How to get rid of people you hate. Ace moves.

I've heard of anti-control theory, this kind of person shouldn't estimate too much affection, euphemistically refuse, if it doesn't work, just tell her that she has no ability to help. No one is superhuman, it is impossible to help everything, don't feel embarrassed or sorry for anyone. If you are in a city, she has a request for you, and it is very easy for you to help, if you borrow money, have no place to live, or ask you to help find a job or something, tell her that she is not not not able to help, but she really does not have the ability, just say that the family makes herself independent, but she can't manage it herself.

If it's not in a city, if she calls you to borrow money or something, don't borrow it, find a reason to excuse it, I really don't want to pick her up**, don't answer, if you ask, you will say that you forgot to take the phone. It's too late to come back. I'm afraid of disturbing her rest.

If you are worried that she will provoke the relationship with other friends, then the way to do a good job is to do your own thing, ignore it, even know and pretend not to know, and never in front of outsiders, this anti-control theory is the best to use, and after a long time, others will annoy her.

So many people replied, hoping that the landlord would make a short stop on me.

1, first you have to figure out what the other party is painting is you, for example, the other party wants you to find a job for her, and then before she has called ** to you, you call her a few more times**, complaining about how difficult it is to find a job, my parents entrusted n people to help me find a job, but none of them can find it for me, and then complain about how terrible the environment in which I may work. In short, instill in her a situation where you can't solve your own problems.

2, you don't have a big fart, what's there to provoke, no one is clean like a fairy, she doesn't have so much energy, sometimes we hear the buddies in the pit next door in the toilet, the sisters are discussing their bad words, and after they come out, they are not the same as drinking and chatting and bragging. Can you still expect your classmates to dig out your heart for you at any time, stick a knife in your ribs, and your friends can pull you as much as possible when they are difficult, and you don't have to sanctify the word friend too much.

3, You also think more about your rural classmates, don't see a person's bad, just think that she is bad for everything, then you will suffer a lot in the future, guide others more good places, if you don't want to continue to socialize, just say that we don't want to contact us again in the future, don't drag the mud and water, the more the slow knife cuts the flesh, the more it hurts. If you think this person can continue to socialize, look at the poor side of others, the kind side of others.

In short, your consideration is too premature.

Give her a look on your face, and ignore her! Something provokes you, even if it's a small thing with sesame mung beans, you have to ignore her for n days, so that you will start to be embarrassed when you meet, and slowly drift apart in the end!

To pay attention to the method, you first ask her for help, of course, this favor is beyond her ability, if she doesn't help you, and then she looks for you, you can refuse her, if you are afraid that she provokes your relationship with your friends, then I want to ask, friendship can not withstand this kind of challenge, then this friendship is not deep. This friend doesn't even give you this trust, and it's still a lifetime.

You can't change that woman, you can change yourself, don't be too soft-hearted, reject her, no, there won't be such troubles if you go to society, and you are so soft-hearted, you will suffer a lot, society is more complicated than school.

1: After graduation, you are not in the same city, so she will only borrow money from you. You just said that you just worked, and all the money you borrowed to rent a house was borrowed, and you had no money to help.

2: If you are in the same city after graduation, you will have a lot more opportunities to get in touch. If she says she wants to meet and talk, you say you're at work or playing with friends.

If she calls you, she will take it and ask directly - are you okay? She said she hung up if she was fine. If she says something, you will do everything you can to say that you can't do anything, and you must remember to be sincere.

Hehe, in fact, when you work in the society, you will see a lot of such things and people, and you must learn to refuse, euphemistically refuse.

You're right, sometimes. Help what you can, don't force what you can. If this is what he suggests, it is really not a good friend.

Let's just say you're at home. I arranged the object. You don't have the right to choose a girlfriend yourself.

She doesn't dare to come to your house to question you. It looks hopeless. Just let it go.

Don't be too realistic, learn to refuse if she asks you anything again, and directly say no since you are not a friend to her, why do you want to help her.

First of all, people with high emotional intelligence usually do not see the people they hate as enemies, but rather look at their words and actions as rationally as possible and avoid conflicts with them. If we are faced with a nasty person, we can do the following:

1.Stay calm: First of all, Lao Yin should keep his emotions stable and not be irritated or affected by the words or actions of the other party.

2.Listen to the other person: Sometimes, the person who hates you will give some constructive comments or suggestions. At this time, we should listen to their ideas and try not to quarrel or attack in order to achieve the purpose of communication.

3.Change the subject: If the person you hate starts to feel uncomfortable, try switching the subject and leading the other person to talk about something else to reduce embarrassment and disgust.

4.Tactful response: Sometimes, someone who hates you may say something too harsh or rude.

At this point, we can try to respond tactfully, such as "I know you're not satisfied, but be careful with your words, I don't want us to be at odds with each other because of a verbal conflict." ”

5.Distancing: If none of the above measures solve the problem, we can choose to keep our distance. Avoid too much contact with people who hate you, and don't take the initiative to go to the banquet to provoke or seek confrontation.

In conclusion, people with high emotional intelligence usually use some clever ways to deal with people who hate them, avoiding verbal conflicts and excessive distractions in order to maintain their emotional and mental health. At the same time, they are also able to handle interpersonal relationships well and respect the thoughts and feelings of others, so as to achieve better communication results.

