Why do so many young people choose to live alone now?

Forget it, I've been living alone in the city for five years since I graduated in 2012.

In the eyes of many people, I may be a little miserable, eating alone, watching TV alone, repairing light bulbs alone. But this five-year living alone has also made me gain a lot. That's why I chose to live alone.

1. Gain the ability of self-awareness.

When you get along with a person, you will pay more attention to some of your own feelings and pay attention to your body and mind. I felt very uncomfortable for a while, so I came into contact with books such as Zhang Defen's "Meeting the Unknown Self" and "The Road Less Traveled", and knew that we should look at the experience of the moment with a future perspective, and everything will pass. So I tried to turn loneliness into a feast, actively explore myself, listen to Zhihu live, listen to micro-lessons, join some training classes, etc., and improve myself step by step from the perspective of thinking and cognition.

2. I learned a lot of new skills.

Copywriter diva Li Xinpin said that people should learn a new skill every six months. I didn't do that, but in the past five years of living with loneliness, I've been practicing photography, writing, yoga, and food, and I think learning to swim again this year will be the fifth one. And the acquisition of these skills has also made me love life even more.

I like to use yoga to start a flexible day every day, observe life with photography, open up the world with reading, comfort my soul with food, and get close to my dreams with writing.

3. Give yourself a sense of security.

In the past, I always felt that the sense of security was given by others, and it was obtained from work, life, friendship, love, etc. When others don't understand and don't care about you, you feel very insecure. It wasn't until I became friends with loneliness that I realized that the sense of security was given to me.

In other words, you have to have the ability to be alone, you have to learn to live well alone, you have to be able to love yourself.

People are lonely after all, and there is nothing to worry about when they can live alone. Anyway, you love life.

Why do more and more young people now prefer to live alone or choose to live alone? In fact, this is also a normal phenomenon, and young people nowadays like to live alone because they think their parents are too nagging, too much control, not free, etc.

Like today's young people, they either graduate from college or hurry up to find a job, or they continue to study for graduate school. However, young people who choose to work will generally stay in the place where they study to work, or go to Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou, or more developed places in the central part of the country, and some will return to their hometowns to work, and most of these young people will live at home with their parents. For parents only, nagging is indispensable, and one is the daughter-in-law.

When will you bring me a daughter-in-law? I hug my grandson, do you have a girlfriend, or will your mother introduce you to a few blind dates? What kind of girls do you like?

Go back and mom will go to Zhang Luo for you... And so on and so on, there are a series of objects, this is for boys. In fact, it's the same for girls, I hope that my daughter can talk to a partner as soon as possible, so that the neighbors don't say that their daughter is too old to marry and so on.

This is one of the reasons why young people nowadays choose to live alone.

The second is that the work pressure of young people nowadays is too great, and for the classmates and bosses who have come out to work and survive very early, work and salary are a lot of pressure, and if you live with a few friends, it is inevitable to talk about this problem. In addition, sharing a house with others will be noisy after all, and sometimes it will affect their normal rest, and young people at this time will think about living alone, and they will be more relaxed and relaxed. When you live alone, you are more free, and many young people want this kind of life, no one cares about you, no one disturbs your rest, no one will dislike your bad habits, anyway, you can do whatever you want

In addition, if you live alone, you can exercise your ability, and if you leave the shelter and care of your parents, you will slowly grow up and learn a certain amount of self-care ability. Or live alone, you can also cook and cook by yourself, what you want to eat, what you want to do, how good, no nagging from parents and relatives, no comparison of friends' work salaries, no noisy environment, no too many cumbersome affairs For such a state of life, it will naturally become more and more popular with young people, after all, the pressure of work is also quite high, what house, car deposit, etc., and a series of issues, you can temporarily ignore it when you live alone

For the phenomenon that young people are more and more fond of living alone, the main reason is that they are living alone, sometimes they work hard in big cities and have to live alone, or they don't like to live alone with others, so they don't choose to live alone. In one case, living alone can reduce the nagging of parents, what object, what salary, all go aside for the time being!

More and more young people choose to live alone, this is because of the fast pace of life, resulting in many young people being too stressed, and they like to live alone relatively more freely, free from the shackles of their parents, and relatively have more leisure time, which is more conducive to adjusting their own state and developing their own.

Nowadays, young people have a stressful life, and most of them prefer to live alone. I have to admit that today's life is fast-paced, and it has led to many people's stressful lives, and it is precisely because of this that more and more young people choose to get rid of their parents and want to live and work alone in the metropolis, which is also forced by the social development situation.

Today's young people are more casual and enjoy living alone. I have to admit that in today's extremely rich chemical substances, more and more young people advocate the trend of self-development, so when choosing to live alone, saying goodbye to a self-model is also beneficial to regulate themselves, so that they have more and more enough time to plan their own life path as a whole, so it is precisely because of this that more and more young people choose to live alone.

Big cities are unbalanced in socio-economic development, causing more and more young people to move from second- and third-tier cities to work and live in large cities. In terms of the macro environment in our country, more and more young people enjoy the benefits of the period and choose to get rid of the second- and third-tier cities and choose to live in the metropolis, while the relativity gets rid of the dependence of a family and changes to the life of their own separate area, which also happens to be the objective situation that leads to young people being better at choosing to live alone.

