I love him, but I m afraid of being hurt, is my love cowardly?

Hello. I can relate to your feelings, because I have been hesitant on this issue. If you open your heart to accept and invest, will the other party collapse like a dangerous city without support when they leave?

If I am always passive, waiting, suffering, testing him, testing myself, trying him tired and scared, trying to run, is this the result I want?

I don't deny that I did get hurt after I opened up, but I still insist that you should love seriously. The reason is simply that you love him. If your hesitation causes him to leave, you will struggle with the contradiction of self-deception.

keeps saying that he doesn't care, but he thinks of his expression every moment. That's painful. There is no way back.

But if you try, love, go for the chase. Maybe the ending won't change in the end, maybe, there will be a strange day, but you can smile at yourself, because you loved so hard, and you tried your best. You have a clear conscience.

No one's love is called cowardice. Hiding is because of too much love, and desperate for oneself is also because of too much love. It's just that everyone will protect this love in their own way. Because you love, please love in a better way.

The above is my advice to the landlord, and I also know that it is easy to say this, and everyone understands. But it's always contradictory to decide. I still hope that the landlord will seriously consider it, because the pain is often the pain of 'I didn't do that'.

If you do your best and decide that he is worth it, you can puff up your chest and say, 'At least I really loved.' ’

Your love is the same as mine, I used to be like this, but if you want to change, you have to pay first, talk to him more about the truest thoughts in your heart, just say I love you and talk to you I don't want to take care of anything, and then tell him what you think This is how I deal with my girlfriend and I are okay now, I'm not afraid of anything.

Women are just naturally sensitive, and if they don't love, they're afraid of hurt, which is too worrying.

If you want to love, you will have good love, and if you have to pay, you must have something in return, but you can't blindly give.

No one wants to be hurt, especially those who have tasted it. But if you don't aspire to it, you will always live in the trough, everything is risky, and the fear of failure is more terrible than failure itself. So go for it, turn around and face your second true love.

Since love, don't be afraid of hurt, otherwise you will miss out on a lot of good things.

The reason is determined, and the matter is man-made! I think you should try to trust him, if you always hurt him, have you thought about how he feels? You're afraid of getting hurt, and he's afraid of it!

Rather than two people having heartache like this, why not two people calm down and have a good talk? The feeling of being hurt by a loved one is very painful.

I hope you can try to trust him and I wish you all happiness!

I would like to send you a few words from Zhang Ailing, which may be very helpful to you.

1.Pursuit and desire are the only ones who are happy, but also frustrated and disappointed. It is through frustration and disappointment that we learn to cherish.

2.Like a person, you will be humbled to the dust, and then blossom.

3.There is no relationship in this world that is not full of holes.

4.Love is a matter of wind and snow, and frustrated people can't afford to play it.

5. Love is not a refuge, if you want to take refuge, you will be kicked out.

Two people should be together, it should be natural, not so careful that they should love, so that the love of the dao will make life full of stress and unhappiness. As.

He doesn't love you, no matter how you give, you can't move him, so don't get entangled anymore, do what you should do, if you love you, he will cherish you, if you don't love, no matter how you give, he will not be moved. Love yourself well, don't put all your hopes in men, you have to have the ability to turn around at any time. Time wears everything.

Swallow the wounded heart into your stomach alone. You'll meet better people after a while. In that case, you will involuntarily leave a shadow of the person in your heart.

The only thing that can save you is for you to fall in love with someone else.

I also have bai

Had the same experience as the subject.

I'm always thinking about whether he's out of sight and looking for someone else.,I'm always thinking about me when he's bored.。 Maybe.

But most of the time it wasn't really what I thought it was, he didn't go to anyone else, and likewise, he didn't think about me all the time. It turned out that I was just worried about the superfluous, and the confidence was superfluous.

If you are afraid of "being disappointed and getting hurt again", it means that you have suffered a lot of blows before, and for you may have almost not survived it, but you are still persevering.

It hurts and hurts, he did something that made you almost give up on love, but because of your persistence, he didn't leave.

You think about him all the time, and he must have given you touching moments, making you happy and making you happy.

Love means that both parties like each other. It is supposed to bring us a sense of happiness, pleasure, lightness. And not all day sorrows, thoughts.

Sometimes, letting go slowly is the best happiness.

He's so good, and when you can't say no but you have to, you know, maybe separation is the best ending.

Miss him? Does he miss you? Does he love you? Is it true "love"?

If it's true love, stick to it.

If not, then congratulations on finding a better one.

We have been walking on the road of pursuing happiness for a long time.

It is a personal opinion only).

It's normal that you're afraid of losing him, but you're afraid that he won't love you anymore, and you don't dare to love him with all your might.

Reunited after the hand? Otherwise, how can there be such worries, afraid that it is you who will be hurt to score your own feelings, afraid that it is you who are afraid of disappointing yourself instead of him hurting you, and you will not be afraid of this possible thing at all when you get out of this dead loop.

Since you are afraid of losing, copy then cherish it, like a person, isn't it just desperate, but you must find someone who likes each other, don't blindly pay, if you are afraid of being hurt again, just leave slowly, change your mood, change your environment, see if you still love him, if you really love it, it's good, if you are afraid of being hurt, just consider it, it's not too late to make a decision, because your current mood may not be able to make you make a decision, so be calm and calm, I'm thinking about whether I should continue this relationship.

It seems that you have been hurt at one time, that is, you are afraid of falling in love.

