How do you understand modern love? 15

The mentality of looking at everything and putting it down is a good mentality.

Go all out when you love, and break it neatly when you don't love.

Love in the Age of Cash? I think it's similar to the love of the cash era.

Look at the current marriage, which is not without a house does not consider you? Don't have a good job that doesn't consider you? Of course, true love still exists, but in the love of the cash age, there are very few epidemics after all.

That's why I say that love is important, but love in the current era must be built on a material basis.

You may say that I am more worldly, but I just tell the truth, not for extra points, but for reality.

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Love can't give a satisfactory answer to everyone! Everyone has their own opinion that they think is the most correct! Love is also a conversion or a gamble! If you bet right, you'll have a better life! Otherwise, it's a wrong bet.

Love is not modern or ancient! It's all the same! The difference is just in the material!

Love is like a glass of water, it gives you nourishment when you need it most, but it quickly runs out.

Men and women are equal, and it is good to be separated and separated.

Love and intimacy are topics that almost everyone can't escape in their lifetime. Many people are lost, confused, painful, struggling in love, and finally choose to compromise. At this time, a thought always rises in our hearts:

This man is wrong! He's not the prince charming I shouted at the horse, or she's not the woman who can turn my prodigal son back. So, the next question is:

Am I going to keep living, or am I going to be brave enough to say goodbye? Yes or no? What exactly is love?

There is a truth in life: most black and white questions are false propositions, and it is often difficult to find the correct answer under the wrong proposition.

Most of the troubles and problems in a love marriage are due to our ignorance of ourselves, including our unacceptability. Many of the distorted patterns that form in childhood, as well as the lack of a sense of worth and belonging, we ask our partners a hundred, a thousand times. As a result, one after another, quarrels and dying love are brought.

This is why the average divorce rate is close to 60% in a contemporary society that is gradually moving away from traditional concepts. In my ** course, "The Compulsory Course of Love", I have a deeper understanding of intimacy. You can find the details in my post.

Today's lease contains me to explain this from another angle. In an unsatisfactory intimate relationship, there is almost an unthinkable fact - we don't even know love except ourselves and each other.

Is it in a daze to read a stupid account, then, what is love? This is a question that seems clear, but on closer inspection, it is not clear. Is love at first sight an instant?

Is it the impulse of hormones and dopamine that arises from excitement? Or is it a stopgap measure for multiplication? It seems to be right, and it seems to be able to cite counterexamples to overturn it, so what is love?

Under the system of exam-oriented education, we know everything from the concept of cognition, and there is no problem in understanding the concept itself, which allows us to understand the core of things from complex appearances.

The problem is that we only test the concepts we have learned, and do not apply them to real life. Therefore, it is necessary to start from the concept of understanding love and re-understand the essence of love. The social psychology definition of love is:

Love is the most attractive form between people, it is an individual who is physically and mentally mature to a certain extent, and it is a romantic high-level emotion for individuals of the opposite sex.

Love is a very desirable emotion, very unique, and will make both parties desperate. It's not what I thought it would be.

It may be that two banquets or individuals inexplicably have feelings for each other, and then want to be together forever is love. It's still not the same as I imagined, I imagined that love should be respectful, but modern love is always fragile. Greetings.

Being together will become very happy, and this is love. No. The current love is not what I imagined, and it also makes me very negative.

I'm still cautiously optimistic about marriage and love:

1.Believe in true love. Sincere feelings and love still exist, but they are difficult to find and maintain in modern society. People now have more choices and a greater sense of self than ever before, but true love is still one of life's most precious experiences to discover and cherish.

This makes the marriage more stable and also leaves room for extramarital affairs, and the two need to be balanced in reality.

3.Greater sense of freedom. Modern people are more self-conscious, no longer automatically accept the restrictions of traditional marriage concepts, and pay more attention to personal freedom and development.

4.Life is becoming more stressful. The pressure of life in modern society is increasing, and the pressure of busy work and survival is easy to disintegrate feelings and affect the quality of marriage. But the more the relationship and marriage are maintained in the face of adversity, the more prominent its value will be, which requires the joint efforts of both parties.

5.The mindset needs to be calm. In the modern environment, marriage and relationships need to be faced with a calm mind.

Neither too dx, nor too desperate, maintain positive confidence and open-mindedness. Life has its ups and downs, and relationships also need to go through hardships and then mature, which needs to be experienced and dealt with with with calmly.

So, in general, despite the complexity of the modern social environment, sincere feelings and a stable marriage are still worth pursuing. It requires a more pragmatic attitude, a stronger sense of tolerance, and a more relaxed attitude to explore and face. Under the right conditions, marriage and love remain important ways to achieve happiness and meaning in life, and this will not change.

The key is to have a correct understanding and reasonable expectations of relationships and marriages.

