Autism, playing with friends also feels lonely!

It is not autistic, and not liking to play with children is not a sign of autism, it may be that the child is more introverted or has a bad temper, and other children are unwilling to play with him, or they may have been hurt and are afraid to play with other children.

The main symptoms of autism are:

1.Social communication disorders are generally manifested by a lack of communication skills with others and a lack of secure attachment relationships with parents.

2.Language Communication Disorder: Delayed language development, or language regression after normal language development, or lack of communicative nature of language.

3.Repetition of stereotyped behaviors.

4.About 70% of children with autism with abnormal intelligence are mentally backward, but these children may have strong abilities in some aspects, 20% of their intelligence is in the normal range, about 10% of them have abnormal intelligence, and most of them have good memory, especially in mechanical memory.

5.Paresthesias are characterized by dullness of pain, fear or preference for certain sounds or images, etc.

6.Other common behaviors include hyperactivity, distraction, tantrums, aggression, self-harm, etc. This type of behavior may be related to the increased use of scolding or punishment in parental education.

It is said that the stronger the person, the more eager he is to be alone, and the more he likes to be alone, the stronger he tends to become. In solitude, I meet my own growth, in leisure, reflect on my own shortcomings, cultivate my own sentiments in safety, and precipitate my life in contemplation.

Solitude is a kind of quiet beauty, a kind of cultivation, and the best period of self-appreciation.

In fact, everyone will be lonely, that is, everyone's loneliness is different. You say you're lonely with your friends. Maybe you're too good. Your mind will become different from that of your friends. You will also find them boring.

That's right, autism feels lonely with everyone.

You're not lonely, but a bit introverted, even.

Hello, subject. Since your description is quite simple, the following simple hope can help you understand yourself.

Social Impairment:

Psychological disorder of intense fear or apprehension about any social or public setting. In crowded places, they are reluctant to come into contact with people, feel that their words and deeds are being watched, and worry that they will be ridiculed. If the state of mind is as described above, then it is a social disorder;

Introversion is essentially a character trait, it is a type of personality and is not the same as other character flaws such as low self-esteem and withdrawnness. Introverts get their energy from their inner world, such as thoughts, emotions, guesses, and ideas, which is different from extroverts who draw energy from social activities. Introverts are comfortable in a quiet, solitary environment, but introversion does not mean withdrawn, introverts socialize in a way that is biased towards depth, pursuing friendship less and fine, and their friendship is reflected in being good at digging into the depth of topics.

Judging from the simple information revealed by the subject, you seem to be the reason for your introverted personality, so in the choice of friendship, boldly choose those friends who quarrel with the same type as yourself and establish your own social circle.

The subject is good. The loneliness of a group of people is because you lack a sense of belonging, and the sense of belonging does not depend on whether it is a group or an individual.

Belonging refers to an individual's desire to be accepted into a relationship or group to be affirmed and valued as their authentic self.

At the same time, a sense of belonging is also an important spiritual pillar of self-identity.

The reason why we feel lonely in a certain person or a relationship or a certain group is because our emotional need for belonging is not met:

Unsafe. This group makes you defensive, so you need to be vigilant and disguise yourself.

Dissimilarity. This group has different hobbies, values, etc. than yours.

Not recognized as well as not recognized.

You don't want to approve of the ideas of this group and so on, and your ideas and three views are not recognized by the majority of the group.

Can't fit in. You can't fit in comfortably in this group, and you don't have a sense of participation.

Lack of emotional connection.

You can't form secure intimate attachment relationships with others.

Suggestion: Participate more and integrate more.

Don't care what other people say.

often watch some jokes, self-deprecation and self-deprecation.

Accept your own imperfections and high stuffiness.

Best wishes. Fat Po.

When we are alone, we can be self-consistent and entertaining, which is actually quite good, but when we are not integrated into the crowd and do not feel a sense of identity and understanding, we may feel that psychological level of loneliness, which is based on the "relationship gap between people" and anxiety, rather than based on the "physical fault line with people".

Based on this situation, we can be with real friends, we can also try to integrate ourselves into the current group, and we can also be more aware of whether our various attitude patterns in interpersonal communication need to be fine-tuned through psychological counseling.

You're the kind of person who doesn't talk much, and you're on your own.

It's when you don't feel lonely and bored, but with a group of people.

But I feel lonely, and I feel that I have changed my faction abruptly, how to mediate.

I feel lonely in a crowded place, and I feel abrupt and discreet.

A crowded place feels lonely.

An abrupt feeling.

Acceptance: Observe others rather than act rashly.

As you can see earlier, you have observed the abrupt feeling of being in the social circle around you, but we feel that this is normal, in order to better integrate into a certain social environment, try to observe, rather than act, observe how the people around you socialize and communicate, and then just ** instead of immediately participating in the conversation. As you observe other people, you may also notice certain groups of social relationships between groups. Then, you can try to socialize with them in the same way to better fit into their social group.

This includes imitating other people's customs, the way they speak, trying to adopt hobbies and habits that you don't dislike or even interested in, and then talking about topics of interest that are acceptable to everyone, and being friendly and inclusive.

