At the end of 19, I borrowed the bride price for my marriage with my boyfriend, and my mother in law

If you are very affectionate, I personally think that you have to pay it back, first of all, why should your parents keep the bride price money? After our parents receive the bride price, they will give the money to their daughter as her money when they live together! What's the difference between your parents and selling your daughter?

Besides, if you don't pay it back, will you let your husband and his parents pay it back themselves? You don't know what he's tired of, you can't see it! If the two of them can't live together, then break up as soon as possible and return the gift money to others!

You are husband and wife, whether the debt is a bride price or not. Since you choose to marry together, you have to bear it with him. Also, your mother-in-law is not young, it would be great if she could help us take care of the children or go out to earn money to help you.

Isn't your husband working so hard for the sake of the family? You have to think about everything, and everything will be fine if you work hard as a family to earn money.

You have just gotten married, it is irrational to talk about divorce, it is recommended that you and your husband and wife temporarily live separately from the elderly, and the borrowed money can be shared with your husband and the elderly.

I think if the mother-in-law's family is not able to repay, you, as sons and daughters-in-law, should also be considerate of the elderly. Share some of the burden for the elderly and pay it back as soon as possible. It's really not easy to be an old man. They should be understood.

Since you are married, you are a family, you should be happy together, of course, if your mother-in-law has money, you can not participate, and if you don't have money, you have to pay it back, because it is the father's debt and the son's debt.

The most important thing for you now is to find a suitable job, keep yourself busy every day, don't be their microphone, if they have anything to convey, you deliberately don't say it, or just euphemistically refuse, let them say it themselves, he will definitely spend money to marry his daughter-in-law, no matter who they marry, the money will always be spent, and you can't be blamed for this. You find a stable job, don't make yourself so tired, money is earned slowly. Your husband is also very good, he has been working hard to earn money to pay off his debts, your biggest conflict is your mother-in-law, if you have the opportunity, you will live separately from your mother-in-law, and everything will be fine.

First of all, it is appropriate to repay the loan together! After all, after getting married, they are a family, and there is no need to divide it so clearly! Secondly, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to deal with, and you have to communicate and communicate more with your husband about this kind of thing. It's good that your husband should be the middleman, not you!

In this case, you should repay the loan together, and if the bride price money is not paid off, I don't think you will have a good life.

If you don't want to be together, get a divorce. If the other party has no money and you still want a bride price, you must be prepared to pay it back together.

In modern society, guess the heavy burden of the south, since the woman asked for the bride price before marriage, Laifa does not have the conditions to pay the bride price, and the woman and the man have the obligation to jointly bear the bride price after marriage.

I feel that your mood still has to let your husband know, after all, it's not good to go on like this, I told you that women who don't have a job are easy to be depressed, not to mention that you have this symptom before, I feel that your mother-in-law is too troublesome, always take care of this and that, how normal it is for a man to marry a daughter-in-law and give a bride price, why should you pay it back, they have lived a lifetime and even their son marries a daughter-in-law and has to go out to borrow money and are embarrassed to let you help pay back the money, it's ridiculous, I think your mother-in-law obviously treats you as an outsider, or live separately.

How much is the bride price? If you want 108,000, then leave as soon as possible, if you have too much, it's okay to pay a little, after all, you want more.

You can find some side hustles to do online, but don't invest blindly, and it's understandable to help the family share the burden, but the mother-in-law's approach is really excessive, it's best to talk to your husband, otherwise the back family will not be happy.

In fact, every family has its own difficulties, no one will have a smooth sailing, I think you should share a little for your parents, if there is anything you can sit down and talk slowly, don't always be bored in your heart.

Don't divorce at will, it's more troublesome later, you can find a way to get through the difficulties, the elderly will always be picky, and there are some mothers-in-law and mothers-in-law when they are old.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. If you get married, you will have to pay a lot of bride price. As for your mother-in-law, she may have some opinions about you. After marriage, you should take out a small portion to pay off the debt!

This is the disadvantage of asking for a bride price, your mother-in-law's family is not well-off, and if you take on a high debt in order to get married, life will be even more difficult. Let's understand each other, marriage is like this, and the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a topic that can never be clarified. Especially in a stay.

If you still want to live together well, just bear with it, it's not a problem if money can solve the problem.

Shouldn't this thing be slowed down? You have to look at the relationship between the two of you. If the relationship between the two of you is deeper, then you will change together. If you feel like you're having a hard time making ends meet, it's better to get a divorce.

