The ugly and neat Chinese gregarious What is the truth about the Chinese gregarious?

Some time ago, a real ** filmed at dinner published on the Internet was fired. As a person with an ordinary life, I felt suffocated. At the wine table of a restaurant in Shandong, a group of people sat around and drank beer.

A young man with a smile on his face scoops porridge for someone else.

A pot of black and white porridge on the dining table is made in the shape of tai chi. The man scooped a spoonful of the black part of the white rice porridge in the bowl, respectfully handed it to the leader and said, "This is to thank you for your high opinion that allows us to meet here." ”

Then, he took another spoonful of the white part of the black porridge and recited it in his mouth: "This spoonful is given to our deputy director, which is called looking at each other in a different way." "It's not over yet.

He took a spoonful from the middle of Tai Chi and said, "This work focuses on the balance of yin and yang. A lady took the porridge and complimented:

There are so many sayings about this dish. Before the man could finish speaking, he took a spoonful from the black porridge and put it into the rice porridge, and then took another spoonful from the rice porridge into the black porridge: "People say that the characteristic of Tai Chi is called repetition and repetition.

After coming down many times, many people in the workplace recalled the embarrassing scene of going out to eat and toast with their leaders. They couldn't help but pull out three rooms and a hall on their tiptoes: "Can you shut up and eat?"

It's such a cruel table culture, and while most of the audience is happy, I'm just sick of it! What is this? "I'm ashamed of this wine table culture.

Even if I toast in circles, I still have to say nice things, can't I let go of social fears? ”

Others sympathized with the situation of the porridge divider and felt his sadness: "Who doesn't want to sit down and want to eat and want to eat? Who wants to eat a meal and help curry favor one by one, isn't this all about currying favor with the leader? "Overall, I really thought it was going to be eaten.

Most of the time, leaders don't move their chopsticks. Can you eat it? Every time I can't get enough of this meal, because this meal is not for you at all, but needs your flattery.

This short ** paragraph reveals the authenticity of the Chinese style of "gregariousness": hoping to fit in as soon as possible, we have to say something nice to please the rest of the circle, but make ourselves look vague.

Sadly, in this way, we slowly become the adults we once despised the most, slowly smoothed out by life.

In order to fit in with the collective, some people desperately say some beautiful things to please others, but instead make themselves blurred.

Chinese-style gregariousness is herd mentality. In this way, you can and I can too, we all have a goal, let's do it together.

For the sake of the cleanliness of the city, many urban management departments require the plaques of merchants to be made the same, although they are neat, they do lose their individuality and traditional beauty.

The Chinese style of "gregariousness" isIn order to integrate into the collective, he desperately said some beautiful words to please others in the circle, but instead made himself blurred. It is also known as a phenomenon in psychology called the "herd effect". If a person stays in the collective for a long time and becomes accustomed to conformity, he will gradually lose his judgment and become a slave to the collective will

Some time ago, the street storefront signs in Xi'an were also very ugly and "gregarious". It is obviously a gourmet restaurant, but it was required to be uniformly replaced with white characters on a black background, and passers-by said that it looked like a mourning hall. It is said that the color of the signboard on this street has been changed three times a month.

Either mourn neatly or celebrate neatly.

In fact, ugly and neat signboards are not the patent of a certain city. From the international city of Shanghai to the counties and towns, the storefront signboards on the streets all require unified fonts, font sizes and colors. The solid color background with high saturation and spicy eyes, the font that comes with the system, and the typography without a little design.

It is called "improving the image of the city" and improving the appearance of the city, but this kind of unity of low aesthetics should not be what we are pursuing.

Being gregarious means that you are basically in agreement with the group in terms of ideas, looking down on everyone and looking down on anyone, and liking whatever you like. To put it bluntly, it's to go with the flow. People are social animals and definitely don't want to feel lonely, so they can only do the same things and the same preferences as in the group.

The Chinese-style gregariousness is a good tradition, good to follow the flow and good to live with the power and money, and the Chinese value feelings, rules, and people play together according to the rules.

First of all, you must be extroverted, not introverted, and not too withdrawn. Most Chinese groups will think that people must be extroverted, that is, they must come together, love to talk, do not alienate others and do not flee from others, friends tell you to go out to play, you want to go to dinner, you have to drink, you have to have dinner often. This is not a friend of wine and meat, from the traditional festivals of our country, we know it, such as the Spring Festival, most of them are people who get together to eat and chat, so this is also linked to our culture, to put it bluntly, it is to mingle with everyone and not leave the group.

