My 9 year old son is in the third grade and wants to commit suicide because of his poor grades, what

It is necessary to analyze why he wants to commit suicide, because he loses his self-esteem due to poor grades, loses face in front of his classmates and family, or because you put too much pressure on him as parents and makes him tired of studying. It should be that the child has reached such an extent, and your family is also at fault. But it's not too late to make amends.

I think to fundamentally solve his mental problems, first of all, you can transfer your son to a very ordinary school, and don't choose the experimental class, but choose the ordinary general class, although your son's grades are a little worse, he may have poor grades in the experimental class, and he will become an upper-middle class student in the ordinary class, and give his son a sense of status and self-esteem in his heart, so that he can find his own position and self-esteem. In addition, you can ask the class teacher to help, to find out where he shines, if necessary, you can arrange a suitable class cadre, group leader, labor committee, or some other positions that do not require high grades, so that he is full of confidence in his study and life. In addition, parents should be good at guiding and often enlightening him, good academic performance is not necessarily a successful person, and a healthy and happy person is a successful person.

Don't underestimate him, don't put pressure on him, encourage him more, find out where he shines, for example, a little boy likes to move, you can let him participate in taekwondo classes, martial arts classes, if he has a talent for painting, you can let him participate in painting classes, as long as he is very good in one aspect, it will give him confidence and drive him to improve his learning.

It depends on what kind of psychological characteristics he has. Some children have some inferiority complex because the speed of acceptance and comprehension is not comparable to that of their peers, or because the learning method is inappropriate. Coupled with the fact that modern society regards academic performance as one of the criteria for evaluating a child's success, the pressure on him will be even greater.

Even if you don't put too much pressure on him, he will be recognized by everyone because of the classmates around him who are good at studying, and he will have a sense of motivation to study well in the future. Of course, if the motivation is right, he will behave naturally and will achieve good results because of it, but if the motivation is too great, he will have self-doubt due to some setbacks and finally fall into a state of self-denial. Of course, this is a complicated situation in the first place.

I do not recommend a single method to identify and help him out of the predicament, but more should be to determine whether the child has a learning disability, whether he has some hidden inner pressure, etc., before using other methods to intervene. In fact, today's children are mentally maturing earlier than we can imagine. This comes from complex real-life information**.

It is not possible for a person to grow according to his own wishes, and we will be influenced by the people around us whenever and wherever we are. Originally, we were pursuing a kind of self-happiness, but when we had to face reality, we changed our thoughts and practices from time to time. Therefore, the proposal I make here is a more objective and rational approach.

The Ice King upstairs said a point, but it would be more comprehensive to ask a counselor to intervene in the family. In an interactive way, listen to what he really thinks, or, because there are certain problems in the family, he will feel that he cannot choose something autonomously. In any case, it will be a difficult process.

And, now, it is important to observe from time to time whether he sighs, whether there is a noticeable silence, whether there is some negative expression, or if there is some obvious negative expression. These are all sensitive signals that can reflect his inner feelings. However, because as parents, we tend to focus more on learning and ignore more information, so I don't think your observations are based on an objective observation.

Moreover, in the process of childbirth, or in the process of pregnancy, if there are some problems, it will lead to early depression in children. Therefore, it may be necessary to consider the root causes of his situation from a holistic perspective. Only by finding the reason can it be possible to reach his heart and find a good way to help him.

I hope mine can get your attention and help you accordingly.

Tell him what death is, tell him how painful it is to lose a loved one, take him to the hospital to see the dying person's desire for life. Or go to the funeral home, which I went there twice a year. Witnessed the death of a loved one twice.

The most unbearable thing for me now is to be alone and have nothing to do and put the word dead on my lips. Your son is courageous, but too naïve (he is really small). He doesn't know what to die for, let alone appreciate life.

If he had seen a person die, he would have loved life. You know, just a few days after my grandfather's big gift, I went to the hospital for a full body check-up. Health and life are so important.

I'm 21 years old, I'm not married, of course I don't have children, of course I may not have the right to speak, but I also read from a child, and I came over, and the time distance is not long, so I understand the child's thoughts better, first of all, he wants to commit suicide, which proves that your son is a person with his own ideas, and he is very assertive and self-motivated, but he is too young to bear some pressure, and I feel sorry for my parents, if you have time, take him to the orphanage, Or let him see people with physical disabilities at his age, let him feel the preciousness of life, let him know how happy he is, take him out to play more, let him forget those troubles and pressures, of course, if the grades are poor, don't worry, three years old, it's still early, you can properly tell him the benefits of learning, let him see more practical examples, after all, the facts are easy to understand, under their own proper guidance, grasp the child's character, good luck,

The pressure is too great, the child is still young, talk about it simply, tell him that his grades are not good does not mean that he is not a good child, no matter what the grades are, he is a good child of his parents, divert his attention, don't talk to him only about studying, tell him to do some housework usually, let him know that she has many things to do in addition to studying, he is valuable! Take him out to play and see the world, and help him make more friends.

It's simple, don't let him go to school, or don't let him take exams, hehe, thank you.

You put too much pressure on him, try to talk to him about the right outlook on life!

