Are all parents like this 10, are all parents like this

Almost! Mine is. I looked forward to reading an article.

A pair of cousins written above, their parents praised each other for the goodness of each other's children, and later the children envied each other. In fact, every child has strengths, and parents just want their children to be perfect, so they say so. To understand.

When I was a child, my mother always said how good other people's children are, I said that other people's mothers are rich, and when I grew up, I would say that you should find someone else to be a son.

If my parents say that about me, I will say that you gave birth anyway, what does it have to do with me. (Of course, I was in junior high school at this time.)

Kindness.. When I was a child, my parents were like that. Actually, I care about you very much. I always want you to be better than others ...

Yes, now as a parent, I can only talk about myself.

1. Don't trust children. Many parents have this cognitive misunderstanding, and they think that if we ignore our children, we will destroy them. Children are likely to kill people and set fires, and be lawless.

Parents manage their children every day and worry about their children, and this mode of getting along continues, and the result is that children outsource this part of their own management functions to their parents. The child's self-management ability is weakened, and it is not even cultivated. Therefore, many children have no motivation to learn and are not proactive, which is the result of their parents' envy and substitution.

2. Seeing children as machines without emotions and feelings. Many parents especially like obedient children, hoping that their children will obey their words, don't talk back, don't refute, parents give instructions, and children just do what they say. Treat children like machines.

She is to obey my commands. Otherwise, you will be beaten. We are emotionally isolated from our children at this time, and many of our children's problems are caused by their parents' improper education methods.

3. Parents regard themselves as gods and rarely show their true selves in front of their children. Many fathers and mothers have high moral standards for themselves, hoping that they will behave perfectly in front of their children, completely ignoring their own needs and feelings, and willing to sacrifice themselves for their children. Ask yourself not to have emotions, not to lose your temper, and want to be a perfect parent.

But the result is not only a lot of pressure on the child's heart, but also exhaustion himself.

For the sake of their children's education, mothers in some families give up their careers and jobs to do full-time escort schooling, laundry and cooking for their children, take care of their living branches, and do their best to help their children cope with their studies. So is it worth it for parents to do this?

Parents should provide their children with the best educational resources and environment, and guide their children to correct values and outlook on life through their own behavior, words and deeds.

From a feminist point of view, women play an important role in the family, but women should also have their own life pursuits and value realization. Therefore, women should not give up their careers and interests altogether, but should achieve self-worth by balancing the needs of their families and individuals.

A study has shown that homeschooling has an important impact on children's growth and development, but parents also need to balance their careers and lives to achieve a balance between family and personal. In addition, some feminists have also put forward the concept of "family-work balance", emphasizing that women should have their own careers and interests, and realize their self-worth by balancing the needs of family and individuals.

To sum up, whether it is worthwhile for a mother to give up her own values and profession for the sake of her child needs to be decided on a case-by-case basis and personal values. However, we should realize that family education and personal development are complementary to each other, and women should also have their own life pursuits and value realization.

The desire of the heart is light.

As long as things fail next time, don't cry.

When you are tired, you can rest, but you don't give up on behalf of the watch.

There will always be sunlight through the clouds.

Efforts now determine whether you smoke or light a cigarette later.

Don't envy others, don't lose yourself.

Ask less about why others are arguing and ask yourself more.

One. Strengthen the awareness of learning.

Parents must insist on learning, not only to learn the knowledge within their own business scope, but also to learn the knowledge related to the business, and even the knowledge that has nothing to do but is beneficial to personal development. Many parents feel that their careers have entered a stable period, so they begin to be unenterprising, but they don't know that this society is full of variables, just like the mice in "Who Moved My Cheese", only by always maintaining a high degree of vigilance and continuous learning can there be a tomorrow. Even if you make a gesture of continuing to learn and let the child see, it is also a kind of help for the child.

For most parents, they are faced with the dilemma of insufficient time and money. In today's competitive society, it is impossible to solve both of these problems. Parents achieve self-improvement through continuous self-study.