This can't be said to be good or bad! I feel that this is a bad emotional view, what if the person who loves you has a wrong outlook?

In today's fast-paced society, young people will still slow down and seek love. When we're together, my eyes are all about you, even if I don't do anything, the corners of my mouth go up, and I'm still myself when I'm alone. It is difficult to choose one who loves you and loves yourself, but you will persevere.

To love, please love deeply, do not be ambiguous, hurt others and hurt yourself.

And some people's feelings are not because you have to be, it's not that we love each other, but you happen to be there, and I happen to be lonely, so we can walk together for a while, so that we don't seem so lonely. As for who you are, it doesn't really matter.

No matter what your view of love is, the most important thing is that the three views should be harmonious, and it is difficult to be happy if the three views are different, the idea of radish is very simple, as long as we love each other, nothing else matters.

I'm a little Aunt Bensan. Treat loveNo matter how old I am, I still pursue my love full of surprises。If you were born in troubled times, you may be pursuing a vigorous love.

When I was a student, I may have seen too much romance**, I expect that I can fall in love with a school-level character, he can be in the limelight, but he is the only one who loves me. He can be as cold as ice, but he is as passionate as fire for me. He sticks to his principles, but he can break them for me.

This is my view of love when I was a teenager, and I also pursued my love frantically when I was a student. Only now do I understand that the above mentioned does not exist in reality at all, yes, unless it is an alien.

Tell me about myself。When I was in high school, I fell in love with a boy in my class, and it was love at first sight. Since then, I've been binge-courting him, and I should have done all the stupid things you've ever done.

In the self-study class, he sat in the first two rows of me, and he wrote the exercises carefully, and I wished he would turn around and look at me. So, I started pretending to cough quietly, and he didn't move. I coughed louder and louder, and the other students turned to look at me, but he remained motionless.

So, I kept making noises, slapping the table, kicking the stool, but he still didn't hear what was going on outside the window. Until I accidentally fell to the ground with a table and stool, making a loud noise, and I couldn't do it in pain. He finally looked back at me, and before I could get up, he began to write the exercises calmly again.

After many years, I finally understood the absurdity of my youth, and I poured everything into it, and he glimpsed it.

In addition, I will talk about the various views of love of the young people around me that I have come into contact with, and there are generally these types:

1. Treat feelings directly and honestly, make it clear to each other that they love each other, and they can feel relaxed and happy with the people they love. This person can be the one you love more, or you can love yourself very much. All in all, the most important thing is to be happy and relaxed together and not get tired of getting along.

2. It is better to choose a mate than to be indiscriminate, and if you can't find a suitable one, it doesn't matter if you are single all the time. I think that a high-quality single is better than a low-quality marriage.

I think contemporary people are still very casual when it comes to love, basically following their own temperament, and not thinking too much about each other's feelings.

From my personal point of view, I think of love as a spice in life, a source of motivation for each other, not the whole of life.

Today's young people are all about efficiency, and the same is true for love. So instant love was born. Couples will quickly form romantic relationships with each other. I also lost patience and persistence in dealing with feelings. If you meet, you will come, and if you don't, you will disperse.

It's young people now, their attitudes towards love are also different, so some people may be very strict about love, and then they are very loyal to love, but some people may just have a playful attitude towards love.

Personally, I think it's just to feel it with your heart. Love is a kind of responsibility, and we should let those good things stay between us forever, that is true love.

When contemporary people treat love, they have a more casual attitude, and they feel that they will cherish it when it comes, and if it does not come, they will not deliberately look for it.

Contemporary people feel that love is only a part of life, not the whole thing, so they don't put all their energy into love.

No matter what time it is, everyone's approach to love will be different, but everyone wants a true love. Everyone wants to be with the person they love and never be separated.

I think people nowadays take love more seriously, although sometimes it is very realistic, but everyone has the right to pursue love.

The previous requirements of the door, talented and beautiful, basically now can not see, modern people's attitude towards love, more is freewheeling, writer Yang Daxia Yang Ke pointed out that love should follow human nature.

True love is not expressed in words, it comes from the heart, when you fall in love with someone, your whole heart will be attracted by the person you love, fascinated by him (her), concerned for him (her), I hope you can see him (her) every minute, when you can't see him, you will always think of him (her), when you see you will be excited, your heart will beat faster, when you are together, you will feel very warm and safe, and he (her) will be in love, you will look forward to using all your love to bring him (her) the greatest happiness, And you get another kind of happiness in the process! I often think of him (her) and am happy, I mind him (her) very much, I care about him (her) very much, and I have happiness with him (her).

Believe in yourself As long as there is love, happiness will definitely exist

The more you are afraid of losing a girl, the more you will not dare to talk to her, go on a date, so that you will really lose a girl.