Generally speaking, more and more young people often choose to live alone, but also due to various reasons, the most essential factor is also due to the evolution of today's social ideology, resulting in more and more young people respecting the situation of casual life, and on the other hand, the development trend of social development leads to regional economic imbalance, more and more young people enjoy the convenience of living in first-tier cities, and choose to live alone, and this objective perspective standard, for young people to live alone to establish the material conditions, It has also led to more and more young people gradually choosing to live alone.

Because in this way, you can have room to relax, so that you can live more freely, avoid interference from others, and make your life happier.

Because you are comfortable living alone, you don't think about a lot of things, and you can relax your life.

Because it is more free, it will not be disturbed by others, so that you can rest better and let yourself have space to relax.

Nowadays, most people start living alone after graduation. Once many people have lived alone for a long time, they will like this state more and more, and they don't want to get rid of the days of being single. Why do young people nowadays suppress their inner impulse to fall in love and choose to live alone?

Living alone for the dream of living.

After graduation, many people stay in the city where they studied in order to realize their dreams. At this time, what we seek is to continuously improve our lives and material conditions. Nowadays, young people are under great pressure in their economic life, many of them are burdened with mortgages, are not financially independent, and have a sense of crisis in their hearts, so they have no energy to focus on getting rid of orders.

When our material conditions are satisfied, some people will pursue the realization of personal values. In order to realize their dreams, people have to give up a lot of things, be alone, suppress their desires, and concentrate on their careers.

Living alone is less socially stressful.

For both men and women, there is less social pressure on a person to live alone. Economically, as long as you meet your own needs, you don't need to think about others, you don't need to think about others, the economic pressure becomes smaller, and your material needs can be well met.

In your free time, you can do what you want, hang out with a few friends, or stay at home and watch your favorite movies. You won't be bound by irrelevant things, and you don't need to take care of other people's emotions.

In modern society, people are open-minded, and people are more tolerant of people who live alone. The idea of inheritance is not so strong, and marriage is no longer the order of parents and the words of matchmaking. Although our parents will urge us to start a family early, they will not force us to start a family with someone we don't like.

Living alone is the pursuit of inner peace.

The American writer Thoreau wrote a famous work "Walden", which records that he lived alone on Walden Lake for two years and two months in order to escape the hustle and bustle of the city. Walden not only provided him with a place to live, but also a unique spiritual atmosphere. During this time, Thoreau found an unprecedented peace of mind, which stimulated his creative abilities.

Today's young people are busy with life and work every day, and the pressure is getting bigger and bigger, and it is a rare time to be alone after work. During this period of time, you can relax freely without being constrained. You can calm your mind and think about what happened today and plan for tomorrow.

Don't worry about family chores, without the burden of family fortune, the mental pressure will be reduced a lot. When a person lives alone, both physically and mentally, there will be more time to rest. This allows one's body and mind to reach a kind of reconciliation.

But people are always social animals, and even if they live alone, they cannot be separated from this society. When they reach a certain age, they will naturally form their own families and raise their own children. Although living alone is more free, people always need to find a home, a home, and a spiritual harbor for themselves.

First, living alone offers more freedom and independence. When a person is alone, he does not need to consider the opinions and needs of others, and can freely decide his own time and actions, which can satisfy the pursuit of freedom and independence for some young people.

Second, living alone can provide more privacy. Young people may not want to share their space and lifestyle with others, and living alone can provide a quiet, private environment that gives people more time and space to think and reflect.

Third, living alone can also reduce the stress of life. Sharing a house with someone else or living with a family may have many common issues and needs to consider, such as hygiene, shopping, cooking, and so on. Traveling alone and living early can reduce the worries and stress in these aspects, allowing people to have more time and energy to focus on their hobbies and careers.

Finally, living alone can also provide more personal space and development opportunities. Young people may need a quiet space to study, work or pursue their interests, and living alone can provide such an opportunity. In addition, living alone can also allow people to plan their lives and futures more autonomously, and improve their self-management skills and sense of responsibility.

In short, living alone has become a way of life for young people, both as an expression of personal freedom, independence and privacy, as well as an opportunity for personal development and self-realization. Of course, living alone also has its drawbacks, such as loneliness and lack of human interaction, so young people also need to weigh the pros and cons and choose the lifestyle that best suits them.

There can be many reasons why a young person is single, and here are some common ones:

1.Self-awareness and values: Modern young people pay more attention to self-realization and the pursuit of freedom, they believe that being single can make them more independent, free and growing, while also enjoying more personal space and free time.

2.Social pressure and role confusion: Under the influence of traditional beliefs, many young people believe that being single is abnormal and will be subject to social pressure and discrimination, which makes them feel confused and anxious, and it is difficult for them to choose the lifestyle and partner they really want.

3.Lifestyle and opportunities: In modern society, due to the high pressure of work and the triviality of life, many young people lack social and entertainment opportunities, and it is difficult to expand their social circle and meet more people of the opposite sex, resulting in a longer period of singleness.

4.Personal conditions and requirements: Some young people have higher education, income and self-confidence, and have higher requirements for their partners, and it is difficult to find a match for them in the current market, resulting in being single all the time.

In short, everyone's situation is different, these reasons are only part of the story, we should respect everyone's choices and lifestyle, and provide young people with more space and opportunities for development, so that they can find their right partner and achieve happiness.