I can't get anything in return for my efforts, and I'm afraid of losing him.

In reality, I think you still have to believe in the true feelings, but you don't care too much about gains and losses, the more you care about things, the easier it is to lose. It's like someone else did an experiment, grabbed a hundred yuan with his hand, grabbed it tightly, walked on the street, and over time, he lost it.

Leave seven points of love for yourself, don't pay without a bottom line, the more you do that, the more you push yourself into the infinite abyss, you can't love yourself, do you still expect others to love you?

What happened between you, make you so careful, is he not a version of not loving you, but you are in unrequited love for him, such a humble love is really dangerous. You don't feel any sense of security now, once you love someone, once you use your affection, you will involuntarily be cautious, and if you are careful and don't get the feedback you want, it will evolve into humility. Because of love, I don't want to lose him, so I will coax him in a low voice, begging him, and continue to fall in love with myself, although love is not equal in an absolute sense, but is such a humble love really worth it?

Loving someone can't be wishful thinking, and love without reciprocation is destined to die. Instead of guarding an unbalanced love, it is better to let go completely and let yourself live!

You're trapping yourself in this relationship right now.

Lidu, unwilling to come out zhi. If the other party does not change, then the relationship is likely to end without a problem. No one will give forever, and no one will be trapped forever.

Over time, all feelings will fade, and then you will find that it is actually very simple to come out. Now you can't tell it, you can't do it, just toss it again! It's too painful to force out.

Look at your current mood, you are a girl with a story, come out of the shadow of the past, as long as two people love each other, boldly love, don't be reluctant, the twisted melon is not sweet, don't be too entangled in love, tidy up your mood, love each other, I wish you happiness!

Sometimes I don't know what to do to love someone. Your problem has also become a sandwich meal. I liked him, but he was also extremely badly injured. I still love him dearly. But I'm afraid he doesn't love you. There is no better way.

There are some questions that you can't control, so let it be. Do what you have to do and be the best version of yourself. If he really wants to leave, you will definitely not be able to keep it, if he thinks you are very good, if you let him go, he will not leave you.

It's yours that can't run, and it's not yours that you can't force it to come. To be a man, you must first know how to love yourself, seven points of love for each other are enough, and the remaining three points are enough to love yourself. If you lose yourself, I believe no one will love you anymore.

This thing can only change the status quo if you change yourself. Go out and don't lose the Pacific Ocean for a drop of water. When your circle of friends expands.

This way you will find that your past ideas are naïve. Because you have Him in your eyes. So you have this kind of thought, and you can't solve it.

Integrate into the larger society. You will find something new, something strange, something even more beautiful. They're all waiting for you to pick and choose.

Don't lose yourself, you will always be a loser after losing yourself.

This should be relatively common in daily life, girls are very emotional psychological back, you dare not fight.

You are too tired to live, you are too selfless, you should have your own ideas, you should not live as a man, you are too tired, you should be confident, think about everything, don't care too much about him.

Then I suggest that you can keep him for now. You can think about him every day, you can also pay attention to him, and then focus on improving yourself, from appearance, learn to answer makeup, practice body, and learn to dress up. Enrich yourself from within, work hard, earn more money, make more friends, meet new people, live well, don't think about possessing him, but just think about him well.

The most important thing is to be happy every day.

Love is brave to love, and when you lose it, it will hurt even more, and if you are hurt, you won't let go of 'moving forward, then you will lose happiness.'

Love can be produced in a second, but love takes a lifetime to complete. Love: to understand, but also to unravel; To apologize, but also to thank; We must admit our mistakes and correct them; Be considerate and considerate, accept, not endure, be tolerant, not conniving; It is support, not domination; It is a condolence rather than a question; It is to pour, not to accuse, to be memorable rather than to forget; It's about communicating with each other, not about everything:

It is to pray silently for each other, not to ask for many from each other, it can be romantic, but don't waste it; It's okay to hold hands at any time, but don't break up casually If you do it all, even if you don't love someone anymore, you will only miss it, not hold grudges.

In the past, you bravely accepted his love, which means that you also love him. Now you are timid and afraid to accept it, in fact, your feelings for him have changed, it is very likely that your heart does not love him anymore, and when you do not love him, you will not have the courage to accept his love. Although you say that your feelings have not changed, it is just a habitual thinking.

Your feelings have actually changed, and he will have the same doubts, but they have not yet appeared. You can think about it calmly now and see if you can find the reason, if you can't find a reason that you can understand, it is likely to be a matter of fate.

You love this love as firmly, but he is tired of this kind of love, but your selfless negative is maintaining this feeling, so you love so carefully, so sad, so frightened, afraid of offending him, guarding such a loveless relationship, but it hurts you.

There's no preparation.,It's just that you're tired of love.,There should be a lot of contradictions between you.,Or something else is no longer as good at talking as before.,It's estimated that now you don't have the kind of freedom and other feelings of love that you used to have.,Maybe your pay is just a one-sided effort.,But what,If you really love him.,Then hold up a piece of heaven for him.,Work hard.,No matter what the outcome of the future is.,Dare to fight and dare to break through is this good example.。 Because if you give up now, I guess you'll be unwilling for a while. But if people don't love you from the bottom of their hearts and want to get rid of you, then you can still choose to work hard for a while, if they have found a partner, they are married, and they hate you from the bottom of their hearts, then alas, forget it, there is no grass at the end of the world, why bother to love a flower?