your eyes upward! You have "changed" your gaze, but you have "fixed" your way of doing things, so that your "actions" still exist only in your heart and mind

So, take action! To change!

Even if you just write on a piece of paper, "I'm going to find and start working for a month", it's a hundred times better than thinking in your heart, "I'm sure I can face it."

Go on to say that a good idea is not the same as having a good action, but a good action can "fix" your good idea!

Well, finally, I would like to say, "The plan can't keep up with the change, but the plan will give you direction".

That is, all actions must be written down and visible; All the experiences of action should be written down; Make a plan, a plan that you can do with all your might right now, then put it into action, then change the plan, and act again.

A change of concept is not as good as the formation of a habit! ”

The enlightenment of the soul is the basis for success, since you have read a lot of books, the mind should be relatively stable, people are not necessarily introverted, the real emotion is established in the gradual interaction, you can try to help others, do some small work, in the long run, interpersonal relationships may be better.

In fact, these thoughts of yours are not right and unnecessary and superfluous, the more you think about this issue, the more confused you will be, tell yourself that I am normal, others will, and I can do it. When you don't think of a problem as a problem, the knot opens up. Don't learn this kind of psychological cheats, it's better to act than to act, and you can summarize the real experience in real life.

In fact, there is no so-called introverted and extroverted personality, everyone is the same, but some people are good at expression, and some people are used to living in their own circle, you try to go out, and you come into contact with more people, just think, I can't say a few words to him, or you can't say it, but it's always okay to be a loyal listener.

This is your own problem, what good words we say will not play much role in you, the key is to think on the good side when facing those things, don't think that this is impossible, you can overcome difficulties, to make yourself strong inside, no one will think you are a joke!

Don't be afraid to try new things: go out on the street and ask people, it may be hard to get used to at first, but you only need to break through once. Slowly, your guts will grow.

I won't be too afraid when I see others, and the more I see a beautiful woman, the more I have to go up and ask her. I used to be like you. Now it's a breakthrough.

When you break through for the first time, it feels very different. 。Let's break through.

In fact, how many books you read are inspirations for your soul, and now you need to go out of the house and face things with a sunny attitude. Nothing is impossible, and you now have to face reality, not run away from it. You've done that, and I guess your problem is solved.

Personal opinion.

Maybe it's because of the environment in which I grew up, and I've always been yearning for a perfect ideal life. Not everyone is like you, much higher than many people's consciousness, there is a gap between reality and ideals, to face the reality, you have to shape your own image, do something of practical significance, and shine as it should.

Smile face-to-face, communicate with people more, and it is best to go to some big places to work, where you can meet all kinds of people, and slowly you will know how to interact with people.

If you don't dare to communicate with others because of a lack of self-confidence, I suggest that you don't read Confucianism, Taoism and Buddhism, but instead read some inspirational or motivational books, you can also read "Tear Down the Wall in Your Thinking", change your mental model, face life bravely, you will find that everything is so beautiful, there is nothing to be afraid of!

It's hard for an introvert to change. I was introverted and bullied in junior high school. But later, because I wanted to get rid of this kind of life, I deliberately let myself become a robber.

In the past three years, the personality has indeed become extroverted, but who can know the suffering. You don't have to feel inferior in front of others. Just smile at it.

That, I don't talk much nonsense, and the way to show you is that you have to find a job that is relatively less social, and the environment in which you may work is a relatively quiet space, choose a job that suits you, and a lot of copywriters, comics, and comics are created by people Their working environment is very independent The company doesn't need them to socialize They don't like these very much, I don't think it's necessary to completely cover yourself How to choose a life path that suits you This will be more comfortable More importantly, it is suitable for your work life There are really a lot.

The courage to face only comes from yourself, when you really want to solve the problem.

Your present state is actually a state of avoidance. In life, you have to learn to face everything in society, good and bad, only more contact, communication can make you adapt to society faster. If you are still like this and you are always alone and afraid to see anyone, your social experience will never grow.

At the beginning, you have to face it hard, force yourself to communicate with people more, and over time you will find that you will no longer be afraid to talk to people or anything, and you have to open your mind in life. Man,You can't shrink your head when you come to the world.。。 Go out and face it, you can do it.

I found out that we were about the same, but we still had to face it when it was time to face it.

There shouldn't be any good way.

What are you afraid of, what are you worried about? Go against the current to be liberated.