Is it right or wrong to take rural parents to the city?

It is right to bring your rural parents to the city, but you have to take your rural parents to the city at the right time and at the right time, which is the most right, and you are wrong to take your rural parents to the city at the wrong time and at the wrong time, so when is it right to take your rural parents to the city, and when is it wrong to take your rural parents to the city? I'll share my point of view and share it with my friends!

The rural mountains and rivers are beautiful, the rural environment is beautiful, it is the most suitable treasure land for the elderly to live and care for the elderly, and the parents in the countryside have contracted land, have their own small vegetable gardens, all raise chickens, ducks and geese, and also raise pigs, cattle and sheep, so that they can eat their own green food and vegetables, and not only eat themselves, but also for the children living in the city A food, vegetables, fruits, meat and eggs ** base, every time you return to the city during the New Year's holidays, the trunk of the car is full, There is also the saying of "mother's trunk"!

This is the case, rural parents are reluctant to leave the countryside, and do not need to leave the countryside, because they can support themselves in the countryside, live happily and happily in the countryside, and there will be a large number of surplus food, vegetables, fruits, meat and eggs for the children living in the city, if in such a situation to bring the rural parents to the city, this is the wrong time, but also the wrong time, so, in this case, is not supposed to, You can't bring your parents from the countryside to the city, and you can't bring your parents from the countryside to the city at such a time and at such a time!

So what is the right time, the right time? That is, the parents are indeed old, and can no longer continue to plant the contracted land, can not grow vegetables and fruits, can not raise livestock and poultry at home, which also shows that the parents have completed their historical mission, and they also need their children to take care of their lives. Children can subcontract out the land contracted by their parents, and the small vegetable garden in the countryside can be planted by relatives in the countryside, dispose of the livestock and poultry raised at home, and entrust relatives in the countryside to help take care of their parents' houses.

Bringing rural parents to the city is, of course, a move of filial piety to their parents, and it is very right. It would be even more perfect if the parents could adapt to life in the city. However, some rural parents are very uncomfortable after coming to the city, so there is no problem, and they can continue to live in the countryside according to their wishes.

I think that's right. Because our parents have raised us all our lives, we should take them to accompany us when we are able.

Yes, because I think it's safest to keep my parents by my side.

If they are in good health, they are able to take care of themselves. And they don't want to leave the countryside where they have lived for many years. Then there is no need to forcibly take them to live in the city.

As a child, go home to accompany their parents during holidays and help them share the farm work, especially during the autumn harvest. During the New Year's holidays, you can also take your parents to live in it for a while. It is convenient to communicate with each other, and there will be no conflicts and estrangements due to living together for a long time.

Of course, this also requires a prerequisite, that is, you have your own house in the city, and the living conditions are okay. Your parents have lived in the city for a while, and they are relieved to see that you are living a happy life.

When the parents are getting older, they are also the only children in the family, and other siblings help take care of the parents. At this time, no matter what conditions you have in the city, you must take your parents to take care of your life. After all, the greatest wish of all parents is that their children can always be by their side and talk and chat with them.

When they feel unwell, we are around us, and we can find out and take care of them in time. And they have already had the experience of living in a small house before, and they also have a little understanding of the living environment in the city. If you feel bored, you can go out for a walk, do fitness exercises, and meet some friends in the community.

This kind of thing also needs to ask your parents specifically for their opinions and ideas, or is it mainly them. However, it is also necessary to be observant, sometimes parents are reluctant to cause trouble to their children, and even if they want to, they will shirk it. So let's take it over once in a while to see if they can get used to it.

Then decide on the issue of permanent residence.

Yes, filial piety comes first.

Since your parents have raised you, you must be filial when it is time for you to support your old age. Since you're in the city, there's no one around your parents to take care of. Then don't have any worries, just let your parents go to the city to enjoy the happiness.

The premise is that your parents must be willing to follow you, if you are married and live with your parents, there will be many conflicts in life.

Young people don't like to live with the elderly, the birth age is different, the ideology is different, and after a long time, the contradictions that arise will roll a huge ball over time, and there will be a lot of "wars", which will affect the feelings between the two in the case of bad health. If you want your parents to live with you, you need to be mentally prepared. After getting married, it's not a matter of what a person can do as he wants, but many people's feelings must be taken into account.