There are many ways to go in life, and temporary success or failure does not mean anything, is it because he has not been rewarded? This is vanity, not frustration.

I'm bored LZ's birth age is 99 years... It's '07 years now, and when you count it, are you talking about the child you're talking about?

To put it too far, his current situation is that your parents are doing a terrible job. It's not generally bad to say, what advice is upstairs

If you have poor grades, you will commit suicide.

There are a lot of people in the world who are going to die

You seek out a psychiatrist for your own consultation!!

Remember not to bring your son.

Check if the problem is due to personal reasons, family reasons or school, teachers, classmates or other reasons, and see if the reasons can be corrected.

Transfer to another major. One of my students loves to fight and has poor grades, so I recommended him to go to a martial arts school, and after he went, he was like a fish in water, practiced very hard, and believed that he was a good martial arts talent.

Transfer to a private school or repeat a grade for another year to see what happens.

It is difficult to get a high score in a subject like Chinese, and it is even more difficult to get a low score. Generally, the reason for the low score in the test is that the study attitude is not serious enough. As a parent, there is no need to worry too much about it, analyze with your child why you have such a score, and then communicate with the teacher about the problem.

The most taboo is to beat and scold the child indiscriminately, which will only backfire.

You can first analyze your child's test paper to see if the child is due to the fact that the paper is not completed or for other reasons. In the third grade, I have to take the Chinese composition test, is it because the child's composition is off-topic? If it's the reason for the essay, you can let the child read more books every day, insist that the child write an essay every week, and if necessary, let the child make up the lessons.

The Chinese test in primary school is all about the content of books, that is, what the teacher teaches will be tested. Take him to study the books well, help him review, take out his papers and guide him to recall what he has learned, and analyze why this is right and why it is not right. Then check to see if he remembers.

Give praise or rewards to him for his progress as appropriate. Tell him that the questions are simple. Listen carefully to the teacher.

You can't always stare at the child's poor grades, but also look at the child's strengths that are worthy of praise, what the child is more interested in, and what he is good at. Starting from the child's interests, guide the child to establish his own learning methods and thinking habits, slowly improve the child's problem-solving ability, enhance self-confidence, and the child's grades should be gradually improved. Of course, parents' expectations should not be set too high at the outset.

There is not much difference in each child's intelligence, and the key is to find a learning and thinking method that suits them.

Learning is inherently boring.

It's normal for children to be playful by nature and not learn to learn.

It's up to your parents to guide him.

Don't leave it to chance. Don't be violent against him either.

You have to have a good talk with her.

See what he likes. Interested in what?

Then we have to cultivate his interest first.

After satisfying his interest, we will talk to him about learning.

In this way, she is in a good mood, and she naturally feels that it is easy to study.

When we encounter such a problem, we must solve it from the root.

What is the reason why he can't learn? It varies from person to person.

The family environment rejects the child, or you will only pay attention to him when his grades are poor

It doesn't look like it's the material for reading.

However, my grades were very poor in the third grade, and I still shouldn't have done so.

Isn't it difficult to graduate from junior high school?

Check with the teacher to see if you are not attending class.

Ask a tutor to tutor the child, the child must study hard, otherwise he will not be able to do anything in the fourth, fifth, and sixth grades, and he will not be able to keep up.

If the learning method is wrong, improve the learning method and increase efficiency.

I don't think guided learning should let him memorize by rote! The more rote it is, the more you can't remember it! Just let him understand what he is learning! Remember, the more you can't remember, the more you can't blame!

I can send you a famous teacher to teach.

People have their own value in life, if everyone has good grades, then the meaning of existence is not so obvious, the value is different but it does not mean that there is no value. As long as you have worked hard, don't be afraid of bad grades, if you haven't worked hard, then it's your own problem, and death can't solve any problems, have you ever thought about your parents? They gave birth to you, and you repay you in this way?

It's unimaginable how sad your parents are when you die, everything needs to work hard, maybe you only used 30% of your effort so you feel that your grades are not good, try hard, everyone believes that you will succeed Don't let your parents worry about you! And don't let everyone who cares about you be sad!

So powerful.

You communicate with him first, help him with tuition, and the family is also responsible, do they beat the child? You have to help him tutor first, take care of him, and find a way to promote him.

Do more mental work and tell him to cancel this thought.

It's very important to let your classmates play with him, don't exclude her, if it's easy to pull, then everything should be gone.

If there is anything else to make up in time, let's deal with it.

Such a child will have such thoughts because he closes himself off, as long as he is determined to care about him like a relative, but caring about him is not to talk to him often, but to make him feel with actions. Once you've gained his trust, enlighten him, and finally take him to a playground-like place to have some fun.

Be a friend of the child, persuade her well, and tell her the horror of death, after all, she is still a child.

You have to care for her, give her confidence, and try not to provoke her.

Take her to a psychiatrist.

I think I'll talk to his parents about this...

I guess you're really scared!

I don't think corporal punishment is the right way to educate, and corporal punishment only makes children more rebellious.

I think he doesn't study well for his reasons, either he doesn't like the teacher's teaching style, or he doesn't get along well with his classmates, I think you should be around him and observe well, don't worry, every child adapts quickly to the primary school curriculum, here you should find what he likes and dislikes

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