In the same way, others treat you the same: some people like you, some people hate you, and most people ignore you.

So, if you want no one to hate themselves, it's impossible in the first place, as impossible as the Earth is going to run to the sun.

Maybe the people you hate are always squeezing your time, money, and emotions, or maybe you see these people and your blood pressure rises, they get upset, and they start to feel less like themselves.

The time that life has is non-renewable, and what has passed is gone forever. Therefore, the reality is as rational as me, and I choose to live every minute and every second as I want it immediately, without waiting.

Let those pesky people waste my time? No way!

What if the dog takes it in a second?

If you're still alive......That's earned!

Back to the point, how to avoid it? There are three ways to do this:

One: Physical isolation.

Just like sun protection mainly relies on physical isolation, it's good not to meet and not to connect.

A long time after I left a job, I had a former colleague who was yin and yang in my circle of friends.

I was grateful for her reminder and backhanded to delete my friend. Think about some people who don't have a good feeling, and they deleted them all easily, and their hearts are pure from then on.

Break away and start with the circle of friends.

Two: chemical isolation.

Just as sun protection can be done with sunscreen, in some cases where you have to be exposed to the sun (= in front of nasty people), applying sunscreen can reduce the damage.

Loved ones, neighbors, co-workers, in many cases, can't be seen right away. Here I recommend Adler's "The Courage to Be Hated", if you don't like to read, you can also watch the Japanese drama of the same name. In short, learn to separate topics:

When someone says a word and you get angry, that's your own choice, and you can choose not to be angry.

Conversely, if you say a word and someone else gets angry, that's someone else's choice, and it has nothing to do with you.

No need to feel guilty, no need to be sorry, it's okay to get angry if others love to be angry, anyway, it has nothing to do with me.

After learning this, I was able to get rid of the problem that I couldn't help but get angry with my mother. In the end, I just don't care, I love to say what I want, hehe.

Three: Be polite and positive.

Approaching forty years old, I found politeness to be a really good thing.

In many cases, they don't know whether they have good intentions or bad intentions, and they can only rely on the details.

With a smile and a kind word, others may let down their guard and think that they are wrong to blame you.

It doesn't matter if you roll your eyes in your heart and go to the sky, anyway, you have to do the superficial work in place.

This trick was learned in Japan, where the service industry is second to none in the world, relying on hypocritical enthusiasm and authentic empathy.

Speaking of positivity, Keigo Higashino's "Malice" is a book that changed my life.

I didn't have any good friends before, but after reading this book, my friends are for life.

The core is not to think badly of others, you may be the dark one.

Associating with people who are not suitable for you will not only make you feel uncomfortable, but also prone to conflict. Therefore, we must learn to avoid those who are not suitable for us. Specifically, carefully analyzing the temperament of the other party, making a good prediction in advance, finding problems in the early stage of the relationship, and keeping an appropriate distance from the person who is not suitable for you can effectively avoid meeting the wrong person.

First of all, it is necessary to carefully analyze the temperament of the other party and make a good prediction.

When we are about to associate with someone, we need to analyze the temperament of that person based on the information we have and make a prediction ......If you find that the other person is not suitable for you, you should avoid the other person and do not associate with them, so that you can effectively avoid the person who is not suitable for you.

Secondly, in the early stage of the relationship, if you find that the other party is not suitable for you, you should withdraw in time.

When we have started to associate with others, if we find that the other person is not suitable for us, we should withdraw from it in time and stop associating with them. ......This is an effective way to protect yourself from being affected when you associate with someone who is not suitable.

Finally, keep an appropriate distance from people who are not suitable for you.

When we determine that a person is not suitable for us, we should keep an appropriate distance from them and refrain from associating with them, so as to avoid being affected in our interactions with people who are not suitable for us.

The above three methods can effectively avoid associating with people who are not suitable for you, so that you can ensure that you are not influenced by those who are not suitable for you.

First of all, people with high emotional intelligence will avoid conflicts and arguments with people they hate, and try to maintain a peaceful and calm attitude as much as possible, and will not be easily irritated and emotionally affected by the other person's words.

If you encounter a person who is annoying and constantly attacks you or has a disagreement with your own opinions, people with high emotional intelligence will try to stay rational and calm, and will not be easily influenced by the other person's words, and will not use aggressive words to fight back at the other person to avoid escalating the conflict.

Secondly, people with high emotional intelligence learn effective communication skills to communicate and communicate in a positive way as much as possible. For example, you can communicate with the other person in a calm tone, trying to understand the other person's position and point of view, understanding the other person's needs and wishes, so as to better solve the problem.

Finally, people with high emotional intelligence will learn to control their emotions and words, and will not easily express their emotions and dissatisfaction, and avoid conflicts and arguments with the other party. If the annoying person is too aggressive in words, the person with high emotional intelligence can choose to leave or change the topic to avoid further conflicts and disputes.

In conclusion, people with high emotional intelligence maintain a peaceful, sensible, and calm attitude when interacting with people they hate, while learning effective communication skills and the ability to control emotions in order to better handle conflicts and problems.