If you are single, you can bring your parents to the city as much as you want, provided that you have enough time to spend with them. If parents are not accompanied by relatives, friends, or familiar places in a place where they are not familiar with their lives, they are lonely, and in this case, their hearts are painful. Even if the living conditions are better than in the countryside, the parents will not stay in the city for too long.

I've seen a lot of people who don't care for the elderly. I have seen a lot of children beat their parents, this kind of person is simply bad at home. There are also many problems of tense mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, and I have a big head when I look at it if I am not married, not to mention that it is even more difficult to deal with this kind of problem in a difficult situation.

However, where there are people, there are contradictions. Contradictions are also divided into people, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel once, the contradiction between the heart will be higher, the daughter and their parents are different, today quarrel tomorrow, the next time continue to quarrel, or have any good things to think about their parents, so the people are different, the contradiction can be big or small, or even small to no.

Adoptive parents are a matter of course, how can there be children who do not support their old age. Since after marriage, the family concept is inconsistent, there will be different results, different problems. Of course, in this case, you must have enough ability to solve the internal conflicts within the family, so that the whole family will move towards the happy end.

Bringing your parents to live in the city is not a matter of talking, but of figuring out how to do it. Everyone knows that they should support their parents, but while supporting their parents, they must also take care of their own lives, and on this basis, they can make their parents better, no matter what aspect.

I think it's better not to break the idyllic life of your parents, originally as a child who works hard in the city, thinking about taking your parents to enjoy happiness and care, this starting point is right, but is this really the case?

First of all, children are either going to work or doing business, going out early and returning late, parents are coming, more people stay at home, because of language and communication methods, the elderly will not have more activity platforms, and they can't say a few words to others all day long, even if the children go home at night, they are also busy with children, busy with housework, and it is difficult to chat with the elderly!

Second, the old people in the countryside, are used to freedom, want to go to the door, or go to the field to do some farm work, he can be free to use, but in the city is different, stay in the renovated house, want to smoke, want to spit, and even go to the toilet, the living habits are completely different, even if the children can bear it, but what about the other half of the children? Don't say anything for the time being, after a long time, there will definitely be this and that contradiction!

Third, the elderly are used to working at home, and if they don't work, they will feel uncomfortable, they can't eat well, they can't sleep well, and the living environment of decades can not be changed overnight! Fourth, the environment of the city is very complicated, there are many roads and cars, and the elderly have to worry everywhere when they go out, afraid of getting lost, afraid of not understanding the traffic rules.

In fact, a better approach is to take time to go back to accompany your parents more, look at the elderly, the money is inexhaustible, the parents are there, the home is there, don't wait for the parents to leave one day, only to know that the parents are gone!

Then you have to look at your parents' wishes.

I always remember the story of my grandma — oh, we're called grandma here, and it's commonly called grandma. My uncle, the eldest uncle took root in the countryside of his hometown, inherited the land of the older generation, and became a farmer, while the second uncle went out to work and worked in the big city for many years.

More than 20 years later, both of them have their own lives, the eldest uncle is in the countryside and the second uncle is in the city. And my grandmother, according to the common belief that the old man should follow the eldest son, has always lived in the countryside with her eldest son.

My second uncle, who has established himself in the big city, also wants to do his part as a son, so he always wants to take my grandmother to live with them. My grandmother was so gracious that she took a train for several hours from my eldest uncle's house to my second uncle's house. But after staying for less than a week, my grandmother ran back and said that she didn't want to go again.

When I asked her why, she just waved her hand and said, I'm not used to it, I'm not used to it, we old men and old mothers, we should stay where we should stay to care for the elderly, that place is not our home.

Yes, some old people are like this, they want not the prosperity of the big city, but the tranquility of the countryside. All they want is a homeland where they can return to their roots.

They don't need to be comfortable, they've worked for decades, and labor has almost become a habit for them. Now you suddenly take the hoe and sickle from their hands and say to them, you are tired, it is time to rest, and they may not feel your filial piety, not your thoughtfulness, but you feel as if you have deprived them of the meaning of life.

So, don't decide whether or not to take them to the city without asking your parents. There are some things that they need to make their own choices.