My father in law has a strange temper and is very short tempered, what should your father in law do

Updated on parenting 2024-04-24
40 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    As long as it's human, there are times when it's weird and weird, and this is perfectly normal, haha. Don't worry, you can use other ways to deal with him, and improve your emotional intelligence appropriately, you can only say that the words are not rough, thank you, good wishes, happy life every day!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    This is very normal, you can move out to live, as long as you don't live with your father-in-law, you won't have conflicts with your father-in-law, and it's best to live separately when you get married.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Since your father-in-law has a strange and irritable temper, then I suggest that you should have less contact, even if something unpleasant happens, you should endure it to avoid bigger quarrels, so as to ensure the harmony of the family to some extent.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Get along with such a father-in-law, try to talk as little as possible, otherwise it is easy to cause him to be irritable, try not to live with him, otherwise there will be more and more contradictions.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Such a father-in-law advises you not to interfere too much, after all, it is your husband's father, and they can worry about it.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    My father-in-law has a weird temper and is very short-tempered, what can I do? You have to bear with it when you hurry, after all, he is your father-in-law, but if you really do some too drastic actions, then you still have to resist a little, and you can't swallow your anger.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    So what do you want to do, people have their own habits and tempers, from a moral point of view, you can only tolerate it, just like you quarrel with children, there is no point, people get old, and their temper will become weird. You're not used to moving out, it depends on your family. Life is short, and it is almost the end, so why care about what others think.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Older people often have different tempers than when they were younger, and if they have a strange temper, they need to be patiently guided by their families.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Many people have eccentric tempers, and my father-in-law has a weird temper, so try not to stay alone with him.

    Try not to stay with the elderly after getting married, because the age is different and the concept is different.

    Except for the elderly when they need to be taken care of, it is better to be together.

    Occasionally, I go home to visit the elderly, which is more intimate.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    When getting along with such a father-in-law, you should pay attention to one point and try to follow what your father-in-law says.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Everyone has their own temper, but when we can't change him, we try to provoke him as little as possible, and talk less.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Some people are like this, especially when they are older, they can't change it, they have the conditions to live alone, and they endure it first if they don't have the conditions.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    on this issue. When you're older, you can't get used to anything. Understand. When the leader gets used to it.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Some people are fools, the world is varied, people are all kinds of people, and they owe it!

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Stay away or live separately.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Treat your father-in-law who hates you and can only stay away. I have always felt that the essence of social life is about compromise. So you can only compromise with your father-in-law who hates you, your father-in-law is your husband's father, and you can't fall out with him, nor can you conflict head-on, so you can only compromise and endure.

    We compromise with consensus, with trends, and with rules. In other words, we are born with social attributes, just because you were born in society, gradually growing up, and gradually realizing this.

    We always need to know, understand, and compromise: if there is something you like, there will be something you don't like; If you think it's right, then naturally some people think it's incorrect. So even if you don't like your father-in-law, or your father-in-law doesn't like you, it's two-sided.

    Everyone's perception and concept have been affected too much. Whatever the cause, the only thing you can see is the effect. Therefore, try to understand, give up if you don't like it, there is no need to take the initiative to speak badly to each other, in addition to resisting, you can directly ignore those who have a bad impact.

    Arguments don't end well and make relationships more stiff.

    And your father-in-law hates you because you have different living habits, and you have something to do to make him unhappy. You can try to get your husband to come forward and talk to your father-in-law, knowing that your problem is causing your father-in-law to hate you. Then try to avoid the same thing in the future when you are in front of your father-in-law, so that you can avoid embarrassment and unhappiness.

    Only by handling the relationship with the father-in-law well, the relationship between the husband and wife will be more harmonious. After all, your father-in-law is your husband's father, so you can't fall out with him, otherwise it will be difficult for your husband to do it. If the communication can't be resolved, it's best if you can move out.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    I'm just like you, my husband and I are both only children, so my in-laws are very good to us, and we also respect them, but there is an unreasonable father. My father-in-law has a very bad temper, as soon as he doesn't like it, he scolds, throws things, and sometimes beats people, we are all afraid of him, so we don't dare to provoke him. If you really can't stand it, you can tell your husband, tell your husband to talk about him, tell him not to do that, and you don't pay attention to him.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    That doesn't work out. When you get married, you have to face your father-in-law, if he has a bad temper, you should have less contact with him, be polite, don't mess with him.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    1. I will not have a head-on conflict with my father-in-law.

    The reason why my father-in-law said that I had a bad temper must have heard my temper and that he was dissatisfied with me. So when he talks about me, I will humbly accept his criticism, I will agree with his point of view, and I will even promise him to correct my own faults in the future. I try to keep my temper in check so that I don't argue with my father-in-law.

    Because bad temper is actually a very subjective evaluation, we can't argue who is right and who is wrong, but I will expose my temper in the argument and let my father-in-law have more evidence.

    2. I will talk to my husband.

    As a daughter-in-law, it is actually very difficult for me to deal with my relationship with my in-laws, so I will not communicate with my in-laws head-on, which will make the conflict between me and them even more. So, I will tell my husband what my father-in-law said about me. Of course, this is not for my husband to ask for my guilt, nor for my husband to stand up for me.