Since you are married, you are obliged to repay the loan together, and you don't have to worry so much about your mother-in-law, sometimes you have to know how to speak your mind and communicate more with your mother-in-law.

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Legal Analysis: Depends on the specific situation. The money borrowed for the bride price is actually pre-marital property, and in principle does not belong to the joint property of the husband and wife, and after the marriage, the person who borrowed the bride price will also bear the money himself.

However, if the bride price money is used for the husband and wife to live together after marriage, the debt owed by the bride price will be converted into a joint debt of the husband and wife, and the husband and wife will jointly bear the obligation to repay the loan.

Legal basis: Article 1042 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China prohibits arranged, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage. It is forbidden to solicit money or property under the pretext of marriage.

Bigamy is prohibited. It is forbidden for a spouse to cohabit with another person. Domestic violence is prohibited.

Abuse and abandonment between family members are prohibited.

It depends on the situation. The money borrowed for the purchase of the bride price is actually pre-marital property, and in principle, it does not belong to the joint property of the husband and wife, and it will also be borne by the person who borrowed the bride price after marriage. However, if the bride price money is used for the husband and wife to live together after marriage, the debt owed by the bride price will be converted into a joint debt of the husband and wife, and the husband and wife will jointly bear the obligation to repay the loan.

Legal basis: Article 1042 of the Civil Code of the People's Republic of China prohibits arranged marriages, buying and selling marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage. It is forbidden to solicit money or property under the pretext of marriage.

Bigamy is prohibited. It is forbidden for a spouse to cohabit with another person. Domestic violence is prohibited.

Abuse and abandonment among family members are prohibited.

Legal analysis: If the prenuptial debt is used for the husband and wife to live together, it needs to be borne by both parties, otherwise it is not, and the bride price is a personal debt before marriage, and the woman is not obliged to repay it after marriage.

Legal basis: The Supreme People's Court's Interpretation on the Application of the Marriage and Family Section (1) Article 5: Where a party requests the return of a bride price paid in accordance with custom, the people's court shall support it if it is ascertained that it falls under the following circumstances:

1) The parties have not gone through the marriage registration formalities;

2) The two parties have gone through the formalities of registering the marriage in Lingshan, but they have not lived together with Wang Yan;

3) Premarital payments that cause hardship to the payor.

The application of the provisions of items (2) and (3) of the preceding paragraph shall be conditional on the divorce of both parties.

The wedding bride price is called a bride price in some places.

Nacai is a marriage custom in China for thousands of years. Carry a split calendar.

In ancient times gifts were simple.

If the man only needs to send it.

a wooden comb, two head ropes, and a few feet of shoe cloth;

The woman returned the salute. A pair of handmade wax sole cloth shoes and a handkerchief are sufficient.

Later, with the development of society, the amount of bride price gradually expanded.

The bride price from the man to the woman has become the bulk of the wedding expenditure, often tens of thousands, or even hundreds of thousands.

Become a "sweet burden" for the groom's officials.

Some people even go so far as to borrow money for the bride price.

Borrowing money as a bride price?

Then you have to pay it back after you get married, there are always more ways than difficulties, and no one has thought of it.

Recently, a netizen posted:

Netizens are talking.

There are two distinct factions.

One side thinks. The woman has too many worries and can't share the joys and sorrows.

The man is the white wolf with empty gloves.

Marriage is a great event.

If love is ruined because of the bride price.

What a shame that would be!

May everyone who walks on the red carpet.

It's all for happiness!

What do you think?

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Yes, because once two people get married, whether it is a debt or a property, it is all closed and belongs to the husband and wife, so as long as the money is borrowed, it should be repaid jointly.

The wedding bride price is borrowed, and if the bridge is known to both parties, they can be repaid together after marriage, and if the woman is not aware of it, it is a one-sided matter to lend money to the bride price, then it depends on the mood of the nuclear woman.

I think you are still in a difficult situation, because the bride price was given to someone by you, do you want someone else to pay it back with you? If you think the amount of eggplant is too large, then you will tremble your socks seventy-three points, and others will pay thirty percent.

Yes, but you can also not pay it back with each other, no matter what, the two of them are already a family, anyway, there is so much income, it is the same if you are not together.

No, the money borrowed before marriage is a premarital debt, and whoever borrowed it should pay it back, not by you.

I don't think I need to pay it off together, because it's a pre-marital debt, it has nothing to do with you, and it shouldn't be up to you to pay it off with him.

There is no clear rule on whether to travel together after marriage, mainly depending on the conscience and the other half's state Yinzhen fingers, and it is okay to jointly bear the burden after marriage to promote the relationship between the two.