Is it necessary to give gifts on Teacher s Day, and is it necessary to give gifts on Teacher s Day

What is the difference between some people and bribery in the name of respecting the teacher? If it is said that giving gifts is respecting teachers, if you don't give gifts, you will be snubbed by teachers, which is very unfair to those students who have no money to give gifts. Most of the students don't have their own financial **, and most of the pocket money is given by their parents, so I don't know if there is any guilt for taking their parents' hard-earned money to do favors?

It is the duty of teachers to educate people, and the state has paid their salaries for their contributions, and students do not need to please teachers in material terms. Some people say: a card, a bouquet of flowers doesn't cost much, and it doesn't hurt to give it away.

I don't think it's a matter of more money and less money, but that gift-giving will disrupt the order of the campus.

The task of students in school is to read, as long as they listen carefully to the lectures and have outstanding grades, are they afraid that the teacher will not appreciate them? Why bother with gifts?

Some parents give gifts for their own selfish interests, and their children will think that only giving gifts can solve the problem when they grow up, and when they grow up, they will use this way to behave in the world, causing harm, just as the German businessman said, making China's image a laughing stock in the international community. In fact, parents are also forced to say that the form of suffering in China is the general situation.

Teacher's Day is here, and it is originally a day for the whole society to express respect and gratitude to teachers, but both parents and society are discussing one thing: gift-giving. Parents are not discussing whether to send it, but what to send.

Most teachers have their own difficulties and persistence between receiving and not receiving. Everyone has too much helplessness.

If you are a parent of a student, think about it, why would you give a gift to a teacher? This is not a simple matter of favors, but a kind of power redemption.

Giving gifts to teachers is of course for the sake of respecting teachers and expressing gratitude. But ask yourself, many times, isn't it just for the sake of the child not to suffer that he will please the teacher so much? The purpose of pleasing is to reduce or eliminate the "legitimate harm" done to the child by the teacher.

Since scholar Wu Si invented the term "legal right to harm", many people know that ** has more or less "legal right to harm" in his hands. In fact, doctors, teachers, firefighters, etc., have certain legal rights to harm because of the particularity of their professions, and ordinary citizens can also enjoy legal rights to harm due to the provisions of the law, such as legitimate defense and emergency avoidance. However, the legitimate right to harm exercised by doctors, firefighters, teachers or citizens is generally manifested in a hidden form.

Teachers can give preferential treatment to students, they can also punish them, they can give them a good face, they can not give them a good face, and anyway, teachers can have relative discretion to "manage" students. The former is a legitimate favor, the latter is a legitimate injury. However, for students, the difference between preferential treatment and punishment is great, and it can even affect the student's life.

The teacher's legal right to harm itself is not large, but the consequences can be very serious. That's why parents have to be careful.

Moreover, it is difficult for parents to grasp the handle of infiltration and say that the teacher violated the law and harmed the students, and it is difficult to find evidence even if the teacher violates the teacher's ethics. Parents give gifts to teachers in order to protect their children from being harmed, which not only has an ordinary human relationship, but also implies the right to redeem the teacher's legitimate harm.

Because the legal harm caused by teachers to students is not so great as to kill children, parents generally do not spend a lot of money on gifts to teachers. However, I don't dare not send it, because if "I can't remember who gave money, and I remember who didn't give money", the teacher may also think: I can't remember who gave a gift, and I remember who didn't give a gift.

In order to avoid being legally harmed by the lack of gifts, they should also carry large bags and small bags to the teacher's home in a special season, ostensibly to show gratitude, it is better to use money to eliminate the "disaster of power".

It seems cruel to say that, but whether you admit it or not, it's true. The gift to the teacher is only limited to the human relationship, rather than becoming a stake, is the foundation of the pure teacher-student relationship, which does need to be systematically narrowed to the space for the teacher's legal harm, in addition, it is necessary to rely on the noble teacher's morality.

First of all, I can understand what parents do.

Although education departments and schools at all levels have been advocating a civilized and pure Teacher's Day, every time Teacher's Day is approaching, there are still many parents who are entangled in "whether to give gifts". If you don't send it, you don't pay attention to the teacher, and if you send it, it will be said to be flattery, and the parent committee will "do it", which not only expresses your heart but also saves embarrassment, which is why many parents choose to follow the crowd. In fact, what seems to be the best of both worlds is to transfer the anxiety to the teacher:

If you don't accept it, you will live up to the parents' wishes; If you accept it, it is a violation of discipline.

Respecting teachers and valuing education is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which should be promoted, and it is normal for parents to want to express their gratitude to teachers. However, respecting teachers and valuing education should not be vulgar in material expression, but should be from the bottom of the heart, out of sincerity, cooperate with the work of school teachers, perform family education responsibilities, and jointly assume the responsibility of education, which is the best gift to teachers.

But we should also see that the gift-giving "farce" led by the parent committee is the concentrated embodiment of parents' "Teacher's Day anxiety".

Most parents give gifts with good intentions, to thank teachers for their dedication to their children, and also hope that their children can get more care and help from teachers. But on the other hand, if you want to slip and infiltrate the old, and at the same time, in the face of such a child, the teacher cannot be exhaustive, and for the sake of fairness, he cannot take special care of any child. The meaning of the existence of Teacher's Day is to make the profession of teachers worthy of respect, and to let students know how to be grateful, and to be a letter to respect teachers!

As a student, you can repay your teacher with excellent grades in school, and that is the best gift! As teachers, after seeing their hard work, the children have learned and succeeded. Better than any material reward.

Of course, it's not out of the question to give some heartfelt gifts on the occasion of Teacher's Day. For example, a bouquet of flowers made by oneself or a painting drawn by oneself can also cultivate a child's sense of gratitude.

