Another emotional problem seems a bit complicated.

There's a big deal of girls who have a tendency to "self-preservation," which means that the more you treat her, the more she feels like you're trying something for her, or that you're better now, and the more hurt you're going to hurt her one day. This is normal, so I don't doubt what you say, I think you can do it the other way around: you can say to her "Then you can treat me well from now on, give me back what I was good to you before, and when you pay it off, we will start as ordinary friends".

Or change the relationship and call her sister sister.

Don't turn around, you have to understand a truth, whoever deserves her to the end is the winner.

In short, you don't be too sticky, not too explicit, sometimes you can be tough, make a little bad.

Finally, I want to say that the landlord, you don't believe in the constellation, you have to believe in yourself, and we who support you.

This seems to be an excuse...Don't you think? Do you believe in breaking up for no reason?

Keep being nice to her, ask the real reason, tell her I will love you for the rest of my life and we will never be apart.

If you're not serious, don't give it all -- I don't think it has anything to do with the horoscope.

First of all, don't believe in any zodiac signs! Liking and socializing is not a concept. Maybe.

It's just a spur of the moment. You better think about it, if you think she is worthy of your love, then let it go! You must learn how to touch a girl and spend more time trying to get to know her!

Every girl is different, so it's just right to move her.

Why would she worry so early: if she breaks up with you one day for no reason, it will hurt you. Did she plan to break up with you in the first place, wasn't she serious?

I haven't paid how to think like this... I don't understand ... If she really likes you and won't try to be with you because she is afraid of losing you, it's just an excuse, you can tell her that if you really like someone, she will pursue it at all costs, just like you.

A hundred years of repair of the same ship, a thousand years of repair to sleep together.

Fate is not easy to come by, and it is even more rare to love each other like this. If you really love each other so much, I think you should cherish it and stick to it together.

Your happiness is in your own hands, and your parents' views are not wrong, but they are one-sided, one is because your parents are different from the times we were born in, and the outlook on life and values are very different from ours, and the different ways of thinking and the different things you pursue have led to the conflict of opinions between you now. They may indeed be biased against your boyfriend because they don't approve of you being with him in the first place.

Respecting your parents is important, but your happiness is a lifelong thing, and I don't think anyone can be the master but yourself. Besides, respecting one's parents is not about blindly listening to them, and their opinions are not necessarily right.

If you really want to be together, the parental side can always be solved. You can discuss a plan with your boyfriend, take a long-term view, let your boyfriend wait for you, you pretend to agree to some conditions of your parents, first deceive their trust, wait for your mother's condition to improve, and then get your ID card, household registration and other things, and find a way to be with your boyfriend again.

This may take a while. But this can kill two birds with one stone, not only can effectively cope with the parents, but also can test whether the relationship between you and your boyfriend is as indestructible as you described. See if he will wait for you, whether he is the person you are worthy of entrusting for life.

Love can stand the test, and if these can be passed smoothly, you will definitely be happy in the future, because you must believe that good things are grinding.

I wish your mother a speedy **. Wishing you happiness.

Filial piety is important, but let's avoid filial piety first, parents are your closest people, they are all from the past, naturally look at people farther than you, but also sharper than you, I believe you love each other, do you think that no one will be so good to you except him? Why did your parents see his shortcomings again, the southerners are scheming, this is not your parents talking nonsense, you ask yourself, didn't you numb your eyes because of love and avoided some of his shortcomings?

If you get a betrayal of your relatives and a serious illness of your parents for your love, can you withstand such a blow, and can you guarantee that he will be good to you for the rest of your life?

If it's not worth it, let it go as soon as possible, the pain will always pass, and the longer it takes, the more you can't bear it!

Faithful wish you happiness!

Do you know him?

If you don't understand him, why bother to be with him and talk about marriage.

Besides, you still don't know him after 2 years.

As a woman, you are a loser.

If, you know him. You trust him.

So why care what others say.

You already know, clearly, understand that you trust this man who loves you dearly.

Why listen to other people's one-sided words.

Grab your own happiness.

Lost, never to come back.

There is a black dot on a white paper, what I want to say is that you only want to see the white paper, your family only wants to see the black dots, maybe your family did not maliciously lie to you, but just expanded one or several things, parents want their children to live well, the most important thing to do now is not to make your mother angry, take care of the disease (breast cancer is a big blow to women), and then do what you want to do, two years together is not a short time, I believe that any problems can definitely be found. But your parents' point of view is probably still needed by your boyfriend to change himself, your recommendation is useless, as long as your mother likes your boyfriend I guess your dad is OK, personal opinion, I hope it will help you.

Honoring one's parents should come first.

Parents really can't make sense and can't force it.

The rest is the second time, do you understand?

It's very simple, start your own business, use facts to prove that you love right or wrong, and it is always the He family together that your independence can not be reflected.

It's about your lifelong happiness, so think about it. If you truly love each other, hold on to your love. I believe that you also know him better than others, no matter what others say, you have to distinguish right from wrong.

Happiness is your own, and the happiness of a lifetime is your own! People won't be happy when they look at you, that's what they think. If you ruin your own happiness for the sake of your family, maybe you will regret it for the rest of your life.

Then you can wait, I believe that with your sincerity, you can influence your family.

I think you can't put your own happiness first, and you can't think about others without caring about yourself, you see.