Asking thoughtful and non-obtrusive questions and letting others take the lead in the conversation is a good and effortless way to ask helpful questions in the early stages, of course, you still need to be polite and cautious in the early stage, and you can make innocuous and self-deprecating jokes later to help keep the conversation going. You're participating in the conversation in the circle, but you don't need to draw too much attention to you, and you're able to maintain a laid-back role, and the key is that you think you belong in that place.

Be aware. Best wishes. zq

Psychoanalysis: Embracing the subject.

When the subject is alone, he can have fun, he is the center of the whole world, so he will not be lonely and bored, but when there is a group of people, the subject may feel that he can't fit in, and he feels that he does not belong to this world, so he will feel lonely.

I don't know how far the subject is in this situation, whether he feels lonely and at a loss when he is in the crowd, or whether he only feels lonely when he faces the people he knows but can't fit in.

If it's the first case, you don't have to pay attention to others, you don't have to care about other people's opinions, other people's world has nothing to do with yourself, then you can pay attention to your own world, other people's world has their own happiness, your world has your own happiness, you don't have to compare, you don't have to deliberately want to blend in, just care about yourself.

If it is the second type, you must understand, you must accept yourself, and you must know that not everyone is the protagonist of the banquet, not everyone is exquisite, long-sleeved and good at dancing. You can have fun by yourself, or the next time you have a friend party, you can call your friends on the occasion of a class party, friends are not much, you can't blend into the big circle, take care of your own small circle, talk to friends or something, people are polite, and you won't be lonely and bored when you play with your friends, the best of both worlds.

If your friends can't go, you have to go, just get by on the surface, don't be too enthusiastic, you have your circle, they have their circle, you don't have to force understanding, just endure for a while, it's just a moment of loneliness, and it's not always lonely.

I hope the subject looks at the opening point, step by step, there is actually nothing wrong with loneliness, there is a book called "I dare to be lonely in your arms", what is lonely is still very cool, the point is not to care too much about other people's knowledge of the closed law.

I hope it will be helpful to the subject.

This situation is peculiar:If you are not together, you feel lonely, it is because you rely on him, miss him, and worry about him; When the two of you are together, you will still feel lonely, which means that you are extremely empty in your heart, which is a psychological problem. In my opinion, it can be solved from the following aspects.

Cultivating hobbies is an effective way to get rid of loneliness

Hobbies can make people love life more, with hobbies, you will find that time suddenly becomes very precious, there is no time to think nonsense, you will come out of loneliness, become a busy and fulfilling person.

Concentrating on one thing is the best way to get out of loneliness

Whatever it is, if it makes you distract, you can do it. If you succeed, you will have a great sense of accomplishment after putting in the hard work. If you don't succeed, you can only think of it as a relief for yourself.

If you really don't feel like there's anything to do, keep a journal. A diary is a great person to talk to, it's like your closest friend, always by your side. You can write down your thoughts about him and the bits and pieces you spend with him in your diary, just like communicating with the other person in your soul.

Taking the initiative to communicate with others is an important way to get rid of loneliness

Find your favorite friend to share your happiness with him, your loneliness. When you are with your lover, you should take the initiative to communicate and tell you some interesting stories about your childhood and trivial things in life. When he speaks, listen carefully and put forward your own knowledge and opinions appropriately, so that you don't feel lonely.

Loneliness isn't necessarily a bad thing! In addition to living in a group, everyone needs to have a separate space to do what they like. Reading, sports, outdoors, learning to cook food ....Many, many things that are good for your physical and mental health are waiting for you, how can you be lonely?

Inner loneliness is because there is no one to talk about your heart, no one understands your affairs, even the closest person to the pillow, you don't want to think that he will really understand you....In this case, you will feel bored, at a loss, and think how lonely you are. Actually, everyone is lonely, not just you. Because of the thoughts, the opinions and the way of dealing with them will not be exactly the same.

The existence of loneliness can make you think clearly, loneliness can calm your heart, and loneliness can do what you like. Treat loneliness as a friend, and you won't feel lonely.

Man is born as an individual, and at the root, he is lonely. It's just that the various relationships in life connect us with many people, and it seems that we are not lonely, so loneliness should be the norm of the self. Since you feel that you can't accept this normality, just get out of the siege in your heart by yourself, love bravely if you want to love, and don't regret it, the days always pass in entanglement and hesitation, it's not more sad than loneliness.

Loneliness is an attitude, it is the secret of your heart, if you can't completely open your heart, loneliness will definitely accompany you forever.

The biggest manifestation of autism is social impairment, and there is no such thing as being the same sex or the opposite sex. According to relevant research, autism has differences in brain development, that is, there are organic problems.

The biggest problem for people with autism is that they can't interpret the emotions and expressions of others, and they can't interpret the emotions of others, so they can't be interested, let alone socialize.

Of course, they can be treated with appropriate intervention at an early stage, especially behavioral training, which is conducive to them to make some simple social responses.

And in your description, it's more that you can get along with the opposite sex, but you get along with other people, and you will have some bad feelings. It could be your personality traits, or it could be your perception that makes you interpret these situations differently!

However, there are thousands of faces, and getting along with different people has differences in interaction methods and communication skills. If you are able to get along with the opposite sex, it means that you have no shortage of ability to get along, then you may need to adjust and learn the skills of getting along with different people!

We humans live in groups, and it's normal for animals to like to talk with their friends, and it's a happy thing.