The psychological state of parents is generally as follows:

Teacher's Day is coming, I heard that so-and-so's parents have sent it, so should I send it? If you don't send it, will the teacher put small shoes on her son? Do you want to send it, do you want to buy fruit, or do you want to buy a shopping card?

I'll just tell you a few words about what I know about gifting a teacher, and it's a big truth.

1. The real situation of gift-giving.

The first big truth is: many people have sent it, but he won't tell you.

More than fifty friends participated in the vote. I found out that almost half of my more than 50 friends had given gifts to their teachers.

Generally, children have been in school for more than ten years, and have been sent three or five times, mainly during the Spring Festival and Mid-Autumn Festival. And most of them are in the first grade and junior high school.

First, the key point of the third year of high school.

Not many people give gifts on Teacher's Day. I asked them why, and the explanation was:

There are many people who pay attention to Teacher's Day, and the management is also strict, so it is too deliberate to send it at this time.

The gifts they give are also varied. The most direct and the most is the "shopping card", followed by the fruit gift box.

There are also cigarettes, alcohol, souvenirs, cosmetics, mobile phones, etc., and there are very few people who give red envelopes and cash directly.

The ** of the gift is generally in three or five hundred. Up to one or two thousand, and even two or three thousand. But there are very few, either because they have deep pockets or because they have to ask for teachers.

Now the overall atmosphere is better than before.

Many schools will specifically remind everyone not to give gifts before Teacher's Day. If you really want to send it, a bouquet of flowers and a greeting card are enough for the whole class.

Some private schools, for the sake of school spirit and reputation, will be more strict. I have two friends who know that their children are private, and they have also given gifts, but they were clearly rejected by the teacher.

Because once they are investigated and punished, they will be given a warning or directly expelled. It's not worth losing your job for the sake of your few hundred dollars in gifts.

2. Rites come first, things come last.

The second big truth is: the teacher will not be particularly impressed with you just because you give a gift.

The teacher is also a human being, and he also has seven emotions and six desires, and he also needs firewood, rice, oil and salt. If you give a gift, he may say "don't, don't", and his heart is still happy.

After that, on the road, I met you and the child with a pleasant face, and asked questions once or twice in class, and that was also the case. Human nature is understandable.

But most of the time, the leniency ends there. I will definitely not ignore the other thirty or forty children because of this, and focus on taking care of one of your family's only seedlings.

The teachers like and are most willing to get along with those children who have good conduct, do not cause trouble, and are motivated.

Teachers, the most clever to eliminate trust, are still those parents who communicate happily, can seriously cooperate with the teacher's work, and actively supervise their children's learning.

To put it more bluntly.

Even if you don't give an apple, as long as your child usually has good academic performance, you are polite at the parent-teacher meeting, and the teacher is more polite to the teacher, the teacher will be very happy to take care of your child.

Otherwise, you can send a house. On the surface, he treats your child as a treasure, but his academic performance is scumbag, and he causes trouble all day long, and the teacher is also very disdainful in his heart, so he hurriedly graduated and sent him away.

Some parents give gifts to teachers for many different purposes, Teacher's Day parents give gifts to teachers to thank teachers for taking care of their children, and on the other hand, they hope that teachers can pay more attention to their children in the future. Some people just want to thank the teacher, while others just want to please the teacher. Everyone's purpose is different, and the gifts he gives are different.

I think it's best to give a gift to a teacher on Teacher's Day, and it's a more meaningful gift to give a hail earlier, and it can be seen that you have put a lot of thought into this gift. Send a small gift to the teacher, and the teacher will not feel burdened and will think that you are better at doing things. In fact, most of the people who give gifts to their teachers are indeed very grateful to the teachers for taking care of their children over the years or for so long.

Children who are in chaos at school must be more or less naughty, or when they need help from teachers. Then it is a good time to use this Teacher's Day to express gratitude. Thank you to him for taking care of his children for so long.

Many parents don't have this opportunity in normal times, so they are in a hurry to express their gratitude to teachers through a variety of gifts on Teacher's Day.

There are also some parents who just want to take the opportunity to curry favor with the teacher. The gifts they give look different from those of others. Because they just want the teacher to remember them, some people will send some more expensive chains or jewelry, some people will send red envelopes directly, or some people will send bags, all kinds of gifts are full of tricks.

I just want to let the teacher be on my side, and the teacher can help more. His own child let the teacher favor him, and sometimes he remembered that the child did not study well, and the teacher gave him tutoring. If the teacher accepts a gift from a parent, it means that if the parents ask for anything in the future, it will be very difficult for the teacher to refuse.

This kind of gift is really very exciting to look at, but I really dare not accept it.

In fact, the best gift to the teacher is precisely the child's hard work and good results, which is the precious gift that the teacher is looking forward to receiving.

1. I don't think it's okay to express my heart on Teacher's Day.

No, but the specific way of expression can be completely according to your own preference. If you want to give gifts, you can guide your children to express them in their own unique way.

As a class of nearly 50 people, it is difficult to reach a high consensus on gift-giving, so I think it is the right choice for the parent committee not to organize collective gift-giving.

2 My personal value on the way of expression is that gifts that are prepared with heart and almost do not cost money are often more meaningful than gifts that are bought with money, and the teacher is not burdened to put them away. And the process of preparing gifts through children's own creativity is also a no-go for children.

Staggered experiences and workouts.

3 Huang Bao has expressed his feelings to the teacher in his own way from elementary school to now:

Make your own e-cards for the teacher with programming: with a message of blessing.

Comic background** (the track you played).

Every time the teacher receives it, he feels very attentive and moved, and the child is also full of a sense of achievement.

Added bonus: Use your own skills to express your blessings so that teachers can better understand the child's strengths.

So my answer is: guide your child to use his or her own creativity to give gifts that don't cost anything!