From my personal point of view, you should break up with him, if you don't break up, then you look at him more important than your family, after all, your parents are the ones who gave birth to you and raised you, far beyond your love, the closest people are still their own parents, parents don't make mistakes when they look at people, after all, it's also for your good, if it's me, I will say to the boy to break up, let him find a better girl, filial piety to parents is the traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, no matter what, be good to your parents, be filial to your parents.

Let's get through the family relationship slowly, besides, my mother is still sick, and things need to be done slowly.

It's another emotionally tangled experience, it seems that those TV series are not fictional out of thin air, but I think that the reason why TV series can be made up so beautiful is because it itself does not need to bear anything to this society, what if it is replaced by us ordinary, ordinary people?

Who would know ...

Your life should be chosen by yourself, the answer is in your heart, but you don't dare to face it directly, be brave to pursue your ideals.

Carrying the memories of the past, it is difficult for the current relationship to go on. The past is already history, so let it pass, why bother to carry the burden of the past.

The key to whether you can let go of it is up to you, you can think more about the present, there is no need for him to always remember the past, but don't deliberately avoid it, because that will only make you care more.

Good luck when you really let go of that past relationship you won't be affected by it anymore.

After carefully reading your description, the following analysis is made for reference only. There may be more than one relationship in life, and how to deal with past and current relationships can be tricky! For your current boyfriend, it is obvious that he cares about you very much, and you have also risen from the stage of looking for the shadow of your first love to true love, which is commendable!

Now the biggest problem is that you say that you can't forget the memories of the past, that the good and bitter of the past have passed, and that people should live in the present. Everyone understands this truth, and it is indeed not easy to do! Coupled with the fact that you are a melancholy person, it will be even more difficult for you to come out of the past!

You can try to do something with your current boyfriend that you haven't done with your first love, you can travel together, and after a long time together, you will forget the past, and your relationship will be stronger! If, after getting along for a long time, you still find that you can't get out of the past, then you have to end the relationship decisively, although you are a little cruel to your current boyfriend, but no one wants to live in the shadow of others. You need to be alone for a while to become more mature until you get out of what you used to be, and it takes time!

ps Your current boyfriend respects your choice, but when it comes to breaking up, you must consider his feelings, don't hurt too much, good luck!!

The above is my husband's answer, I add, I am a little melancholy and a little sensitive like you, my husband is the same as your boyfriend, he is also quite enthusiastic, and will always bring me a lot of happiness I think the communication between you and your boyfriend is very important, I don't like to communicate with my husband, I always feel that he will understand my careful thinking, and slowly find that people are different, you must show your attitude, know if you want this man, and then date, to let others understand you There is a saying, don't let the man who will only bleed for you shed tears for you Always feel that the happy man can't afford to hurt

Memories that can't be let go are always memories, it's just the past.

Happiness now is worth grasping.

I don't think you need to do it deliberately to really let go, what you remember to do now is not to recall the happiness of the past, but to seize the happiness of the next second.

The most painful part of my heart is those unbearable memories, it took me 3 years, but I can't erase the pain, I have a boyfriend now, but I won't mention it, because it was in the past. The past is in the past, I know you don't want to express this feeling, but you will feel uncomfortable from time to time, want to cry, grievances, sisters, this will not change anything, it will only hurt you deeper, and it will also hurt the people around you more deeply, everyone has a way to forget their past self, your heart disease, you have to come out by yourself, no one can help you, if you want to adjust, you should not touch those things that no longer belong to you, I hope you can understand what I said, I wish you happiness.

"First love" if grasped will be a wonderful memory. If you accidentally let it slip through your fingers, then the Baiwei tea in your life is probably to be savored and savored.

Then again, why does "first love" have such a big impact on each of us? It's nothing more than "new and strange". When we stumble and crawl for more than ten or twenty years, and suddenly a "person" who is completely different from us but is a species because of a physiological characteristic appears in our hearts, what a shock it should be.

When we all retain the exploratory and possessive nature of our childhood, we inevitably have great expectations for the "person" that appears in our hearts. Therefore, once lost, it will inevitably linger.

In fact, when we have a new boyfriend and girlfriend, don't forget that we have been in love, we have a clear reference, whether you admit it or not, you want to exceed this "reference", that is, more or less with the shadow of first love. Because I don't want to fail, I don't want to lose the bright future I once fantasized. But "there is no one leaf in the world that is the same", how can two people be exactly the same!

If you want to get rid of the burden that you have given you in the past, and you happen to have a good new boyfriend and girlfriend at this time, you might as well give him more thought, or spend more money than your previous boyfriend to buy him a gift, or give him your first kiss, or you can play some better kissing tricks with him, hugging or something.

In short, when something "new" appears before you and your new boyfriend, you will have a certain sense of balance in your heart, and you will not be so depressed to live in the shadows of the past.

Don't treat him as a shadow of your ex-boyfriend anymore, if you love him now, love him steadily, if it's just a shadow, just leave.

Seeing your question, I thought of my previous self, and I talked about it for two years, and my relationship was closed for two years, until now, I can't help but compare my current boyfriend with my previous one, and I always feel that it is not as good as before, but how can this be compared, isn't it, two people who are completely different, so I keep telling myself that since we are separated, we must grasp the things that are not available now, so why bother thinking about him.