    I wanted my husband to help me coordinate some of my relationship with my father-in-law. He can praise me in front of them, and he can talk more about my merits.

    My father-in-law may have given me a bad temper just by a small thing, and if my father-in-law had a comprehensive understanding of me, he would have a better opinion of me and would realize that he had a very narrow understanding. So I think it's a very smart choice to let my husband solve this problem.

    3. I will also try my best to make my temper better.

    I will ask others for some tips on how to control my temper, I will also learn some experiences from the Internet, and I will learn professional knowledge from books. I believe that through my own efforts, I can comprehensively correct my flaws and make my temper better. When I become a gentle, good-natured person, my father-in-law will see the changes in me, and he will naturally appreciate me.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Then you should restrain your temper in front of your father-in-law. After all, it's not good to be your own elders, and you're always losing your temper or something. Let's accommodate it.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    I would reflect on whether I really had a bad temper, and if that was the case, I would try to control my temper.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Since my father-in-law is not happy with me, then I must make myself better, so that my father-in-law will have a better opinion of me.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    I think you can express your feelings to your father-in-law through your husband, or you can communicate directly with your father-in-law, but you also need to find reasons from your own side and control your emotions.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    I will try my best to correct my shortcomings, and I will learn some ways to control my emotions to make my temper better.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    Try to correct it, you should not lose your temper in front of the elderly and elders, and at the same time analyze the reasons for your anger, try to restrain your emotions, and change your father-in-law's impression of yourself.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Correct your shortcomings, try to be kind to others, don't yell at others, and control your words, and your mood will improve.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Then improve your temper, be gentle when you talk to your family in the future, and go for a run to vent when you are in a bad mood, so as not to affect your family.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    I will restrain my temper in front of my father-in-law and try to make a good impression on him so that he can see the changes in me.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    You should behave gently in front of your father-in-law and don't always yell at them, so that your father-in-law's impression of you will slowly change.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    I feel very aggrieved, just because I was too strict with my child and yelled at the child, my father-in-law said that I had a bad temper.

    But after thinking about it carefully, I feel that what my father-in-law said is also very reasonable, and I have some problems with my children's education, which leads to my temper being too bad.

    The reason why my father-in-law said that I had a bad temper must be because I made some bad moves when educating my children. For example, always talking to the child in a commanding tone, the child will scold you loudly if he does not listen to you once, and even hit the child with his hands.

    Indeed, when the child is very disobedient, I really can't bear it, to my requirements, the child always says "no", loves to beat people, grabs toys, admits death, is afraid of the living, loves to be strong, and he does not like to read, TV fans, willful, not confident, afraid of difficulties, etc. It is precisely because of these bad habits that I lose my temper at him.

    Especially when the child always robs other people's things, refuses to return them to others, does not listen to his reasoning, and cries and plays tricks, lies on the ground and rolls, such children should be seriously educated.

    In my father-in-law's view, my serious education of my children is a bad temper, It is precisely because of my father-in-law and mother-in-law who are overly tolerant and even indulgent in the behavior of children, always doting and obedient to children, ignoring the obligations and responsibilities of disciplining children, and children become unrestrained and willful.

    Of course, my father-in-law said that I have a bad temper, no matter what, blindly scolding when communicating with children will not solve the problem, and the rougher the family education, the worse the effect! Not only can it not get rid of the child's disobedience, but it will cause the child to have more psychological problems, which can be said to be more than worth the loss!

    So I made a mistake in educating my children, that is, I always treated my children with a bad temper, and since my father-in-law has pointed it out, I must change it.

    In order for the child to have a healthy psychology and for the child to grow up healthily and strongly, I decided to change my bad temper and communicate calmly with the child when he is disobedient, rather than beating and scolding him at every turn.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    As a result, my father-in-law is very afraid of himself, and it is easy to have conflicts with himself, always feeling that he is too strong and does not take into account their feelings.

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    My father-in-law thinks I have a bad temper and often gives him a look, so my father-in-law doesn't like me either, and makes it difficult for me everywhere, I really don't want to stay in this house.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    I feel very wronged, obviously my temper is not so bad, but I am disgusted by my father-in-law, and I don't know how to get along with my father-in-law in the future.

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    Then you will definitely feel that it is difficult to get along, and you will not be willing to say anything more about many things, and it will be very uncomfortable for two people to be alone together.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    My father-in-law thinks I have a bad temper, always complains to my boss, always says all kinds of bad things about me, and targets me everywhere at home.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-04

    I felt very aggrieved, because I had never been angry in front of my father-in-law, and when my father-in-law said this, I felt that my father-in-law was deliberately targeting me.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-03

    I often have conflicts with my father-in-law, and my family relationship is not very harmonious, and I can't get along harmoniously with my father-in-law.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-02

    They want to teach me to be patient in doing things, tell me not to be impatient when I do things, and then lose my temper.

  39. Anonymous users2024-01-01

    I feel speechless, obviously I am very good to him, I have enough to restrain my temper, and he still thinks so, just pick my thorn.

  40. Anonymous users2023-12-31

    It's just that he thinks I'm not easy to get along with, and often looks down on me, so I also think the two of us have nothing to say.

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