Chinese gregariousness means that you have to do something you don't like, so that you can have a common topic with the other person, and it is difficult to get along if you don't have a common hobby with others.

Chinese gregariousness is "moderation", and the Chinese pay attention to the golden mean, do not make the first bird, and do not love the limelight.

Ugly and neat is not a Chinese "gregarious", but a unique culture. Chinese gregariousness is about changing oneself and forcibly fitting into a certain team!

The ugly and neat Chinese "gregarious" isPreviously, a ** exposed the truth of Chinese-style "gregariousness" in order to integrate into the collective, desperately saying some beautiful words to please others in the circle, but instead making himself blurred.

Previously, on the wine table of a small restaurant in Shandong, a group of middle-aged people sat around, and beer was poured in front of them. A young man, with a smile on his face, scooped porridge for the others. A pot of black and white porridge on the dining table was made into the shape of Tai Chi.

The man scooped a spoonful of the black part of the white porridge in the bowl and respectfully handed it to the leader: "This is called thank you for taking a high look, so that we have today's meeting." Immediately afterwards, he scooped another spoonful of the white part of the black porridge and muttered in his mouth

This is for our deputy director, which is called looking at it differently. ”

This is not over, he scooped another spoonful from the middle part of Tai Chi and said, "This work pays attention to the left and right, and the balance of yin and yang." Before the man could finish dividing it, he scooped another spoonful from the black porridge to the white porridge, and scooped a spoonful from the white porridge to the black porridge

People say what is the biggest feature of Tai Chi, which is called the cycle and the beginning, and the life is endless. ”

After the operation, many people in the workplace recalled the embarrassing scene of going out to eat and toast with the leader, and couldn't help but pick out the three-bedroom living room with their toes: "Can you shut up and eat, I feel nervous and embarrassed just by looking at **." ”

Some people sympathized with the situation of the man who shared the porridge and empathized with his sadness: "Who doesn't want to sit down and eat whatever they want, if it's not for life, who is willing to eat a meal and help one by one, isn't it all to please the leader." ”

We should take the essence and discard the dross. Not long ago, the street market billboards in Xi'an were not very pretty。Although it is a variety of hotels and restaurants, it is forced to be uniformly arranged into two colors, black and white, and people passing by say that it looks like a funeral scene.

What a vibrant street, can you make people so nervous? It is said that the color of the street's signboard changes three times a month. It's either a neat funeral or a festive one.

In fact, ugly and neat signboards are not the preserve of a city's state.

It is nice to say that the name is "to enhance the image of the city" and improve the appearance of the city, but is this unity of low beauty really what we are pursuing? In contrast, the neon signs of various shapes and sizes on the streets of Japan are as beautiful as movie scenes. Simple yet designed, New York street signs seem to tell the story of the city.

Even the various signs in ancient China are unique and interesting. Small shops, as the cells of a city, carry the history and culture of a city.

For Chinese, business dinners are a form of etiquette. People sit, eat and drink, and the time is only one and a half hours, but it is "overloaded". At banquets, conversation is almost impossible, as one must be ready to clink glasses at any time.

This dish is stir-fried cold. They will stand up and toast us and express their joy. "Cheers"It is to drink all the wine in the cup.

In addition, there was no wine left in the glass. In order to express the joy of the guests, it is also necessary to "raise a glass in return"! Then everyone continued to eat, and there were a few toasts in the middle to warm up.

After serving the fish, please toast two more glasses.

Perhaps most people's first reaction to the jokes and ridiculous things at the table is to reflect on our table culture. In this documentary of the Central Commission for Discipline Inspection, the relevant case was also accused of "killing people by wine table culture". But if there is no time when the power of the wine table can be dominated and tamed, then why is the wine table culture so ferocious?

There is no elimination of the power gene that is "drunk bad" in the wine table cultureReflecting on the so-called wine table culture, after all, it can only be boots on the ground, and changing customs is even more fantastical. When power is restricted, it is possible to deal exclusively with all kinds of "evil" - there is no choice but to do so.

I don't think the Chinese table culture is necessary. Especially every time I go to eat wedding wine, I feel the same, and there are no surprises.

China's table culture has both advantages and disadvantages. The good thing is that the table culture has given many people the opportunity to connect, especially some common friends who can chat freely at the dinner table; The bad side of the stove is that there are too many rules, which kills personality.