Two. Improve your own quality.

Some people say: "teach without teaching" in family education. This statement is not necessarily accurate, but there is some truth in it, that is, family education is not mainly based on words and teaching, but on example.

The biggest feature of family education is that it is subtle, and parents often unconsciously influence their children in their daily lives. Especially for young children, their thinking has the characteristics of concrete visualization, and the imitation is very strong, and imitation is the main way for them to learn to be a person. In the family, parents become the main target of their imitation.

Parents' behavior habits, standards of right and wrong, attitude towards others, moral concepts and many other aspects are always influencing children.

Three. Don't be too strict with your child.

There are some rules that everyone has to follow, so mom and dad must set a good example and let their children know that the rules are to be followed. Mom and dad should communicate with their children frequently so that they know the consequences of some of their wrong behaviors. Therefore, when educating children, we must let them know that they have done wrong, otherwise, this punishment will be meaningless to the child.

Four. Give your child encouragement.

When educating a child, it is important not to always compare the child to others, especially if he has siblings. Because every child is a unique individual and is very special, as parents, we should be good at discovering and appreciating our children's uniqueness, and encourage them to pursue their dreams.

During the summer vacation, in addition to studying, reading extracurricular books, exercising, and participating in community activities, I also helped my parents with housework.

At first, I couldn't clean the dishes, and sometimes I put too much clean. Now I have mastered the method of brushing dishes, that is, first put a few drops of Jiejieling in the water, then use a dishcloth to wash the dishes and dishes from the inside out, then wash the chopsticks, spoons, and basins, and after washing, pour out the dirty water, and then rinse them one by one with running water, empty them and put them in the cupboard.

If the order is not right, the dishes and chopsticks will be unhygienic. It seems that washing dishes is also learned, and it can't be learned without a period of study.

In addition, when my grandmother chooses vegetables, I also choose them with her. In the process, I not only learned how to choose vegetables, but also learned what are the names of vegetables such as spinach, rape, celery, lettuce, etc.

Participating in housework made me realize the tiredness and hard work of the elders in a day, and understood that labor is the most glorious. Helping parents do housework every day, although it is very tiring, but I am very happy.

As soon as I arrived at school in the morning, the teacher received an angry ** from a parent, and the parent said, "What's going on at your school?" How can they all train these students who beat people? Can't teachers teach students well? ”

Inexplicably, she was told by her parents, and the teacher couldn't figure out the situation, so she could only tell her parents and wait for her to understand the situation. The teacher called the student Xiaofeng over and asked about the situation. From Xiao Feng's intermittent narration, the teacher finally summed up one thing:

Xiao Liang, the elder brother of Xiao Lin, a classmate in the class, joked with him in the car, and just as the car started, he fell to the ground. There were too many people at that time, and they didn't cry. When I got out of the car, I cried when I saw my parents, saying that I had been beaten.

The teacher called all the students in the same car to the office and learned in detail what had happened. In order to further restore the truth of the matter, the teacher went to Xiao Liang's homeroom teacher, and through Xiaoliang's homeroom teacher, he came to understand the situation with Xiaoliang to see if things were consistent with what Xiaofeng said.

Just when the teacher was trying to understand the situation, Xiaofeng's parents sent a message in the group again, saying: "So-and-so's parents, why did your child beat my child? What's so remarkable about you? ”

The teacher quickly contacted Xiaofeng's parents and explained to him what had happened, saying that all the children in the car said so. Xiaofeng's parents didn't listen to the teacher's explanation at all, thinking that the teacher was teaching the child to cheat and tell lies. And told the teacher that if the school did not solve the problem, he would go to the school.

I wonder what happened to some parents now? Every time I encounter a problem, I never think about it for the purpose of solving it. Rather, I had an idea:

You have to do what I think you want to do, or I'll take action against you. This measure has become an artifact for some parents, and when they encounter problems that cannot meet their requirements, they must show the artifact.